Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

@Gracie2021 @Juno231 I am not strong willed do not encourage me 😂😂😂

@Cams50 It’s never nice to hear that anything it not how it should be/expected to be but it’s good that it can be improved and hopefully that is the only thing getting in your way at the moment...also I’m guessing they have asked for another sample because one sample is not reliable enough?

@Cams50 just saw your SA results. The good thing is that you won't have to wait 2 years for help now - and in the meantime he can take supplements? On some of the other threads I'm on I've seen OHs have amazing results after taking impryl - so perhaps worth checking that? Also one SA isn't enough to diagnose anything - they'll have him take another one in a few months time and his morphology could be completely normal then even without any lifestyle changes - purely due to the snapshot nature of SAs!

@Cams50 sorry to hear it. Must be a disappointment but as you say can be managed by lifestyle and seems positive they've asked for another sample to double check it. Glad for you guys that you started testing early and at least each test result is one step closer to a BFP even if it feels crappy now.

@ChinChilly stay strong! You can hold out. Think how nice it will be getting good news right ahead of the weekend. I'm visualising a positive test here!!!

@Juno231 @Cams50 thanks for the advice ladies. I'll stick with my own doctor for now so. I'm not usually squeamish just if things got intimate a female doctor is easier. Have decided I'll give him a call on CD1 so Monday week if things go as they usually do. Even if he tells me to go away for another month or so, at least I'll have started discussions.

@Gracie2021 I’ve never been good at resisting temptation 😂

@Juno231 Gawd knows...!! I would like to think the Soy had some part to play, but I also think in the last couple of weeks I have really got my inflammation under control (through diet I assume) and my symptoms have reduced, so that might have a part to play too ??

I'm toying with whether to tell my mum and sister that I have been TTC soon... my sister keeps making throw away comments about how she 'wouldn't want a kid now at her age... she feels too old' (she's 3 years younger than me) and last night she suggested I move back to Wales when I'm old and my OH dies so I can be close to her daughter so I am not lonely ... that one hurt . I don't think she's trying to be mean, but she clearly thinks i'm past it and not going to have any kids.

Or... should I one day just surprise them with a scan photo? (assuming I every get there!)

@Kay00 ha depends on how much you like your sister! Based on the crappy comments I'd shove a scan in her face as otherwise maybe she'll be coming out with insensitive comments about TTC instead? Eg are you sure/aren't you too old or gosh it only took ME two tries before I conceived - aren't I super fertile! or whatever

@Kay00 wow, those comments could definitely be hurtful! Sometimes I think families especially don’t get how they’re comments can come across without meaning anything bad by it....I always thought I would just surprise my parents with a scan pic but after the CP I did tell my mom what had been going on she had already guessed we were TTC tbh but I had played it down...felt like a relief! It depends if you think telling them will add an extra layer of pressure or not.

@Kay00 wow she's fun. I think I'd be with the rest, safer to say nothing and rock up with a nice scan (hopefully very shortly). That said there's a balance there if you want your mams support while TTC etc which might factor into the decision too.

Also..... think we're of an age together.... and ouch! It's like when I watch Gen Z videos on tiktok and feel like an ould wan!

@TheHotelCalifornia thanks for setting up the new thread! Just saving my place here ❤️

Cd10 and nothing to report. Only another 20+ days until I potentially ovulate again... 😩

Good luck to everyone testing soon! We need some good news 🌟

Good afternoon ladies, just catching up!

I am CD7, just finished with AF, first one since stopping the pill and today I have a strange pinching/ache in my lower left hand of my abdomen. I can't be ovulating already as literally just finished AF and not due to ovulate until next week.

Did anyone else experience this after stopping the pill?

