Shackets from yesteryear, baltic crotches ❄️ and lots of ostriches 🐦 TTC bus 48

[bez91]

It’s been thirteen million years & Minster & the good time crew are still here…its September, autumn in full swing and we haven’t done too bad so far this month compared to previous months but I still think we are owed ladies.

Oh and we don’t just talk TTC, we’ll chat about anything. In fact that’s positively encouraged cos TTC can be bloody boring sometimes!

It costs an embarrassing life (or TTC) story for your ticket please then you can hop on board

Agency bus driver at the wheel.…

All aboard bus number 48

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@Kirky658 I used to be the same with a counsellor, just used to cry, didn't really think it was helping but then I actually found it quite cathartic to have a safe space to cry where I wasn't crying alone IYSWIM? It would be great to get back to the exercise. We have an actual jogging pram, there are only a few peaks you can run with but I think from 6 months it's fine. I know it's a while away but it's a target maybe? The running pram is a baby jogger summit x3. (On the fooled by the baby jogger name, it's a brand not saying you can run with the whole range, you can't only the Summit X3) I ran with it a few times but we used it as the major off road pram. You've had such a tough time please don't beat yourself up for needing the extra support, you'll get more confident. I struggle with one child, one of our friends has just said she's pregnant again with her fourth child (her THIRD "accident") the others were all under 3 at one time. I have said to her many times I have no idea how ppl cope with TWO?!! 🤣

@Juno231 well that's a different WFH set up?! God you need to be careful, if it goes on please call a doctor

@kaylsd thank you, and yep makes perfect sense with the job too as well into your notice yayyyyy!! And YES the chips were HUGE!

@Justanothercyster maybe a bit of progress 🤦🏼‍♀️💩

I def think the nhs would be the best ppl to scan @DKDK123 they can get to the bottom of it

@Kirky658 comparison is the kill of joy, someone recommended make an achievement list

1. get up
2. Have coffee
3. Turn the tv on

And so on @Minster2012 to the bottom of the drawer with those papers, we’ll tackle them when ready @DKDK123 I feel you need an advent calendar

Nothing much happening here, just discovered creamy cm today so I guess ovulation has happened

@Kirky658 I know plenty of ladies who heavily relied on family early on with their newborns, so don't feel bad at all! I'm 100% expecting a lot of tiffs with my husband once baby arrives too as with such a big change, hormones, lack of sleep, etc it's inevitable. It will get easier 💕

Aww @Juno231 is it your cold that's causing those nosebleeds? Hopefully it eases soon. You're half way through your first week tomorrow so at least the weekend is getting closer 😅

@Minster2012 I checked back on my app notes and only symptoms I had at 7 weeks were migraines a couple of times a week. Had nothing else at all so it's normal to have no symptoms right now. My nausea and lack of appetite took a couple of weeks to properly kick in. My breasts stopped hurting pretty soon after the BFP which was a surprise too. They still haven't changed in the slightest, same size as before and not sore at all. Actually no I do have some visible blue veins on them that appeared at about 12 weeks but otherwise normal. It's hard but try not to worry about symptoms!

@Juno231 yeah I'm sure it shouldn't bleed that long? Definitely get it checked by a Dr if it's carrying on. Its also a side effect of the covid jab, and all that stuff still worries me.

@Kirky658 I think you maybe need to just start taking 1 minute at a time. Don't worry about tomorrow, next week, whether you'll be the best mum in the world. Just focus on now. Sleeping enough (or as much as you are able) and eating. That's it. You've got this but try not to overwhelm yourself. And if anyone tells you they are coping fabulously with a new baby, it's a lie! The things I've been told- 'the first 6 months are really hard, I'm not going to lie' and 'if you and DH are still together after the first year, then you'll be ok. It improves after that'. I mean, to be honest, it's really not being sold to me at all, and I wonder if I should bother! 🤣 But it isn't easy and I'm not sure anyone being honest would say it was. Unless they've got 40 helpers and do nothing. 🤷‍♀️ Crying is better than keeping it in. Don't forgot your hormones are still all over, it's not rational so don't try to make it. xxx
@DKDK123 ah crap. I can see why they wouldn't be able to see much, but obviously that's not helpful with putting your mind at rest. But at the same time it's not completely negative. Can you try to get another scan like @Minster2012 says? Being in limbo isn't nice and it will feel like forever. I'm not sure just trying to take your mind off it is exactly going to work on this occasion.

