IVFers thread

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Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

Hi girls - I am weirdly feeling that the IVF is over - because we have no more appointments, no embryos frozen and no reason to go back to the clinic after spending most of last week there! I really can't make myself think that I'm carrying two embryos at the mo, just that we've failed to get any to freeze (we were kind of thinking that we'd do a 'super harvest' on the NHS and that would keep us going for at least acouple of frozen cycles). Is this something anyone else has felt? I feel really odd about it and have to keep reminding myself that it's not over yet!

Oh dear...we really are having a depressing time on this thread aren't we?
Nomore....try to be positive...it's an emotional roller-coaster that's for sure...you haven't failed at all. I only produced two eggs TOTAL! Positive thinking....you had the best two chosen and put back into you to start growing. (((hugs)))

to hear about those bfns ladies....good that your appointment is only in a few weeks though sooty.....enjoy those large glasses of wine while you can.

We are hoping to adopt in this country. Our LA is not willing to accept anyone who wouldn't consider adopting a child of 5 years old. We are keen to have siblings so we shall see!

We had my DSs ashes scattered up at the local crem. and he has his name and a couple of sentences written in the book of rememberence which is lovely. I find that the days leading up to anniversaries are usually worse than the day itself. I think this weekend was grotty because AF appeared on Saturday and I was sad AND pre-menstrual.....NOT a good combination!!!!!

All's back to normal here now though...thank you all.

Oh coggy, I know what you mean about the days before the anniversary being worse. Will you stick around and let us know about the adoption please, we would love to hear from you.

Nomore We all have these moments during the 2WW. It's not over yet and coggy is right you have to stay positive!

DH has gone away on Business, so we are on our own. Six days in to the 2ww. DH was asking when I am going o test last night, I said don't ask let's just see what happens.

OAP hope all is going well, looking forward to hearing from you on Friday.

S x

I am feeling a bit more positive today. Before we did the ET I was saying to DH that we potentially had 10 babies that we had created and therefore were responsible for giving at least a chance of life to. He was/is adamant that he only wants 2 kids so this was a bit of a sticking point for us as if we got twins first time then he'd want to stop and I felt we 'owed' the frozen ones at least the chance. Anyway last night he said maybe this is the way it's meant to be - we hsve twins now and our family is complete without the guilt/responsibility for any frozen embryos. Fingers crossed eh? (Can you tell I'm feeling a bit more positive about it )

Hi coggy, I agree with soosy, do stick around and tell us about the adoption, it's quite a good antidote to the sense of despair that IVF can bring.

Glad to hear you are feeling more positive nomore, I felt for you having to adjust your expectations. My experience was the opposite where I felt very disappointed with the amount of follicles and then pleased with the embryo's, you just never know do you?

I hope your silence is good news swerve . . . .

I am going away for two weeks - camping in France. It is some small compensation that I won't have to avoid stinky cheese and wine when I am over there. I really need to let go of all this for a while and build up my resources again as I am sure you will understand. I"ll be checking back in two weeks and I really hope that at least one of you three in the waiting room (onlyaphase you must be there by now), if not all, are successful . . . good luck and fingers & toes crossed for you

Enjoy France sooty I had a brie pannini yesterday, just in case it was my last chance to have one!

Hi Ladies,

I've been lurking in the background reading this thread...
Do you mind if I join you?
We are starting IVF next month - I have Polycystic O and DH had a low normality count to start with but that was just the start of our problems, we've had a rough six months - he's just been given the all clear from testicular cancer (best news ever!) but now we have to rely on his frozen sperm for the foreseeable.
We have our induction soon and should be starting at the end of this month.
I don't know anyone else who's had IVF so I'm hoping I'll be able to tap in to you ladies?

Question - anyone using accupunture to compliment their treatment? I've had great results improving my PO so I'm going to carry on...

Sorry this has been all about me, hope your all good tonight and looking forward to some good news soon

x

Hi mowmi Have we met before (either on here or antoher thread)? Great news about your DH getting the all clear, I bet that was a relief. I haven't used accupuncture, I was going to look into it, but we ended up doing IVF sooner than I thought we would so it got a bit forgotten in the rush! Which clinic are you at? If you want to keep that annonymous then don't say - I won't mind!

Hi nomore, yes we have I bowed out when DH was diagnosed....feel like I've done nothing this year but work and visit hubbie in hospital!!
Our luck seems to be on the turn...I got promoted last week and we've finally exchanged today on our new house (finally got rid of our flat which was beginning to feel like a noose around our necks!)
Are you still in positive mode? I hope so...I have my fingers firmly crossed for you! where you having your treatment?

we gone to our NHS consultants private clinic (wait in my area is 2.5 years for NHS) we're seeing Geeta Nargund at Create in Raynes Park

Looks like things are definitely on the up for you then Great news on selling the flat and on the promotion. Now to make the baby eh?

fingers crossed!

had a scan on Friday and all looked good (apparently? good endometrium, lots of antral folicles???) It's all a bit confusing at the moment - expect I'll be an expert after our induction on Friday!

How you doing tonight?

endometrium is the womb lining I think? No idea on the antral follicles though!
I'm busy knitting and MNing while waiting for DH to come home from running club so we can have dinner. What exciting things are you up to?

watching coronation st whilst DH is out at his dive club (grown men in wet suits playing in putney swimming pool) having a glass of rose and stressing about the packing that isn't going to do its self! We complete next Friday so wil have to get to it this weekend!

