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Trying to Conceive over 40 part 3

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October1979 · 24/04/2022 15:53

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TraceyTarotReader · 14/04/2023 15:31

@YellowLoafers yeah I was shocked that my levels were so low but hoping the do the trick in reviving my energy and hopefully help rebalance things .

im wishing you all the best when will you start testing x

YellowLoafers · 15/04/2023 08:43

@TraceyTarotReader Fingers crossed it helps you and you start to feel better 🤞

I’m going to try really hard not to test early but I doubt I’ll make it to 24th! I keep changing my mind, from “if it’s negative I may as well know and get head round it” to “but it might be positive and if I know then I’ll be so much happier than I am now full of worry and googling symptoms” 🙈 It’s like I have 2 personalities just now!

I’m just telling myself now that I’m privileged to be the furthest I’ve been down this road to getting pregnant so try and chill out. It’s been years, so a few more days should be doable! That sounds like famous last words! 🤣

pcmod · 15/04/2023 08:48

Catching up after a few days days away, and it certainly sounds like a lot has been happening.

@Kelb79 how are you feeling now after your wobble? Hope things are feeling a bit clearer for you. It is really hard when things are unexplained and then what the medical staff do tell you is so badly handled. Can’t believe they used the term ‘done’! Just so incredibly insensitive and unprofessional. Hope having a bit of time has helped you settle after such a rubbish encounter.

@October1979 loving the pictures of your little ones, they are absolutely gorgeous.

@YellowLoafers Thinking of you and your eternal wait for the 24th, must still feel an age away. Imagine in this situation with everything you’ve been through to get here and seeing pictures beforehand must ramp up the stress 100 fold. I had a few days away which has distracted me from the 2ww but not always practical to disappear off on holiday. The whole symptom spotting is so easy to fall into. Often found myself goggling for hours trying to work out if people with similar symptoms got a bfp but never really means anything. So hard to know as symptoms seem to be the same whichever way it goes. Keeping everything crossed for you.

@PumpkinTruffles really sorry to hear about your losses. They do hit so very hard, very understandable how you are feeling. Our age definitely does add a high pressure element as well. I’ve had different thoughts on setting a time limit, have thought I’d give myself a year then on other occasions thought I’d keep going till menopause! Think it will depend what happens if I have to deal with many more losses may have to stop for my own well-being. Realise that focusing too much on trying to add to my family is stopping me enjoying the precious moments I could have right now with the one I already have. Nice to hear your perspective @BoneBrothByDayDonutByNight. Good to know that the journey can end positively without having a baby at the end of it!

@TraceyTarotReader Thats good that you have had those tests done and they have been able to give you something to help you feel better. Know you’ve been ill a few times recently so hope this will really boost you and you’ll be feeling the benefits soon. From what I’ve read both are good for ttc as well.

is anybody else currently in the 2ww? Think I’m about 14 dpo, but never track so it’s an estimate, tested this morning after a few days away and bfn. So not looking promising this month. Though had used a cheap test and it has loads of indents on it, so trying to convince myself there was a faint line but just hard to see! As they say you’re not out until af arrives but that’s not due till next week, so have a few more days left. Thought I had some implantation bleeding yesterday but seems late to get, will try to wait a couple of days and test again.

Good luck to everyone else what ever stage you’re at.

Kelb79 · 15/04/2023 11:20

Hey everyone 🤗😘

@YellowLoafers still hanging in and not testing?! Well done 🫣🫣 rooting for you 🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️

@October1979 they are so Damn cute!!!! I still can’t imagine how you manage with 3 but 3 x the love is just amazing! I’ve told do many people about your story - it’s mind blowing!! ❤️❤️

@pcmod nice to hear from you lovely ❤️ I’m in the TWW too - officially 2 days late but I’m not reading anything into it - it’s looking ever more likely that I’m hitting perimenopause at least and my cycles have been a little different lately 😐 you never know though 🤷🏼‍♀️🙄

@TraceyTarotReader really hope the supplements help 🙏🏼 it’s good that they’ve tested and actually found something to work with 👌🏼

@99pctpractice i know right?! Done!! Ffs!! 😐 she was absolutely otherwise but that was like she slapped me round the face! 🤨 how are you doing lovely?? ❤️

@PumpkinTruffles i haven’t really pinned down my cut off… I’ve just been rolling along with the treatment and the freaking out a bit more with every birthday. Tbh I think my OH will make the decision, he’s 7 years older than me and already very worried about his age so I think this DE treatment will be our last shot (financially too 😵‍💫)

So my wobble has calmed, it was nicely assisted by OH having a wobble too 🙄 he’s had too much time to think about it all and it’s suddenly got very close and very real again. His timing is amazing as always 🙄 We need to pay our deposit on Monday and I start the pill cycle next week!! Boys!!

so I’m 16dpo - officially 2 days late 🤣 it’s typical that my body would mess with my head one last time! I will test if AF doesn’t come before I start taking the pill but I’m not hopeful! I’ve got soooo fed up of getting my hopes up that I just can’t summon the energy to go it anymore 🤣🤣

YellowLoafers · 15/04/2023 18:03

@pcmod Wishing you loads of luck in your 2WW! 🤞🤞Yep, I’m all over googling other people’s outcomes with similar symptoms to me. It’s given me a new frustration in life…the number of people who ask questions then never come back to update! 🤣 The embryo pictures definitely add an angle. It feels so much more real to see them and embryologist said it was “hatching beautifully” which made me really teary. The idea of it dying and this not working is harder now I’ve seen it. A few days away would be ideal, but I’d never get it past OH as we only got back from New York 2 weeks ago!

