Post Pill Party - Pool Party

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

In the shimmering summer heat, we need to head for the water to cool down and relax. Bring your inflatable flamingo, your romcom read and your sunscreen, cause it's time for a pool party!

Welcome to the 12th post pill party thread. We are here for women who have recently come off the pill... and women like me who not-so-recently came off the pill! Share and get support with the highs and lows of TTC.

I can see these people rockin' up with their cossies on:

Ladies already at the soiree:

@ChinChilly
@Juno231
@CharWils
@Moocher90
@MissM94
@MissC07
@Kay00
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@pineapple2021
@Theosmommy2011
@Lovebug06
@WhirlingD
@Carolinesturn
@Tillybabs
@redclueless
@Cams50
@sunshinedaisybuttermellow

@Juno231Hi, thanks! The plan is to use condoms until Christmas but I can’t see either of us lasting that long tbh. I really want to get my cycle back ideally but might just go with the not trying, not preventing way sooner rather than later!

It’s all very exciting and scary.

@Kay00 So sorry about your step mum. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and I hope the clomid cycle goes well. How have you been feeling on Metformin?

CD142 for me... just waiting for my gynae appointment on Tuesday!

My nhs gynaecology appt finally came through... for 2 days after our private fertility gynaecology feedback in October

Guys, does anyone else just feel super out of energy to hope and to try? I know some of you have been on this train longer than me but I'm just so dead about it all - no decent cycles, rare ovulation, endless blooming plugging away, sex planned to TTC not for fun and love, no BFP that results in an actual baby. Just feeling really done with it today!

@TheDaydreamBelievers I know how you're feeling. I haven't been trying as long as you or a lot of the others, but it all feels a bit much. We hardly ever have sex because we want to, it's just a case if well today I might get pregnant so we better had.

I've not tracked anything at all this month because we were away and it was nice actually. We just had sex because we wanted to. But now I know I likely ovulated last week or early this week so I'm hyper aware.

@Kay00 I'm so so sorry to hear about your step mum. Sending you the biggest hugs and love and thinking of you x

@TheDaydreamBelievers I really get down about it sometimes. When I was actively trying and tracking everything it took any sort of enjoyment out of it for me and I just constantly felt on edge and anxious. Looking back I'm sure it impacted my OH too as he felt pressured to 'perform'. Now I'm under a different sort if pressure with not knowing what the hell is going on with my body. But I have stopped tracking altogether and it's provided a small relief although it does still play in the back of my mind. I hope your day improved and you're feeling a bit better this evening.

@TheDaydreamBelievers yes I totally get what you mean. It has really become robotic every month and at times when I think not to bother, we then end up dtd just in case it's that time! But it takes the enjoyment out of it

We've been trying for over a year now with no hint of a bfp. It does start to wear you down so I totally get what you are saying.

Maybe stop tracking for a bit. Have a break away together if you can

@TheDaydreamBelievers it also affected my OH to the point where he wasn't performing on some occasions or nothing much came out so I definitely think that impacted our chances at those times. I really do hope for bfps for us all soon.

@Kay00 sorry to hear about your step mum

So I would have been CD22 tomorrow but AF got me today what makes it harder is that in 1 hours time I will be 1 year older :( and still nothing pregnant! And all I seem to be hearing is other pregnancy announcements around me.

Not* not nothing

@TheDaydreamBelievers @MissC07 @Tillybabs Yup, my cycles are regular so i can only imagine how you ladies feel with irregular ones. The thought of a BFP gives me mixed emtions to be honest, I find myself looking at pregnant women and thinking why does your body know what to do and mine doesn't 🤔 it doesn't really effect OH i don't really tell him anymore to be honest I think we're both just plodding along til our appointment.

@Moocher90 try not to get down about it you've got plans in place soon anyway even if it doesn't happen naturally, I had a wobble on my birthday when I turned 30 but it is what it is at the moment.... happy birthday 💐

@ChinChilly my cycles are regular too! I just think I left it too late thinking I would be ok. I've had bfps in the past so just assumed all would be ok.

Since I had antibiotics in January I've had an issue with inflammation of the uterus and I think this has played a massive part in why nothing has happened. I'm hoping my acupuncture and diet change helps but also the fertility clinic will take a look. I just have to pray I have at least 1 good egg make it past blast.