@ChinChilly @Juno231 so it is just old blood? I've always called it that but never really know it was that 😂 btw I've done a name change I was melissaq94 but changed it to this cos I went on another thread and started talking shit about my step MIL so wanted to be extra careful not to get found out 😂😂😂

Nothing really new with me, my last cycle was 34 days which is the shortest one I've had post pill.. and AF came bang on the day my apps said she was due so I guess that's a good sign! I ovulated later than my app said but still a positive OPK and sharp pain for 15 minutes fills me with hope that I'm alright under the hood haha and I'm "regular" according to the Flo app after her telling me I'm irregular for the past few months 😂

Thanks ladies, I think you're right, I'll wait and surprise them with a scan photo (hopefully)! My sis definitely has a mean side (she's a bit Jekyll and Hyde) and I can imagine her trying to put me off... in fact I just got off the phone to her just now and she said that she's not on the pill... I said 'oh! I assume you're not trying to get pregnant?' She said no... she's being careful, but if she wanted one 'she could just have one' and if she got pregnant now she'd have an abortion 😪. Seriously... im not sure why she keeps coming out with these things about babies!? Maybe she IS trying? It's odd anyway 😕

@missc07 hopefully you'll get an earlier ovulation this time 🤞

@hrhxo it's certainly possible you could ovulate early... its not completely unheard of to have short cycles especially straight off the pill, but more likely your body is just gearing up to ovulate. Ovulation pains can happen before, during or after ovulation!

Now I'm worried my sis is on this thread 🤣🤣🤣

@Kay00 maybe because we're all such maternal girls, I know I personally find it so hard when people speak about babies and kids in such a negative way and how it's just a disposable thing if it happens.. I started a new job and my step monster in law is my boss (didn't realise she would be, would NOT recommend it) and she's always been weird about kids, she doesn't have any.. always brings it up "you're not planning on having kids anytime soon are you?!" Well yeah bitch I am, but I'm not going to tell you that! And the minute I accepted the job I shit you not she said "I hope you're not gonna get pregnant any time soon cos we need you to actually work at work, we need full time not these part timers cos they have a kid" for one, my child will be her grandchild (OH's dads girlfriend) - he's always spoke about how he cannot wait to be a grandad, they don't know anything about us trying or anything & I'm just like, how the fuck can people be that cold about something like being someone's mother?! Blows my mind, but yeah.. your sister sounds as lovely as the dragon in my life 😂😅

@TheHotelCalifornia thanks for setting up the new party!

@Cams50 it sounds like the low morphology can be resolved so that's a positive thing to take from today.

@Emmgrem hope you see this! Following from the last thread! Do you have a link to the raspberry tea you used? The one I looked at is out of stock for 1-2 months and some say loose tea is better? 🤷🏻‍♀️ That's great that things are starting to settle this month! When is AF due? How often is the acupuncture? I have been recommended someone for that but have put off going. I haven't found the agnus castus mess anything up for me but I didnt take the full dose of 2 capsules. This month I got to 8dpo before I started spotting which was an improvement (would you believe!🙄) By the way, I'm all for boarding the crazy train if it means a bfp! 🚂🚂 I just had Conceive+ fertility lubricant delivered. Have used Preseed previously but thought why not throw some more money at it incase this one works miracles! 🤞😂

Hi and welcome to all the new peeps! 👋

@ChinChilly @Gracie2021 @FlyingGiraffe thanks! Yeah they want a second sample to confirm it and it can be improved so that’s good but still just really disappointing as it’s going to be harder for us and less likely we’ll conceive naturally so just feel like our chances have been further lowered y know. Oh well, the health kick starts tomorrow lol.

@Juno231 thank you! Oh I haven’t heard of that supplement. Just looked it up there. He does already take wellman conception but I wonder if he should swap to that? Or take both?! They don’t offer IVF at all in our area so don’t think the two year thing applies to us but we’ll continue with the tests I guess and then explore private IVF when they’re all done. Hopefully it’ll improve anyway in the next few months.

@Kay00 ugh so insensitive! Haha I don’t think your sis is on here 🤣👀

@MissC07 hoping for an earlier ovulation for you 🙏🏻

@missm94 OMG! Your monster in law (😆) sounds like a bitter jealous person who maybe doesn't want you to have kids because she didn't... or maybe because your baby would be the centre of your dad's world? Either way, I hope you really enjoy showing her your pregnancy scan when you get the chance 😁

My sis is probably trying to put me off TTC so a baby wouldn't interrupt her plans for us to go on a cruise with my mum in 2023 😆

Thanks for starting a new thread.

