TTC immediately after miscarriage

[Lauren441]

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

Hey,

I have broken your message into questions as there was a lot but I hope this helps. I’ve had a miscarriage between my first and second child and between my second and what I hope one day will be my third so I do understand what you are going through.

1. with both miscarriages I didn’t wait for a period and went back to trying straight away. With the first, I was successful that first month. With the second I’ve only just had my first period so can’t say this time around. Fingers crossed for you that it works for you and your ovulation pattern is the same.
2. yep, count it from the day you started bleeding as this is effectively your cycle day 1 now.
3. i can’t answer to do with scans, I have never done it, but given this was earlier on I’d expect your body will bounce back faster. (No promises, I’m not a scientist, it’s just my experience).
4. 4.5 weeks is totally normal, I think the issue here is how people perceive miscarriage I.e. to them it is much later in the pregnancy. Don’t pay any mind to that, once you’ve passed your period due date it’s normal to test.

i hope some of this helps and good luck! X

Thank you so much for your reply. Its really positive to hear a success story of someone else who carried to term first, MC and then went on again to have another successful term pregnancy. Most people I talk to MC first before having a successful pregnancy. I guess because I've already had one I thought it would be the same. And now I can't help but think somethings wrong. Or I've done/not done something.

I'm sorry about all your previous MC though, and hope that you catch soon with baby #3.

Ill begin trying immediately then. I kind of knew it made sense but just needed someone else to say, "yes absolutely that's fine!"

I guess the scan could only add value. So maybe I'll consider that too. I've also read that taking low dose aspirin at least 4 days a week can help the pregnancy stick and has a lower MC rate in early pregnancy. Do you know anything about this?

Many thanks!

Hey

We had a miscarriage at 9 weeks, and I fell pregnant right away with no period in-between. I tracked my cycle so was able to pinpoint ovulation day etc. I was told to wait at least one cycle but they only say this for dating purposes. My Midwife dated me for confirmed day of Ovulation. I’m currently only 7 weeks pregnant but praying this one sticks 🙏. I'm unsure about the aspirin theory but maybe worth speaking to a medical profession on that one.

One thing I will say… make sure you both a mentally ready. We thought we were and got straight back to it but now it’s happened we are both a nervous reck. I’ve also been having nightmares about bleeding again. Every little twinge scares me. Although I think it is very natural to feel like this after a loss.

So my answer is "yes it's absolutely fine".

Good Luck on your journey!

Forgot to add.. It doesn't matter when you miscarry the heartache is the same for each person.

I felt the same, once you’ve had one baby you think well I’ve already done it how can I not do it again. There’s so many things can influence why you have a miscarriage but that doesn’t stop it from sucking 😢. The one thing I know is there’s nothing you’ve done or not done, it was just nature being horrible.

Like Laurzz said, if you feel ready go for it. It is more nerve wrecking after a loss but fingers crossed for a quick sticky one for you too!

I’ve seen about aspirin but don’t really understand it but I’m tempted to ask the gp for thoughts on that one as it seems a lot of people rate it.

good luck getting your sticky bean!

Sorry for your loss OP.

I had exactly the same circumstances, I miscarried my second pregnancy at 4 weeks, 5 days. Painful cramps and bleeding and pregnancy test went back to negative a few days later.

We started trying again that first cycle and got pregnant immediately. Everything went well and my 4-month old daughter is currently sleeping on me.

As a previous poster said, just make sure you're emotionally ready to try again. I was a nervous wreck until we got a private early scan and even then I was extremely worried throughout the pregnancy. I wasn't nervous at all during my first pregnancy as I didn't think it would happen to me.

Good luck!

Sorry for your loss. It is very early but it’s still a loss and you’re still entitled to feel sad.

I have had this happen twice in a row. Once in a March (4wks2days), we didn’t try in April but would have done if DP hadn’t been away, and again just now in May (again 4wks2days).

The first time I thought was just bad luck, two in a row seems more than that so I’ve contacted the doctor for some tests. They’re starting with blood tests but guessing a scan might be something they look at further down the line or something I would look at paying for privately if we’re still having no luck.

I wouldn’t worry about doing this yet since it was just your first time and you were also lucky enough to catch first month, hopefully it was one off and you’ll catch again soon, this time with a sticky one.

They can’t do my blood tests until next cycle but I’ll be 100% trying again this month as I don’t see any point in waiting, I’m just mentally more prepared this time for it not to be successful if I do get a BFP.

good luck!

I’m so sorry this has happened to you and know how you feel@Lauren441 I can’t give any advice but wanted to comment as your post has a lot of similarities to what I was coming onto post.

I got a surprise positive last week on the 2nd day of our holiday and spent the last week getting nervously excited but sadly my tests havnt got any darker and Iv started bleeding today ( 6days after period was due) and in my gut I know it’s a full loss not just early pregnancy bleeding (I will test in 5/6 days to check test goes back to negative)

I think we will try immediately this month as I have been reading about how a chemical pregnancy (hate that term) can almost be viewed as the body preparing the womb for a future sucessful pregnancy and you are more fertile right after so hopefully that’s true?!

I will follow closely and see what answers you get about Asprin. Good luck and il keep an eye out for you on here as I guess we will be going through the TWW about the same time 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Lauren441 hi op.

i also have a 4 year old DD :) we have been ttc number 2 for a year though.

took me 11 cycle to fall. But mc at 9 weeks end of April. Then needed ERPC surgery for retained tissue early May.

i then ovulated 2 weeks ago and been charting. Got a positive frer. For it to now be fading away. My period is 4 days late. So I know it’s a chemical but my temp is still high and not sure when to expect bleeding

I’m so so sad. Two losses in a row. And a year down the line with nothing to show for it!

i wasn’t told to wait after my mc or surgery so we tried straight away.

