Ttc after miscarriage 🤞🌈✨

[Skl2021]

Just a thread for any ladies ttc after a miscarriage! Nice to get some support from people going through the same thing. So I had a MMC at ten weeks nearly three weeks ago now. I'm still getting faint positive on tests. My ovulation tests are still all over the place possibly due to the HCG still being in my system. So not totally accurate right now. So I'm currently stuck in limbo land either waiting for ovulation or my period 🤔 any ladies want to join the journey?!?!

@Sparklesurprise29 sorry you’re still having a tough time of it, I’d feel exactly the same. I’m nervous about getting my first AF, I’m hoping I’ll spot ovulation signs before then and try to catch it.
Good luck for this cycle!

@Sparklesurprise29 glad it wasn't to bad for you 💞 keep positive let's get those bfps 🤞🙌🌈 x

@calimc83 my first pregnancy I ended up testing with the clear blue sticks as it took nearly a year and I was willing to try everything! Second pregnancy we went trying and got pregnant first month! This time I feel like I need to use opks as my cycle is all over and ovulation changes every month and I can't keep up with DTD so much I run out of steam 🤣🤦 so find it easier to pin point the exact time. I also had some very long cycles 🙄 may give it ago again for a cycle see if it's less stress 🤔 x

@Skl2021 that's exactly why I went with them when TTC after the MC. Cycles seem to be a bit crazy thought it might pinpoint things down for us..but I find it stressful! And I need to stop symptom spotting 🙈 x

@Sparklesurprise29 Hope you are ok ☺️ xx

@calimc83 I think I'm just having a down day. Feel like giving up already. Such a rough journey! I'm not feeling positive about this cycle and the thought of doing it every month is killing me 😩 x

@Skl2021 I know exactly how you feel. This is only my first month and it's already taking over/stressing me out. No signs of pregnancy whatsoever either. But...we must think positively if we can, chin up, we'll get there xx

@Skl2021 I feel ya

@calimc83 I stupidly thought oh your more fertile after miscarriage and I would fall pregnant again straight away 🙄 now here I am again not happened 🤦 hope I wake up in a better mood 🤞🙌
@PamelaDoov some days are just too much 🤦 write it off and start again tomorrow hopefully 🙌

@Skl2021 exactly, and that’s ok. Yesterday was a write-off for me. Today has been better.

Hope it's ok to join here. I began with bleeding at 4 weeks which finally stopped on 27th December and confirmed miscarriage at 5wk 3days on New Years Day. My hcg was at 25 at the time. I didn't test after that and we have DTD a number of times since but I've not been tracking my ovulation. I can't help but feel really anxious about potentially falling pregnant again. I'm worried that I might fail and be unable to but also that I may fall pregnant and miscarry again.

For those of you who had early miscarriages, when did you get your first period afterward? How early do you test? How do you stop yourself from going crazy?!

@Skl2021 Thx so much for warm welcome; yes, this is first one. Am very fortunate to have two kids already and there is a temptation to get off the rollercoaster, but when the heart wants something... Does anyone have recommendations on management? Keen to avoid surgery but want it over. Will read over thread properly but just to say again I'm sorry you all find yourselves here and I hope 2022 is a good year.

@calimc83 how are you doing with looking after the kids through all this? Mine saw me so distressed yesterday that I ended up telling them (in very, very simple terms; they are 5 and 7) what had happened, rather than letting them imagine what I was possibly such a mess about. I find it really tough to put on a happy face, but not sure if it was right to say. Though they've not mentioned it and life has continued as normal for them. So sorry you're going through this all, too.

@Hopingforarainbow27
Thanks, it's already helped to be able to talk about it here.

