"It's been 84 years" infertile donkeys ahoy, all aboard! Not a fertile unicorn insight bus 5

[notyetamumbuttrying]

Buckling up for the ride of their lives, our infertile donkeys 🐗and their stats below:
@Annny27 29, no1 since June 19
@RobinRose 27, no1 since Oct 2019
@kerrym87 34 no1 since sept19

@Motherofkittens28 39 no 1 since aug19
@Yutes 34 no1 since aug19
@Crazydoglady123 32 no2 jan19, ivf in April21!
@Marvellouslymadmum 42 no3 since April 18
@Tofu35 35 no1 since sep19
@Hayley19835 38 no1 oct18
@Narwhal88 32, no1 since jun19
@Dogmum13 29 no1 since dec19
@SlothMamaToBe
@Theawkwardblonde no1 for 18 months
@CreativeThinkerTequilaDrinker 15 months ttc ivf in June, ov 8th April
@2020mission 33 no1 14 months ttc
@Sjhigs 37 no1 since sep18 ivf consult mid April
@crazycatlady1981 39 no1 since Oct18, ivf in May
@PeanutButterBrownies
@Juno231 33 no1 since jan20
@clolo 31 no1 since jun19
@Aimzie 28 no1 4 years NTNP 22 months ttc
And me 😊 35 ttc no1 for 19 months

@polejunkie @crazycatlady1981 @notyetamumbuttrying @Marvellouslymadmum thank you, i am OK just getting frusrated with it now! Still have the pain today, gp is referring me back to gyne so another stupid amount of months waiting to be seen by them!

@2020mission congratulations🎉

I'm a bit lost where everyone is at the moment so sending luck to you all! 🍀

@MIW01 does it stay up after the period and then goes further up in the LP? Or is it a bit of a mountain range in the FP?

@2020mission are you our semi fertile donkey then maybe?

@Juno231 😂 I guess so? I’m still trying to figure out why this cycle? Did my GP clear a way in for the sperm with the recent smear by poking into the cervix? Was it because I didn’t have any grapefruit juice so estrogen was lower? Did the egg just come through the better tube? Did we just have sex at the perfect time? We’ll never know. I'm hoping your lap will lead to the same result 🤞 we need everyone here to get a BFP soon it's only fair! We've all waited long enough.

Sorry for the very me me me message but I had an ultrasound before the hycosy and the consultant said that it looks like I have endometriosis because my ovaries are "stuck" so she is referring me to a laproscopy. She said no point doing tube test if there is scarring there as it wouldnt mean anything if they looked clear as would still need to remove endo.

I am sad, optimistic I am not sure tbh!

@Annny27 hope all is well? Bit of discomfort but otherwise A OK from my experience!

@polejunkie @paintfairy @notyetamumbuttrying @Crazydoglady123 @Motherofkittens28 and anyone else I may have missed, wishing you all the best on your journeys

I have some wonderful news to share! My latest FSH blood test result was in range and we have our appointment with the fertility specialist GP next Thursday! I've been crying tears of joy!

Thanks @kerrym87 @paintfairy and @Juno231 it's a random spike at CD6 and then gradually drops again. Very odd!

Just read your message @Annny27 about endo - so sorry to hear this but at least they can now do something about it

So much to catch up on! Been MIA and a bit of a lurker on this thread due to how shit my personal life is atm.
Hope everyone is okay.
@2020mission congratulations! So nice to see a BFP in the group!

@MIW01 thanks lovely it's kind of a relief tbh to be taken seriously!

And amazing news about FSH :D :D

@2020mission honestly it's probably because it was finally the right egg and the right swimmer at the right time. Even if you're in your early 20s and got nothing wrong with you I think only every 3rd or 4th egg is viable for conception and the rest have defects - perhaps in us donkeys it just takes a while longer to get one that isn't a dud!

Yay to you @MIW01 happy tears are the best kind!!

Sorry @Theawkwardblonde it gets like that sometimes, hope you’re doing ok? I think we all lurk when we have nothing happening or we’re feeling a bit disheartened.

@Annny27 I hope you get a date through for lap soonest - that might be what you need to get things moving in the right direction, hope it’s not a long wait.

@RobinRose how’s the pain?

Brilliant news @MIW01 🥳

I'm sorry that they couldn't do the procedure today @Annny27 but I hope this is a positive step forward to getting some answers. Hope the wait for the lap isn't too long for you.

Hope you're not waiting too long to be seen @RobinRose

@Annny27 at least you know what's going on! I've heard lots of people get their positive after a lap including my sil I just found out! I'm suspicious I may have endo, part of me wants me to be all clear but then I want to know why no bfp and part of me is hoping it is endo then I can hopefully have it removed and get a good result 🤪 mind goes around in circles!