Hi Mowmi, I had acupuncture with DS (10th Cycle!) and well obviously I had DS. I have had acupuncture for my last cycle (5th post DS) which was unsuccessful, but my egg quality was pretty damn fab for a 38 year old! I am having acupuncture for this FET cycle, and I won't know anything til next week. From what I understand the important thing is to have treatment which makes you feel relaxed and that is the thing that helps.

I wish you loads of luck with your IVF, I had a friend with testicular cancer, he has two children now (no IVF necessary). My DS has poor count, mobility and morphology. DS was as a result of IVF with donor sperm.

Nomore glad you are feeling a bit more cheerful. Not entirely sure how I feel, really tired actually! I would always think of having embryos to freeze as a bonus, as it hardly ever happens. In 15 cycles of IVF/ICSI we have had 3 cycles in which we have frozen four eggs each time, plus they don't always survive the process. So don't feel like you have failed, nomore you are actually normal!!!

Nice to see you sooty, Have a lovely holiday, you deserve it, eat stinky cheese until you are sick of the sight of it and salami and parma ham, smoked salmon and everything else now banned during pregnancy, as you can be sure those are the things you want to eat when you are pregnant!

blimey that's not very long to do the packing in!!! If I rememer properly it took us about a week (from big rented 3 bed to little owned 2 bed though, so lots to sort/bin)

we did a massive sort out when we put this place on the market so shouldn't be too bad plus we've gone for a new build barratt thing and they send in the removal people to pack it all up as part of the deal - just don't want to take a load of crap with us.
just tried to work out how many days in to your wait you are - is this day 3 or 4?

ET was Sun, so day 4 here, though they told me to test on Sat not Sun (so I can ring results in?)

Thanks sossy, my fingers are crossed for you too - 15 cycles!! wow you must be the oracle!!
It's really sods law, I wasn't ovulating for a long time...metformin, losing a bit of weight and accu kicked it back off, DH's sperm count was improving and we thought we'd just keep cracking at it [blush} then out of the blue in Jan DH found a lump in the bath - i put it down to being a cyst...a week later he was having it removed! 4 rounds of chemo later he's cleared it which is great, he's done so well. We've been told we should wait 2 years to try naturally and there's a chance the chemo might have killed the old swimmers for good - we don't want to wait 2 years (I'm 35 and he's 39) just hoping our luck holds!!

really need to get to grips with the icons - I'm such a novice!

Good luck, you never know about you DH, he may surprise you. Mowmi. Don't worry about the age, my consultant thinks anybody having IVF under 40 is really young!

Nomore, yes they want you to test on Saturday to get your results as if you are pg you have to use the progesterone pessaries/suppositories until you are 12 weeks pg, and so you will need more! sorry that is the only downside to finding out you are pg!

no no no soosy why did you tell me that - I've been counting down the days til I can stop using them! Are there any hints you've got to make it less messy? I'm using them vaginally now (was using them anally from EC to ET and I thought that was bad - but at least it was not messy) I did ask the clinic about using them anally but they said no, it's not as effective

hello mowmi. welcome to the thread of hormonal highs and lows. my husband had t-cancer (umm.. 14 years ago). It's one of the reasons we've ended up down the ivf route (that and my endometriosis). but we have 1dd who is such a giggle.

Sorry i haven't around for a few days. sulking mostly. and feeling hormonally confused along with nagging headaches as i come off the steriods. AF has sent a postcard saying she'll be with me any day now. (and, yes, i've tried weeing on another stick but nothing). Just like last time. We'll wait and see how the next few weeks go and then see when we can try again - full harvest as the freezer's empty. I sound like I'm off to Wholefoods instead of Iceland!

Nomore, hold on with the pessaries. The alternatives are worse!

Sooty, I wish you sunny days and no rain. Lots of smelly cheese and fab red wine to wash it down. I hope you have a wonderful time.

soosy, congratulations on exchanging on your house. It sounds like you're in a buyer's market so I hope you find a wonderful home soon.

Swerve Nice to hear from you, sorry to hear you have had another bfn. What steroids do you take? I really should get an appointment with Lister, infact I shall do it tomorrow! LOL swerve about the freezer! Ours' is empty after this as well, and I am already making plans for next attempt and this one isn't over yet! I just feel so rubbish, and I am spotting again.

Nomore, my Clinic says either way is fine. you could do rectally during the day and vaginally at night. I think your clinic is being a bit fussy as your rectum is right next to your uterus, just a different way! Also apparently the skin of the rectum is thinner than the vagina so it absorbs really well. Top tip, if TMI I am really sorry but it works for me, and DS as sometimes I have to use suppositories with him too. Lick your finger before putting the suppository up, if that is too much for you a little vaseline may help. In any case Swerve is right intramuscular injections are no joke and the needle is much bigger!

Sooty have a fab holiday, best thing relax and think about your next move!

DS was very sweet today, as he had been asking for a brother, he said he would like a dog not a brother, because they play more!

Sx

I think I am getting the hang of the pessaries now, though tomorrow morning will be my first work morning with pessaries, so we'll see how it goes (I've been taking the opportunity to go back to bed in the mornings after doing the pessary)
Soosy at your DS's dog comment!
Swerve sorry you're feeling low - look after yourself
I spent the afternoon with DGodS and his Mum (my BF) We were shopping for summer clothes that would cover her 14 week 'bump' without being maternity clothes. I saw a tiny babygrow with a zebra on it (my favourite animal, along with cats) and was very tempted, but resisted. If I find I am pregnant this time I'll be back there asap!!