TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

[Lowkeyloopy]

Hi all!

I know there are several threads dedicated to this topic, which I've lurked on for several weeks without saying anything, but some threads (sadly) have so many people on them that it can be a bit hard to follow, or it feels awkward to jump into the middle of a conversation between people who have been chatting for a while. Does anyone fancy joining me on a new thread?

My story: 33, TTC baby #1, conceived first cycle in Feb, but had a MC at 6 weeks in early March. Absolutely awful, as everyone knows, and I was in a rubbish place mentally for a few weeks, but I've also counted my blessings - it was early, I needed no medical intervention and at least I know I can conceive. Also AF has returned today - 29 days after first day of my MC. I usually have a 28-29 day cycle so am so grateful that my body seems to be getting with the programme again.

So CD1 for me, and I'll be TTC this month and back to tracking - BBT from tomorrow, OPKs from CD 11, still taking my Pregnacare and trying to keep exercising and eating healthily!

Would anyone like to join me if they're going through something similar? How have you been coping since your MC? What's on your TTC to-do list?! (Other than the obvious..!)

Baby dust to all xx

Hi girls hope you’re all okay. Sorry to those who have got AF and fingers crossed for everyone in TWW.

I’m CD12 today so we’re going the DTD every day now until Tuesday and keep temping. I was v regular 28 day cycles pre MC and my post MC cycle was 33 days so hoping it’s gonna go back to normal ASAP. Hope everyone has a lovely weekend 💜

@Scoaf I've just been taking pregnancy multivitamins. Seven Seas I think.

My DH let slip to family today that I'm cutting back on my caffeine...so annoyed! They'll obviously know that we're TTC/pregnant now.

Just seen this on SM- how crazy!

@ItsMeantToBe That is terrifying! It's so far in the future! Really annoying that your DH let slip. It's going to be so hard to keep it quiet early on (if that's what you want to do). I feel like it puts even more pressure on now people know I've had the mc and are obviously trying again

@Scoaf I'm taking CoQ10 as well as vit d and folic acid. It's expensive but there's evidence it improves egg quality. I also take evening primrose oil during the follicular phase but stop after ovulation. It's supposed to help with cervical mucus. I haven't actually noticed any difference in cm but I did get pregnant the month I started the EPO. It might have been a coincidence though. I've put my DP on a multivitamin too

I'm on CD9 so we're DTD every other day, although my DP said he doesn't mind if we need to do it every day just to make sure 😂 Hope everyone's having a lovely weekend! 🙂

@Scoaf - I take pregnacare and my DP takes Wellman (the his and hers pack). We were taking them for about three months before we started trying in Feb and fell PG first time, so I’m going to keep taking them even if that was a complete coincidence! I think they perhaps just make your pee really expensive.. Folic acid and vit D are probably all you need if you have a healthy diet with plenty of fruit and veg though. I’ve been reading a bit about Coq10 though - might try that if I have another MC or if it takes us a while.

I also took evening primrose oil this month before ovulation on @Flopsy88’s recommendation and think I did notice a difference in CM.

@ItsMeantToBe That is a bit annoying but you can perhaps just spin it as a health decision? I cut down on caffeine several months before we started TTC because I get slight anxiety and figured it wasn’t helping. Same with alcohol. Tell them you’re going veggie or something too, haha - major health kick!

@CMcA21 @Flopsy88 Have fun with the DTD! Lol at your DP being so generous with that offer Flopsy. Sacrificing himself for the cause!

DPO 6 (or maybe 5) for me today. I had some slight twinging yesterday but all quiet so far today. Woke up very thirsty. I’m obsessively checking my symptoms for the month I fell pregnant. If I get more twinging and a twitchy eye today (yes seriously..) I’ll convince myself it’s worked..! But I didn’t really record any proper symptoms until 8DPO last time - that’s when I felt definite cramping and twinging and felt hot. Just gotta be patient...

@Lowkeyloopy My family will definitely clock on, if it wasn't for my CP they might not of. They respect that we want to keep it quiet though and not keep asking. It does put more pressure on like you said @Flopsy88

I'm on 11DPO today and I've been so tired. I've also had very slight cramps, but maybe I'm overthinking too much. I'm so tempted to test in the morning, although I know I really shouldn't.

Hope everyone's had a nice Sunday.

Oh I missed that it was your family - I read it as your DP’s family for some reason. My DP’s fam probably wouldn’t think about it / be interested in what I was drinking, but my fam might. Might be the same with yours! Good that they wouldn’t ask questions though. I ended up telling my mum about the MC as it was helpful to talk to her, and it gave me an opportunity to say “so FYI we won’t be making any announcements anytime soon and it might take longer than hoped”, so in a weird way telling her we were TTC has made her less likely to ask about our plans and make me feel pressured. But it’s so personal isn’t it - depends on what the fam are like and your relationship as to what they would do and how you’d feel about them knowing.

Oh I would be so tempted to test too! When is AF due? Are you going to wait until she hopefully doesn’t show?

My DP keeps saying he doesn’t like how sex is ‘planned’...

I’m like the clue of planned pregnancy is in the name. Soz.

Also can anyone please explain to me why my temp shot straight up this morning? I don’t understand bbt at all but I’ve been doing it every morning (I missed one day last Sunday)

@Lowkeyloopy it definitely helps telling close people doesn't it, but it's also so hard to do. I'm close to my family but don't talk to them about private things normally.

AF is due on Wednesday. I normally have 28 day cycles but this is my first one after my CP so god knows. I probably will test first thing in the morning.

Anyone else due AF soon (sorry I've lost track!)

