Shackets from yesteryear, baltic crotches ❄️ and lots of ostriches 🐦 TTC bus 48

[bez91]

It’s been thirteen million years & Minster & the good time crew are still here…its September, autumn in full swing and we haven’t done too bad so far this month compared to previous months but I still think we are owed ladies.

Oh and we don’t just talk TTC, we’ll chat about anything. In fact that’s positively encouraged cos TTC can be bloody boring sometimes!

It costs an embarrassing life (or TTC) story for your ticket please then you can hop on board

Agency bus driver at the wheel.…

All aboard bus number 48

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Morning!

@Bea14 yesss for covering the peak well despite in laws! Yeah bit awkward if they are in the next room! And LOVING the eyebrow story oh god poor DH 🤦🏼‍♀️

@paintfairy you can try wash it again, soak it in a bathtub with a TON of hair conditioner should make it smell better, failing that I'd have to get rid. Was it you the other night who had sexy dreams about a girl? I forgot to mention that same night I dreamt I was kissing a faceless girl- how weird!!

@Juno231 so we only need to wait for snow right to clean it! Love that. How's the nose? And work?

An early morning here & MAFS isn't working did me to watch 😫

Oh and the architect is coming this afternoon and I'm stupidly excite despite already having the plans we should get to see them in 3D! It's giving me something to focus on 🙌🏻

@Bea14 hahaha the eyebrow 😆 I'd never let DH live it down.

I love the snow rug cleaning thing @Juno231 I can just imagine lots of people in their gardens going mad smothering a rug in snow 👍🏼 hmm I'd say maybe dry clean or the bin @paintfairy it's getting it dry that's the problem

@Franklydear did you go for SMEP as DH suggested?

I'll be quiet today, duty day at work 🤦🏼‍♀️. I've been awake all night with a temperature and feel horrendous but negative LFT, on top of a migraine and sickness today is going to be grand!

@Minster2012 oooh that's super exciting. We weren't lucky enough to see ours in 3D but I'm sure it'll really help you get to grips with what it'll look like!

@bez91 we did, in a loose way, he’ll start getting worried about the tww if he’s not careful, bless him, at this point i think he’s more invested than me

@Minster2012 It was me that dreamt about kissing a girl, yes. Last night I was at the fair! 🤣
I think it's a bit big for the bath! Its pretty big. And yeah maybe doing this in summer when you can dry things would be more sensible! @bez91

Have you got a dehumidifier @paintfairy? Sounds gross! Hopefully when it dries it'll be OK?

Tough day ahead for you @bez91, hopefully any calls are easy ones to rectify.

@Minster2012 ooh plans, how exciting! Deffo something to get stuck into and forget the rest!

@Franklydear it's hard isn't it, this TTC malarkey.

@larrythelizard yes we have and it's been on in the kitchen. 🙈🤣

@larrythelizard I lost my mojo, it’s just not gonna happen, is it? Luckily, dh doesn’t agree so right now he is pulling the cart, and I have an existing child to focus on and get through transition in school, so that’s my priority right now

@Franklydear it's good that he can step up when you're waning. It's hard to stay focused on TTC over a long period of time as we all know so having the men take an interest is certainly helpful!

@Bea14 poor DH! That's hilarious though.

I just has yet another follicle tracking scan. Still fuck all happening. I have to go back on Monday.

@Kirky658 you're doing amazing lovely, keep going!!💪🏽❤️

@clolo amazing that you've got 3+, hope you have no more bleeding! So glad you managed to get a scan too🤞🏼

@DKDK123 im so sorry you couldn't get a straight forward answer, I think Minster definitely had the best advice, we're here for you❤️

@Bea14 that's hilarious🤣🤣

@paintfairy I think I'd try and get it cleaned professionally, if that doesn't work I'd probs get rid😂

@Minster2012 how exciting about the plans!! OH is now toying with the idea of us building our own home🙄 I don't think I can cope with the stress but it would be amazing!! We're just browsing all options!

@Vil10 you can do, if I can then you can 🙌🏻dooooo iiiitttt!! Mind you the cost of materials atm OMG 😬😳

@bez91 I've never seen a 3D plan either!! Before that got a guy coming to service the aga & turn it on then a roofer coming to look at the leaky velux's it's all go do a nice busy day today! How was bonding over the radiator??

@Somatronic im sorry about your scan, have they said what they might do? Abandon then try again maybe?

