Entering into 8th cycle..

[Indianna2006]

Entering into 8th cycle…ttc number 2.

Feeling defeated and deflated even though I know odds are still on our side really..
I already have a DD who is 3 years 9 months so very much feel time is of the essence. Just desperate for it to happen now.

Feel like either people seem to fall super fast or seem like 12 months plus and don’t find many “in the middle” types.

Ive fallen pregnant 1st cycle before. And then DD took 7 cycles. So hence why this failed 7th cycle seems like a miserable milestone!

Anyone welcome to keep me company. Sucks 😫

@Indianna2006 I don’t knowwwww. I’m tempted to just wait this time. I don’t have any tests with me (we are away), and the only test I have in London is digital clear blue I think - ie not a good one for early detection. If I pass a Boots, I’ll see if they have any FRER. I don’t feel anything, and I know it doesn’t mean I’m out but I just don’t have any instinct or anything that I am pregnant. I wouldn’t be surprised if I get AF a little earlier than Christmas Day because I think I ovulated earlier this month.

I am so so pleased someone got their BFP. Does give me a little hope but as this is #1, I have all those doubts that maybe I have rubbish quality eggs or my DP has a problem or I can’t get pregnant for whatever reason.

@FlyOnTheWall89 yes I totally get what you mean by that hun. As you haven’t been pregnant before.

Kiaa was ttc her second. And so am I. I have been pregnant twice before. So my head is saying likely hood is I can again. But whyyyy take so long. Makes no sense.

So I understand you have that fear. BUT equally it’s more likely it’s just taking a while because rolling a 6 on a dice is just luck. And any month we feel nothing could still be the month!

Maybe wait it out and see then. The negatives are horrible. Was bad day those few days for me. Sucks. Hugs.

Xmas will cheer us up.

@Kiaa hope you’re going to hang around hun and cheer us on 😘🥰
Xx

@Kiaa congrats! What a special Christmas for you, wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Can I join please ladies ? 🤍

I'm on Cycle 8 TTC.
This is the first cycle I've confirmed ovulation since an ectopic in July where I had to have a tube removed :(

I'm TTC #1 🤞🏼

I'm tracking bloody everything OPK, BBT, RHR, CM, CP 😂 I'm 8dpo and currently everything is looking good !

Congratulations @Kiaa on your BFP

@FreckledMouse welcome 🥰 of course you can join!

So very sorry to hear about your ectopic and losing your tube. That must of been really hard.

Fingers crossed for you and your tww. When date are you due AF? Is on close to Christmas Day?

AF arrived for me today..so CD1 of Cycle 9. 🤞🏼

@Indianna2006 everything crossed for Cycle 9 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

My period is all over the shop since the op ! I'll be 12DPO on Xmas Day so hoping for a Christmas miracle 🤞🏼😂

@Indianna2006 sorry to hear AF made her appearance. Wine + cheese over Christmas at least!

@FreckledMouse so sorry to hear about your ectopic. My fingers are crossed this is the cycle for you 🤞🏼

I'm CD4 of cycle 6. Zzzzz.

@Indianna2006 of course I will be the cheerleader sending lots of luck to you all 🥰🥰
Bring on the nye wish for you @Indianna2006 🎉🥳

@OK92 @FreckledMouse thank you Ladies 😀

I have just started my own thread about possible chemical pregnancies back when I first started TTC…I didn’t think much of it at time. But now knowing my vitamin D issues..gives me maybe some hope thinking we have perhaps fallen but I couldn’t sustain it.

Appreciate if you ladies could take a look and let me know your thoughts. It’s called are these chemicals ? Line eyes please. Something like that 🙈

Frustrated with myself though for not thinking about my vitamin D before last 2 cycles..although I’d deff had no squinter for 4 cycles at least.. but 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Can keep hoping.

Xx

I think AF has arrived early guys. On to cycle 9 - really disappointedly, again.

@FlyOnTheWall89 oh no hun ☹️☹️☹️ That’s sucks.
Hugs. No Christmas BFP for us.

Roll on cycle 9 though 🤞🏼🤞🏼🥰

@Indianna2006 I just don’t understanddddd WHYYYYYY - most of my friends got pregnant in the first month they tried 😭, and I know my mother will ask me about babies this Christmas.

@FlyOnTheWall89 I know hun 😣 it can feel like everyone gets pregnant first month and that’s can. But also lots of people don’t.

Does your mum know your ttc? If so just say “hopefully in the new year” and leave it at that. People don’t always get how hard it can be.

Examples of people I know and how ttc has gone.

Cycle 1 for 1st child
Cycle 10 for second

Cycle 5 for 1st
Cycle 9 for second
Cycle 2 for third

Cycle 9 for 1st
Cycle 2 for second

Cycle 6 for 1st
Cycle 4 for second

Cycle 1 for 1st
Cycle 1 2nd

Cycle 1 for 1st
Cycle 2 for 2nd

Cycle 4 for 1st
Cycle 6 for second

Cycle 13 for 1st
Cycle 18 for 2nd

Cycle 6 for 1st
Cycle 2 for second

Those are examples..can be a big comparison.. and only 2 out of those has always been easy each time. Otherwise ppl seemed to struggle more one or the other.

I know it’s tough hun. But don’t give up. You’ve got another 4 goes and four more cycles before you finish 12 cycles and all likelihood you could have your two lines x

@FlyOnTheWall89 @OK92 @FreckledMouse

Hi ladies how are we all getting on? CD9 here so about to enter fertile week.

