IVFers thread

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Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

Hi all - what is the difference between pessaries and suppositaries [innocent]
Got a call this morning - 10 embryos! Feeling fine today, so much so that I am going to the wedding tomorrow (wasn't sure I'd make it) ET is Sun at 12.
swerve sorry about BFN but it's not over yet. Fingers crossed for you
OAP Glad you're off and running
coggy best of luck with adoption, sorry it's taking so long - these children are very elusive, aren't they?
sooty Hope all's well, are you starting to fold yet or are you being strong about not testing til Mon?
soosy BEST OF LUCK TODAY lots of positive vibes coming your way

Suppositaries = up the bum
Pessaries = up the vagina/fanjo/insert word of choice here

10 embryos is great, well done you. Looks like they will have lots to pick from on Sunday, and the rest to freeze if of decent quality. Oh and don't worry about quality too much - my DD is from a grade 2 embryo (grade one being the best) as I never seem to produce anything else. Bet you are glad you've had that call now - the morning can seem endless waiting for the phone to ring!

Hi guy's, I haven't folded on the tests - seems there's no need. I got some blood this morning, it hasn't really developed into a fully fledged period yet, but I expect it shall .

Sooty, how do you feel? Periody or not? If it were me I'd test anyway now, just to be sure either way. Might be implantation bleeding. It is really early for your period to start if it is your period and you were not due to test until Monday.

Anyway, hugs to you today.

Sorry to put a dampner on the thread but my period is starting to kick in now. Really disappointed as you know doubt all understand - which is nice to know. Does anyone know how long you have to wait before you can try again? I am sure you do Soosy.

In some ways my period coming slowly has been merciful, I have had all day to let it sink in . . . after four rounds of IUI I thought I'd be more prepared, but I guess every new treatment seems to offer new hope.

I'm holding onto the baton by the way - you guy's will do better without it, might bury it in the garden or throw it out the window.

Oh Sooty, I am so sorry. What an awful day for you.

Re the trying again, clinics vary, mine wants 2 periods before starting again on the 3rd one if you see what I mean. Others I think may be the same or less. For FET waiting times I don't know I'm afraid.

I do know that it can take a while for the hormones to settle down again - on my last failed cycle I felt really really tearful for a good two weeks afterwards, and it only about then I felt I could move on mentally from the failed cycle. Some people do get pregnant on their own on the first cycle after IVF as the stimulating hormones are still raging away in your ovaries.

Call me shallow, but I found that shopping helped me in those first few days a LOT. Be nice to yourself.

Swerve sorry about your BFN but if af doesn't turn up try testing again.

I am sorry to hear your news Sooty, my clinic will let you try again after one cycle, but my acupuncturist says it takes about 3 cycles to go back to normal. Personally I found I physically bounced back better when I was younger, I am 38 (nearly 39) now and the last attempt took 3 cycles for everything to go back to normal (well normal for me). Emotionally it can be harder and you must give yourself time to deal with it, as it is tough on you. I am with OAP I find shopping a great healer and getting slightly trashed on champagne with a friend really helped last time!

Nomore, fantastic news 10 embryos brill. I am hoping you'll have some to freeze. Good that your clinic is open on Sunday, mine isn't and I usually have three day transfers as that was how DS came about. Really good luck.

OAP glad your scan went ok, I have a wandering left ovary that I have to anchor by pressing it v hard!

Coggy I am glad you are still lurking and really pleased you are going to adopt. I hope all goes well with the process. Are you hoping to adopt here or abroad? I am sure your referees will be highly complimentary.

Well ET went ok, had 2 embryos out of four survived, one survived better that the other, one had six surviving cells out of seven but the other one only had two out eight cells. Lets hope they are fighters and want to stick around. Suppose I am in the House, see you on Sunday Nomore!

Sooty sorry it's not good news, I really thought you were going to get lucky. Have you been told to test regardless of period? My clinic said test after period as one embryo might not make it and cause bleeding but the other one might stick. I know it might sound like clutching at straws, but I'd rather be certain before hitting the booze. Hope you're taking it easy today.

Hi, yeah I did have one glass of wine but I'm not intending to go all out until after the test on Monday, my clinic said the same thing, but they also said it's highly unlikely if you have a proper period and mine has certainly settled in . . .. I have to say I don't really feel like drinking - too depressed to enjoy it - it was more symbolic. After a day of clutching at straws and running back and forth to the bathroom, having a glass of wine was a way of getting closure.

Oh sooty I am so sorry you are having a lousy weekend. I must admit my alcoholic binge was about a week after failed IVF and I felt so terrible for days afterwards. But I know what you mean about closure, in any case a couple of glasses of wine wouldn't do any harm.

I am spending a few minutes to myself before meeting DH, DS and Darling Nephews in communal gardens!

Thank you to everyone who posted on my desperate thread last night. I am still getting the palest of pink mucus, (Yes we are looking at things in rather too much detail, but that is what happens with IVF.) But it is definitely not getting any worse, and as I said to DH there is not a awful lot I can do about it. I decided not to ring ACU as they will only tell me not to worry and test in 2 weeks!

Nomore I hope you are having a good day away from Mumsnet! and that you are not too uncomfortable. I am keeping everything crossed for your transfer tomorrow.

S x

Sorry to hear you had such a worrying night soosy, my clinic did warn me that there is occaisionaly some bleeding after ET if that helps.

As for me, I took the shopping advice and went and bought myself a new camera - all the different features etc kept me well entertained for a few hours.

I feel like somethings been taken away from me rather than something didn't happen, which I know is irrational . . .