Wow, we've got so much stuff going on at the moment on this bus! October is a stressful month and we aren't far in yet. I hope it gets better from here. 💐💐

Thank you all for your words of support and wisdom, I'd be lost without you all ❤️ she's just gone a measly 2 hours after her last feed so needed to see some words of encouragement!

Thanks ladies, they did do a TV as well as an abdominal scan. I dont think the NHS one will come up with anything different unless I'm bleeding I think I'll get the same come back in 2 weeks response only I'll have the pleasure of waiting in a waiting room full of excited expectant mothers. Even when I was bleeding heavily with DS I remember being made to wait sometimes up to an hour to be scanned beside all the happy people....not fun memories I'm in a hurry to relive! Today's my last working day anyways before the holidays then I'm away with DH and DS till next week so shall just go and make the most of it wearing a pad just incase. As bad as it sounds one of the most annoying thing is if I knew for 100% it wasn't progressing I could at least have a few glasses of wine on holiday to relax but as I'm stuck in limboland I can't even do that 🤦‍♀️ I'm not even a big drinker but when on holiday it's nice to kick back and relax with one at night! Thanks for all your support tho ladies, 100% feeling the love 😘

@kirky658, no one is nailing motherhood, especially in the early days everyone is a sleep deprived, hormonal hot mess, just remember the photos you see on social media are usually the happy snaps not the I've only had an hours sleep in total tonight, I haven't showered for 2 days and baby vomit is my permanent smell ones! And it's totally normal to fight with DH in the early days too, you will become so jealous at every second of extra sleep they get and usually want to stab them in the eye with a rusty fork if they're snoring away while you're feeding the baby. Totally normal. Just hang on in there, I'm not going to lie and say it magically gets better as every time you think you've nailed it baby will change its routine or go into another sleep regression that sends you tearing your hair out but what I will say is that YOU will 100% become better at coping with it without even realising. In a few months time running on 3hours of sleep a day will be piss easy compared to now when it seems unmanageable. Even now at 3, DS quite regularly wakes up 4.30-5.30 to start his day, had you told me before kids I'd be able to function at work having been up since that time in the morning I'd have laughed at you, but you do as your body slowly adapts and copes to whatever motherhood throws at you. You've got this mama, just remember it's OK to take a breather at times, if you've fed and changed baby and they're still crying away and you're at your wits end it is 100% OK to go put them in their cot where they're safe and walk into another room and just take 5mins to breathe and compose yourself before returning. Your needs are just as important as babies and some times 5mins is all you need to feel human enough again to go back in deal with it. Baby will also naturally go thru fussiest stages too and I totally recommend the wonder weeks book and app it shows your roughly when to expect baby to be fussier around certain brain developmental leaps and although it was sometimes out by a week for DS it was pretty much spot on so it helped me to mentally prepare for periods where I knew it was going to be a rough ride so could adjust what we were doing, call in extra help those periods. Hang on in there, you've got this. 💪

@dkdk123 thank you.i hopee that you are OK. Xx

@DKDK123 when do you go away? Sounds like a lovely much needed break

@Kirky658 it WILL get easier, she WILL sleep more and @DKDK123 is right, you get used to it 🤗

@paintfairy you are right, it's so stressful on the relationships too. When's your first progress scan? Oh and I would've sold Adam's coffee table too 😬

I've just seen a Christmas ad?!! What?! It's still the BEGINNING of October --must get some Xmas stuff organised

So who's on MAFS auz then??? Coco & whatever his name is....what???😳

@DKDK123 I get that it's horrible. Last time I went to EPU there was a couple of women in the waiting room having laugh together and I'm thinking oooh you pair are a bit green, they know me on first name terms here 🤦🏼‍♀️ hope your last day of work goes quickly. A break sounds the perfect distraction, really hope it does you the world of good!