@Lauren441 sorry I meant to add, I’m going to try aspirin this cycle as well. 150mg taken at night from 1dpo. I’ll let you know how I get on with it!

Oh @Charl881 this sound so tough, I can just imagine how sad that would make you feel. It’s almost worse when they are faiding but not a definite NO isn’t it as you cling onto some hope your mistaken 😔

sending so much good luck and baby dust, thanks for the Asprin amounts, I will try this also I think!

@WaitingWatchingPeeing thank you but I think you meant @Indianna2006! I’ve had two chemicals but on both times I had bleeding before the line disappeared

Oh sorry @Charl881 im on my phone and thought the 2 posts where from one 🙈

im so sorry you’ve had 2, I bet the feeling of it happening a second time is awful 😞 I will test after I stop bleeding and hopefully draw a line under it all.

I really hope this is your month and hopefully you won’t need any answers from the bloods but good to have them looking into it just incase, do you have any idea what can cause increased likelihood of a chemical?

Hi just wanted to jump on and say I'm going through literally same thing. Last month had an early mc at 4weeks6days (found out super early I was pregnant) and started trying again this month,despite docs saying to wait for a period in between. Didn't see the point! Currently spotting a bit and hoping it could be IB!
Sending you lots of good luck!

@Maya12345 sorry to hear your also in the club but fingers crossed 🤞🏼 for that to be IB and you can give us all hope!

@WaitingWatchingPeeing apparently could be low progesterone, an underlying issue like a thyroid problem, age/ crappy eggs, or just really bad luck! To be honest it does at least feel better to know I can get pregnant (we were trying for a while before these) so surely it’s just a matter of time / something that can be fixed.

@Maya12345 sorry to hear you’re here to but good luck for this cycle, keep us updated!

Thank you all for your replies.

So reassuring to read so many simular stoires. I spoke to the GP regarding aspirin and he said he would look into the reasearch behind it but as he has never actually heard of it before that I should continue to try and if we get a second MC then perhaps he will look further into tests/aspirin etc.

I've taken all your advice and decided that we will try again straight away. I do feel emotionally ready even though I know I will worry and panic about every single feeling when we catch. Even if I waited a few months I think following a MC that's probably normal.

Hang in there everyone! ☺️ Xxxx

Not the same scenario but I wanted to touch on the aspirin.
I was prescribed 150mg of dispersible aspirin to take nightly due to my placenta not being as efficient as one would like during my pregnancy, due to low hormone levels (ultimately my baby had t13 however we didn’t know this at the time) x

Hi all. Just wanted to check in and see how everyone was doing this month?

Any BFPs yet?

So we started trying immediately after the said MC. I put the date of the MC into my calculator (as if it were my usual period). It predicted that my AF would have been due 4 days ago. But nothing yet. I'm having all BFNs, but i suspect that my cycle is all over the place and I did read that it can take anything from 4-8 weeks after a MC to get your regular AFs back. I am also having pulling like pains in my lower pelvis and uterus however, Im not reading too much into this as I'm certain right now my body will still be undergoing lots of readjustedments after the MC so 😭🤦🏻‍♀️ confusion all around here.

Anyway, talk to me! What's your stories this month?

Sending lots of baby dust love!

Hi @Lauren441

that sounds like mental torture, I’m keeping everything crossed for you that it turns out to be something! Are you holding up ok with the not knowing?

We tried again using the chemical as my period and I ovulated 7days ago so I have another week to wait 🥴

Did you decided to take the Asprin?

xx

Fingers crossed for you! 🤞🏼 How are you feeling with another week's wait? Im so inpatient. I test every morning nearly 🤦🏻‍♀️ but mainly because I have no idea where I am in the cycle now. And I tried using OPKs (for the first time) but I never had a line as bright as the test line. They definitely got darker. But then went light again. It was as if I missed the peak? We were still DTD regularly regardless so if I ovulated there's definitely a chance. But I dont know!

I'll be honest, after the line started getting fainter and it never actually peaked I threw it in the bin and didn't carry on using the OPKs. (super inpatient!)

So time will tell! Got my fingers crossed for you. 🤞🏼 Do you already have any children?

Also, no to the aspirin.

But taking plenty of greens, vitamins and folic acid so 🤞🏼

Hi! I know the feeling, the first cycle after my mc felt like it went on forever and was all over the place (AF ended up being 1 week late) then caught my super early ovulation on the clear blue opk super early this month...
I had my bfp last week at 9dpo!
So, 1 period in between mc and bfp. Still very anxious but trying to be positive! Fingers crossed for you all xx

@Lauren441 interestingly I was getting low positive OPKs but they wernt getting darker and someone told me it was the chemical causing them. I kept testing and they dropped to nothing and then I got a normal OPK spike & peak…. I wonder if you’ve ovulated since you stopped testing and that’s why no AF??

I have one DD already so hoping for number 2 🤞🏼Iv actually been really good and don’t have any tests in the house and the wait hasn’t been to bad but today it’s awful. I had wanted to wait until after AF due to test but I can tell there is no chance that il last

I didn’t use Asprin either as I read a few conflicting things about it so decided not to mess around without gps advice.

@Maya12345 Cobgratulations!!!!! that is so so so good to hear a positive story and sending you so much luck for a sticky bean. I can only imagine the anxiety, how often are you testing?

Huge congratulations on your BFP! I completely understand how much anxiety you must be feeling - and I imagine following a chemical that's completely normal. But hang in there; the statistics for a good sticky bean this time around is on your side. 🤞🏼

(sorry I'm new to this and I have no idea how to quote people's names! Not sure if it's because I'm using the app or what)