TTC 35+ thread 11

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New thread! I dunno how to tag everyone from the other thread 🤣

@CurlyNo2 Congratulations 🎉 Got everything crossed for a sticky bean for you and happy, healthy nine months ahead xx

Have had a few days away from MN as got some non-ttc-related crappy news last weekend and was really feeling overwhelmed. In a better headspace now, just caught up on all the posts. Still here, still rooting for everyone and sending love XX

@ElsieG3m
You asked me how I relaxed and I didn't have an answer then.pls don't laugh but I picked up knitting recently and it helped me a lot. I don't even sew before this but knitting ? It is surprisingly therapeutic. I learnt it from YouTube and when I do it it just ...helped

Congratulations to @CurlyNo2!

@KatRee hope you’re feeling better now. Ttc has been getting me down the last few days. I’ve even started symptom spotting which I rarely do, can’t stand it.

@AnxiousWannabe there's a lot to be said for crafts, I cross stitch which lots of people say is only for grannies 🙄 it so is not!

@CurlyNo2 congratulations hoping for your sticky bean

@thislittlebird I was like that this month too 🤦🏼‍♀️ and now I'm onto the next month after my 50 day cycle!

Hi ladies hope everyone is ok, I’m killing myself doing SMEP this month (after everybody’s impressive dtd stats I decided I needed to up my game!) Probably just another thing that doesn’t make any difference, like pineapple core, warm socks, blah blah blah, but it does help me mentally each month if I add something into the mix which makes me feel like I have some control over all this! Or maybe it doesn’t help, just makes me more TTC crazy, who knows?!

@thislittlebird if you’re symptom spotting I’m guessing you’re in you tww? How many dpo?

Where is everybody else at? I ovulated yesterday I THINK, at least that’s what my body is telling me, the app is disagreeing.

@Misty84 good luck with SMEP! I think the warm socks is one of my favourite mad things people are told to do lol.

I’m not sure how many dpo I am but I do think I ovulated this month and it’s currently cd25, so a few more days until AF. I have sore boobs and they did it all on their own, without any b6 supplements, I’m very proud of them lol. I do think the soreness is dying off now though, feels less today even if it’s still there so probably on the way to AF.

@Marvellouslymadmum glad your 50 day cycle is over!

@CurlyNo2 so amazing, congratulations 🥰💖

@Misty84 hi 👋 I’m about 8dpo. Sending hugs @thislittlebird it’s just so hard isn’t it. Some months seem easier than others to get by.
I have tender boobs but that is standard for me at this stage of cycle so definitely not a pregnancy symptom at this point. Im feeling a bit low about TTC as well if I’m honest. It’s been 12 months since my D&C. It’s hard to get my partner to want to DTD in the FW as he works hard and is often tired at night time. In fact the last couple of times I tried to initiate it, he wanted to but couldn’t keep erect so we weren’t able to 😔 does anyone else struggle with that kind of thing?
Im going to book an appointment with my GP soon to discuss options from here. Im 37 and should be eligible for public funding for fertility treatment before I’m 40. I have 2 beautiful boys already so not sure what the problem is this time.. and my close colleague has found out she’s expecting her 3rd and they weren’t even trying. So it’s all just got a bit much lately. I really wish I could stop thinking about it and just ‘relax’ as people say. But I CANT! I just don’t know how. It’s always in my mind.. any suggestions for me?

Sorry for the rant. Just needed to get it out I guess Xx

@Farfaraway1 yeah, it's less normal for me so I'll take any bit of hope going lol. We don't tend to have that problem, but work can get in the way because he works shifts.

What's the provision out there for fertility treatment under 40 or with kids?

I hate the 'just relax' thing, it's bs, don't give yourself a hard time, it's a really stressful process. x

I feel sick. I had to tell a male friend in a vague way why we couldn’t join them at a busy place with other friends. Now I know the whole group of friends will know we’re having fertility treatment 😩. I just didn’t know how to get out of it but I can’t risk my DH getting Covid, he hasn’t been vaccinated yet. It’s hard not to feel horrible having to tell people when it might not work.

@thislittlebird it's so hard sometimes isn't it?! You feel like you don't want to let anyone know what you're going through but at the same time there's not always another option

@Marvellouslymadmum it’s super hard. I have no sensible excuse for why we both can’t come when I said we would come before (I didn’t realise it would be for the football, waaaaay too busy). And then I realised afterwards that he must have had a few when he messaged something about someone else replying???? Jfc no idea who I’ve told this to now and I’m annoyed. Oh well, if they’re drunk they won’t remember hopefully.