@Minster2012 how you feeling today? We saw a Christmas ad last night wtaf! We're going to FILs for Christmas this year. I've cooked and hosted the last 3 so cannot wait 🙈
Me and DH haven't spoke since yesterday afternoon. I'm stressed and anxious over the pregnancy and his step dad is dying so we're not being the best support to one another 🤦🏼‍♀️ We need to take a radiator off in the hallway after work for decorator starting tomorrow so I'm sure that'll bring us closer together 🙄🤣

Yeah I had a similar experience at the EPU @DKDK123 with a real knobhead receptionist...people should have more compassion. Holiday sounds a great shout.

Also @DKDK123 that was an incredible speech for @Kirky658 I was almost standing up and applauding by the end!

@Kirky658 DH and I had a mantra for the first year or so which was 'being more tired isn't a competition'. I mainly said it through gritted teeth as obviously it was me. But mainly helped me not kill him. He slept in the spare room in the week and I used to throw DS at him at 5ish so he did the pre-work earlies.

@bez91 sounds tough in your house too. Can you get your collective favourite dinner in so you're sort of doing something nice without having to go to the effort of talking about stuff?!

I played three games of netball last night and I'm in bits today, so sore!

@Minster2012 I tried to watch MAFS last night but DH said he's just not ready for more yet. 🤣 So we are still yet to start it. As for the coffee table- yeah I would have too. However, no way would I have been saying that on my first visit to the house. Most men would have run a mile if you went in telling them how you were going to take over like that. After 3 bloody weeks. I used to stay at DHs house and never interfered with stuff because it was his. Now of course, i have the final say. 🤣 And most of that furniture we don't have any more.

I don't get a scan until around a week after AF begins. Technically that's due this coming Sunday/Monday but I read that it can actually be delayed up to 2 weeks on the buserelin? Most people say a few days though. No one told me that. Its also giving me weird dreams. I'm dreaming even when I wake up pretty much, it like starts again before I've gone back to sleep. Very odd. I also can't wake up in a morning. Last night I was having an affair with some man who's wife used to be in hollyoaks. And about 10 of us all lived in a big house together. No idea why. And then I kissed some random woman, and that was good. So I've been busy. 🤣

@bez91 it sounds like you're in the wringer too 😫, who doesn't want a bit of radiator bonding?? That's bonding, not bondage btw 🤣 really tough time, lots of hugs to you & DH. I'm ok today, we had a real good talk last night & more crying & we understand where each other is coming from it's just how to balance the different ways of processing things. I've got to try to remember there's nothing to say this is going wrong except a past experience & the past does not predict or dictate the future 🤞🏻

@paintfairy yeah DH is all MAFS out 🤣and even more annoyingly he decided we should watch silent witness (he never watches it usually) so now I have to wait for him to watch the 2nd episode. Humph. So waiting on AF then more stimulations start? Is that right? I can't remember what the buserilin was for so forgive me and I only ever took tablets before AF

@larrythelizard 3 fakes of netball?! I hope they didn't start at 9.30! How you finding the new job now?

@Minster2012 we watch silent witness too. Seem to have too much to watch at the minute.
The buserelin is the down reg. Its long protocol. So after the scan (assuming lining is thin, and the buserelin is working) you start stims. Seems ages for them to be sat in my fridge! So if AF on time then I could be starting them in less than 2 weeks time. If its not, then god knows. 🤣 So many what ifs involved with this! Be easier if i was doing short protocol.

@paintfairy ah yes I did long protocol first time but that was in 2017 so things a little hazy from that, it'll work itself out!

