TTC after MC - new thread for newbies / lurkers on other threads!

[Lowkeyloopy]

Hi all!

I know there are several threads dedicated to this topic, which I've lurked on for several weeks without saying anything, but some threads (sadly) have so many people on them that it can be a bit hard to follow, or it feels awkward to jump into the middle of a conversation between people who have been chatting for a while. Does anyone fancy joining me on a new thread?

My story: 33, TTC baby #1, conceived first cycle in Feb, but had a MC at 6 weeks in early March. Absolutely awful, as everyone knows, and I was in a rubbish place mentally for a few weeks, but I've also counted my blessings - it was early, I needed no medical intervention and at least I know I can conceive. Also AF has returned today - 29 days after first day of my MC. I usually have a 28-29 day cycle so am so grateful that my body seems to be getting with the programme again.

So CD1 for me, and I'll be TTC this month and back to tracking - BBT from tomorrow, OPKs from CD 11, still taking my Pregnacare and trying to keep exercising and eating healthily!

Would anyone like to join me if they're going through something similar? How have you been coping since your MC? What's on your TTC to-do list?! (Other than the obvious..!)

Baby dust to all xx

@ItsMeantToBe im currently 13DPO but petrified of testing due to previously chem preg/MC!

How about u?

@Lowkeyloopy oh no bless you! Hope youre feeling okay and fingers crossed for you xx

Glad your feeling better @Flopsy88. I've been doing the same and lying with my legs in the air after DTD so I'm surprised I haven't had a UTI too!

@Flopsy88 I haven't had any symptoms yet. I keep overthinking it and with every little twinge I thinking it's ovulation pain, but I'm pretty sure it's just in my head. It's good that your looking to this month. I've enjoyed charting this month but still find it so confusing. Next month I'll know what to expect more and hopefully Premom will learn my patterns a bit more. I'm definitely going to order more CB digital tests too. I ran out of them on CD14 in the morning when it was still a flashing smiley 😫. My charts are all over the place but I'm thinking I ovulated on CD14/15. We only DTD on CD10, 13 14 and 15 so fingers crossed. I'm planning on testing on 19DPO, judging by my luteal phase last month I'll be due on that day but as my cycles are normally shorter it's a complete guess. I don't know if I'll be able to hold off that long though.

@Msd2416 I completely understand the anxiety! When is AF due?

Hey,

I hope you don't all mind me asking you a question? I'm very confused atm and I don't really know where else to ask!

My last period was the 9th May, I did a test yesterday and today and I feel like they're coming up super super faint? I've convinced myself they're negative though. Surely it's an odd time in my cycle to be getting a faint positive? My heads abit scrabbled, I find tests so hard to read and feel like I start to get line eyes from looking at them for so long 😭 can anyone help? (Sorry to gate crash this thread) thank you!

@flowermil

Do you perhaps have a pic of the test you can share?

@flowermil do you have a pic hun? Does seem really early xxx

[quote Msd2416]@flowermil do you have a pic hun? Does seem really early xxx[/quote]
@AlittleOCD

Hey,

I only have a photo from yesterday. I've attached it below, the first test is an ovulation test the other two are pregnancy tests, I feel like I can see it on the middle one but I probably just have line eyes



Sorry @flowermil the image isn't loading on my end. Seems a little strange that there might be a positive pregnancy test a week after AF but hey.. There are edge cases that we don't know about

@ALittleOCD

Sorry I think I uploaded it wrong. It won't seem to let me upload a photo atm 😫 I don't even think I've ovulated yet!

CD1 again for me... please let this month be my month 😭🤞🏻

Hey @flowermil, if you’re new to MN I think you have to wait for 24 hours before they let you post pictures. Was your AF on 9 May at the usual time or delayed / early? Was it normal or v light? Any chance it could be implantation bleeding? Happy to lend line eyes when you can post!

@Msd2416 Totally get that anxiety! Have you had any symptoms at all?

@Flopsy88 So sorry to hear about your crappy week, but hopefully all the fun fertile week hormones will kick in soon and leaving you feeling a lot more positive! What are your weekend plans?

So sorry @justwant2beamum ! Cruel AF. Be kind to yourself, and enjoy your weekend. Your month will come! Anything you’re planning to do differently next month?

