Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

I'm a bit at that advice, because presumably there is a health or profession related reason you are being offered it, that means Covid19 is a risk factor for you. Sadly, as we all know TTC (nevermind the 9-10 months of pregnancy) could take a while too!

@Lovebug06 you’re not the first person I’ve heard that from...one of the women I work with said her niece went for hers at her GP surgery and the doctor asked her if she was sure she wanted it as she hadn’t had children yet....now that is possibly a case of Chinese whispers so 🤷🏼‍♀️

I totally get why that has thrown you and I am totally torn about the vaccine, I’m not in any high risk group nor do I work in a position where I may be called early for it so I have a little bit more time to think about it.

I am in no way shape or form an ‘anti-vaxxer’ nor part of the ‘COVID is 5G crew’ but I am really torn about the vaccine, If I wasn’t TTC I’d be very much like JAB ME UP BITCHS!! I think the worst thing they ever did was say women who were planning a pregnancy shouldn’t have it, even though I know it was just because they didn’t know at the time. I think it just made people nervous. The local authority I work for has had a really poor uptake in the amount of care worker staff taking up the vaccine the reason being is they are mostly young women who are concerned about fertility side effects, even the managers of the care homes have been turning it down.

@Lovebug06 haha they don't help themselves do they! Up to you then, but personally I'd take it. Especially if vaccine passports get introduced.

@Willo95 welcome! I know what you wrote feels very frustrating and potentially worrying but trust us when we say it's normal! We've had quite a few ladies on here with wonky/long cycles after the pill. I think @TheDaydreamBelievers holds our record with 140+ days of no period after coming off the pill? It can just take a while for some to get back to normal after it. We're here for you though with whatever questions you may have!

@kay00 I'm so pleased your referral came through so quickly! 9th of May is no time at all - let's get that ball rolling!! I'm also glad they're being thorough on the inflammation side of things - let's hope they get to the bottom of it.

By the way that last paragraph wasn’t any sort of encouragement for anyone not to have the vaccine, just to show your not on your own if you’re worried about having it!

Absolutely @ChinChilly - totally understand why people are anxious and its completely up to each person what they choose.

@Juno231 someone outdid me at 145 to my 141 days! Cant remember who though.

@TheDaydreamBelievers yes I did think there was someone else but can't for the life of me remember who either...

@ChinChilly totally understand what you mean. It's hard not to think about the cases of narcolepsy off the back of the swine flu vaccine...

@TheDaydreamBelievers all the conflicting information really doesn’t help people, especially when it’s coming from some trained medical professionals. Most of my family have had the vaccine, and as @Juno231 said if these vaccine passports come in people are not really going to have much choice...all my OHs family live abroad and if that becomes a requirement to travel then we will both have to have it.

@Willo95 I wouldn’t worry too much, sounds pretty normal but always give your GP a call if you’re worried.

@Kay00 you’ve had a productive day, great you’ve got the ball rolling with both the fertility and the inflammation 🎉

@Juno231 totally has to just google that 😮

I think I will still take it, it just totally threw me!
Although seeing as I will be going to the place that has just told me I shouldn't have it seems odd.
I was set on it after reading up on it, hearing other people's views and especially the fact the NHS website says so.
But then ringing up to double check for reassurance has done the opposite of that 😐
I'm not sure who it was. The person who answered the phone said no, so I said are you sure because the NHS website now says it's fine. So he said he would go and ask a clinician (I think that's what he said) I heard muffled talking then came back and repeated no, it is their guidelines not to have it if trying. Totally confused by it as its also obviously NHS and surely they should all be going by the same rules. And there must be other women going in there asking this. Then they wonder why young women aren't having it

No wonder people are confused!

I need to catch up on this thread and how it's going for you all ❤️

@Tillybabs it's so frustrating isn't it! I wish it was instant and we didn't have the TWW 😂

@Kay00 so glad you've got your referral through!

I wish I could find and share a video I watched about the vaccine and fertility as it was so informative and really put my mind at ease about having the vaccine while TTC. Essentially the risks of getting covid when pregnant is so much worse that any that the vaccine might have, so they heavily recommended getting the jab. Also they said the narcolepsy thing was disproven.

