IVFers thread

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Anyone fancy starting an ongoing thread for those who are having IVF/ are planning to try again via IVF soon?

Ds was conceived via IVF - he's now 2.6 and we're stepping back on the scary rollercoaster ride with a FET - I started taking the drugs yesterday!

Ahem....I do know how to spell chocolate BTW.

(As well as the other things I've just realised I typed wrong!! Obviously a bit over excited?!)

I think we all get the wobbles, and probably several times, on and off Soosy.
I was quite negative on Friday and then by Saturday everything was fine and wonderful....I think it's the nature of the beast.
Glad to hear you're back on track now.
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SS...yes seven would be FANTASTIC.....got a chance of freezing some then.

My god what are you lot doing up at 11pm! I went to bed at 10 last night and the night before at 9pm. Coggy you are forgiven because I presume you were doing your injection, but SS are you not exhausted, I remember falling asleep everywhere when I was pg with DS.

Coggy, a jab free day today! enjoy and eat lots of chocolate, however it is spelt!

Sticki, I hope everything well with you.

Day 7 in the 2ww house halfway!
Have HIP man coming round this am so waiting for him. V boring, I will be lurking for a while, at least til the dishwasher finishes!

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Hi all, my what a busy little thread!

Soosy - how is day 7 in the 2WW house going for you? Any mad symptom spotting yet? Think I will jump on your bandwagon and say I am on day 1 in the 2WW house - although is day 1 ET day or the day after?

Sticki- yes, thanks we did get to see pics of our 5 and 8 cell embryos yesterday. Didn't get to keep them though which is probably a good thing for me, else I would be feverishly attached to them by now. And I rather hope it is the other way around, in that they are frantically attaching themselves to me.

Coggy - excellent news re follicles, hope they find lots when they get in there. Frankly I don't know how they can decipher the ultrasound pics, so I hope they find lots and lots of mature eggs tomorrow.

ET yesterday was fine - the clinic called in the morning to say that there were 2 good embryos and 2 not so good, so nothing for the freezer again. This is exactly what happened to us last time - 2 good and 3 not so good embryos, so we are hoping for the same outcome. Am feeling rather optimistic today, sure it won't last. Not sure I will be able to wait until my test date of 20 Feb - think I will either start bleeding before then or will have tested anyway.

Hope you all have a good day today

I have no idea when you are supposed to test OAP they just tell you in 2 weeks time, so I assume I should test on the 13th or 14th Feb. Glad to have some company in the house as SS has already jumped the wall into a nicer place and Worry is in the diary room for a while, I hope she is ok and we hear from her soon.

A 5 and 8 cell that's fab, I didn't get to see iggle and upsy, so I hope they are snug and warm and are burrowing in well. Soosy wanders over to the 2ww house kitchen and offers OAP a cup of tea and a chocolate biscuit.

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ah but is it decaf tea?!

That's great news OAP!

Yes I have been knackered the last few days but am feeling worryingly livelier today...hope that's not a bad sign....

got to keep this short as ds sitting on my knee being jumpy!

Absolutely decaf!

Can I come too then!??! (Mind you I've eaten a week's worth of chocolate today so no biscuits for me!)

Bit worried as all symptoms have disappeared today. Dh says not to worry as he reckons that happened sometimes last time and we have ds but I still worry!

Well you are officially still in the 2ww House SS, just in the really nice spa bit, but if you want tea and chat we would love to see you!

I am hoping coggy will be joining us on Monday, Best of luck for tomorrow Coggy, just try and go to sleep it's the best thing to do.

SS I used to get worried about symptoms disappearing, I had about 5 scans before I was 12 weeks as I was convinced I'd had a m/c, Like my first pg. But eventually they told me to calm down and my doc told me that when you pee on the stick you are more likely to have a baby than not. At your six weeks scan that increases to over 90% certain, when they see a heartbeat and development is normal. So keep calm!

OAP I have been symptom spotting like mad, even though I didn't really have any last time. I am having a little bit more CM than usual and don't know if this is a good or bad sign, as I can't remember last time, but somebody has told me it increases when you are pg, perhaps SS can enlighten me Being in the spa part of the house! I think if I make it past Mon without af showing her face I am probably pg, so that makes it a long wkend, DS being away I may lose my nerve!

