Entering into 8th cycle..

[Indianna2006]

Entering into 8th cycle…ttc number 2.

Feeling defeated and deflated even though I know odds are still on our side really..
I already have a DD who is 3 years 9 months so very much feel time is of the essence. Just desperate for it to happen now.

Feel like either people seem to fall super fast or seem like 12 months plus and don’t find many “in the middle” types.

Ive fallen pregnant 1st cycle before. And then DD took 7 cycles. So hence why this failed 7th cycle seems like a miserable milestone!

Anyone welcome to keep me company. Sucks 😫

@OK92 it's a box that has to be ticked prior to being referred to a fertility clinic and also I presume it gives you a number. Low progesterone can cause all sorts of issues inc miscarriage - ultimately I am 90% sure I do ovulate but I want to just be totally sure plus tick the box for further referral. X

@FlyOnTheWall89 @Indianna2006 thanks that's helpful to know, and I hope it went OK. My luteal phase is 11 days and last cycle spotting started at 10DPO. Perhaps I'll pay for private bloods next cycle to check my levels out. I'm not temping anywhere in my cycle other than the few days post positive OPK to confirm ov but no idea if my post ov temps are high enough etc.

@FlyOnTheWall89 yes it’s deff a check box that needs ticking to be referred on for fertility like you said.

I think I will deff get initial stuff via Docters when it first comes round. But just to save money as Docters can do that fast ish and privately is extra money. Then do other stuff like AMH and ultrasound and hycosy privately. As NhS wise I can imagine is a huge wait atm. And I wouldn’t getting any further treatment after that anyway.

Obviously you would as first child etc. but hate how the wait is so long.

But alas hopefully we won’t need any of this ladies. Got to keep a positive head right!

Even though I get what you mean about other thread with no BFPs since October. But some of them that joined may have been a year plus anyway I’m guessing?

Where as we’re only now waiting on outcome of cycle 9.. and others less.

Sigh. I don’t feel positive though 😂😆😆

Although looking back on my DD. She took 7 cycles. And actually the first month after the Mc was I was meant to avoid and didn’t. We had sex just once day before ovulation. But realistically I could easily of got pregnant. So overall she took 8 cycles. At age 27!!

And I’m 5 years older 🧐🧐 ffs. So I’m only one/two cycles on from that…

I’m waffling here. Just to make myself feel better 🙈🙈🙈

@Indianna2006 waffle away! It's really all consuming.

I try so hard not to stress about it and be relaxed but it's just not possible 😤 it's so crazy how it happens for some immediately and takes such a long time for others. And I'm only 6 months in which is nothing compared to some others.

I think if this month isn't successful I'm going to book a nice holiday for Summertime to look forward to!

@Indianna2006
I'm going well other then bad nausea and heartburn
Seen bubba at 1st ultrasound other day am 6 weeks 4 days due date 5th of September 🥰
Fingers are crossed for you all this month 💕

Morning guys! Didn't pass out having my bloods done thankfully - the lovely nurse literally spoke rubbish at me and it totally distracts the mind.

I've attached my graph which I think is looking normal (I am looking mostly at resting pulse and skin temp) - it will be v obvious if AF is about to appear.

It must be nearly testing time for a few of us? That is if you plan to test!! Xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 your chart is looking good 🤞🏼 when do you plan to test?

I decided not to this month as the BFNs are just too upsetting. Plus I'm away this weekend so won't really have the opportunity to. AF due Tuesday. Not feeling any symptoms really, dull cramps on and off but I always have that in luteal phase. How have you been feeling?

@OK92 tbh rn I don't feel any different at all. I actually feel full of energy this morning so I highly doubt I am pregnant sadly. It's becoming a lesson in acceptable and lack of control that is for sure! I probably won't test until Wednesday which is when I think I would be due my period. X

@Kiaa aww that’s lovely hun 🥰🥰

@FlyOnTheWall89 yes chart looks good. I’ve been putting my temps on Fertility friend as it’s what I’ve always used. I’ll attach mine.
My AF is due Monday or Tuesday. I’m 11dpo today.
So I will test Sunday 13dpo. As that’s my usual testing day as I use a sensitive pregnancy test and then I get a definite yes or no.

