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IVFers thread

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TheMNPeacekeepingForce · 23/12/2007 18:51

Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

OP posts:
stuarts · 06/06/2008 10:31

Hi

Has anyone had any experience (good or bad) of having IVF at St Mary's in Manchester?

Thanks

swerve · 06/06/2008 20:07

sorry stuarts, I'm at a london clinic. you could try fertilityfriends.co.uk - I think they have chat boards for different clinics / areas. you may find more people there.

I'm in a much better mood and have bounced my sulk after hearing that a v good friend is pregnant on her first time. she's had such a hard time getting to this point, I'm so thrilled it's worked for her. See! it does work!!!

Been out for dinner with dh and decided to let a month slip by and try for a harvest (if all is well) in august. that'll be exactly 2 years since it working for dd. 2 may babies? can i be that blessed? answers on a chat board...

Onlyaphase · 07/06/2008 08:29

Well, hello everyone, it has been a long week and I am so pleased to be home again!

Welcome to Mowmi - your history reminds me of a friend of mine as it sounds very similar for fertility issues - they have twin boys now, you will be pleased to hear!

Soosy/NMM - hope your waiting isn't too bad. It is always the second week that sucks IIRC

NMM - on my first IVF, we only had 5 embryos and the 3 that weren't put back weren't good enough to freeze and didn't make it past the 8 cell stage. I was gutted by this and really felt the whole IVF was a waste of time and money, as I'd been hoping for 2 grade 1 blastocysts, and 10 in the freezer, and I spent the first 7 days of the 2WW moping away to myself, so I do sort of know what you are feeling. Now I just hope for 2 embyros of decent quality, and forget about the freezer as it just doesn't seem to be happening for us. Oh, and that first IVF cycle produced DD, so all that angst was a waste of time indeed.

I'm booked in for EC on Monday - brought forward by 4 days again as I've responded to the drugs well and fast. Womb lining is 13 mm, and it looks as though I have 2-3 decent follicles on my left side, maybe 6 on my right. This is much better than last time and I am really pleased. The only downside is dreading EC as the decent ovary is the tricky-to-access one so I will feel rather bruised afterwards. Last injection tonight, then a whole day off from needles - but as I've only been stimming for 8 days, it seems really soon to stop.
The other bonus to having early EC is that I will be the only person in the EC suite that day as everyone else is booked for Friday on this cycle - but the procedure is at 8am on Monday so at least 6 members of staff have to start work early on Monday, and I am sure they will be cursing me heartily come 6.30am Monday

Hope everyone else is well and enjoying the weekend

nomoremagnolia · 07/06/2008 11:00

Hi girls, can I just quickly ask about cramping? I woke up at 4am with sharp cramping, which eased off again after a bit (I got up went to the loo and lay feeling worried for a while before falling asleep again). I know it's too eary to be a symptom and am worrying myself that it's AF, though it's only 6 days since ET. Don't quite know what I'm asking as I know none of you can tell me, I guess I just want reassurance that's it's ok (which I realistically know none of you can give...) [madness]

Onlyaphase · 07/06/2008 11:35

NMM - if you look back at my posts about 10 days ago I posted that I had had the same thing on my successful IVF cycle. Sharp pains that woke me up in the middle of the night, then went away quite quickly. I think this was about a week or just over into the 2WW. In retrospect this was either implantation pains or just my uterus twinging after all the poking and needles etc.

So yes, I can give reassurance that this is OK - or was in my case anyway. Isn't the 2WW horrible.....and yes, a madness emoticon would be very useful at times!

nomoremagnolia · 07/06/2008 14:11

Thanks OAP of course now I'm not worrying myself stupid I remember your post

soosy · 08/06/2008 21:21

Hi Nomore, sorry to hear about your cramping scare, I had cramping with first pg, but not with second, so don't worry about it.

OAP, glad to hear everything going well and you are going to have EC early on Monday. Early morning is good you don't have to wait around starving and thirsty for too long. Are you going up north straight afterwards?

I have had more spotting yesterday, and was really fed up so did a test. I think it is still too early really, esp for an FET as sometimes they take longer to get going. I read the test at 3mins, as instructed and there was the faintest positive line. I even got DH to check, but when I looked at the test later it had disappeared, I can only think it was an evap line. I am feeling very pessamistic.

nomoremagnolia · 09/06/2008 10:07

soosy I really hope it's a very faint positive line. Are you meant to be testing on Fri or sooner than that? I'm already thinking I might test on Fri eve rather than Sat but DH is trying to persuade me to stick to Sat. I just know I won't be able to sleep Fri night if the big test is Sat am. Sat is being called P-Day in our house at the moment

soosy · 09/06/2008 19:24

No More wait until Sat am - much better don't do as I do do as I say. LOL P Day!, A little bit more spotting yesterday eve and this am. I am so frustrated by the whole thing.