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Hope all goes well today coggy.

D8 in the 2ww house. Soosy hopes OAP is having a bit of a lie in and brings her a decaf tea in bed. Resisted temptation to buy a test today, am beginning to find it all a bit tense. I am getting a bit impatient with DS which is not fair on him.

I must try and keep calm, more rescue remedy needed!

Wish I was on day 8, still on day 2 in the 2WW house here. Am still feeling positive and am sleeping so much better now all the scans and injecting are over - day after EC I was awake from 1.10am til 4.50am wondering how things were getting on. So no lie in, but lots more sleep.

DH is going away on business for 2 weeks tomorrow. Not sure what that says about my behaviour during the 2WW? Please could you all consider DH as having left the 2WW house as of tomorrow, and think of me waving him goodbye from the front door.

No news from Coggy then yet? And WM was going to test again today - hope she has good news.

Soosy - day 8.....would be so tempted to buy a test tomorrow ready for Monday am. How do you feel?

SS, hope life in the spa is good for you at the moment...don't forget you shouldn't really get any symptoms until about 6 weeks!

HI everyone, just to say sorry I wimped out before and also to let you know that i have confirmed a BFN this morning. I feel quite numb. I find I am not able to cry about it even, as I think I did all my cryign the other day. I just dont know what to do next. DH tryign ot be so supportive but I keep pushing him away nd being horrible to him. Think I have really upset him now. I jsut feel I have let everyone down and htat it is all my fault. I did everything I could to prepare and give myself the best possible chance so I dont understand. There must be something wrong with me. HAs anyone else been thru a failed attempt? I dont really know what to do next.

WM, am so sorry you didn't get the result you wanted, but please don't think you let anyone down. I know you did everything you could but sometimes it just doesn't work.

Can you go back to your clinic and see what they recommend?

Re your DH - everyone deals with this in their own way, so please don't worry if you're pushing him away. He probably feels guilty anyway at you having to go through this in the first place.

Think you will find lots of people have been through failed attempts - Trinny from Trinny and Susannah had about 11 failed attempts before her DD I think. Far more common to get a BFN than BFP.

Again, so sorry it didn't work out for you

I am so sorry worry to hear your news, God I know what you are going through I've had 11 BFN and every time i think it was something I did, but it's not and it is just bad luck. Be kind to your self , I always distance myself from DH I can't cope with people being nice and find it hard to deal with for a while. I would take your time, go back and talk to your consultant at the clinic and discuss your options and then you can decide what to do next if anything. You can always change your mind, I said my last attempt was going to be the last and then i said this one is too, but I don't know how I will feel.

IVF is an emotional rollercoaster and it is ok to wobble off once in a while. Just go out an spoil your self, haircut, whatever makes you feel good you deserve it.

Lots of love to you worry

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WM so sorry soosy has put it so well. Take care of you (and dh when you are ready).x.x

soosy 11 I had trouble dealing with 4 you are very strong & an inspiration to all IVFers.

WM ? I am so, so sorry to hear your news. It?s not your fault and you have let no-one down ? even the medics say it?s just luck of the draw.

To me you are an inspiration for having had the grit to give it a go in the first place.

Take care

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Many belated thanks to all of you who replied to me last Friday. Sorry for having committed a ?post and run? ? I am embarrassed to see how much time has since passed.

Anyway, while thinking over your comments, it struck me that I think I can live with DH?s attitude. While he doesn't seem much interested in the process, we fundamentally want the same thing and that's OK

But as WM said, it?s a terribly emotional process, so I?ll probably have changed my mind again by next week.

But I?m going to take the plunge and do it. So roll on March.

Hooray Red Queen, fabulous news, just get yourself some acupuncture too as I read an article in the Mail today that said that there had been a new study into acupuncture and IVF and the findings were: your chances were increased by 65% if you had acupuncture before or after ET.

I don't know about being an inspiration or a bl*dy lunatic!

RQ - so glad you've made a decision. Good luck and keep us posted!

