Trying to Conceive over 40 part 3

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us all. As it will run out at 1000 comments

Haven’t posted for a while, hope you are all well. I’ve decided I’m fed up with my weight so before we try anymore, I need to lose 3 stone, starting tomorrow. Am I ok to update my loss on here to help me? I won’t give in so easily if I can 😂

@Room4onemore defo post!! It really helps to be telling other people - keeps it real 👍🏼👍🏼 What are your weight loss strategies? Good luck!!

how’s everyone doing?? I’m 8DPO on my last chance cycle before starting IVF stims…. I don’t hold out much hope tbh so the TWW hasn’t been the worst! But I’m gonna test tomorrow as I start taking the pill then. I’ll test at 13/14DPO aswell just in case….

ive been getting a little too obsessed with the stats since finding out how much my AMH has plummeted 😵‍💫 trying not to fall down the rabbit hole of gloom and instead focus on the success stories! They’re out there so I guess there’s a chance 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ Everyone I tell about the IVF is so excited for us… but I’m more anxious now 😕 still feels like gambling with a biiig pile of money!!!

@Kelb79 oh no!!! Gosh, that must have been panic inducing. But so glad to hear that all is ok and you can go ahead without replacing meds or having to delay!!

@pcmod My cycles are all out of whack after a miscarriage and then immediate ivf cycle too. Last cycle was 40 days, I'm hoping for a shorter one this month...the longer it is the more I think I might have ovulated late, have hit the pregnancy jackpot etc and I hate testing and getting a bright white result....I have gone the other way on the healthiness though, ha - after 3 months of no booze and living my healthiest life resulting in an unviable natural pregnancy followed by a pretty rubbish ivf cycle with no blastocysts I am back on the booze...but still plugging myself full of supplements and currently on hols by the sea so enjoying a very Mediterranean diet at least...!

@Room4onemore feel free to post!! Still a way to go, but I have lost 1 kg on holiday and feeling very proud of myself for it :o) think it indicates how much misery/boredom eating I have been doing at home though because I have not been at all regimented here...definitely something I need to work on.

@WonderWoop I'm sorry I am not very good at interpreting test results. What day did you get your bloods done? Assuming between day 1-3 of your cycle your fsh levels don't look too high which is positive! I think you want it to be below 30ish otherwise it can indicate approaching menopause....

Definitely post @Room4onemore good idea to help keep motivated. I like it. Good luck @99pctpractice @Kelb79 with ivf cycles. @99pctpractice it is so hard and disappointing this journey. Especially when going through ivf and spending so much money. It's so hard.
My AF started yesterday so start my meds today for my donor transfer cycle. Transfer will be 17 days from now. So feeling nervous. The odds are great but trying to manage my emotions. I know it will hit me hard if it doesn't work.

i tested today - 9DPO - I know it’s early but I start taking the pill today for IVF prep.
BFN… obviously 🙄
IVF here we come 🤷🏼‍♀️

@99pctpractice That all sounds really frustrating. Three months of healthy living for no reward is tough. Plus all the confusion on your long cycles. Hope both our cycles get more normal soon. I’m still waiting for my first period after the loss so no idea what I’m dealing with. Glad you’re at least getting chance to relax on holiday. I’m probably putting too much faith into the impact the changes will have. I think it gives me a sense of control and hope I can get a good result.

On that note @Room4onemore i too need to shed some pounds. Need to lose about 6kg to get back to the weight I was before I started ttc again, so will love to hear your updates and will join you in the journey. I am going to do the med diet and make sure I get 30 mins of exercise in each day, see how that goes.
@WonderWoop I don’t know much about any of those results. I think some are for thyroid tests and as you say they look normal but can’t shed any further light. Have you spoken to someone at the hospital about them? Did they just say they are all normal? When I’ve had tests before it has been a bit disappointing when they come back okay. Part of me really wanted them to find a problem so it could be fixed. But with me there doesn’t seem to be any problem they picked up on, just ‘unexplained’, and those who feel more confident to mention it put it down to my age. And there is really nothing I can do about that one!
Hope all is going well on the holding off on poas @traceyann44 not long now, fingers crossed it is a good result. Good luck @Kelb79 with the testing, hope you do get good news and if not hopefully you’ll feel a bit better about starting on the pill. @October1979 good luck with the meds, that’s crazy to think in 17 days it could all be starting for you. Massive good luck to you.

@pcmod whats the mod diet? I’m go in g to weigh myself so I know my exact starting point

@Room4onemore Its the Mediterranean diet. Just starting myself so not an expert but seems to be lots of veggies, salads, legumes, whole grain foods, fish and some good quality meat. Avoiding anything overly refined or processed. I’ve gone a bit crazy after reading ‘it starts with the egg’ and it’s the diet it recommends. Though there are loads of cookbooks about it, apparently it’s really good for fertility and loads of other health issues.
Ive just weighed in this morning. depressing to see how much I’ve put on over the last year but determined the only way I’m going now is down. If you like I’ll do a weekly weigh in with you. Monday might be quite good, might rein me in from slacking over the weekend.