I got these todays I had random spotting a couple days ago 🤞 it’s a new sticky pregnancy

@Ganesh2022 Gosh it's so so hard isn't it. Mine are only 4 and 2...it's incredibly hard looking after little ones when you are going through a MC. In the first week or so my husband had time off so he could help if I needed to go upstairs, lie down/binge watch Netflix and have a good cry. Sometimes I would cry a little in front of my 2 but being so young ( and my 4 year old lacks empathy I think 🙈) they would just stare and ask why, I'd just say I had a poorly tummy. They didn't know I was pregnant. Then when I had time to myself I could really let myself cry...
With regards to management I had medical management, it wasn't particularly great but no horror stories from me ( I deliberately stayed off Google and went with the info provided by the hosp). I decided against surgery as kind of thought if it as a last resort? And I think they mentioned slightly more risks ( infection) and that I'd need a General Anaesthetic. But I understand some people just want it over with.... I stayed in for 2 nights with medical management, had my own room/toilet. Could have someone with me 24/7 if needed. Pain was hard, but not unbearable and they are good with pain management there. Only negative was that not everything came out and I had a little bit of retained material. That took another few weeks to pass ( went after first AF). Hope this helps...anything u want to know just ask..
Like you - I have 2 and feel incredibly lucky to have my 2, but as you say what the heart wants....
Thinking of you xx

@handbagsandholidays welcome! And so sorry for your loss xxx

@Confusedmumof4maybe5 Huge congrats!! 🥳 how are u feeling? How many DPO are u? X

@Skl2021 Hope u are ok this morning? Yep I was thinking the same thing...you read so much about MC, fertility after them etc etc..which probs doesn't help 🙈 I've just spent 15 mins down a rabbit hole on Mumsnet about resting heart rate and BFP's...I'm absolutely determined not to fall down this particular rabbit hole as it's just something else to stress about 😫 xx

Honestly not sure how many dpo I am I’m very nervous I hadn had a monthly yet since my miscarriage last months

@Confusedmumof4maybe5 ohh ok not to worry! Exciting news xx

@Confusedmumof4maybe5 I can totally understand why you'd be nervous xx

Thanks @pameladoov, the uncertainty is so hard after a MC!! Hoping you're okay💖 it really does feel like a rollercoaster of emotions☹

@skl2021 and @calimc thank you!💖 definitely going to see this month as a fresh start! I definitely agree with it being hard DTD to a schedule! The month I fell pregnant we'd been doing SMEP without realising it 😂 except we had a 5 day break after what I predicted as ovulation to give DH a break😅 still worked!

@confusedmumof4maybe5 so exciting!! Those tests definitely look really positive! Can you get a GP appointment/talk to early pregnancy unit to get your blood taken to see what your levels are to give you some peace of mind? 💖

@handbagsandholidays I had a natural MC, got mine exactly 28 days after I passed the sac, spotting/bleeding had started 6 days before💖

I spoke to the midwife I was under last month she advised I retest in two weeks. I did contact the early pregnancy unit but may ask the doctor as I need to speak to them anyway

@calimc83 thanks for that info, I figured with Covid etc they'd make you go home; they let you stay in hospital? I'd so prefer that. The thought of bleeding at home, with kids etc., not knowing what to expect, is horrific. I'm so early (5.4) that--tmi but...I can't help but think, how much can there possibly be to come out...but I've sadly googled a fair bit (very smart of you to stay off!). I know it might sound cold, but I wish there was a re-set button that, when this happened women could, if they wanted to, press it, and it resets the body and, bam, you can try again.

@handbagsandholidays so sorry this happened to you over the holidays; I thought life couldn't get any better after a bfp over xmas only for it all to come crashing down. Sucks! in terms of how to stop oneself from going crazy...no idea! Looking for the same answers. I'm quite ruled by emotions in general tbh. When ttc I've tried to not get sucked into ovulation tests, etc, etc, as I thought it would stress me out more, but honestly I was just as stressed without all that stuff (though my wallet was fatter I'm sure!). It's hard to want something very badly and have very little control. When it was taking us longer than we were "used to" (had been incredibly lucky in the past), I did get myself checked out as well as my husband as, at 38, I didn't feel I had time to plug away at it only to find out years later something wasn't right that could've been "fixed". I found it useful to have as much information as I could.