🧙please, fellas impregnate, I’m here to ovulate 🦥

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And the lucky winner of thread name bingo is:@SareBear87

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Here we go again, 2 threads deep, numerous cheese boards, several BFPs and more to pick up along the way!

We’re a group of hormonal, emotional and down right loveable 30somethings TTC #1
Feel free to join us, nothing is TMI and no one here will judge you, we just love and support each other which some giggles along the way!

Our last thread seemed to have some luck so let’s see how lucky this one is 🥰

If I’ve forgotten anyone I apologise but trying to remember everyone at once is hard!
@Aries491
@Sparklingwine1
@80sPadme
@PurpleCat88
@HRP1990
@CTMcG
@KayL1988
@Dannii892
@Foodster
@glasspaw
@GingerTea333
@Eli707
@SkeletonSkins
@Mrsspoon3
@Emmaldo14

On the subject of BBT, I should have ovulated in the early hours of yesterday, according the OPKs and the ovulation pain in my right side before going to bed on thurs ( and DTD, obvs).
Yesterday my bbt dipped, but I only had a very mediocre rise today. I blame the heatwave- my body is probably working extra hard to keep me cool. However first thing my hubby says to me is "are you OK? your skin feels really hot". I would have expected a high BBT as a result but nope!

@SkeletonSkins

Yeah I’ve had 4 cycles since coming off the pill, one indefinitely ovulated, one maybe, on I definitely didn’t, and this one. Yeah I had positive OPKs a few times in this cycle but then failed to actually ovulate, and then had one CD29.

I’ve had my little cry, now I need to get on with it. I need to get back on low carb so I’m going to go and do a food shop now and get some stuff. Increase my myo inositol and then see how I get on.

Fair enough, be careful with the low carb though if you're failing to ovulate. Restrictive dieting can stop you from ovulating too.

Oh don’t worry I don’t go Keto or anything, just swap out white carbs for brown, try and make sure protein and veg makes up most of my meals etc. I’ve got into a cycle where I’m living off sugar and refined carbs which I need to nip in the bud as it does my pcos no good.

Oh @SkeletonSkins ☹️ I'm definitely here for a handhold and some virtual support! For what it's worth I think your attitude towards your PCOS is amazing and proactive. I have absolutely no doubt you will get there in the end. Keep talking to us and doing what u can to help your cycle xx

Awww thank you so much @Mrsspoon3, that honestly means so much and is the boost I needed. It’s hard because all of the pcos advice is basically lose weight, but I’m a healthy weight, I’m active, so it’s hard. But I can improve my diet so we’ll give that a go.

@SkeletonSkins I hope you feel a bit brighter this afternoon.
I know this sounds like a silly question, but are you maybe too active?
I read an article not too long ago and 3 fertility specialists were questioned about things that can have an impact on fertility and they all said that a common problem can be too much exercise, especially if workouts are intense like running, spin, HIIT etc and recommended lower impact like yoga

Hahaha luckily not a problem for me - I swim 3-4 times a week but only at a leisurely pace, and I walk a lot/have a generally active life style. But I’m not one who hits the gym hardcore. I did, until the last week or so, have a very high level of stress, so I know that that won’t have a positive impact.

Sorry I've been awol- the witch got me, earlier than anticipated too.
I haven't been well and now the nasty witch has ruined my weekend, pahhhh!
Anyway- CD 1 for me folkes, off we go again

Sorry to hear AF arrived @80sPadme, god it can be a bit shit this TTC thing can’t it.

How’s everyone else doing? Hope you’ve all had a good weekend. I’ve worked quite hard this weekend to keep my carbs/sugar low. Hopefully I can keep it up!

Sorry to hear that @80sPadme - fingers crossed for next cycle

@SkeletonSkins glad you had a good weekend food wise. I really need to lose weight (put on the best part of 2 stone during lockdowns) but been at the British Grand Prix this weekend and the only food options were burger vans and ice creams!

Wasn't particularly good for ttc being away - had EWCM on Friday am but couldn't DTD til very late Friday evening. Same happened Saturday - after setting off at 7am didn't get back til after 11pm cos of problems with transport. Just couldn't face it and had probably ovulated which is annoying. DTD Sunday am but I think that was too late.

PreSeed was ok once I used less of it and hopefully it meant the little guys hung around longer. So fingers crossed.

@whatwonder I hope you're ok. That happened to us for a long time (not related to ttc tho) OH would just get in his head and over think things and once he did that it was over - there was nothing I could do to bring it back. I found that really frustrating but also felt like maybe it was me and that I wasn't attractive enough for him. That wasn't the case and he was just as frustrated as me but me getting upset or cross wasn't helpful. However you feel, it isn't helpful to put any of that on him as it won't solve it. He needs to work it out in his own head and you just have to be understanding and supportive. Talking about it really helped which led to us laughing a lot and that's helped him relax. He likes to know the 'schedule' too but I know that's not for everyone. I've also kept to myself how desperate I am for this to work - he knows I'm temping but don't talk about the OPKs and managed to get away without telling him about the PreSeed either. I think the less pressure the better given what we've been through in the past. Hope that's helpful and sorry it's a bit late x

Morning ladies, I hope you all had a lovely sunny weekend!

Sorry to hear that @SkeletonSkins I hope you’re feeling abit better now?

@Eli707 did you do any OPKs? You should ovulate 12-48 hours I think it is after a positive so you should be okay!

@80sPadme sorry about AF, I hope you treated yourself this weekend!

