IVFers thread

[TheMNPeacekeepingForce]

Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

EHM So sorry to hear your news and I know what you mean about being not totally devastated but being more upset than you think you are going to be. Sending big hugs, take some time before making any decisions everything is probably v raw at the moment and you need to recover first.

Malaket thinking of you.

S x

EHM - Sorry to hear your news its not easy for any of us.

I started my period yesterday, devastated, cried lots yesterday and spent the whole day today on the sofa, just feel like its never going to happen.

We have to think about our next move as it will now be a full cycle as we have no frosties left.

Good luck to everyone else.

Malaket, EHM, just to add to everyone else's thoughts - so sorry to hear your results.
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aww malaket I am truely sorry to hear your period arrived.I am sure your time will come.be good to you & dh. Take Care{{{Hugs}}}

Really sorry to hear af arrived Malaket. Big {{{{hugs}}}}}}.

Malaket, EHM, I'm so so sorry. It's so hard and so unfair! Why does it have to been this difficult? I've been really struggling through the last week and find myself crying at ridiculous times. I feel so much more devastated this time than I did previously. I think partly because my expectations were higher - I mean, they figured it out and got me pregnant for the very first time, ever! I made that very, very dangerous mistake of assuming it would be easier this time round. And I also have my dd, who is such a delight and so gorgeous and it make it so much more real what hasn't happened.

and there i go again. booohoo.

Hold on in there. I keep reminding myself this does work. For 2 friends this month. it will work, it will, it will it will.

for you both.
X

(((((((( Malaket, EHM ))))))))

So sorry to hear your news and thinking of you both.

xx

Coggy Nice to see you how are you?

Swerve, It gets better, do you have a plan? I always think a plan helps.

Red Queen, I hope you are keeping v calm.

OAP How's the move going, we are on our way too, have accepted an offer and fingers crossed we have a mortgage valuation on Thurs. I hope all goes well as at the moment I think that may be the biggest hurdle.

Hope everyone else is ok, esp Malaket and EHM.

Missing you SS!

Still going for an FET in late April, if I can find some cash! Have pension and Nursery fees to pay first! Had a 28 day cycle last month. (have been pg twice in 28 day cycle) so hoping I can have another two, or one next month!

Right, now let us see if we can re-energise this rather depressing thread and keep it going until we get some positive results!

Soosy - how did the mortgage valuation go on Thursday? Hope you got the result you wanted? I take it you have found somewhere and also found a buyer - good going in this market, congratulations. I had the most dreadful dream last week that our buyer dropped out after keeping us hanging on for ages....luckily I woke DH to tell him this, and he pointed out that our buyer had actually completed 11 months ago, and we had moved house already. It is just such a stressful time, and things are out of your control which doesn't really help

EHM, Malaket - so sorry to hear your news, really thought that it would work for you. Statistically, it should work for someone on this thread soon, surely.

Swerve - I know exactly what you mean about failed cycles meaning more now, after having had a successful cycle. You know what you are missing out on

RedQueen - 1 April is fast approaching! The days will fly by once you start downregging - are you sniffing or injecting?

I'm off to have the followup with the clinic on 28 March, then will try to schedule another cycle in May/June - though this will probably mean starting to downreg mid April, so maybe I will leave it another month? I am very keen to fit in 3 cycles this year before hitting 39 in December, so can't really leave it too long. I'll use my usual clinic again I think, and stay with DH on his houseboat in London for the weeks I need to - this will be a little tricky with DD on a boat, but I am sure I can manage.

Soosy - did you say you were going for an FET in April? How does that work then - do they medicate you at all or just monitor your usual cycle?

OAP, you're absolutely right. It will work! Spring is in the air (is it??) and baby-making is on our minds. It will work! I know it will.

and, OAP, why wait? Is april a difficult month to start for you or does it just seem too soon? I agree about the houseboat with a tot, but being on the river in the spring is so wonderful. I used to live on a houseboat in London, many years ago. my boatmate and I used to sit on the deck in the evenings, glass of wine in hand and watch the marathon runners training. A great view!

I managed to get myself into such a depressed mood. when in found myself crying while walking to our babygroup I realised I had to get a grip. So I've been to the gym 4 times last week (haven't done nothing for ages) and it really has helped. Those endorphins (or smug pride) has really picked me up.

I think we'll go for a FET on my april cycle. easy peasy!

I second the spring-in-the-air / babies-on-the-mind PMA idea
We've got our consultation on Wed, will get talked through the whole thing and get DH's test results back. What else might I expect from this? If we're going for it on the next cycle (as implied by the nurse I saw last week) then we could be looking at EC/ET at the very end of May - does that count as spring still?

