TTC after MC - May 2021 thread 19

[bez91]

Here we are again... thread 19. Not sure if any of you ladies are here from thread 1. I think I've been around since about thread 5.

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Tagged everyone I can find/think of.

A very new tag list from the last one I did in February, a lot of ladies got BFPs 🤰 Hopefully some good news for us in the coming months... 🤞🏼

Any recaps on journey so far welcome...

Bleeding and cramping this morning so confirmed chemical. I'll still go and get my bloods done even though doesn't seem a lot of point now

So sorry @Beleeve xxx

Totally understand @Beleeve, once I got my positive i didn't let myself get excited in my head I was like lets wait and see, and even if that attitude I was still devastated when I knew it wasn't going to work out. I did want to get in touch with my gp to get it on record but I'm guessing the hormones will be out my system so not much point in asking for bloods.

Its hard when we are struggling especially when friends and family conceive so easily without any issues. Sending hugs your way x

Really sorry @Beleeve sending hugs xx

Thank you everyone. I feel ok at the moment but i think adrenaline is getting me through, i'm already thinking about when i'm going to ovulate. I know this seems like i don't care but it's not that, focusing on the next step stops me thinking about what's happening right now.

My first appointment with a fertility doctor has been cancelled for the second time so at this point i'm not believing it will ever actually happen. On a plus note though i asked the nurse when she was taking my bloods if they would check progestrone/estrogen levels (never sure which it is) as i think this is my issue and she agreed so maybe that will help going forward.

I googled earlier how many women have 2 miscarriages in a row and it said only 2%, not sure if that includes chemicals but it seems a really low number!! Feel like doctors should take women in this position more seriously cos it really isn't the norm.

Sorry for your losses. Think I may be overly eager to join this group as just had my D&C this morning! Any one else like me just want to move on and work on my rainbow?

100% @broodymamma I am in the process of a chemical pregnancy and already planning the next. Think it's because i'm quite doom and gloom and expecting each pregnancy to end in mc so just want them over with so i can get the proper help. I'm sure this won't be the case for you though. Having something to focus on helps you move on though i think. Hope you're ok xxx

I think I read something on Tommy's @Beleeve that it likely didn't include chemicals or that the percentage is higher mainly because some women don't know they've had chemicals

Sorry to hear that @broodymamma how are you feeling? Did you have local or general anaesthetic! I had one in December for my MMC. I've found since the momentum changed frequently, it's hard to process and also deal with the anxiety of TTC again. I've just had my 3rd MC recently and seeing the positive test filled me with dread. I hope it's not a long wait for you 💕

@broodymamma, so sorry to hear his. TTC again was all I could think of as well. It is an oft-occurring response, I have learned.

@Beleeve, I am so sorry. Virtual hugs to you. Some trusts say two instead of three, so check out what the recurrent miscarriage clinic close to you says. It also depends on finding a sympathetic consultant/GP/midwife. As I was 35+ and without any living children, they have been a bit more lenient, allowing me tests after two losses.

Recurring loss puts you in a small pool of people, but you are certainly not alone. I am so pleased to have found the people on this thread, as it has been really helpful to talk to folks who are going through the same thing, where everyone around me in real life just seems to go straight from a positive pregnancy test through uncomplicated pregnancies to parenthood. Hang in there!

Thank you @davidrosejumper I'm 35 but i have 2 children so suspect this may just be my bodys way of saying it's done. Like you said though i look around me and see all these women who didn't even have their first child til late 30s so why is my body done now?!

I have already been referred but back when i couldn't get pregnant at all, i haven't updated them that i've had 2 losses in case they put me on another waiting list (been on this one almost a year and still haven't had first appointment)

It is amazing to have all the support on here! My partner barely mentioned it last time and this time seemed a bit more shocked so had a 10 minute conversation with me about it and that's it. I will tell my mum everything when there is hopefully a happy ending but so comforting to have you all on here as it's happening xx

23 dpo (technically 5+5, but I think I ovulated a couple of days later) and still stuck on CB 2-3 weeks. Zero other symptoms yet. Have my scan in a few days, and counting down the hours. I am going to ask for an HCG blood test too. It is hard not to worry.

My partner tries to be sympathetic, and tells me not to get my hopes up. However, he is not the one who has to OPK test, and adjust their behaviour all the time to have a healthy pregnancy. If you are the mum it is real from the moment you have that bfp.

Called the doctors to get my blood results and the receptionist said i need to ring back tomorrow to make an appointment so the doctor can go through them.