How are you going swerve? I hope you haven't joined me in the outerchamber of the waiting room yet . . .

Good luck with the transfers tomorrow nomore.

I'm back home with 2 embryos back where they belong Unfortunately none of the others were good enough to freeze The ones they put back were 5 and 7 cells, the others had slowed down/stopped at 3-4 cells. They didn't say what grades they were though.
swerve any news?
sooty glad you found something to cheer you up at the shops

NMM, good news you have two on board today. Now, sit back and rest!

I'm off again tonight down south. We don't have internet access on the houseboat yet, so I will be out of range until Friday night. I'm not looking forward to this at all as I have 3 scans and blood tests this week, and will no doubt have questions for fellow IVFers arising from these. I will just have to wait til the weekend I suppose, boo.

Hope you all have a good week, Soosy and NNM enjoy the 2WW house.

Hi nomore good to have company in the house, 5 and 7 cells are good, I am keeping everything crossed for you.

OAP, good luck for your epic journeys this week hope all goes well. Look forward to hearing from you on Friday.

The bleeding is subsiding so we live in hope, but FET has half the success rate of a fresh cycle, so trying not to think about it! (HA HA HA)

Glad to hear your bleeding is dying down soosy. You must be feeling little let down nomore . . .but stay positive because although we always like to have a backup plan we often don't need it !

Sooty...I'm sorry to hear that you have had AF . I also had the four rounds of IUI and then when my one (and only) IVF attempt failed I felt AWFUL. I'm a very emotionally balanced person and didn't feel too bad when the IUIs didn't work but I certainly went into mourning for a few days. I was really surprised how disappointed and basically hopeless I felt, but after 2 or 3 days I just got back to it again. I think that we need that time to adjust, come to terms with the sad news and let all the drugs/tension/greif out of us.
Hope you and your DH are looking after each other.
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nomore....hurrah for you with your two on board!! Keep those two safe now.
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Soosy...I missed your thread yesterday as I haven't been around (anniversary of my DS birth/death this weekend, so all a bit sad here in the Coggy household.) I hope that everythings settled down for you and I look forward to hearing some positive news from you very soon.
Two out of my three referees said that they couldn't think of anything negative to say about us, which is lovely, and the third is my sister...so she'd better be nice or else!!!

Coggy - don't quite know what's the 'right thing' to say about your DS's anniversary but I hope that it wasn't too painful or hard for you. Do you have a place where he is buried/ashes scattered that you can go to? Did you do anything special to mark the anniversary? (big hugs)

Hi Coggy, I hope your anniversary passed with some solace and grace.

As for your sister as a referree, I wouldn't worry if she said something negative amongst the good, in fact if I was assessing it I'd take that as a sign of honesty and openness. I'd be more worried about the fabricated 'perfect' couple!
Good luck with your adoption, it's certainly a route I have been thinking of as well - sometimes it seems so indulgent to divest so many of the world's resources into creating children when there are so many out there that need looking after. Othertimes I just want my own.

Hi, I just got back from the clinic after doing my bloodtest. Would be extremely surprised to have a reversal of fortune . . but I am still hoping. Was harder than I thought it would be going in, I guess because all the other times I have been in there it is for treatment - so you are in the positive mindset of 'maybe this time', whereas this time it felt quite bleak. Hmmn . . .

Oh Sooty, sorry life is a bit bleak a the moment, it does get better. Your clinic is good, mine just makes you do a hpt at home 2weeks after transfer and that's it. To be honest I don't even bother to ring them if it is negative now, just to make another appointment.

Coggy, I am sorry that this is a sad time for you, but good that you remember your DS. I am pleased that your referees are as you hoped! We too looked into adoption, I was told when I was 32 I was too old to adopt a child under the age of three, in the London area. Are you thinking of adopting here or abroad Coggy? I would like to adopt from China, if things don't work out (they like older parents), but DS wants a brother!! fussy devil.

Nomore hope you are having an ok 2 ww. I am hating it already , and am trying ot convince myself it hasn't happened to make it easier for me.

coggy, I have no idea how hard the anniversary must be for you. I hope you are coping ok. I send you my love and best wishes. Adopting must be a hugely exciting prospect. I have several friends who have done so (overseas adoption) and have found such joy and love they couldn't have imagined.

oh dear, it seems a little sad on this thread this weekend. Soosy and Nomore, I hope you're doing well and relaxing into the 2ww. I feel our fortune will change with you. please!!

I was advised to keep on the drugs and test again, which I did this morning. Still nothing. No AF either. So I'm coming off the drugs and no doubt she'll turn up sometime soon. So now on for planning the next harvest. July, I hope. It's incredible how fast a year can drag by in all this!

Hi all, I got the call from the clinic and it is a definate no. I will be opening that bottle shortly . . . The only good news is that the nurse was really helpful about making sure my next appointment is with the Dr I like in three weeks time. Hopefuly I will be able to start downregging again in July for an August cycle - that's what I am hoping anyway.

Glad to hear you are still hanging in there swerve, it's not over till it's over . . .

Even though I still wish I was in it, I don't envy you guys in the 2ww. Fingers crossed.

sooty, sorry to hear you had a definite no, have a lovely glass of wine and enjoy it!

Swerve sorry also that you have had another negative.

Some good news, we exchanged on our house today, so it has sold! All we have to do is find one to live in!

sooty but at least you know foe sure now - enjoy your wine!
soosy good news about the house sale
swerve sorry it was negative again - hope you get an answer when you stop the drugs