Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

Thanks ladies, i'm not getting my hopes up, as this would obviously jinx it.... plus it would actually be problematic if I get pregnant just days before a colonoscopy!

@Lovebug06 families are hard at times, she doesn't need to told in a horrible way yano just a heads up that your finding some comments hurtful

@Kay00 it does all sound promising!

My tests are getting daker so thats a relief even had abit of a dye stealer this morning! Time to order the digitals i think 😬

@ChinChilly this is so exciting!! The digital definitely made it seem real for me!! Eeeeek.

@pineapple2021 it's exciting and super nerve wrecking at the same time! I think because i got a positive digital last time i probably won't be satisfied until i get a 3+ on it

@ChinChilly I think I was still doing tests until about two weeks ago haha.

@pineapple2021 I haven't got any left which is probably a good thing although I do have a savers just around the corner 🤣 how many weeks are you now?

@ChinChilly amazing that they're progressing so well! Got all my appendages crossed for you

@kay00 it all sounds promising and it would be sod's law that it happens a few days before a medical procedure - surely that must be it then!

CD10 today, starting my FW with a bang (ha!) at 6am this morning. I'm already fantasising about a February due date...

@Kay00 fingers crossed for you. Would be lovely.
@ChinChilly it's great they are getting darker. How exciting.
@Juno231 February is a good month. I haven't been letting myself think like this but it is.... Can't let myself get any hopes up but I still can't help myself at times!

I have no symptoms at all. Don't even have sore boobs I've just randomly realised.

@Juno231 just spotted your message. Yep from the data that is coming out it does look like you pass on antibodies to the baby, which of course is brilliant. I’m booked in tomorrow for 3pm and fairly certain I’m going to go ahead, still nervous about it though. How are you getting on?? X

@ChinChilly so glad they're getting darker! Are things happening differently than when you had your chemical? Got everything crossed for you 😍

@Juno231 thank you, February due date is nice, I'm looking at a January due date not sure how I feel about that lol

@Lovebug06 thank you 😊 I didn't really have any symptoms I was convinced i was out and my period was just late. My boobs aren't particularly sore I just either a tingling sensation in my nipples or a stabbing pain

@MissM94 I'm not too sure, I had started bleeding at this point last time, I don't actually feel as anxious as last time and I'm not obsessively testing I only tested Tuesday and today.

@ChinChilly ahh that's promising then that you're past the point you was last time and your lines are getting darker! 🥰

Tested with 2ndMU at 10DPO, BFN... I certainly jinxed it

@MissM94 yeah I still feel really aware that it could happen again but I'm trying to stay positive.

@ChinChilly that all sounds really positive xx Its good to hear you are feeling nice and chilled

I just had my first wobble... I found out that my friend's daughter has just announced her first pregnancy (my friend is an older man, his daughter in her late 20's), i'm obviously delighted for them, but a little bit sad (for me) too.

I told my OH, and with a great big smile he said 'that's great news'. I think he must have picked up on reserved agreement and he offered 'and, how are you feeling'? This is a big first step for him, I was pleased he asked (first time he has done so).

So I replied, 'i'm happy, but sad its taking us so long...' and he shut me down, saying 'well, you don't want to make yourself upset about this, it is what it is' and went back up to his desk!! Cheeky fuck. He made me cry.

Thank god I have you ladies to talk too, Its definitely getting harder the closer I get to the 1 year mark.

And now i'm just sat here crying into my cup of tea... damn him. This is so unlike me.

@Kay00 sending you love ❤️
It is really hard when someone else announces. Its very hard when it's all you want.
I don't think men understand as much, maybe because all the tracking is us and periods are obviously us I think they are just unaware of how much women are actually doing and the stress of it.
My DH didn't even realise how long we had been trying. In a conversation it was mentioned how long we had been trying and he pulled a face and said its nowhere near that time! I was like erm yes it is and told him exactly... He was shocked. I just don't think they realise as much, just like oh when it happens it does. Feel a bit sad but not the emotion we do.
But I do have to say a bit after the year mark he did suddenly change a bit. Seems more wanting to try, being sad when AF comes and just understanding my heartache more and more willing to listen. So I feel like maybe he suddenly got it, that it just isn't happening, maybe it's just him but I reckon men maybe have a turning point they realise!
So I hope your okay. Your valid feeling sad. Only those of us ttc for a long time truly understand how it can make you feel ❤️❤️

@Kay00 oh that makes me so sad but I would be exactly the same.
I don't think I've ever cried as much as I have on this ttc journey.

Thank you @Lovebug06 xx I really do appreciate your kind words xx

@Kay00 huge hugs to you. I can really empathise. I have a work related group social chat where woman A is a close friend, woman B is pregnant, woman C has a 6 month old. So lots of baby chat recently. On a walk this week, friend (A) was saying "seeing all that must be hard" and I was brave facing and saying oh you know, it's great for them though, I'm happy for them. And at that exact moment a message came in on my other work chat with a scan photo and I just burst into instant tears! My brain was like "are you fucking kidding me?!"

My updates - nurse practitioner told me that the GP should offer weekly bloods until a period to see if I ovulate at all as that is in Nice guideline. I've therefore booked another GP appt to push

@Kay00 sending you a big hug! Men are abit like those insensitive fertile first who to be blunt just say stupid shit! I remember my OH said to me when i was upset about it taking so long "oh well we knew it wasn't going to happen straight away, it will happen when it's meant to" i nearly punched him square in the face 😂
I had a massive wobble last week and cried pretty much all afternoon and a randomers pregnancy announcement on instagram set that off! It's not a case of if it will happen it's just when, even if you need abit of help you've got that ball rolling now. It will happen for you 💜

*fertile friend not fertile first

Stupid typo

@TheDaydreamBelievers it sounds like you have a really lovely supportive friend there xx Good news on the nurse practitioner! I read those NICE guidelines and they make a lot more sense than just doing one test at 21 days! Keep pushing and make sure the book the next few in for you!

@ChinChilly Haha, I have had that line too... My OH says ' well, if it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen...!' Inside i'm thinking... 'this WILL happen... even if it costs us tens of thousands of pounds!' hahaha!

@Kay00 I agree! Not feeling hopeful about naturally, but if I have to spend all my savings having a child, I will!