@CMcA21 If you’ve been taking your temp every day as soon as you wake up, around the same time, that spike is a sign you’ve ovulated! That’s good - it’s what you’re looking for 🙂 Maybe get in one more DTD today to really cover yourselves - the egg lasts 12-24 hours. But it’s really the DTD in the lead up to ovulation that matters. So your DP will be off the hook soon!

It is tricky keeping it spontaneous isn’t it! I had to remind myself not to wave the positive OPK in his face this month! Tried more of a “FYI - you may get lucky later” approach - made it a bit less clinical!

Ooh keeping fingers crossed for your test tomorrow then! Let us know how you get on! X

Sorry @ItsMeantToBe that was meant for you obviously!

Thanks for all the advice on supplements. Its a bloody minefield. Still quite new to all this so trying to get my head around it all.
So AF is 4 days late now and ive had 2 negative tests.. my body is playing some silly games.

@Lowkeyloopy so we DTD Thursday night around midnight and then last night around the same time so Friday/Saturday, I’ll tell him we will do it again tonight and see what happens. Will see what my temps saying tomorrow, should it still be high tomorrow?

Also sorry for the other question @Lowkeyloopy but from that chart have I ovulated day 11 or day 12? I thought it’s the day your temp goes up? But not sure

Hang on sorry, day 13 or 14?

@CMcA21 Lol maybe try just pouncing him rather than telling him, if he’s feeling a bit put out by the lack of spontaneity!

Once you’ve had a higher temp for three days post ovulation, that suggests you ovulated. I use fertility friend, which puts red crosshairs on your chart after three days of high temps to show the day you ovulated and what your average temps were before ovulation. Your temps should stay above the cover line (the horizontal line) after ovulation even if
you’re not pregnant, then they start dropping if AF is on her way. It’s not a perfect science of course - lots of things can change your temps and everyone’s different.

Some people notice an implantation dip - where your temp drops a little when implantation happens. Though that can happen in non-pregnant charts too because of estrogen increase I think. So no need to worry if your temp dips one day. Also it’ll be lower if you take it earlier in the morning.

Have attached my chart to help explain! My temps were a bit weird pre ovulation - I think I took them at the wrong times / after drinking water.

I’m hoping today’s dip is implantation 🤦🏻‍♀️

Chart now attached

@CMcA21 you’re looking for three days of high temps in a row, so if they stay high now, I would say you ovulated on CD13. I think it’s normal to get a temp dip when you ovulate as the egg is released, then the temp rise happens after the egg has released (though the egg could still be bopping along doing its thing at that point as it survives 12-24 hours). You can see that on my chart - the vertical line is ovulation day. I think that’s right anyway - if others have other thoughts please do chip in!

But don’t worry too much about the precise timing of ovulation @CMcA21 - you’ve DTD a couple of times during your FW so you’ve done it at the right time!

@Lowkeyloopy wow thanks for explaining it to me, I honestly can’t decipher all the different info online. This is literally the problem
I have. I was like ‘ok so we can start having sex on Friday and continue until my temp changes 🙂’ so no wonder he feels like I’m scheduling it in. I feel a bit sorry for him because he just wants it to all be natural but my controlling brain won’t allow for it... fab, I’ll keep temping and see what happens and update you all! I wanna give it a couple months just temping then if it doesn’t happen I’ll get some OPKs. Fingers crossed your dip is implantation 🤞🏻 Are you going to test when AF is due?

Well I’ve temped again today and it’s back down... not sure if I’m doing it wrong. I am doing it the same time each morning before I get up? I had EWCM on Saturday too so I really thought I must have ovulated...

Hmm @CMcA21 I’m not sure what to suggest to be honest! Any chance you gulped some water or flung the covers off before you temped?! I find I have to be careful to always hold the thermometer in the same kinda place and in the same way under my tongue too. If I really jam it in, the temp is always higher!

Weird one for me today ladies - my heart rate is going mental! I just had some toast and sat down to work (I wfh) and could feel it beating like crazy! I checked my watch and it was 88. Then it settled a bit, then went up to 94!! My resting heart rate is usually around 60 (it used to be 57 before I got lazy in lockdown 😞). Trying not to read into it. I’m only 7DPO and basically have no other symptoms so I’m searching for something!

@ItsMeantToBe have you tested?!

How is everyone else today?

@CMcA21 tempting seems so confusing to me too. If I don't get a BFP this month I'm going to temp next month.

@Lowkeyloopy I did, it was a BFN but it was just a normal Clearblue test. I thought I had some FRER but haven't. I've got some ones coming from Amazon today. I think I'll try using on of those tomorrow. Still no signs that AF is going to turn up this week, so fingers are still crossed. Have you had any symptoms yet?

@Lowkeyloopy I’m not sure either tbh, I woke up to go the toilet in the night but not sure what time so that could have affected it. We will see. Starting to think the opks are going to be the easiest way to go 😂

When is your AF due? Try not to think about it too much even though I know it’s hard. Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻

@CMcA21 There's so many factors that can affect your temp. I do the same and jam it right under my tongue in the middle, if it's near the edge of my mouth it's lower. Also, if you've had any alcohol the previous night you're supposed to discount it. Could today be the dip for ovulation? Are you on CD14? Hopefully tomorrow it will start rising again. Cervix position is a good indicator too. It should be high and soft around ovulation. EWCM is certainly a good sign and it sounds like you've dtd enough to be covered 🤞🏻

@Lowkeyloopy What does HR tell you? I hadn't thought of tracking that. Is it supposed get faster if you're pregnant? Were you just super excited about your toast? 😂