The only weird thing I’ve had is frequent urination the last 2/3 days. Need to go to the toilet more than usual. And when I need to go all of a sudden I’m bursting. Which is odd for me.

But other than that. Nothing. Feel very normal. And I’m under no illusion that it’s a sign. Cos not sure I really believe in symptom spotting lol. Mind plays tricks.

Time will tell I guess.

Doing fun things with DD today and got family gathering tomorrow so keeping busy.

Fingers crossed girls 🥰 xx

My chart..

Soo my temperature dropped this morning. Not down to coverline but it’s dropped.

12dpo today. So I decided to get up and test and get it over with as think therefore I knew the answer. Yep. BFN.

Expect tomorrow my temp will drop below cover line and AF will be here by Monday.

Into cycle 10 🤷🏻‍♀️ Really don’t understand what is going on here. Think I need to have a chat with DP.

DD turns 4 next month. And I’m not going to be pregnant when we pretty much started after she turned 3. 😭😭 I feel so defeated and deflated.

@FlyOnTheWall89 when you contacted the GP did you have to do it for your partner? Or did he have to contact them? Gonna try convince DP to ring and get sperm analysis at least in the bag maybe.

@Indianna2006 I'm so sorry to hear 😞 TTC is mentally and physically draining. I'm sure a GP would you see now if you say you've been trying for close to a year?

Even though I'm doubtful we've been lucky this month there's still always that little bit of hope each TWW isn't there. And it's gutting when it's all over and the countdown to the fertile window begins again 😭

@OK92 I just knew when my temp had dropped 🤷🏻‍♀️ May as well test as I knew what the answer would be.

I don’t know if they would. As a year would be like April. But we’ve have a fair few goes. I feel like DH getting semen analysis would at least answer if we’re wasting time on that front or not.
Cos other things for me are tick boxes for fertility clinic and we won’t get any assistance going there as have a child. So we will have to go privately anyway for most of my stuff I think.

But at least if we know the sperm good we know to keep going for a few more months before paying out?!

Eugh I don’t know what to do tbh ladies. Help 🤦🏻‍♀️

Morning morning @Indianna2006 ... oh so sorry to read the the BFN. My OH had to contact them separately and he HAD to have a SA before any fertility referral. I was reading last night that really, a SA is the first thing that should be done... it's painless and fairly black and white in terms of an answer. It is so deflating and I completely emphasise. Maybe organising some tests will make you feel a bit more in control and with some knowledge that, hopefully, everything is okay and it's just a waiting game. X

Took a cheapie boots test and there is nothing on it. My temp is still high but I ovulated 14 days ago I think. I've transferred all my Ava temps into Natural Cycles... so if I was pregnant, there would be something by now I'm sure. Urghhh feels hopeless.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I think you ovulated similiar time to me maybe. I’m 13dpo today. But my temp dropped below cover line today and I’m crampy so period will turn up today.

I think most women would get a faint line by 12dpo how sensitive was the test?

Yes it feels hopeless. But because some ppl have it easy and we’re lead to believe it can all happen quicker than is reality sometimes.

DH is gonna contact Docters and ask for sperm check. And least that can be underway. And then when we get to 12 cycles in March/April. I will contact them for bloods then. As my same Docter knew when he came off meds and started trying so can’t really fabricate.
But hopefully at least if DH is testing we will know if that is or isn’t causing the issue.