I just wanted to message to say that I’ve been abit quiet recently as I’ve worried about appearing insensitive since I got my BFP. It’s probably in my head but I wanted to be mindful of all of your TTC journeys 😘

Morning ladies! I'm also still silently lurking like HRP. Still always here sending positive thoughts the 🧙‍♀️ won't show for you all, and if she does handing you a glass of wine and a cured meat and cheese board.

Morning @HRP1990 - I had peak smiley on CB Friday morning along with EWCM.

If it helps @Eli707 we only managed to DTD the day before and the day after ovulation, missed ovulation completely due to being ill and still managed a BFP ❤️

Morning all! Had a bit of a MN break while had some days off work celebrating the OHs birthday and enjoying the weather! Managed to DTD quite a bit too which is always helpful if not too hot at the mo! I haven't been tracking with opks this month so i would guess I am maybe 5-7 DPO, nothing to report really as been too busy to track but sure that will change this week lol!

Sorry to hear about your AF @80sPadme 💓💓

How has everyones weekends been? Trying to catch up on all the chat :-)

Xx

Thanks @Eli707 it’s definitely been an emotional time. We managed to DTD a couple of times within my FW (took the advice of having him start things out solo and then joining in, lol sorry if that’s TMI) but definitely wasn’t able to DTD as much as I would have wanted so not sure if I’ll have any luck this cycle. I get what you mean about now putting it on him, which I understand. But at the same time, then it’s all on me? It’s been two cycles in a row now that this has happened, and we’ve never had this issue before. When we talked about it he did say that he feels pressure because we both really want this to work but then it becomes this domino effect of him not being able to, and then getting in his head. So now I’m really worried that this will just keep happening every month 😩. We’re not really telling anyone that we’re ttc and even if we were, I doubt this is something he’d feel comfortable chatting about with his mates. I told him that there’s no way he’s the only person that is experiencing this, there must be loads of blokes in the same boat. I also suggested that he try to find a thread like this one where he can try to talk to other guys but can do it anonymously. Surely Reddit will have something he can tap into!

@SkeletonSkins I really feel for you, can’t even imagine what it would be like navigating PCOS in addition to the baseline ttc stress. It seems like you are doing everything you can and handling it bloody well!

@HRP1990 it’s not insensitive at all! Great to have you as part of this thread and I’m sure you’ll be able to answer loads of questions we all have. So good to get insight from someone who’s got the BFP! X

Morning all!

I'm 11/12 DPO today depending which app I look at. BFN this morning. I had a slight temp dip yesterday and it went back up today so I think that's my last hope this month ... but I'm not sure if my temp was back up this morning due to the fact it was so hot last night! 🥵

Tbh I think I'm probably out this month, AF is due either Thursday or Friday this week.

Sorry to hear your 🧙🏼‍♀️ came @80sPadme

@HRP1990 and @KayL1988 I love the fact you're still in this group. Please don't ever leave us!

Morning all, @Sparklingwine1 your chart looks lovely. Fingers crossed for a BFP in the next day or so.

I absolutely love hearing feom our graduates so please keep posting @HRP1990 and @KayL1988, how are you bothi getting on? Does it feel real yet?

@whatwonder thank you for your kind words, really appreciated.

Thanks @SkeletonSkins

How are you feeling about your next cycle? Has 🧙🏼‍♀️ buggered off yet?

If I am out this month I am already dreading next month because I'm staying away with family pretty much my whole FW whereas DH will be at home. I think the first two days may fall when I'm at home with him but then we may miss the rest of the window (it depends when AF comes and how that adjusts next months predictions!).

I debated cutting my trip short but really don't want TTC to control my life. At the same time next month would be cycle 5 for us and I'm getting impatient now.

That's my little Monday rant haha

Hey all! Im still lurking in the background too.

Keeping my head down a little as I don't want to be all negative. My cycle is truly fcuked after the CP. Body has tried to ovulate 3 times this cycle and I'm utterly exhausted.

I've been signed off from work for a while as it really hit me today that we had earmarked this week for an early scan. I totally broke down and cried in front of my (mans man) boss!

I'm just feeling a little lost. This cycle is a write off so onto cycle 8 (or 9 - I can't even bring myself to count). I just feel so lost in this cycle of no baby, no ovulation, no 🧙‍♀️ and certainly no energy to DTD.

Sorry to bring the mood down. I do find the chat on here, even if I don't contribute, really helps. Especially on bad days!

@SareBear87 sending hugs and positive vibes. Sorry you're having such a rubbish time of it.

I'm so glad you're still with us @SareBear87 I was wondering the other day how you are doing.
I'm really sorry you're having a tough time... maybe it's good you've been signed off work for a little while so you can have some time to rest and for yourself?
Sending hugs xx

Sending you a massive hug @SareBear87 ... you are not bringing the mood down we are all here for each other whenever we need to be. Tears in front of boss must have been interested... bet he looked terrified having to deal with an emotional woman!
Hopefully your getting plenty of rest and pampering xxxx

Thanks ladies... I'll continue to lurk around, I'm definitely cheerleading you all from the sidelines. It feels quite real now @SkeletonSkins I've officially told my sisters and I'm definitely symptomatic now.

@SareBear87 I completely relate the the exhausting nature of it - my body is trying ovulate repeatedly and I just feel like a hormonal mess. Sending you lots and lots of love!

@Sparklingwine1 hasn’t even turned up yet! Think my body is gearing up to have another go at ovulating tbh but I’m past caring at this point, CD 41 and not even ovulated yet so will be my longest cycle to date sadly. Jsut putting it to the back of my mind for now and trying to go with whatever happens. Stopped the OPKs as they weren’t telling me anything - I’ve had a positive 3 times this cycle and all have been false positives!