Fertility Friend decided this morning that I am 3DPO, and put ovulation on the day I got my peak even though my temp had already spiked a little by then - it then went up further in the last 3 days. The peak coinciding with O is consistent with the last few months, including the month I conceived. So weird when everything I read says that O happens 24-36 hours after the peak! I like to think my body is just super efficient, haha.

I met my best friend’s baby girl yesterday and oh my god the cuteness! It’s lovely to feel no bitterness towards this particular friend despite struggling a little with more recent pregnancy announcements from other friends. She was quite far into her pregnancy when I had my MC and she was a wonderful support. I remember like it was yesterday her excited text showing me the two lines on the test - and now those two lines are a beautiful baby! I guess we all need to hold onto that reminder when the TTC journey feels long and the waiting is such a killer.. luck can change in an instant and our babies may be just around the corner.

@Lowkeyloopy No nothing i've had cramping for the past few days tbh but im just assuming thats AF coming. Due Sunday x

Hi @Flopsy88 I’ve gone ahead and applied for a few positions and have some interviews lined up next week!

Due on AF tomorrow, so won’t be as upsetting as it usually is if she comes!

Is anyone else due to test soon?

@Lowkeyloopy

Hey, I think so. I'll try and post the photos tomorrow maybe!

AF was late (I think?) but I haven't really been tracking it too well. It seems to be abit all over the place at the mo but my cycles are usually around 33 days long now. It didn't seem any different than usual, the flow was the same. Me and my partner did the deed around the end of AF and then around a week later I started to get faint cramps that I've never had before. Maybe I'm just thinking too much into it though I'm really not sure, I try to not think about it too much because it can take over your brain if that's makes sense

Oh for crying out loud, I’m confused... I’ve just had two quite sharp crampy twinges towards the middle but slightly more on the left hand side. Left hand side would make sense for ovulation pain as last month it was the right hand side. But I’m meant to be 3 DPO! I’m CD16 and got my temp spike CD14. It’s definitely not bloating, gas etc - most definitely uterine type pain.

For those of you who normally get “mittelschmerz” ovulation pain, where do you normally get it and when? Could it be after ovulation? Please save me from obsessive googling!

Hi ladies, sorry I’ve been so absent, I got a bit dejected waiting so long for my BFN after the mva so took a break… I’m now somewhere in the TWW, not really sure how many DPO.

So sorry to everyone who’s had a loss/another loss/AF since I was last on here. I hope you’re all looking after and being kind to yourselves.

@Lowkeyloopy, I normally get mittelschmerz as a sharp one off pain, but I’ve read it can last a couple of days…

@Flopsy88 I’ve applied and got an interview for 11th June. Cross your fingers for me.

I’m also CD6. Well as it’s midnight now technically 7 but you know... my cycles seem to be longer according to Flo I’ll ovulate in 10 days. So when should I start DTD do we think? I’m waiting on cheap OPKs coming 😊

So sorry to hear that AF arrived @justwant2beamum it’s so shit.

My periods have been more like when I was a teenager since the MC. Even when I was off the pill my periods all seemed light and more like a hormonal withdrawal bleed than an actual period... but now they are full blown period. No period pains whatsoever this month though which was odd. Just felt groggy and a bit bloated.

Good luck to anyone testing ❤️ Let us know!

Good luck for the interviews @Aila1994 @CMcA21!

Im confused - I think I’m 8dpo today, though it could be 7dpo (CB OPK first peak day was CD14 so ovulation should have been CD15. I had ovulation pain on CD14 but my cheapie OPKs didn’t go positive until CD15, which would match with CB…) but I’ve been getting bouts of nausea for a couple of days now… I just think it must be too early or maybe the nausea is just in my head Anyone else had this?

@CMcA21 how long are your cycles now? I read that DTD in the days before ovulation gives a better chance of conceiving as the sperm are ready and waiting for the egg 😊 but not sure what that means for when you should start…

Hi all, hope you're having good and relaxing weekends. 5DPO for me today. Feeling stupidly emotional for no reason! Obviously not a symptom at this stage - think I've just overtired and haaaaate the TWW.