@Kelb79 I am holding off, but it’s 5dp5dt tomorrow and I’ve seen some people got positives then 🤔 so it’s going to get harder not to, the longer time goes by and it’s more likely to show a positive. I’ll keep fingers crossed for a last minute miracle for you, but if it’s not you are so close to starting your DE chapter. Time will fly once you start the process, really excited for your updates! ❤️

TraceyTarotReader · 16/04/2023 06:45

Hello everyone a lot of people commenting so I’ll just reply in one lol errrmmm it’s only been 2 weeks since taking my folic acid I don’t feel much benefit yet maybe cause it was so low but hope I see a improvement soon.

@Kelb79 im glad your wobble has calmed down when will you test x

@pcmod i think I need a boost of folic acid and like you say there both good for ttc thank you x

@YellowLoafers i know what you mean I’m looking forward to you testing x

pcmod · 16/04/2023 16:51

@Kelb79 That sounds about right, the one time you’d really like to see AF on time, and that’s the month it’s late! Will that cause any problems with the treatment if it is late?
Not great your OH has added to it all with a wobble. I can get it must be a big decision but a few days before it all gets going really doesn’t seem the time for it. Must be really frustrating for you if you’re all geared up for everything. Hope he has managed to steady himself so you can continue with the plan.

@YellowLoafers You are spot on about the disappearing posters! I get really annoyed when I read a thread about some ttw symptoms, and you never know the result! I know I’m just wasting my own time really, but I need answers!

The whole ‘hatching beautifully’ does really get you, I felt it just reading it. Really keeping my fingers and every crossed for you.

YellowLoafers · 17/04/2023 11:05

@pcmod Yep, they should ban people not coming back to update! 🤣

I had some spotting last night and heavy cramping. I got so upset. Luckily the spotting stopped overnight and no sign of any today so far. It really threw me because I always spot before period so made me convinced AF was coming. It’s such a rollercoaster! Trying to stay positive and I’m back at work today so that’ll keep my mind busy. Thanks for the continued support all of you, you rock ❤️

pcmod · 17/04/2023 21:32

Bless you @YellowLoafers can imagine that would have been really distressing. Hope everything has stayed quiet for you today and work has provided a distraction. It’s a mega stressful time, understandable to panic with spotting but then some pregnant people have it, so just more to cause confusion and lead to frantic searching!

TraceyTarotReader · 18/04/2023 06:46

Hello everyone so af has gone now just waiting to ovulate cd 7 my iron tablets haven’t really kicked in yet it’s my 3rd week of taking them but my levels were quite low at 2.7 I still have this beat throb in my ear but thankfully not as bad but I’ve googled and it said low iron can cause a heart beat sensation in your ear so maybe that why I have it and it’s not as bad now my energy levels are still low but it also said if iron levels are low it can take a few wks to start feeling any benefit we shall see .

how’s everyone eles doing 😊

YellowLoafers · 18/04/2023 08:44

@pcmod Thank you. I definitely went to the frantic searching place and, yep, as many people had spotting as didn’t so no comfort there! I’m 7dp5dt today and the urge to test is strong. But I really can’t face a bfn just now, so will hold off. How are you getting on?

@TraceyTarotReader Really hope the iron tablets start helping you soon. Can you add anything into your diet to help levels too? Maybe it’ll give you a boost if you’re able to do that. It’s miserable feeling drained of energy so fingers crossed you’ll be back on form soon!

Kelb79 · 18/04/2023 11:00

@YellowLoafers stay strong and positive lovely ❤️❤️❤️ it’s soooo bloody cruel that every symptom can mean either outcome! Such a total headf&@£!!! 🙄😐 rooting for you 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

@pcmod no, luckily no hold ups from late AF on this cycle. I think I’d lose my mind with any more hold ups! I’m basically ignoring OH’s wobble - he’s a huge overthinker and he’s had too much time to get himself in a flap about this. I know he wants this and I know he’ll be good once it all gets going 👍🏼

@TraceyTarotReader good luck for this cycle lovely ❤️❤️

So I bled a little then stopped completely and obviously dared to let myself hope that I’d be one of those miracle stories that gets pregnant literally right before IVF 🫣 then I bled again obviously 🙄😏
I start the pill cycle on Thursday so then I’m officially on my med plan for the DE IVF 😳 eeekkk!!! I’m having all the last minute wobbles and uncertainties but my overriding feeling is definitely excitement now, trying not to get too excited though, I know the path is far from guaranteed to be smooth 😵‍💫😵‍💫

TraceyTarotReader · 18/04/2023 15:03

@Kelb79 thankyou so much ❤️

im praying for you lovely x

Iusedtobedontcall · 18/04/2023 16:02

Hi all - keeping everything crossed for you @YellowLoafers !
It must feel so close now @Kelb79 - hope all goes as smoothly as possible at least!
@TraceyTarotReader I hope you feel better now you are taking the right supplements and good luck this cycle.