@Franklydear loving DH taking a lead, take the support and let him help you xx

@paintfairy it's meant to get upto 20 degrees again today here, positively balmy & good for drying rugs?! I'd burn it then ceremoniously and dance around it 🤣

@Vil10 God. Unless you know workmen then don't bother. We needed loads doing to this. But normal stuff. Over 3.5 years and still looks like a tip. The joiner is now ignoring me. The plasterer is coming early Nov and I need an answer from the joiner as to a plan. The electrician vanished. The original plasterer had me on his list since before lockdown and still never came. Tried more. Some never turned up, some expensive, 6 month wait on the one we did book. Then he pushed it back slightly again because he hurt his back. Literally painful.
@Somatronic oh no! How frustrating! Did they say why?

The rug- i think the issue is it isn't clean. But you can't get it clean. The water coming out is still dirty. I've just done it again but I don't dare go over it too many times and risk over wetting. Its now out in the sun. I know with my horse sweaty stuff it smells until its dry, and if it dries too slowly it never goes. I'm hoping if it dries faster, it won't be so bad. I've bought baking soda to try and we'll try neutradol. After that it's going to the tip! 🤦‍♀️

@Minster2012 I keep thinking it would be amazing, and OH is qualified in architecture and civil engineering, his uncle has a construction and roofing business, and his other uncle is an electrician and plaster/builder, so we definitely have the right contacts, it's just whether we'd be able to find the right land etc!

@paintfairy omg that sounds a nightmare!! I've just put to Minster that we deffo have the right contacts, and OH could do a lot of it too, I just don't know if I could deal with the stress!! Yess I've heard baking soda is good actually!!

So friend who has a nearly 2 year old DD and is 20 weeks pregnant, who made the comment "it's a bit of a pain being able to get pregnant so quickly", has just found out she's having a boy, happy for them obviously with having one of each, but a bit sad because I'd just love a baby boy, anyway block it out, it'll happen eventually and I'll be ecstatic whatever gender

@paintfairy and @Minster2012 the nurse practitioner seems to think that it's just that I'm having an unusually long cycle. The lining is thickening as it should but the dominant follicle is still only 12mm. Today is day 15. I ovulated on day 15 last month so my cycles are irregular which makes things confusing. Hopefully she's right.

I mentioned that I was having follicle tracking done to my two best friends last night and they hardly commented. Ffs they're absolutely useless to me 😂

Hello everyone! Hope everyone is doing well - I started to catch up but I'm too slow at reading and the puppy doesn't let me scroll on my phone for very long! Any time the puppy is sleeping is spent working/cleaning/cooking/ eating/dealing with builders/sleeping ... having a puppy on a building site is HARD.

I've missed some BFPs though - quiet congratulations to you all.

On my side we have been for our private tests at Dr Shehata's clinic in Epsom, got the results and started a treatment plan. I have high NK cells and high NK cell activation levels, and also high TNF alpha. These can all cause miscarriage according to this doctor and the TNF alpha in particular can cause issues with implantation and hence cause chemicals. OH is waiting for his DNA fragmentation sperm test. The tests cost £2,700 in total.

I've been prescribed some scary drugs to try and bring down my levels - adalimumab injections (only x2 thankfully as I cried doing the first one on the weekend- I'm such a wuss I take my hat off to all ivf ladies doing regular injections) for the TNF alpha. This cost £400.

Then phase 2 I will go to Epsom once a month before ovulation for intralipid infusions. From ovulation for 10 days I will take prednisolone, omeprazole and Cyclogest. On 10dpo I should do a FRER and if negative, stop all the drugs. The intralipids cost £380 a pop, the others will cost about £100 per month, so I'm looking at £500 a month just TTC.

I'm also on low dose aspirin every day, 2000iu vitamin D, omega 3 and proceive (the clinic days any multi vitamin). OH is on Impryl.

Once I get a positive test I have to rush down to Epsom within 4 days for intralipids. So I've had to tell work, my manager was very supportive actually. Luckily I'm not looking for a promotion or anything so I don't have those worries in the back of my mind now that they know I'm TTC.

It is a lot to take in and costs a lot (although I think less than IVF) but I feel like I don't have a choice. 5 losses is 5 too many and I feel like I need to try anything and everything to prevent another. Now that we know I have high NK cells I have to do something about it - trying again without medication seems out of the question.

