Trying to Conceive over 40 part 3

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us all. As it will run out at 1000 comments

@TraceyTarotReader it's just all so confusing! I have that same dull ache here and there, only ever had sore boobs a couple of times so not sure what's going on here!

@Marvellouslymadmum i know it’s mad how our body’s react in different ways so cd 33 today no sign of af yet I have af dull aches but are only there when I’m laying down or sitting up not there when I walk around strange .

anyway we’re the only ones talking here where is everyone else ?

It sounds really frustrating- hope you get an answer soon @TraceyTarotReader .
How are you doing now @Marvellouslymadmum - any more signs of anything?
I don’t come on here much - since my missed miscarriage in August, there hasn’t been a sign. I’m 28 days on the dot with my cycles. Trying to just let it be and not think about it too much.

@Iusedtobedontcall thank you it’s so frustrating but I can expect my periods to be a bit irregular now I’m 51 yrs old it’s just weird how it’s happend all of a sudden I’m sorry about your loss I know exactly how you feel.

Thank you @TraceyTarotReader . The loss hit me much harder than I thought it would - I’m still grieving months later, which feels silly really. We weren’t trying for a baby and now I just want to replace what I lost.

@Iusedtobedontcall its not silly at all I still grieve for my 3 baby angels and the worst thing is I found out I was pregnant on Xmas Eve 10 yrs ago which was my third loss I miscarried the baby in April it takes time to heal and never feel silly for how you feel … I know what it feels like to fill the in that empty feeling take your time to heal and I’m here if you want to talk about it x

@Marvellouslymadmum has af arrived have you tested again . Hope your okay .

my af still hasn’t arrived really doing my head in now x

So how is every one doing I have still not got my af cd 39 no idea how many dpo I am ff says I haven’t ovulated . But I know I have been getting shadows on hpt for about a week maybe a little more did a test not long ago and the shadow seems a little darker I’m not taking this as a positive bc it dried to a shadow where as this one in the time frame looks pink 🤷‍♀️

Hows everyone doing??
Hope you’re all ok and looking forward to Christmas 🎅🏼🙏🏼❤️
we’re in eternal limbo! OH just avoids all talk of IVF with donor egg, unless he’s drunk then he’s mr positive and all for going ahead but he won’t back it up in the cold light of light 😐
I’m 12DPO in my first proper TWW for ages!! My boobs are killing me and I’m shattered but im not fooling myself into thinking anything into it, the fall just hurts too much!!
we’ll see! 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hi@Kelb79 I was thinking of you today. Hope you are ok and you get a wee Christmas miracle. It is really hard. I've been there when OH wasn't sure. I had my 16 week scan today. All measuring 16 weeks and 4 days. My OH went from fear of the unknown to totally excited now. We don't even think of the DE bit. It's just our babies. Sending love 💕

Sending love @Kelb79 and keeping all crossed for a Christmas miracle for you!! It must be hard with OH and getting to a point where you can move on. Will you get any chill time together over the festive period to talk through and consider together?

Looking marvellous @October1979 ❤️❤️❤️ Brilliant news and so positive to hear your thoughts on the DE too. Really thrilled the little ones are thriving.

Hope you’re all excited and ready for Christmas? I’m in what would have been my TWW, but I was ill with ANOTHER chest infection over my fertile window so DTD was last thing I wanted to do! I’ve booked pre IVF nurses appointment on 3rd Jan to go through the drugs and how it all works, ahead of starting drugs on day 21 of my Jan cycle. Really apprehensive about starting IVF, but I’ve got to do something.

@YellowLoafers thank you. I can honestly say once we made our mind up and started the process all our doubt's disappeared. We are just really thankful, keeping everything crossed it all turns out ok. Good luck with the ivf keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Hi @October1979 those are such lovely photos to see! So pleased for you. X

Hi everyone,

Please can I join this group again? After trying for just over a year to get pregnant with my first, our daughter is now 10.5 months old and we are now officially trying to conceive a brother or sister for her! I was 41 when I got pregnant with her, and am now 3 months off turning 43!

I'm currently quite excited at TTC again (I think my brain has blocked out how actually difficult and all consuming TTC became). It'll be nice to share the journey again with others TTC as well.

I wish each one of you all the best in your own TTC journeys xxx

thanks lovelies, I just wiped fresh blood (tmi 🫣) so not only does it look like I’m out but that’s the second month running that af has started early - possible luteal phase issues now??!! 😵‍💫

@October1979 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ massive love for those photos!!! Utterly beautiful!!! I’m so glad you’re doing ok! ❤️❤️❤️ think about you and those babies lots!!

@YellowLoafers so sorry you’ve been ill again chick ❤️ best of luck with the IVF appointment. It’s good to be doing something, you’ll feel a lot better for it. Any questions at all… I think between us we could answer them all!! 🤣🤣

@Littlemiss42andfabulous welcome back to the madhouse!! 🫣 wishing you luck!!

OH has officially stepped into the territory of actually not even being sure about having children. He’s spoke to too many of his friends who’ve told him don’t bother at his age, it’s so hard, kids are expensive… blah blah blah. All the things that he really needed to hear right now.
im so angry. We’ve been working towards the same goal for nearly 4 years! I’ve had to go through the shitty IVF journey, we’ve spent a small fortune…. And now he might back out??!!! Wtf?!!!! 😡😡

Long time everyone :) good to see your posts!

@October1979
Looking at the pictures you must be soo pleased with the going ahead with the decisions earlier.
They look like growing so well too. I keep fingers for you and the three little ones.

I am still trying naturally and will switch to ivf later next year as our plan goes. With the donor egg in my ethnic background being super rare, i don't know really how to proceed to that option when we need to, yet.

@October1979 beautiful pictures! So glad all is progressing well.
@Kelb79 sorry it looks like it’s not this month for you and hopefully you can get a clear idea of how to move forward in your journey with OH.
@Littlemiss42andfabulous best of luck in your journey TTC.
I am not tracking ovulation as it makes me stressed and we’ve only had sex three times in my fertile week as I’ve been ill, so not hopeful this month.

Hey @Marvellouslymadmum how are you doing did af arrive for you I’m still waiting on mine cd 46 15 days late negative hpt positive opks on cd 39 up till cd 42 still no sign of ovulation for this month on my chart maybe I’ve hit menopause with a bolt and they have just stopped hope your okay x

Happy Christmas everyone!!!
I hope you can enjoy the holidays whatever your situation right now ❤️

I’m CD9 and attempting to summon the energy to DTD but failing as I’ve got the lurgy AGAIN!!! 😵‍💫😩🤷🏼‍♀️
we’ve pushed the go button on DE IVF but because of finances we can’t pay until the end of feb so it’s looking like April for transfer. So far away 😩😩 gutted but c’est la vie 🤷🏼‍♀️

Merry Christmas everyone! Hope you are feeling better soon @Kelb79 and that’s good news to look forward to on the donor IVF even if it’s a bit of a wait!

I am on day 27 and my boobs are incredibly sore. I’m not testing until I’m actually late though as I keep being disappointed.

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE ALL YBE BEST FOR THE NEW YEAR ❤️

I’m pregnant. Feel scared and excited. I lost the last one so I’m apprehensive.

Congratulations @Iusedtobedontcall do you know how far along you are? Understandable that your apprehensive but hopefully this will be different this time round. Can I ask how old you are? x

Thank you. I’m 42. I am 4 weeks - was due on yesterday.

@Iusedtobedontcall congratulations 🎉 what a lovely Christmas present! I totally understand how you feel. I will be keeping you everything crossed for you xxxx