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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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M4v3r1ck · 18/04/2021 21:39

New thread ladies!!! 😍😍😍

I can't see any of the old messages to properly comment and tag people - aaargh!!

But here's to lots of healthy, happy, sticky BFPs in this thread!!! 😘😘😘🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 14:19

@Noodella18 thanks lovely. I think maybe vit d and FA could be the way to go. I'm so undecided. My husband wants me to go with fewer supplements and just calm down with it all! I actually did an online my GP for advice as I have a complex medical history re supplements so will see what they say. Possibly I could just add in CoQ10 as my migraines are now so bad and I can't take anything post stroke in 2017. It's really comforting that your husband would not be worried at this stage. I'm still in 2 minds with it but I had a stroke and 2 miscarriages in 2017/2018 before conceiving my daughter in May 2018. I always assume that my miscarriages were due to the stroke and then flu which coincided with #1 and #2 and I conceived all three v quickly - first or second cycle so I haven't worried at all assuming it would be quick though now feel a bit daft as I really didn't appreciate that fertility can decline quite quickly. My sister is 39, neatly 40, had her first a month before my daughter was born and just gave birth to her second whom she conceived on first cycle, so I guess I just thought it would be ok...and it might be! But my husband is nearly 44 and with my background I felt like I should just get a work up (it is private and they were a bit reluctant saying I should really wait for 6 months - it's Cambridge ivf). I think I'm also worrying that I'm worrying and I know that stress is the worst thing I can do but just can't seem to calm down. But I'm going to start acupuncture this week and try to keep busy. I'm also not going to do bbt just OPKs maybe and dtd every other day. Xx

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 14:21

@CityGirlintheCountry welcome to a busy thread! Good luck for this cycle and fingers crossed!!

Misty84 · 04/05/2021 14:59

@Eiremogra I am in the same situation. We are going to try IVF privately, because even though AMH is a predictor, nobody knows how our bodies will respond until we give it a try. It’s an expensive try of course!!!
It also doesn’t mean you can’t get pregnant naturally, so focus as much as you can on egg quality. Great that you’re getting some advice this month.

Eiremogra · 04/05/2021 15:13

@Misty84 I agree - I want to stay positive and at the very least give it our all! What was your AMH levels? Our appointment is the 27th of this month..hoping to have a little more clarity then. I’ve so many questions, feeling a little lost at the minute xx

Misty84 · 04/05/2021 15:37

@Eiremogra It’s completely normal to feel lost. It threw me into complete turmoil! I always assumed ivf was our fail-safe back up so it’s a hard blow to be told that you might not respond well. And have to pay for it!!!😱 My level is 2.3, well that was 6 months ago anyway! Currently writing this from the hospital waiting room, here to have a HyCoSy. Dosed up on paracetamol!
Write all your questions down so that you’re well prepared. How old are you and where are you based? Any previous children? Xx

Eiremogra · 04/05/2021 16:21

@Misty84 oh best of luck today! Hope your procedure goes well - gosh the things we put ourselves through!! I’m 41, based in a Scotland, no previous children x

got2be · 04/05/2021 17:05

one day away and this chat has advanced. AMH so I've been doing my own research as have mine this week and have seen a few people have put low results. can i ask what day you had this done?
amh test says can be done anytime of month. but I'm thinking before ov you have loads of eggs giving off that signal. after ov you only have 1 ( i think im right) the one that releases.
so would i be right in thinking anyone who got a low amh could have a wrong reading if done after ov.

got2be · 04/05/2021 17:07

@Misty84 good luck with hycosy.

Misty84 · 04/05/2021 17:10

All done, it was uncomfortable and painful at times but no worse than stomach cramps really. Had 3 people peering at me including a male medical student- oh the indignity!
@Eiremogra the things we put ourselves through indeed!!

Tubes were clear which is great but still doesnt give me any real answers! Retroverted uterus but apparently many people have this and it shouldn’t stop pregnancy. Small fibroid. They still want to do a Lap to look at endometriosis.

CocoLady · 04/05/2021 17:18

Hi everyone! Can I please join ? Technically not 35, I'm 34! But can't seem to find other forums for this age ! I had a miscarriage in January due to medical issues and bled for 3 months straight absolutely awful now currently off all BC and actively TTC!
I'm clueless when it comes to supplements etc apart from folic acid !
Wish you all the luck ladies ❤️❤️

Eiremogra · 04/05/2021 17:50

@Misty84 well done you, glad the procedure went well. Hope you have a nice relaxing evening planned xx

Marvellouslymadmum · 04/05/2021 18:50

@ElsieG3m yes that's what I've heard about the amh as well, it doesn't give you an indicator or natural pregnancy unless it's 0
Pregnacare hasn't changed my sycle in a negetive way, they seem to be more normal now
@CityGirlintheCountry hi and welcome.