@Tillybabs I said to my OH do you think we've left it too late? And he rightly said we did the right thing and waited until we were in the right position. I do sometimes thing what if we had started trying 5 years ago. The inflammation could well be causing issues.

Happy birthday @Moocher90

@Kay00 same as us, we waited till we were in a good position. It is what it is I guess.

Hi ladies xx thank you for all your kind messages. My stepmother hung in there for a few more days and passed away yesterday. Her two surviving children (aged 19 and 22) now have no parents, it's so sad! 😪

I have done my best to DTD this month, as I am determined not to waste my first Clomid cycle. I'm CD14, lots of EWCM and possible ovulation pains. Temps are still low so I'm hoping I ovulate in next couple of days 🤞🤞🤞 I have my up the floof scan tomorrow at 3pm 😁 I really hope my body is popping out a decent egg 🤞🤞🤞

@moocher90 happy birthday!

Chart for fun.

My OH and I also waited until we were in a big enough house, both had stable proper grown up jobs etc etc. Which is why we are trying when I'm 36 and he's nearly 40. I often think i should have tried when I was in my 20s but we were just not ready. It is what it is!

Damn ... forgot the chart again 🤣

@Kay00 so sorry about your step mum, such a young age for her children to have lost both of thier parents...I can't even imagine. Fingers crossed for your first round of Clomid and for the foof scan.

Pretty sure I ovulated yesterday, had a positive OPK friday evening and ovulation pains yesterday morning, if I did ovulate yesterday then we managed to DTD on O day, -1 and -2 so pretty good coverage. Ovulation was a a few days earlier this cycle I've started taking boots own version of pregnacare as there is non of the shelfs and it was the only thing my doctor would recommend for my thyroid as it has iodine in it, I was worried they would mess up my cycles like alot of ladies say but it looks like I'll be having one of those perfect 28 cycles 😅

Hope everybody's having a nice weekend x

@Kay00 I'm so sorry about your stepmum. So sad about her young children as well, they are so young to lose both parents.

You are still at a good age so don't worry about it too much. Good luck with your scan tomorrow

@ChinChilly sounds like you definitely ovulated

I've got a scan tomorrow and then might know when they intend if egg collecting.

I'm going to have to tell my boss as well, something I haven't done yet. Just because my appointments are becoming very last minute now and not during my lunch break

@Kay00 so sorry to hear about your stepmum. Good luck with your scan tomorrow! I'm often feeling the same as you, me and OH only got together 5 years ago and I often think how different my life would've been if I had children earlier. But like you say, it is what it is!

@ChinChilly fingers crossed for a nice 28 day cycle for you!! 🤞

@Tillybabs good luck with your scan tomorrow!

I've got my gynae appt on Tues, although my boobs are absolutely killing me the last few days. Even the shower hurts them (tmi!) So I'm placing bets on the fact AF will probably turn up on Tues on CD148..... although that's probably wishful thinking 🤣

@Kay00 sorry to hear your step mum has passed leaving behind her two young children :( very sad x

I’m CD4 today and my last two cycles I have ovulated between 11-12 but currently still bleeding but only lightly now.

Got my NHS gynaecology app on 21st October and will see what happens but still planking on going to Prague for a cycle of IVF

@Kay00 I'm so sorry about your stepmum, take some time and look after yourself .

@MissC07 it would be sods law for AF to show on Tuesday! Do you think you have ovulated or not this cycle?

@Moocher90 are you going to keep trying as well as planning IVF or relax a bit with the opks/temping?

I'm CD21 today. No idea if/when I ovulated as I didn't track. Usually ovulate around CD15, but had lots of symptoms around CD11 (cervix high soft wet open, lots ewcm, high sex drive etc). But then I had some random ewcm CD16, but my cervix was very firm and closed and no other signs.
Could be anywhere from 5 to 10 dpo but will wait and see what happens I guess.

@Sunshinedaisybuttermellow I'm not sure if I've ovulated or not, I gave up tracking anything about a month ago 😔 I'm hoping the gynae at least gives me something to bring on AF as it's nearly been 5 months now...