TTC first baby (dc1) after MC

[justwant2beamum]

Hello, I know there are similar threads for TTC after miscarriage/loss, but I thought it would be good to have a thread for those trying for their first baby. Personally, I know a few friends who've sadly had MC but they were all pregnancy number 2 having already had a healthy baby on first pregnancy. All 3 are now pregnant again which gives me hope but I can't help but be stressed/worry if I will ever have a healthy pregnancy and be able to carry a baby to full term. So I feel like I'm in a slightly different position to those TTC after loss who already have babies. I hope that isn't insensitive. Hopefully there are others TTC their first and we can support eachother.

My story is 27yo, came off pill sept 2020. Pregnant January 2021, had a scan at 7 weeks, dated 7+1 and saw a HB. Had a scan at 9+4 and baby hadn't grown and no HB so MMC. Had surgical management so ERPC on 5th March. I have just finished bleeding earlier this week snd trying straight away before first period. 🤞🏻

@TiffanyAR Thanks for sharing... Glad that the scan went good, hopefully you will see more as the baby grows ❣️ i am also 31, history if pcos in my 20s but not anymore... Just good to know you can maybe get some additional check! Definitely good for you! :)

@EsseKey i think 3 is standard thats what my doctors said too but my EPU were amazing and said if I jsut told the doctors a little white lie and siad i was spotting when i finally get pregnant again I will get referred to the EPU and can have an early scan that way, a little naughty but as it was the midwifes at the EPU that recommended doing it I will do so when i finally get pregnant again.

Little update - I had a tiny amount of pink on wiping when i went to the toilet, so not sure if that is the start of AF or if I ovulated later than i thought and it is implantion bleeded, guess I will know within 24 if it is AF. FIngers crossed, I have 2 more pregnancy tests at home but trying to wait until friday to do them

@MrsF111 that's true also in my case at the epu they were amazing and told me to call them directly if I had any concern... I think that we can feel justified to have a little additional check, given our past mc...
In my case i found out about my upcoming mc during a private scan, they have also been amazing and willing to repeat the scan for free every week until needed, It made me feel heard and reassured that someone was actually caring for me!

I keep all my fingers crossed for you!!

@EsseKey that’s really good of them! Makes such a big difference. With my first MC the hospital were awful, so uncaring and it made it even worse, switched hospitals for the second and they were amazing. Will defo be going back to that one next time

Struggling today still no AF, still getting a BFN

On no @MrsF111 I am so sorry to hear that... I can feel your pain, the uncertainty... It must be very hard! If I could help, I would! Feel free to share anything you want, we are here to listen

Hang in there @MrsF111

Thanks ladies, it’s so nice to have this thread and to be able to speak to people who just get it. It’s such a rollercoaster of emotions

@MrsF111 hope you are feeling a bit better today?

@EsseKey a little better thank you, nearly the weekend and I’ve got lots planned so hopefully that will take my mind off it, will do another test tomorrow morning and if that’s negative just put it out of my mind (somehow?!) and enjoy a glass of wine and try to relax.

How are you getting on?

@MrsF111 I think having something planned and to look forward to is the best strategy to cope... so I hope you will have a nice and not too stressful weekend! :)

on my side, a lot of things happened since yesterday! Where to start...
I have been going on testing with the ovulation strips just because I wanted to see how the full LH pattern looked like for me over a full cycle... well, since a couple of day I noticed the test line getting a little darker and I knew this could be a cross reaction with hCG, so I did a pregnancy strip. I could see a very faint line, but honestly it was so faint that I was almost sure it wasn't actually there. So this morning I decided to take an ultra early CB test and got a BPF! However it is still so so early that I am still convinced that it is probably a chemical, or that I will have another mc, etc.... for some reason I can't be fully happy with that!
Plus, I was invited to have my covid jab today - I have no idea why, as I am not in the current age group, but I guess they had enough pfizer doses to give to pregnant women, and I was still down as pregnant from earlier this year maybe?! - I am fully informed about vaccines, I know risks/benefits and all the science behind it as it is part of my job, but when it comes to me personally I have been so anxious for something bad to happen to the new pregnancy because of the vaccine, even if I have no reason for believing it!
So hey, rollercoaster of emotions again...I should be happy but I am not!

BFP not BPF of course

@EsseKey oh thats sounds like it could be amazing news!!! But i know what you mean about being worried about a chemical and it being early days but I have everything crossed that line keeps getting darker!

Yep I am completely with you on the vacinne - in my head I know I should have it and its totally safe etc but I cant help but worry about anything upsetting my body...I think its natural after everything we have been through

Hey @EsseKey - how are you?! Has your bfp got stronger over the weekend 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you and hoping this is your time 💕

@MrsF111 did you test again on Friday?!

My update is I had that strange bleed for like 12 days (only when I wiped) so god knows what happened?!

Then yesterday I got a very positive opk so DTD yesterday and again today to see if this month could be my mouth 🤞🏻🤞🏻 xx

How's everyone getting on? I'm CD14 and no signs of ovulation :( think anovulatory month for me 😢😢 honestly just feeling like crap now. This is cycle 8, cycle 4 post mc. I felt like I'd pulled myself out of the mc hole a bit and was being more positive but I really thought it would happen by now. How's this fair that some of us go through so much and others fall with every child first time or not trying etc. 😩 sorry just being a bit mopey tonight. Just fed up and so sad.

Hey @justwant2beamum

I'm on month 10 since TTC (cycle 2 after miscarriage) and on CD 24 - I already feel I'm out this month as I don't feel any different at all!!

AF due on Monday so will wait and see what happens!Xx

@Lynne425 🤞🏻🤞🏻 for you

Hey @justwant2beamum unfortunately AF showed up early on Saturday! So onto the next cycle for me.

I've ordered some of the conceive plus fertility support supplements to see if that makes any difference this month

I just feel my body is broken now and don't know what to do x

Aw sorry @Lynne425 it's so hard isn't it. I never ever imagined TTC could be so hard/draining emotionally. I'm 5dpo and not feeling any different so not expecting much this month 😩

@justwant2beamum I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!!xx