Welcome back @bea19 - good idea to have a break from MN! TTC can feel so all consuming sometimes. I had slight nausea at 9 DPO last month (not PG, though do wonder if it was a chemical) and at 10 DPO the month I conceived (a couple of days before a BFP). So jury's out as to whether that's just something I just get because of hormone fluctuations around that time! I really hope it means something for you! Are you planning to test or wait for AF?

@Aila1994 @CMcA21 good luck for the interviews! It's exciting to hear that life is moving on in ways other than TTC - so good to have something else to put your energy into!

@CmcA21, you're trying OPKs for the first time this month aren't you? I would aim to DTD every other day after AF is finished. Then every day for a few days once you get your peak. You could just wait until you get your peak and start DTD then, but if it's your first time with OPKs you perhaps don't want the stress of worrying if you've missed your peak - you don't know yet if you're someone who will get lots of notice, with lines gradually getting darker, or someone (like me) who goes from low to peak to a matter of hours! Every other day will have you covered either way. As @bea19 says, it's the days before ovulation that are the days to target for DTD.

@Lowkeyloopy Sorry to hear you’re feeling emotional- the TWW is a strain isn’t it? I’ve decided to test rather than wait for AF. I decided that even though I’d be devastated if I had another loss, I would rather know given the (broken) system means women can’t get specialist care for miscarriage until they have had three in a row 😢. So for me, I would want to know in the hope that I can get care more quickly if i unfortunately have more losses (I’m 37 so time is not on my side) but we all need to do what’s best for us and our mental health.

Tommy’s have a petition running at the moment to try and change the system so we can get care without having to have so many losses. I’ll try to share the link for anyone who would like to sign. actions.tommys.org/a/miscarriage-petition?utm_source=google&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_campaign=miscarriage-lancet&utm_content=&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI3fzasM_g8AIVAhoGAB0O0AaWEAAYASAAEgKtsvD_BwE

Hi ladies,

Sorry to hear AF showed her ugly faced @justwant2beamum fingers crossed for next month for you. I hope you've had lots of yummy treats and a nice hot bath.

@Msd2416 any sign of AF yet?

@CMcA21 good luck with the interview! It's good to have that to focus on too. I've applied for a promotion at work so hoping to get an interview for that🤞.

@bea19 welcome back. Hope you're feeling ok. I've never really suffered from nausea but hopefully it's a good sign for you!

@Lowkeyloopy the TWW is super emotional isn't it. Just be kind to yourself and have some chocolate and plenty of rest.

So I assumed I'd hit my peak around CD14/15 but carried on doing OPK's anyway and look at this! Can't believe I'm ovulating on CD21, it's obviously going to be a long cycle for me again. DH has currently got heart burn but he's going to have to suck it up and DTD 😂. Gutted we didn't DTD yesterday, but do you think today and tomorrow will do?

Thanks @Bea19 - I've just signed and shared with the one friend who knows about my MC! Women's health issues are so underfunded and under-researched. If men had MCs there is no way they would be told to go through that before it was investigated.

I know what you mean re wanting to know about a MC. I wonder if they would count chemicals though. I'm also still not sure what counts as a chemical/early loss and what counts as a MC?

@ItsMeantToBe That's so strange! Looks like that peak came out of nowhere. Did your temp spike around 14/15? Can't see those temps on your pics, but it looks like your temp was a bit up and down since then and may have spiked today? I reckon get offline and get on it to catch the egg! You DTD on 21 May too by the looks of it so that might be enough anyway! Good luck!

My temp on CD14 was 36.26 and 15 was 36.13, so average really. It was lower yesterday at 35.88 and then higher today at 36.41, which is my highest recorded temp. God knows. I read somewhere that if you have a short luteal phase it can sometimes be too little time for implantation which can cause MC's (I've probably done a bad job of explaining that). In that case I'm hoping for a long cycle now!

I've signed that partition a few weeks ago. It's crazy that we have to go through it 3 times before getting help.

@ItsMeantToBe looks like tonight could be the ticket - best get DH a Rennies 😂

@Lowkeyloopy yes, I wondered whether they make distinctions based on when a loss occurred in terms of the ‘3 consecutive losses before you can get care’ but the NICE guidance doesn’t make any mention of gestation so unsure - may be decided locally (very unhelpful for us if that’s the case).