I'm struggling. My period has not arrived but I’ve had three starkly negative tests. I was never late before the TFMR but my hormones are clearly out of whack, so I feel in a horrible limbo. I barely got any lines whatsoever on ovulation tests so who knows what is going on with my body. I’m just hoping my daughter was not my final egg!

To top it off, a parent from my school emailed me and my head of department complaining that they didn’t see me at parents evening and because I was absent (following the loss of my baby girl!). Obviously they don’t know what happened, but it set me off in floods of tears. I’ve been crying on and off all day.

TraceyTarotReader · 18/04/2023 16:02

@YellowLoafers Thankyou I don’t know I eat quite healthy lots of veggies and green salads I take vitamin D too cause that was low to I need a miracle lol

TraceyTarotReader · 18/04/2023 19:08

@Iusedtobedontcall thank you so much do you know how many dpo you are it could also take a while for you to regulate but hoping the best for you .

im sorry your feeling sad people don’t always know the facts and ya know what Schools are like they gossip I used to hate going round the school people always found out your business chin up lovely it’s good to cry x

YellowLoafers · 18/04/2023 19:38

@Kelb79 Thank you so much ❤️Cruel is definitely right, enough to drive people crackers! I’m definitely well on the way 😵‍💫 Roll on Thursday, so excited for you! Hoping it goes smoothly for you and I’m looking forward to your updates! 🤞🤞🙏🙏

@Iusedtobedontcall I’m so sorry. Last thing you needed at the moment was to feel like you’re being criticised/commented on. People are thoughtless and don’t think beyond end of their own nose at times. I hope your cycle settles soon. AF never shows up when you want it to, even if it’s only just because you want to know exactly where you are! Wishing you lots of luck and positivity ❤️

Iusedtobedontcall · 18/04/2023 19:59

I’ve no idea when I ovulated so I may not be out. But I’ll just have to wait I guess. It’s just all got me so upset and I’m not even sure why.

YellowLoafers · 18/04/2023 21:02

@Iusedtobedontcall You've been through a such a traumatic time, your emotions are bound to be raw and unpredictable. Sorry for making assumptions that you’re waiting for AF, that was insensitive. I’ll keep fingers crossed for you that you’re not out this month ❤️ Be extra kind to yourself x

Iusedtobedontcall · 18/04/2023 21:19

@YellowLoafers not insensitive at all, don’t worry. I do think AF will arrive most likely and I will be relieved either way as I am not sure what’s going on at the moment. I’ll try and be a little kinder to myself.

Iusedtobedontcall · 19/04/2023 06:50

I feel silly now - AF appeared. Seems I’m now on 32 day cycles rather than 28!

YellowLoafers · 19/04/2023 18:51

@Iusedtobedontcall You’re far from silly! Now AF is here you know where you stand and I hope you feel better for it ❤️ A new month is a new start and fingers crossed it’s a good one for you.

pcmod · 21/04/2023 17:37

Hey
Hows everyone doing?

@YellowLoafers are you still managing to stay strong? 21st now so getting very close to t-day! Imagine it will be getting really intense for you now.

@Kelb79 did you get started on the pill yesterday, is that you officially started on the plan? Everything crossed for you going forward! Have you got long to wait till the next stage?

No luck for me last month. Now on cd 4, so back on board the ttc train for me! Contemplating a glass of wine later, if I’m not pregnant might as well take advantage of the benefits.

YellowLoafers · 22/04/2023 10:45

So sorry @pcmod hope you enjoyed some wine. How are you feeling? I found out yesterday that I have to go to the office on Monday which is test day. I don’t fancy testing then running for the train, especially if it’s bad news. So we’ve decided to test on Sunday, so I have the day to get head round it if it’s negative. If positive, it will be nice to spend a bit of time together rather than me dashing off. So nervous now!!

Hope everyone is well x

pcmod · 22/04/2023 11:36

@YellowLoafers Yes I did enjoy some wine thanks. It was the anniversary of when I meet my husband so we had a nice evening in with some good food and wine. I’m doing fine thanks. Had been getting negative tests so had already got my head into the mindset for it. Taking the positives that at least cycles are regular and I can try again this month!

I’m amazed at your willpower. Think you’ve done great to not test so far. Yours sounds like the best plan to test tomorrow. Be good to have some time to get your head round the result in the comfort of your own home. Think whatever the result you’d what to not be around medical staff when you get it. Really keeping everything crossed for you for good news. The 2ww is always tense but imagine it must be really full on for you, especially the closer you get! Hope your day provides some distraction and wishing you all the luck in the world tomorrow.

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