So sorry I've been AWOL - I was away!
Will post more soon as very late now but wanted to say hi!

Hello ladies

I've been away too - I've not caught up properly but lots of love to those who were unlucky this time IVF is so hard isn't it, emotionally, financially, physically - of course if it works all that pales into insignificance...

I'm about to start puregon on Weds with a view to ec on 8th April, staying quite calm at the mo - probably due to having been at my parents and being able to relax there...back to reality today!

Hi again everyone. I've decided I'm going to bow out of posting regularly on here as I have no plans for further treatment for the foreseeable if at all.

However, firstly I want to say thank you all for your fabulous support over the last few months and secondly good luck to all of you with all this.

I will definitely keep the thread on watch and pop back occasionally to catch up and say hi!

And maybe now I'm going, the luck of this thread will turn!!

Dear SS, If you're reading this I just wanted to send you lots of best wishes too. Bambi

ss, we'll miss you. all the best and hope we'll bump into each some other time. take good care

SS take care of yourself

SS nice to hear from you, but sad not to hear from you! I quite understand you need to take time out. We hope to hear from you from time to time.

Bambi and Red Queen, things are coming up fast for you two.

Swerve glad to hear the exercise is working for you.

OAP My God moving house, i am never doing it again! The forms I have had to fill in and they almost want my inside leg measurements! Haven't heard about the mortgage valuation as have been away, will be calling on Monday. About you next cycle and delaying it, a friend of mine says there is never a right time to be pregnant, in terms of things happening in your life so you might as well get on with it! I will have a natural cycle FET as I have regular cycles, although I think this one may be 32 days (happens about once or twice a Year) otherwise 30 days, but both pg's have been on a 28day cycle so we'll see what happens next month! EIther way its about 2weeks before af and then.....

Bambi, how are things going? I hope you're feeling ok and those little ones are growing well.

Red Queen, what stage are you at?

Soosy, i hope the bank comes back with a calm and unpanicked response.

AF seems to have arrived unexpectedly (2 weeks early), which leaves me scratching my head about whether to go for fet on this cycle or wait.

Meanwhile I've become a complete gym bunny! totally out of character. I think i'm trying to rediscover some abs before (fingers crossed) destroying them again. If i stop & think about it, it seems completely pointless and ridiculous. although i offset the good of my session yesterday by coming home and settling into a nice glass of wine and a big bag of the cheapest, nastiest crisps i could find!

Strange Swerve, Mind you I think I am heading for a 32 day cycle this month, usually 30, but we want 28! Still going ahead with FET in April. Maybe your body is justing getting back to normal April is a fine month to get pg! LOL about the gym, I joined for a whole year after DS born and didn't go once, what a waste of money that was!!!

Bambi and Red Queen hope everything going ok.

Sx

Swerve, thanks so much for thinking of me! I'm sure that you are sure that it's not implantation bleed aren't you?!

Soosy... Surely the point of going to the gym is to do whatever you like afterwards without feeling guilty...

You know I'm really quite a lot overweight, 5'3'' and 13 st! hate to admit it but it's true. For ages I was refused treatment on the grounds that I was too fat (I was quite a lot thinner then) and then I went and got pregnant at this weight. I am trying to make sure that my weight is at least pointing in a downwards direction as that is supposed to help but I'm SO SICK of feeling guilty all the time. My sis is what you might call A LOT bigger than the average bear and she has got pregnant naturally more or less first pop twice now.

Personally I'm hoping the spring upsurge in fertility will help me. Been doing the Puregon for 5 days now, starting to feel very bloated already and seem to have caught tonsillitis so not feeling very happy, esp with 1.5 yr old to care for (she's full of beans I'm glad to say). Got scan today to check progress of follicles, fingers crossed! I'll keep you ladies posted.

Red Queen, how are you?

Help! Scan shows one follicle has grown to 4cm cyst...does anyone know whether I should be worried about this? Thanks.

bambi, where the drs or scanner concerned? i've always had 1 or 2 whoppers on each stimulation.

Thanks Swerve...hmm, the nurse did the scan and she was concerned and phoned the consultant...then msg came back to say continue with meds and return for follow-up scan on Thursday so presumably he thinks it's all ok. I feel fine so I'm not going to fret just yet...do you know anything about OHSS (presumably that would be the concern?... I had a look online yesterday and now realise that I almost certainly had OHSS with dd) . I just hope that they go ahead with a fresh transfer!