@clolo I know ppl who have got 3+ at a similar time to you after an FET and it can velcro do with implantation date. You could be 5 weeks and j hope the spotting clears up and is only slight it's a horrible worry xxx

@clolo I haven't got another scan booked yet I am thinking about it for next weekend for ahead of the midwives appointment so I can either try to "talk" about the pregnancy & believe it, or not. but trying to put off booking it as long as possible, maybe to chalk some more days off & feel like it is real?? Has the spotting stopped? Have the clinic called back? And oh god yes they all look the bloody same on MAFSauz🙄

That's great @clolo that should be able to see the heartbeat 💓and good then bleeding has stopped 🙌🏻

Sorry I have been so bad at keeping in touch with the bus #mustdobetter. I have tried to have a quick catch up!

@DKDK123 Sorry to hear you are in a very unknown time. I hope you can make the most of your holiday when it comes.

Good news @clolo that you have a date for a scan. I hope there is no more bleeding as I know how worrying that is.

Glad to hear your DP is making a good recovery @Vil10 and congratulations on the promotion. Amazing news!

@Juno231 your new job sounds a bit disorganised. I hope the rest of the week was better than day 1! Not good news about your nose bleeds. Do you often have issues with this? I honestly can not remember the last time I had a nose bleed!

@Minster2012 I am also a five guys virgin! Maybe need to give it a go.

@bez91 Jealous of the lovely thick hair. What an observant friend. I also have such thin, flat hair. At least my hair blow dries in minutes though!

@kaylsd Great news about the shorter cycle. Seems like the drugs are working well. More good news that you have handed in your notice now too.

I had a surprise peak on Sunday on CD22 which is pretty good for me. My PIL were staying but were out so we had a quickie before they got back! Luckily they headed home on Monday. So 🤞 we are covered as I often ovulate 2 days after a peak and we did 3 days in a row. Didn't get too much before. I find it really off-putting DTD when the parents are sleeping in the room next door!

Also you will never guess what my DH did this week... He was up at 4am for an early at work and when he was shaving he thought he would just trim his eyebrows. He was so tired he accidentally took off the top part that allows you to set a different number for length and literally shaved his whole eyebrow off 🤣🤣🤣 He looks SO weird. He was horrified. So I have had to teach him how to draw an eyebrow on with an eyebrow pencil 🤣

🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 @clolo

And I don't have anything useful to add but sending love and a well done on another day passed to the ostrich crew @Minster2012 @bez91 (and dkdk but deliberately not tagging her in)

Hope work is getting less chaotic and your nosebleed has started @Juno231

You may as well be talking Greek @paintfairy i don't understand but pleased you're rolling on the IVF!

@Bea14 hahaha amazing eyebrow story!! Bet he's mortified!

@Bea14 brilliant eyebrow story!

So- I have an issue. We have a lovely long pile rug in the living room. The dog has been sick in it before (hard to clean) and who knows what dropped on it. It was ok though really. In my (ridiculous) wisdom, I needed to use the carpet hoover washer vax thingy on it. Massive error. It smelled. It tells you not to over wet it, so I wondered if maybe it needed doing again. So we did.
It now stinks. And I mean stinks. Worse than ever. I think we over wet it this time which was unhelpful and struggled to dry it really, it was washed Monday. Today its been outside in the sun. Its still not quite dry but it's getting there now.

Question is- what do I do? Try again to wash but not too much? Set fire to it? 🤷‍♀️ I can smell it in every room of the house (its currently in the kitchen drying). I've renamed it the rug of death. That's what it smells like. 😫🤮

@paintfairy maybe neutradol or a dry shampoo? Is it perhaps the underlay specifically that smells after getting wet? Swedes just like to clean their rugs in snow 😅

@Juno231 its only got like the normal woven rug type backing, if you get me? No underlay or anything. I did read it'll smell bad whilst damp but it's so bad I can't see it suddenly being OK. 🤣 I wondered if it's dried too slowly or something. Bloody thing.

@paintfairy get it dry cleaned maybe?