I found the video! Sorry its in Facebook (I watched it elsewhere but can't find that one ha ha but it is the same video!)

www.facebook.com/britsocimm/videos/925754148252999/

@Lovebug06 this happened to me! When I was having the injection the woman asked me if I was planning to start trying so I said yeah and she said she recommends waiting until 12 weeks after the jab so I thought that was a bit strange considering there's a second dose so I double checked with my friend who's a receptionist at the doctors (told her to speak to their nurse) and she confirmed what she had said but said that nurse recommends waiting 12 weeks after the second jab! But she also said there has been unplanned pregnancies since having the jab and it's been okay! X

I suspect part of the issue is that changes in the evidence base arent being communicated down to the people administering the vaccine, so they are all.still sitting with the cautious message?

I've had both my jabs, I did do a pregnancy test before the second one as I stopped taking the pill between my first and second jab, so wanted to be sure I wasn't preggo before having it, IYSWIM.

I think the risks from Covid whilst pregnant have to be considered aleo and it is a very personal decision.

I personally felt that I would be happier having had the vaccine pre-pregnancy if able especially when the evidence about issues with fertility appears to be a lot of guff (unless anyone has research to suggest otherwise?! )

Sorry if I killed the thread... 🤐

@feliznavidad2 don’t be silly, I’ve just been sulking because AF arrived this afternoon just in time for the weekend 😂😂 you’re right though the whole vaccine thing is such a personal decision

Fanks @ChinChilly - hope you manage to have a nice weekend anyway, lots of wine and chocolate?!

@feliznavidad2 absolutely I shall be using ‘I’m on my period’ as an excuse for everything this weekend 😂

Love hearing all the vaccine opinions out there. It's so personal isn't it. I'll be getting mine I think no matter what. Just terrified of the C word 😁😁 I'll take fear of the slight unknown over the known risks from that. Tbh at the rate I'm going any risk of an overlap will be a non issue anyway 😂🙈

@ChinChilly @Flowers222 I'm so sorry this cycle hasn't worked out for ye. Hope you have the baths and choccies and wine and whatever treats of the moments to hand.

@Kay00 so thrilled you got your referral. Does it feel good to be seeing some progress and having the forms to fill in etc? This TTC thing is so uncontrollable that I find sometimes even having something as concrete as making an appointment feels satisfying.

Welcome @MrsHInch and @Willo95

Happy weekend all. Just finished work late and sat down with a big mug of tea. 9DPO and all the PMS mood swings going on as normal so not too hopeful.

The only thing that might spark a shred of hope (that I'm trying to quash) is I just had spotting for the first time in my life.... bright and intense and then gone just like that.... weird I know but aside from AF which just arrives with an entrance ive never had spotting any other time of the month at all. And I'd be shocked if she was coming early cause my body is a bit OCD like myself. So time will tell but I seem to be accumulating new PmS symptoms each month so taking this with a huge pinch of salt. She's due Tuesday so we'll see. Anyone else just starting the really annoying part of the TWW going into the weekend?

@gracie2021 9dpo is bang on time for implantation 🤞🤞🤞

Yeah, I feel good that progress has been made, but I made a mistake today...

My gastroenterologist said I no longer need to do the FODMAP diet (until they know exactly what's causing my symptoms) so I qwmt straight to a bakery and ate a full gluten cheese twist for lunch. It was amazing 😆. But now I'm really paying the price... fatigue, brain fog, shooting pains in my stomach. How annoying 😩. I'm worried I have messed up any chances I might have for implantation. Needless to say I'll be back on the FODMAP diet until AF turns up!

Dammit... I love cheese twists 😆😆😆

@Kay00 oh no. It's so hard to stay to a diet like that and you would y even think of the timing til you feel awful. I've been managing GF 90% of the time but wow do you pay when you got off it. The timing sucks too doesn't it. Work has been so stressful today and yesterday and I just kept thinking no way is anything going to stick when I'm this wound up! Then I remind myself babies are born in the middle of wars and all kinds of upheaval....

@Kay00 I also ate an entire block of Parmesan during the week in one sitting. Grated it and ate with a fork.... no judgement here......

The internet is full of good ones today 😂