Hi everyone else.

Not much news here - phoned clinic this morning and they basically said 'ooh that's very early, you can come in but they'll just make you repeat the bloods every 2 or 3 days'. I made an appointment for next week as I can't face the journey back and forth although I'd like a bit more info - it wouldn't stop me worrying anyway. Symptoms still a bit lacking but today's test was pretty strong. Am going to leave it a few days now before doing another unless I get in a tizz about it!

I had forgotten how, even once you get a BFP, you still spend the whole time wondering and worrying!

How are you all?

I hope you don't mind but I have been watching this thread for the last few days, as my sister is in the middle of IVF and I wanted to try and understand the emotions she might be experiencing, and learn a bit more about the whole procedure.

She had one course of IVF last autumn, which didn't even get to the ET stage as none of her (5) follicles made it. Apologies if i'm using incorrect terminology. When she got the call to hear that news was the worst day of her life. But they decided to try one last time, and she had been given higher doses of hormones this time. This resulted in 7 follicles of which she got 3 grade A embryos. Two were transfered last Friday and one is being frozen. So she's half way through her 2WW, and doesn't want anyone to call or isn't calling anyone. She's just resting up and trying not to stress (easier said than done). I really hope it works for her this time, although from what she's been told, the chances of success are only about 1 in 3.

Let's hope you all get what you long for in the end, and WM- sorry to hear things didn't work this time. As someone who has experienced an early mc, I went through the blaming stage, but I hope you will realise you did all you could and it was really out of your control.

Hi all

TRQ - congrats on your decision to go ahead in March, keep us posted. Actually, March is really quite close now!

SS - boo to your clinic! They could at least have sounded a little more excited for you. Have you booked a scan with them yet? Not sure if all clinics do that first scan at 6-7 weeks or if it is just mine.

Soosy - how is the 2WW house working out for you today? Cup of tea? Chocolate croissant?

I'm on day 3 now and bored, remember this feeling from last time. I feel totally better now, pain and drug free (other than the lovely cyclogest!) and want to get on with everything that I didn't feel like doing last week. And it is sunny and this makes the house look filthy! Am trying to rest but am finding it very difficult.

Is Coggy coming out to play today? Hope she is OK after EC yesterday

I'm here. Not quite in the house yet but looking longingly towards the gate!!!

EC yesterday was a breeze!
I slept through it all.....probably helped by the fact that we were up just after 5.30am to get to the clinic on time and I had spent a restless night dreaming about how on earth that tablet was going up my backside!!!

That also was easy as it turned out....but I really need the loo for about an hour after. Is that normal??!!

Only got two eggs from my six follicles which wasn't brilliant but as DH and I kept saying..we can only put two back in....so as long as they both fertilise......

Got the nerve racking phone call this morning to say that all was well and that they had both fertilised (LOADS of prayers went up last night on our behalf!!) and that we are to go back down for transfer on Monday.
Hopefully they will nicely divide and do their thing.

Phew.

(Sorry, totally self-obsessed post today! )

WM.....so sorry for you.

Coggy that is fantastic news! It only takes one, glad you went to sleep too much the best thing to do and that the cyclogest wasn't too bad. We all worry about these things and when it happens it's ok. Yes you could need to go to the loo, I would try and have a poo first, but that gets more difficult the more cyclogest you use!
Day 9 in the 2ww house.

OAP, love a Chocolate croissant, more tea for you. The 2ww House is not too bad at the moment although we are getting to the dodgy bit when af could rear her ugly head at any moment, so feeling a little bit jumpy, lots of visits to the loo and checking the loo paper. Sorry to hear you are a bit restless today, I managed to rest for about two days before DS and DH thought I should get back to my normal job! Perhaps we could sit and watch some trashy TV in the house this afternoon with SS and eat chocolate. Looking forward to seeing Coggy in the House tomorrow, hope it's not a crossover though, when I am on the way out.

SS yes I agree with coggy the clinic could be a bit more excited, I could kisses when I got pg last time, but hell I am their oldest customer, (i mean longest standing not completely ancient.) Come and sit down with some tea.

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