I hope everyone is well.

@Kay00 that’s really insensitive of your sister. I think sometimes people say things to try and make light of the situation but it just ends up being insensitive.

I think you are in your 30s right? You are not too late!

@Kay00 oh I think that's exactly why she is the way she is! It's my other half's dads partner and me and him get on really well and my partner is an only child so you can imagine, him and his dad are super close so I think she just knows a baby would push her right out the way.. I can't wait to shove a scan picture in her face, if she makes one comment about my baby being an inconvenience I might punch her in the face 😩😂😂 yeah, your sister just wants you all to herself hahaha

@Kay00 omg if the cruise is the reason, firstly what strategic thinking, secondly what a small thing to influence someone not to procreate for 🙈 ive a friend who's very anti children and some of the comments are getting more and more personal as our other friends around us have kids and she can see it coming for us. But I can also see a fear of.... being left behind is the wrong way to put it but you know what I mean..... @MissM94 your step MstIL sounds unbelievable. Is there any way of transferring away from her in work over time or is it a small workplace?

@Cams50 fingers crossed the second sample comes back with better results and the first was just bad timing. Getcha about the conceiving naturally. Know you can try find upsides of good that ye have caught any potential issues relatively early etc etc but still not what you were picturing I'm sure.

Btw for the new people here, this one could just be me but one thing that I wish I'd heard early on was that the longer you're off the pill the more PmS symptoms you can have. Mine have built over the months as my system got over the shock of coming off the pill. But at the start every month every new symptom I was like, this could be it, this could be baby. Now I know I get nosebleeds, and spotty and bloated and god knows what else in the TWW and some months I get mystery symptoms and weird twinges and pains too. And clearly I'm still here so it was never anything. Know it's very hard not to wonder if each new symptom means something but this is just my experience over the months if it's of any insight at all.

@Gracie2021 she's my supervisor so I could change onto the other team but there's no 'good' reason why I would change without telling her it's cos I can't stand her 😂 which makes for a very awkward personal life hahaha FML

Thanks for the new thread (I was briefly in the last one but didn't have much to report yet!)

I'm one week into my first TWW and struggling with patience ha ha! Pretty certain it's a no go this cycle so just want to hurry up and get to the next one!

@MissM94 and @Kay00 sorry you've had to put up with these awful comments :( people can be so insensitive!

@ChinChilly keeping everything crossed for a BFP on Friday!

@Cams50 sorry you've had this result but as others have said at least something can be done. Hugs

@Gracie2021 thank you! Yeah you’re right. It’s better we know now rather than another year down the line and we can try to improve it hopefully. That’s very interesting about the symptoms! It makes perfect sense. It must be your body adjusting back to normal.

@Kat668 thank you!! Eek your first tww is very exciting but also the longest two weeks of your life!! So much patience is required for ttc 😒 but hopefully you’ll get that bfp asap ❤️

@Kat668 I knowww, when did people get so anti-kid?! Haha people are shit 😂

Hi girls, just catching up! So glad you all love the new theme haha. Sounds like a great party eh! If it would just stop snowing ha.

@Flowers222 your chart is looking so good!

@chinchilly I’m so excited for you to test Friday!!

@kay00 I’d be right next to you at the cakes!! And probably making an idiot of myself on too much prosecco mmmm dreamy! Also I think your chart is looking great and I’m so happy you’ve ovulated.

@Cams50 sorry to hear about the results lovely, I totally get why you’re disappointed. It sounds like you’re looking to be proactive though and thinking of what you can do which is great. What advice have they given for him to improve it?

My temp went up again this morning but I honestly feel completely normal, I definitely don’t have a good feeling about this cycle. No symptoms. Trying not to dwell on it and stay positive/looking ahead but it’s tough. Mainly I’m just really trying not to think about it all and keep myself distracted. I keep looking on FF before I’ve even realised I’m doing it, comparing my chart to other charts…does anyone else do this!?