That’s our plan. Feel a bit better to have a plan in place. But yeh..down on the dumps. Just feel super sad for DD. I really do wanna give her a sibling and she keeps saying I’m getting a baby when I’m 4. 😩

Hi ladies, can I join this thread for moral support? I'm so sorry this journey is proving to be difficult for you ( although massive congratulations @kiaa , I hope the nausea will settle soon for you). Ttc is mentally draining and although I'm trying to be all related about it, I find myself obsessing and googling all sorts of stuff. I'm also feeling deflated by this whole ttc journey. I conceived very quickly the first times and feeling sad it's not happening again. I think I had a chemical last month, got a very faint line at 9 dpo then af showed up same day. I really had my hopes up for this cycle, and did everything that I could. Took all the vitamins under the sun, no alcohol nor caffeine, healthy food, legs up after sex and stayed in bed for an hour after, tracked with opk and dtd A LOT. I've had blood tests done and they came back normal. I feel like I've tried everything and just dont know what more I could do. I've seen threads where people said it happened when they gave up, but how do you give up? I'm aware of my cycles and and would still know when I'm ovulating when I see ewcm.

@solven hi, yep you’re totally right. It is mentally draining. And the whole up and day of this could be the month for them utter disappointment sometimes is just too much to bare.

How long have you been ttc? Good that your bloods have come back okay. Is that general blood or the ones in relation to your cycle? Maybe worth trying the get a semen analysis if your bloods were okay?

I’m hoping to get my DH semen analysis if he calls up. And I’ll do bloods in a few months once we hit 12 cycles. I’d rather know the sperm is good to keep going I think!

People say they gave up. Think they just mean they lose hope. But I don’t think any of that really correlates. I think it just has to all marry up. Exactly as the science likes.

We think everyone’s falls fast and within 6 months it should of worked. But I think in reality 6-12 months is very common. And lots of people even 12-18 months.

Human conception isn’t very well designed …but it feels like forever when you’re in it 😩😩 I know. It’s awful and horrible. And a stupid process.

@Indianna2006 I'm just a few days from entering my 8th cycle. I've already lost hope for this one as I got a tiny amount of ewcm which I always get before AF 😭 I think I'm going to have a drink tonight. My bloods were to check ovulation and other stuff like vitamins and diabetes, and all came back normal. Im over 35 so only had to wait 6 months to get it done, but because I already have children there's not much they will do for me. I suppose the next step is SA, dont know how DH will feel about that 😫
Have you had any tests done yet?

@Solven ahh I see. Good that they came back normal though. But yes I’d prob say next step is SA.
No tests for us yet. I will wait for 12 cycles before getting my bloods done. But hoping DH will get SA sooner as he is going to call tomorrow. It’s hard for the men I think. DH is quite good about it and is aware he needs to do his half.
Hoping if that comes back fine will encourage me to keep going for a bit.

How old are your other children or child?

Although you’re over 35 don’t lose hope yet. We still all easily have chance. We panic before we even get to 12 months. And lots of people still fall at that time frame.

@Solven hello and sorry you're joining us on the thread. I think I'm about to enter cycle 7 😞 I'm 10DPO but have my usual pre AF cramps (due day after tomorrow) and have had no symptoms to indicate pregnancy. Feeling super deflated. I also conceived quickly first time round so this journey is a bit of an emotional rollercoaster tbh.

@Indianna2006 that's good to have a clear plan in place. Just got to keep rolling the dice and know that the time WILL come for all of us. Like you said, many people will conceive in the 6-18month bracket but when I read threads on MN everyone seems to get lucky so quickly.

@FlyOnTheWall89 how are you feeling?

@OK92 yep it deff feels like loads of ppl get lucky quickly. But there are lots of the rest of us hanging out there.

Well AF showed up today. So CD1 for me of cycle 10.

We can do this girls we can. Just have to keep each other going. Those two lines will come for all of us at some point. Just feels so out of your control. And it is so disheartening when your doing everything you can

😘

Looks like we're all due around the same time...it will be nice to have cycle buddies although I've got everything crossed af wont show up for any of you.
@Indianna2006 hopefully you wont need to get the tests done and will get your bfp before the 12 months mark. That's good your DH is willing to get tested and doing his part. I dread the reaction of mine. My children are 8, 6 and 1. The third one took 6 cycles, the other two happened immediately.
@ok92 I get what you mean about the emotional rollercoaster 😫 it's hard to stay positive, especially when pms and early pregnancy share the same symptoms. But you're not out yet🤞🏻