Sorry to those who af showed for

@baabiee I'd believe the one that has both the Lh and oestrogen as that's the most reliable

@Eiremogra so sorry your results aren't good, amh only gives an indication of how many eggs can be stimulated by the ivf drugs it does not mean you can't get pregnant naturally and doesn't effect fertility the natural way unless it's 0. Ubiquinol can definitely help improve egg quality so you have some good ones in there so def up the dose, and you can try gentle ivf which I know some of the ladies have discussed before too. Amh can also change slightly so worth getting another test in the next couple of months

@Misty84 glad the hycosy went ok and gives all clear 🤞🏻 thy will help now!

@CocoLady hi and welcome, I'd say get yourself on a pregnancy multivitamin to start iff with then you can add some others in as you go. Sorry about the mc that bleeding starts mental!

baabiee · 04/05/2021 18:53

@Marvellouslymadmum yes, both do. However I'm having period type cramps so I'm expecting Aunt Flo☹️ unless period cramps are a thing around ovulation? I'm clueless really

Marvellouslymadmum · 04/05/2021 19:04

@baabiee they can be yes, cramps around ovulation aren't unusual

So my temp this morning first beeped 'hi' at me when I started to use it, so I took it out turned it off and back on again and tried again and it came up with 36.8 🤷🏼‍♀️ so still higher than normal in Lp but don't know if it should've been higher and dropped or if my thermometer is playing up! I have felt unusually warm when I wake up especially though so who knows

Eiremogra · 04/05/2021 19:33

@Marvellouslymadmum thank you for that - it’s reassuring to know! I’ve had a job interview and these awful test results today so my head is all over the place!! What is ‘gentle IVF’?xx

Noodella18 · 04/05/2021 19:48

@Marvellouslymadmum this all sounds quite intriguing... how many dpo are you?

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 20:18

@Marvellouslymadmum thanks! I thought that too. I read that a lot of places won't even offer amh testing because it really shouldn't be used as a fertility indicator. I don't really know whether to hear the result or not as I don't want to get stressed out about something that doesn't necessarily tell me how fertile I might be.

Temps sound unusual - when are you due on?

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 20:19

@Misty84 well done for getting that done. Just wanted to weigh in that I also have a retroverted uterus and wasn't an issue when I was pregnant with my daughter. Apparently it's really really common xx

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 20:20

@CocoLady so sorry for your loss. That's very tough. I had two MCs and it's horrendous. Have you had any reading given for the prolonged blood loss?

Marvellouslymadmum · 04/05/2021 20:22

@Eiremogra it's where there's less or no stimulation I believe, I've attached the link for you for create fertility as they do it 'mild fertility' got my wording slightly wrong lol

@Noodella18 I'm about my apps are slightly confused as one says I ov'd on 22nd which would make me 12dpo but that was two days before my peak opk which was on 24th so I'm guessing ov was 25th (other app says 24th) 25th makes me 9dpo so I'm going with that 🤷🏼‍♀️

Marvellouslymadmum · 04/05/2021 20:26

@ElsieG3m I'd say get it done but some stress as it will only matter for ivf. I'm roughly 9dpo cd25 so probably the weekend ish

Misty84 · 04/05/2021 20:32

Ah thank you @ElsieG3m. Yes I’m glad to have another piece of the puzzle in place!

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 20:33

@Marvellouslymadmum ok so not long until you can test! Keeping everything crossed for you. Yeap bit daunting but guess just have to deal with it whatever they say.

I'm wondering whether I might have some scarring from previous childbirth as had a bad infection room post birth and serious UTIs for months afterwards. So guessing I'll need a HSG unless anything obvious comes up on ultrasound/bloods/SA

ElsieG3m · 04/05/2021 20:35

@Misty84 remind me how long you've been trying lovely? Are you TTC #1? Will you have the lap do you think?

Anonapapple · 04/05/2021 21:00

Aged 38, ttc number 3. Last baby was born when I was 34 and my cycles seem a bit different but generally regular. Had unprotected sex on the day I got a positive opk, ovulation pains and ewcm exactly a week ago today. Am completely convinced I am pregnant and am trying to manage my own expectations to avoid any disappointment!

This is our first cycle trying to conceive since we last tried in 2016. We tried for our first child in 2014 for about a year, but I was conscious of the fact that I had no ovulation symptoms in all the time. The one month I did have the symptoms, I got pregnant. With our second, I fell first time too as I was very 'ovulatey' after my first.

Felt very 'ovulatey' 7 days ago too. It's not just the opk, the pain, the ewcm, nor the increased libido, but I get a strange fizzy sensation in my head on the same day when all of those other symptoms are in place. It always makes me think that a big egg is oncoming! So now it's just a waiting game.

It's funny, even though I'm just a few years older than when I had my most recent child, I can see that my face has changed. Not in a bad way at all, aging is a beautiful privilege, but I have more crows feet and a few more worn out areas that I didn't have last time. My roots werent quite as grey. Today i was imaging how I would look being pregnant the age I am now.

Early menopause runs in my family so I feel that time is ticking. My mum started the menopause in her 30s so I am aware that might happen to me.

Sorry for the ramble. Interesting to read everyone's story and hopefully we will all get a happy outcome.

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