I'm taking this as a good sign that maybe there is a hormone issue and we can fix it. Hoping it isn't just a 'sorry you've miscarried' call as i am well aware that's what happened.

So to update, the hormone test they did was pretty pointless as to test while miscarrying is pretty pointless apparently.

She said they can do a hormone test but if it comes out that i have low progesotone levels they can't prescribe me anything as it has to be done by a specialist!! I am on a waiting list but it's been cancelled twice already. So basically they can't help me, until i see the specialist i either stop trying or keep miscarrying.

They are going to check my thyroid levels so hoping this shows something otherwise not really sure what i'm meant to do next.

That above message doesn't make much sense sorry. I'm pretty mad right now so rambling!

They tested eastreogen apparently which is what they've now said was pointless given i was miscarrying. I can test again later in my cycle and include progestorone but they can't help me if there's something wrong. Great 🙄

Hi @Beleeve so sorry sounds like the drs have been a bit useless. I think if you get the tests at least you know what is wrong. I do know that some ladies from this thread a while ago bought progesterone online so that is an option, although don’t know how much it is! Hope you can have a nice weekend and try and take your mind off it xxx

Thanks @Loulou237 i did say shall i at least test so when i eventually see the specialist they know what to prescribe but she said it's pointless cos they will re-do my bloods again anyway.

I'm honestly considering looking into going private if my thyroid tests don't show anything (and it's not too expensive)

I am certain i will miscarry again if i keep trying so feel a bit unsure what my next step is now. Sorry to be a big ball of negative energy everyone, think i've just wound myself up a bit too much!!

@Beleeve I hope you don’t mind me asking, how many miscarriages have you had? I have heard good things about people taking low dose aspirin while they’re waiting to see a specialist, maybe you could ask your dr if that’s worth a try. Obviously you can’t take it if it will have any contraindications with any medication you might be on xxx

@beleeve also don’t worry about being negative we’re all in the same boat so totally get it! Xxx

@Loulou237 I've had 2 back to back now. I have 2 children aged 8 and 5 which were conceived no issue at all so this is definately a new thing going on now. What i find odd is we have tried for 12-18months (not every month but most) and nothing, then all of a sudden 2 pregnancies in a row.

I know you need 3 for it to be investigated so i will call the doctors again next month if/when the time comes to see if maybe my referral needs to be changed.

I will look into the asprin thing, willing to try anything to be honest. And i promise it will be all positivity from here, even if i feel like ringing the doctors neck

@Beleeve oh wow, have you changed anything after 12 months? That is mad that you had two in a row, although they do say you’re more fertile after a miscarriage. If I were you (and you feel strong enough) I would keep trying while you wait for a referral just in case xxx

@Loulou237 I know strange right! Didn't change anything at all but it did follow 3 or 4 months where we weren't trying so maybe something changed in that time I will definately try again and see what happens. I've also read about being fertile after miscarriage so guess nows the best time to keep trying.

Absolutely @davidrosejumper what day do you have your scan? Wishing you well!

Think I'm in FW, who knows not tracking. Mentally spent with it now 😆

Hi @bez91, I hope you are taking good care of yourself. It sounds good that you are relaxing a bit this month. I was so relieved for you that they caught the ectopic early; two of my friends got seriously ill over that. Do you have any holiday plans to take your mind off things?

Thanks for asking, it is today at 9AM, which I am really grateful for, so we will have gotten it out of the way. Really dreading it. I tested with a weeks indicator this morning (officially 6 weeks) and it was still stuck on 2-3 weeks (I already had 2-3 weeks more than a week ago).

I know they say of CB, that 'they are horrible', 'they make women nervous'. But I wish they would do an actual study into the predictive value of the weeks indicator, instead of telling women to stop being silly. In the end it is just maths, isn't it? At some point those HCG numbers are supposed to have doubled enough to reach that 3+. Me not reaching it at 5 weeks, let alone 6 now, suggests that something is not doubling the way it should be. In my first pregnancy, where things did not rise either, I miscarried a few weeks later. So it has been previously been right in my case.

I am going to go, I am going to not have my hopes up, ask lots of questions, see if I can get HCG bloods done, etc.

@davidrosejumper thank you 😊 nothing planned we've just recently been away but I'm hoping to move jobs, internal move, same pay, much less stress so it's kind of a no brainier at this point.
Glad scan is soon, I think you're doing the right thing. My mantra now is to expect for the worst and hope for the best which does take all the magic away but it's hard to go into everything optimistic after losses. I'll be thinking of you, come back and update us if you feel you can 💕