2 more days and I shall be testing but only if my temps rise if not I won’t bother my temps are a lot lower than last months which is a bit puzzling for me 10 dpo today feeling sick and boobs hurt like crazy especially my right nip lol but this could also be crazy progesterone and getting ready for af here’s my chart

Won’t let me upload 🙄

Here’s my chart

@traceyann44 I haven’t temped for a while but that chart looks promising to me, definitely can see a shift, hopefully it’ll stay high for you. Symptom spotting is a nightmare seems crazy that the coming of af has all the same symptoms as the start of pregnancy. Although last time I knew before testing as I needed to wee constantly. Usually though I’ve no clue what’s happening until getting a bfp.

Hi, just to wish all baby dust, I'm Pg, second child, conceived at 39.

I used oral syringe method, semen mixed with pre seed, did it 5 days before ovulation and throughout ovulation, so maybe 9 days in a row and had success.

Partner has low sex drive so wanted to increase chances rather than wait for when we were in the mood.

@pcmod yes I know I’m the same I knew before but now I don’t cause I think I’m more aware of my body telling me it’s af on the way rather than pregnancy symptoms so I block that feeling out I’ve no clue about my chart or the shifts it dose I just know it tells me I’ve ovulated and when I’m near 12/14 dpo my temp starts dropping and af is on the way .. I’m crampy today and have felt sick all day on and off I’m trying to not read to much into it but sometimes you Carnt but I’m keeping busy excising and reading my tarot … thank you for your reply .

Morning ladies 11 dpo here should start testing tomorrow but I’m really unsure about it I might leave it a couple more days see what my temps do here is last months compared to this months chart any input would be greatly appreciated

@traceyann44 That sounds like a good plan, though the waiting game seems so tough! If I was been sensible I’d wait to see if your temp is still high at 14 dpo, as it looks like this was when it started dropping last time. Remember reading that your luteal phase is the exact same length every month so if you know that it is a really good indicator. Though appreciate that requires more will power then l manage to show.

@pcmod i will wait till at least 14 dpo to test but I do think af will
arrive my temps are always high then start to decline but this months chart temps are lower than last months ff has me down as a late period because I ovulated later this month but I feel it’s going to come earlier we will see

I’d try not to read too much into it. Think as long as there has been a shift in temp it means you’ve ovulated. Not sure temps can tell you anything else, I didn’t think differences between months meant anything. Hopefully only a few more days and everything will be clearer.

Thanks @99pctpractice and @pcmod re: test results. Have asked for a follow up call with doctor this Friday. Not sure what I want from her, I'm 39 (almost 40...) so am I too late for nhs referral or should I push for that? I'm sure there's many amazing GPs but I do struggle with mine.

@Musomama1 big congrats and thanks for offering hope, I'm same age and ttc #2 also. Without being too personal (sorry), what did this entail? Did you dtd at all?

@WonderWoop thank you and no problem, happy to help. I followed a vid on YouTube, there's a lot on there.

Oral syringe, you can get them from pharmacy or in things like Calpol packets. Got DH to do the business in an empty yoghurt pot, I mixed in pre seed lubricant I got from Amazon, loaded up the syringe and inserted, lay down for half an hour, legs up 🤣🤣 wow a lot of detail!!!!

Also drunk raspberry tea with the YouTube vid advised. Heard sperm can survive inside for a few days so we did it in the days leading up to ovulation as well as the period.

It was easier for us than trying nature's way for a few reasons... plus we have a toddler, we're tired and it took a while for us to get DC1. Impatient is the word. Sorry I don't know what DTD is.

@WonderWoop Afraid I don’t know much about your situation but if you’re having any problems, which I assume you are to be here, then I would definitely push for the referral. Especially if your GP isn’t much help. Don’t think age would be a problem, sure other ladies on here have said they have been referred after 40. If anything age should help as time isn’t really something we have on our side!
@Musomama1 DTD is ‘doing the deed’ or ‘the dance’ basically sex. That’s all sounds very resourceful of you, amazing what you can find on YouTube. It’s crazy the situations ttc gets you into, repurposing an old yoghurt pot and calpol syringe. Fantastic it worked though! Huge congratulations! How many weeks are you?

Well my temp dropped this morning woke up to cramping on one side it’s all in the middle now lower part of my belly like af is about to show curious to see my temp tomorrow

Sorry to hear that @traceyann44 that does sound a lot like af is about to start. A drop in temp has always been a definite precursor for me. Always rubbish when you realise it’s on the way.

@pcmod thank you, I'm 25 weeks ☺️ all looking good. I know I like being resourceful and just using what we have although you can get nice looking kits on Amazon that do the same thing.

DTD! I think we did once over these 10 days. DH feels the pressure of it all when trying to conceive and it can be hit and miss - I just wanted to increase our chances and this gave us a different way.

@pcmod it very much dose but how can I when you ovulate late I always assumed af is later here’s my chart it’s not a massive drop but it’s still lower than I expected