OAP, hope all went well today>

justjules · 09/06/2008 19:56

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soosy · 10/06/2008 14:16

Hi Justjules, you are a clever lady with those links! I wish I cold do the same. I just wanted to say, you are very thoughtful and kind.

soosy · 10/06/2008 21:03

BFN and spotting going to turn into AF. Statistically should be good news for you Nomore, so good luck for Fri. OAP hope things are going well for you.

Bad day friend had a baby girl this am, am v especially as she was the result of her first IVF attempt.

Have no idea what I am going to do next, need to move, it is out of London, so I am not sure whether we will move clinics or what....

swerve · 11/06/2008 06:33

Soosy, I'm so sorry! I really thought it would work for you. It's just so unfair. I know exactly what you mean about your friend. A friend of mine, who had IVF at the same time as me when we both got pregnant, told me she was pregnant again (naturally, lucky b*h) a couple of months ago. She knows I'm back on the IVF treadmill but that didn't stop her from moaning at having 2 children so close together and what a nightmare that will be. I had to walk away, otherwise I think I might have slapped her!

Welcome Africa! I know you're out there. I haven't been down your treatment route, but you'll get the hang of the fsh injections in a trice! Sounds like your doctor is very sensible and balanced.

How are the rest of you? OAP? Nomore? Sooty, are you ok?

EHM · 11/06/2008 10:18

soosy I was lurking & noticed your post. so sorry. Be good to you{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

EHM · 11/06/2008 10:19

swerve some people just don't appreciate how lucky they are.good for you for walking away.

nomoremagnolia · 11/06/2008 10:50

oh soosy so sorry I thought we might just graduate together.
Think I will stick to testing Sat - keep thinking tomorrow is 14DPO so should be able to test then, this is the longest 2ww ever. My DSis was trying to get me to test at 10DPO with a first response test. I don't think I'd better ring her before Fri, she might persuade me to give in
Is it normal for your period to arrive as expected if you're not pg or does the progesterone delay things? If I get to 14/15DPO without period arriving do I let myself hope?

coggy · 11/06/2008 13:39

Soosy...(((hugs)))

My period was delayed with the progesterone nomore. I assumed that was normal??
EVERYTHING crossed for you.
X

coggy · 11/06/2008 13:41

Swerve....I also congratulate you on walking away and not decking her!!!

She should know to be a little more empathetic.....most people I ignore their comments as they generally know no different...but for someone who's been thorugh it and knows that you are....that's just thoughtless!

muminafrica · 11/06/2008 14:13

Hello Ladies, thankyou for encouraging me to join you. I've been trying to read through the whole thread but my backside's numb so have opted for the first and last month instead.

Soosy, you're an inspiration! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

nomoremagnolia · 12/06/2008 08:48

Afraid it's bad news ladies - looks like this thread is cursed. AF arrived this morning along with a BFN (I wanted to be 100% sure) Don't know what we're going to do next - I need to ring the clinic and arrange a follow-up meeting I guess.

mowmi · 12/06/2008 09:42

oh ladies, I'm so sorry...I really hoped for some good news.
It's so sad and unfair....
Swerve I echo the well done, how can some people be so damn insensitive?!
I'm moving house this weekend so I'll catch up again next week.
Try and stay strong x

swerve · 12/06/2008 12:47

nomore, i'm so sorry! i'm so disappointed for you.

mowmi, good luck with the house move.

coggy · 12/06/2008 19:23

Oh nomore....

Onlyaphase · 12/06/2008 20:33

Oh what dreadful news for you both, Soosy and NoMore. That is just awful for both of you, I'm so sorry.

soosy · 13/06/2008 21:15

Oh Nomore I am so sorry to hear your news I was so hoping it would be you.

Swerve, I would have told her she was damn lucky and then walked off!

OAP, how's it hanging out there in the 2ww, I assume you are there now.

I am just trying to get my head around our next move, before ringing the clinic with news of BFN, as they will rush me to a follow up appointment, and I want to think about my next move before rushing stuff, may want to go to a different clinic. There is a private one near to where we are moving, have no idea what it's like, but LOL it is run by the consultant I don't like at my present clinic! So not sure I want to be there.

Perhaps we should just start a new thread to get away from all this bad news!