Taking a slightly different approach this month though. We’ve been dtd everyday around fertile time and wondered maybe it’s too much. We haven’t tried every other. And I read in two places that fertility specialists suggested having sex on CD7. Then abstaining for 4 days and have sex every other day of fertile week on CD11,CD13,CD15 until you ovulate etc. so we’re giving that a try this week. Feel bad as means no sec for DH for like 4/5 days when he’s usually be getting some but worth a try! 😅

@Kiaa how are you lovely?

Did everyone have a nice Christmas? Xx

@Indianna2006

I'm on CD4 so just behind you ♥️ cycle #9
Sending all the sticky baby dust for this week for you !
I've been ovulating around CD 19 since my op so I have a wait yet.

Hi girls! @Indianna2006 I’m on CD8, so just behind you! Interesting tactics - I have been reading about this too and playing with scenarios like maybe DH has lower sperm count etc but I can’t really find a solid answer on the BEST approach and quite a bit of confusing info. Read this www.avawomen.com/avaworld/how-often-should-you-have-sex-to-get-pregnant/. I saw a lady post about the specialist she saw who said CD7 (is this for a 28 days cycle) and then a few other days - can’t remember it tho … is this the same post you saw maybe?

My last cycle was 28 days, so I now have a range of 28-31. I’ve got an AVA bracelet to temp this month.

Xx

@FlyOnTheWall89 I knoowww it’s so confusing isn’t it. Like some things say every day is fine especially if no issue with sperm count. Although every other day supposedly is almost as good as every day. Like the percentage is like 30% and then like 33% so not worth burn out over.

BUT a fertility clinic when asking for a sperm sample wants you to abstain for 3-4 days. For the best sample. So there must be something in it or they wouldn’t ask you to. They certainly don’t want you to have ejaculated 24 hours before. An surely they must know a lot about sperm 😂😂😂

I think it maybe was the same post I saw..possibly. And when I looked back over my app I log. We’ve done every day. Every month. And it clearly isn’t working 😂🙄 so figured worth switching it up 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ridiculous how once you get this far down spend far too long trying work out logistics and I still think it’s just pot luck sometimes 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Ooh that’s good! Do you wear it all the time? I’m gonna temp this month. But just before ovulation and after to pinpoint exactly when it is.
I usually get cramps so I’m taking it I ovulate on same day as my positive opk. But when ttc before I ovulated 2 days later from my positive opk when I was temping back them.

Wanna make sure I’m not being an idiot and missing peak days.

@FreckledMouse think most of us our cycle 9 😩 sucks.
Lots of positive vibes for new year though xx

@FreckledMouse yes I’m cycle 9 too 💕. It is tough going.

@Indianna2006 hahaha yes they probs do know a lot about sperm. I’m going to try and find that post. Really want ALL the percentage chance I can get haha.

No you just wear it at night so no one knows! So far so good, I’m enjoying the data it gives me.

Hi all. Is anyone able to just “not think about it”
We only decided to TTC no. 2 at Christmas but now it’s consuming my every thought. We were lucky and fell pregnant first time last time but I’m 41 in a few weeks and just worry everything is against us.

[quote FlyOnTheWall89]@FreckledMouse yes I’m cycle 9 too 💕. It is tough going.

@Indianna2006 hahaha yes they probs do know a lot about sperm. I’m going to try and find that post. Really want ALL the percentage chance I can get haha.

No you just wear it at night so no one knows! So far so good, I’m enjoying the data it gives me.[/quote]
I saved the post!

If you ovulate on day 14, do days 7, 11, 13, 15.
If you ovulate on day 13, do days 6, 10, 12, 14.

And so on.

We were going to go with this approach this month but realised we were both off work during fertile window. So we’ve just been doing it as much as possible, partly to make up for the fact we were with family 24-26th. So we have done once on 27th, twice on 28th, once on 29th (so far) and will do once tomorrow too. Got my peak OPK yesterday afternoon.

@Decaffe thanks! Yes that must of been the one I saw.

I normally ovulate CD13 but last month as late on CD14 as I felt it with one sided pain.
We last dtd night of CD6. And I’m now CD9 so I’m gonna assess on CM whether to go for dtd CD10 evening or morning of CD11.

Fingers crossed as this is different might shake the sperm up a bit to get a move on 😂😂

Can I join for some moral support ladies?
TTC number 2. Number 1 took 18months, probably about 14 cycles (due to DH having a circumcision - awful timing!) and also a suspected CP thrown in.
Stopped breastfeeding and came off the mini-pill a year ago but have been properly trying with tracking, testing and vitamins for 8 or 9 cycles and getting fed up, we're both feeling so pressurised every fertile week. I know it'll probably be a long road again, but it feels so much harder trying to fit it in around a toddler who doesn't need much sleep 😒 Only managed once this cycle, so pretty sure that's it stuffed again. Also, age is against us too (Im 38 and hes 47).
And to top it off, everyone we know is having babies, and we're getting the 'she needs a baby brother or sister to keep her company' chat constantly. Makes me want to scream. If it were that bloody easy, we'd have had one by now!
Sorry for a self-pitying rant. Please tell me I'm not the only one totally fed up!!??

Hi ladies!

CD13 for me now so I'm gearing up to fertile week now. We are going to try SMEP this month so I've now started DTD every other day, until I get a positive OPK when I will do it daily, I expect around CD19. Will see if our stamina allows for it though 😂