The worry is these drugs are not officially licensed for use for TTC/ pregnancy in the UK as they have not been proven to be safe or effective in large scale clinical trials. The clinic I am at has an 80% success rate so I'm hoping it does work and perhaps it will become the normal treatment in future. The drugs are immunosuppressants which is scary in a pandemic.

I've also just had a scary side effect of going to the loo and there was blood in my poop 😳 which could be a side effect of the adalimumab or even the aspirin. It was like being on a normal period but from the wrong place 😱 so I've emailed the clinic and they've just said it's not connected and I need to speak to my gp. But the leaflet for the drug says it can commonly cause gastrointestinal bleeding and I've never had this before so I'm upset they have dismissed me. Surely the GP will simply tell me to stop taking the drugs and give me a telling off for taking stuff unnecessarily!

It's a minefield out there ladies, I have no idea what's going on. I hope we all get babies at the end of this.

@Minster2012 we got half way through radiator and abandoned so we didn't fall out 😆 When we tiled the floor 2 years ago the tiles were cut so tightly around the pipes they don't move to pop the connections off, we did say at the time the floor will have to come up before the radiator comes off so 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Vil10 seems an exciting option to explore and makes the world of difference knowing people 🤞🏼

Bloodyhell @Amy00 sounds a lot to remember but good you have a game plan!

@Vil10 definitely makes a difference knowing people.
@Somatronic I haven't told my friends anything. They generally are useless. 🤣
@Minster2012 yep, like summer! I'm chasing the sun around the garden with the rug. 🤣
@Amy00 wow. That's a lot going on.

Goodness me @Amy00 let's HOPE with everything it's only minimal cycles score that BFP & race to get the lupoids 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻and on the backside bleeding if the clinic won't help you then def speak to your GP anyway, it's better to be safe than sorry but again they will prob be like "I've got no idea whether it can cause it"

@Somatronic we are here in place of useless friends, you prob were talking Japanese to them we know what it's like when ppl don't understand they just glaze over so they are prob like "I have no idea what she's on about, let's not mention it" not knowing how important it is to you

@paintfairy to be fair bicarb cleans most things 🤣😬and you are FILLING Me with confidence about our works 😳

@Vil10 don't listen to @paintfairy I'm very much the LA LA LA LA LA (though bearing on mind the aga guy said this morning "oh shit if you'd have lit that it would've been a ball of flames" and it needs a total restrip then now I'm not so sure 😫. Youe got ppl there just need land! Oh and time but that's a piece of string right?! On the friend again "LA LA LA LA LAAAAAA" 😩

@bez91 well it's good that you recognised your needed to stop but shit being held hostage by a radiator 🤣 interestingly I turned on DS's radiator the other day & since then he's not woken us in the night. He always did like to be snuggly

Shall we hope the roofer has better news than the aga man?!

@Amy00 wow, that's a saga, and an education for me, I love it when you guys have explain these things
@Minster2012 omg, god, that's dangerous, loving ds pics, he's the cutest

Nothing much happening here

Hi gals 🙂
Cd10 and had my internal scan today. (Scan was because of light bleeding for months but all has stopped because of Metformin) She said ovaries and endometrial lining was good.
She did say there was a fibroid, has anyone else had this and will it affect fertility? She didn't say much as she isn't a consultant.

Thanks 😊

@MrsBiddy it really depends on its size and location im afraid! It can be absolutely fine or eg in the case of my friend - blocking your cervix to the point where it would stop swimmers getting through! Best to get the results looked at by someone more knowledgeable!

@Juno231

Thank you, she said the consultant would look at it, fingers crossed it's not that big.

I did the thing they tell you not to, google it lol they can be the size of a pea to a melon.... a MELON !!🍈👀😵

I have my blood test on the 18th to see I'm ovulating. We shall wait and see 🙂

@MrsBiddy a melon jesssuss 🤦🏼‍♀️😬we'll rheres a lady on here who is pregnant with a fibroid so I would say it's fine

@Franklydear thank you, though he's put his favourite comforter down somewhere & we can't find it had to get the one out of the washing basket and it's minging!

So after Aga saga earlier the roofer didn't turn up. Ffs

However we had a great meeting with the architect (although he thinks it will be the end of nov before putting in for planning) and we saw the house in 3D!! We are going to get our own 3D computer simulation so I will be able to zoom in and look at corners thinking "oooo would a sofa fit there??" So that's good to occupy me