@MIW01 that's amazing news!! So pleased for you, just shows we should always get tests done twice! Happy to show you my charts if you like, they're usually all over the place but mostly under the cover line in fp then more calm and just above cover line in Lp I really don't have a big temp change

@Theawkwardblonde hope you're doing ok

@Crazydoglady123 ah I see! Sorry you felt so sick last night hun, hope it's eased up today x
@paintfairy good you're well prepared!!
@Annny27 it's good you're getting referred! You'll need a laparoscopy like I got. My bowel was stuck close to my ovary. They "unhitched" it. They'll remove the endo and then do a dye test of your tubes. It'll be a good thing, please don't worry.
@MIW01 ahh thank you 😊 YES!! Excellent news 🥳
@Theawkwardblonde thought about you yesterday! How's things?
@Marvellouslymadmum how are you lovely? I hope I get my bfp now!!

I’m a donkey, can I join too? 38, ttc no.1 since May 2020, 4 chemicals and 1 early mc. I’m a starter not a finisher apparently...

@polejunkie @Marvellouslymadmum @notyetamumbuttrying thanks for the well wishes.
I'm doing alright. Still gutted about the not driving again thing. Lots of thoughts going round my head about the "what ifs" of pregnancy and managing without driving. I know it's doable..just don't want to!
In for an pelvic ultrasound tomorrow which has come from my infertility appointment. Is it weird that I hope they find something? May at least explain the recurrent miscarriages 🤨🤨

@notyetamumbuttrying I'm ok thank you, had a major meltdown at the oh yesterday because he kept avoiding dtd when I'm in my fw 😡 but we made up for it today 😈 second day of flashy smiley which was lucky as last month I only got one then static! Hopefully I'll get to talk to the doc tomorrow.
I really really hope you do get your bfp now too!

@Sparrowfeeder hi, sorry to hear of your losses, I'm similar 2mc amd 2cp that I know of (I avoid testing now) I must be a starter too 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Theawkwardblonde neither of my sisters drive and one has 4 children ages 6-16 and the other has 3 ages 2-6 they manage ok so definitely doable and no it's not weird, I have the same thoughts - if they find something at least I'll know why and maybe I can be fixed! Good luck for tomorrow

Thanks ladies! I am actually pretty hopeful that my little stuck ovaries just need to be moved off of whatever they are stuck to 😂

@notyetamumbuttrying yep I am really interested to hear whether sex is less painful for you now! And yep I have to call the clinic tomorrow to book an appointment to be put on the waiting list for the lap

@marvellouslymadmum its catch22 isnt it - you dont want them to find anything but at the same time you also want them to find and fix something haha! That's positive about your SIL :D

Thank you @polejunkie @venusStarr it feels like a positive step anyway 🤞🤞

@Annny27 that's exactly it! I feel exactly the same and I think my doc thinks I'm mental keep asking her to check for this and that lol

@Theawkwardblonde not weird at all, when I had my hycosy and they said all was fine I cried all the way home. I just wanted an answer, something to fix!

So something weird today. I found out by accident that one of my friends is pregnant and is due in a week! I haven't spoken to her much since covid but I have spoken to her this year and she never said anything! Im happy for them obviously, it stings though as she is older than me and this is their third.

@MIW01 that’s wonderful news!! So happy for you and so great that you can now move forward with the fertility process! 💕

@Annny27 so good that you have some answers now! Hopefully a lap will sort your stuck ovaries out and you’ll be able to conceive naturally afterwards! 🤞🏻

@Sparrowfeeder welcome to the donkey gang! So sorry about your losses! Have you had any tests/investigations done yet?

@Motherofkittens28 that is a bit strange! Does she know you have been ttc? Perhaps she didn’t want to upset you by telling you directly?

@Marvellouslymadmum that's reassuring to hear about your sisters. I was looking on some other threads on here about not driving and the hatred and judgements towards mums that don't was insane.
I'm a car but so it's been hard hanging up my keys. My baby (my precious beemer) has just been sat on the drive for weeks.

Just tell me I’m being silly,
But my friend just gave me a fright, so I jumped. And now my pelvis feels all tight. So now I’m worried it’ll affect implantation.

I’m 12dpo. Haven’t tested yet but I just need someone to give me a shake.

@Sparrowfeeder hello fellow donkey. Welcome to the infertile club, please take a seat 💺 and grab a cuppa ☕️ or perhaps a cocktail as it's Friday! Have you been referred to the EPU yet? What a rough ride you've had, so sorry 😞
@Theawkwardblonde hope today goes well! It's understandable to want to find something cos then they might be able to fix it!
@Marvellouslymadmum hate when they do that, bastards!! I'm glad he succumbed 😏
Let us know what the doc says today. Aw thank you, it's about time right 😆
@Annny27 I think so too. I'm more hopeful now that they've removed scar tissue from mine and moved my bowel away! Roll on Ov next week and hopefully pain free sex!Good luck getting an appointment today 🤞🏾
@Motherofkittens28 ouch defo a stinger! Prob why she didn't tell you. At least you didn't get bombarded with scan pics etc tho!
@Yutes it defo won't. Most implant at 9dpo so you'll be fine! Test tomorrow, good luck 😉

Hi all hope you dont mind me joining, sorry to see we are all going through this crazy TTC journey. Ive been diagnosed with unexplained but starting to feel its down to immune system as i have graves/ overactive thyroid.
have any of you got any auto immune disorders?

@notyetamumbuttrying thank you! I just needed a wee shake. I’m tempted to wait til my period is definitely late. I’ve never had a tww before