@thislittlebird oh no! Well yes that's true, hopefully they won't have any clue in the morning 🤞🏻

@Marvellouslymadmum I couldn’t even work out what message had been from someone else in this conversation! Hopefully just the one . Serves me right for thinking it would be fine to give a vague explanation to someone. Sigh.

@thislittlebird
Sorry to hear that ! We don't need this stupid stress do we. Sigh.

I had my womb lining scanned yesterday coz I was on letrozole. Apparently my womb lining is not where they want me to be at cd10 ..6.5mm whereas the ideal number apparently is 7. I do have a longer cycle so don't know if it matters. Sigh.

TTC is not a happy train

@AnxiousWannabe I know clomid (and presumably Letrozole too) are famous for thinning the lining of the womb. What did they say they’d do?

@thislittlebird hopefully they've forgotten all about it today anyway

@AnxiousWannabe that's not good, the only time mine has been scanned was in may cd14 when I should've been around Ov day and it was only 6mm but they said that was 'normal' but then I didn't actually ovulate until cd33 so I would say it could just be that it's a little soon for you

@thislittlebird @Marvellouslymadmum
Thanks...the sonographer didn't say anything much apart from it's not where we want it to be but it's ok. Come back again in three days. Lol.

@Misty84 echoing you ..why is my body not doing what it should. Sigh. Just annoying

To think..my skin is pretty thick..

Spreading my legs to a stranger early in the morning.

Thick skin but thin uterine ...the contrast lol

@Farfaraway1 I snap at people who tell me not to stress! I always say “Well I wasn’t stressed for the first year and that got me nowhere. Guess what; infertility is stressful!”

@thislittlebird I’ve also had to tell far more people than I ever wanted to about TTC/ivf. Mainly because no one is satisfied by any other excuse/explanation as to why I’m not drinking (I was a big social drinker previously). It’s draining.

@AnxiousWannabe There is nothing positive about being in that undignified position is there?! 🙈

@Misty84 it’s really annoying. Especially trying to excuse both of us right now. I could have said I was ill but then he’d ask if my husband was still coming.

Speaking of undignified positions, I was in one this morning yet again for my smear. Can’t get enough of internal exams right now . On the plus side they’re doing my chlamydia too, and then I’ll get all my viral screening done next week hopefully, when my period comes. Hard to book blood tests for day 2-5 though when you didn’t track ovulation, no idea which day will be 2-5 and that’s IF I can get an appointment when I call at short notice 😑

My boobs are getting gradually less sore. Makes me sad, I know what it means.

Lol @Marvellouslymadmum
Indeed indeed

@Marvellouslymadmum I love cross stitch!

Ugh don’t know whether I’ve ovulated or not.

Had high opks but no peak (they are cheapies so may have missed it). EWCM, ovulation pain/pressure for a day and a half. But temp hasn’t risen at all and it’s now a few days later. Failed attempt? Gutted if so as we dtd so much this fw!

It’s so exhausting worrying/trying not to worry month after month!

@Misty84 yeah it is. I had that a month or so ago where I didn’t get a peak.

I had a total meltdown last night over it all. But also over issues around it, including my husband possibly getting this job in Cornwall when he is just about to start a new job and me having to do ivf alone here, or the relationship with my mother and how I worry I won’t see her again if we move. It would so much easier if I had just got pregnant months or years ago like other people, without all this time to be anxious about it.

I still have sore boobs 😩. I don’t have much hope but I have a slither placed in them because it’s unusual for me. It’s day 26/27 now, I didn’t take b6 this month.

@AnxiousWannabe sometimes they're not very helpful are they?

@thislittlebird I managed to get a blood test pretty quickly when I phoned this week on Tuesday, it's booked for tomorrow. Yay for the sore boobs! At least even if you're not pg this month it means your progesterone could be better and that could also be because of the blockage being cleared so you've deffo got a better chance now!

@selina37 me too, it's so not a granny hobby!

@Misty84 this is what happened to me last month, three failed attempts finally ovulated attempt 4 on cd33 so there was a lot of dtd! I'd say keep tracking and see if you get another rise