Egg hunters vs the virgin wife - find the BFP - TTC bus 36

[Minster2012]

Ok so we need to get back to us ladies, back to fun games, POAS & getting fit, but you need to help me Cos Minster is flagging with a fuck boy body worse than the rest 🥺

Guess what...it’s nearly Easter & know what that means! 🐰🐣...We don’t want the 🐰to have the fun but bloody hell sometimes it’s a f*cling egg hunt all right 🙈🤣.

March and April we’ve got a lot of exciting times ahead with people going for Clomid & IVF as well as a lot of straight up sex for the “normal” TTC gang so let’s get shagging & FIND THOSE 🐣🌈.

We are still working on our spring challenges alongside trying to get pregnant and we’ve had great results so far- feel free to have a catch up on those and add your own.

And we are still helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

One for March

Let’s go go go!

@madeoftea hahaha apologies! I've done a fish pie from scratch for tea but it's got loads of veggies in it, can't bloody wait tbh, I want aaalllllllll the carbs lol xx

@lucyrp @Gem176 I love this whole wedding/marriage/houses chat!! Before my OH met me he never wanted a child or marriage😂 because his dad is a serial proposer and has had 4 divorces and 2 children from 2 different women (one being OH's mum who he didn't marry), and is currently engaged again, so I think OH was put off, but since being with me he can't wait to be a dad and always says "when we get married", but then also jokes that I have to wait 16 years until he'll propose😂 I'm not overly bothered about when we get married but I can't wait to change my name (my dads dad was an arsehole so my dad always says he wouldn't blame me for changing my name to my mums maiden name, and my parents are still together) I'd happily have a long engagement but if I get married I'd have a BIG beach wedding, all our families, on the beach, the works!! We currently live in OH's house that he's owned for 7 years now, and actively looking for our first one together, so hoping we find the house this year just in time for starting to TTC again in December/January time!

@Kirky658 love that!! Bless him! You've also made me really want jam doughnuts!!

@lucyrp yes!! Love a baby belly in a dress. I always said I'd love yto be pregnant in summer so I can wear lovely dresses and show off the bump... Although my style is more of a flowy tiered dress but definitely birkenstocks! God I'm looking forward to the warmer weather 🌞⛱️🍓🍦

@madeoftea ohh it's hard with so many around being pregnant. I had 3 friends due around my would be due date so that's been so hard to watch because it should have been me too (I completely understand those feelings) and the 2 friends who are 13weeks & 7weeks are also my work colleagues. So there's alot of FOMO going around & I'm impatient too. It will be our turn soon lovely 💕 we'll have our rainbows 🌈

@kirky685 ohhh I fancied fish pie today too. I've got a fancy shop one for the oven for my tea tomorrow 👍🏻 look at you giving us all the cravings lol

Loving the chat on here today! If kids are in the pic then I'm 100% backing marriage though I will say! It's usually our pensions and careers that take a hit when kids are in the picture and I'd be so cheesed off if eg OH got to bugger off with all the benefits and me not being able to swipe my part of his assets and pension 🤣. It's just good financial planning for me!

@Juno231 that's the way I see it too, my friend's partner left her a couple of years ago, out of the blue, when she was a sahm to their boys, like that all of the sudden, moved out in two days notice, gave her a couple of hundreds of pounds a month for the boys and she had to figure out life while heartbroken, of course there was another woman

Couldn't resist...ive retested tonight on a good 6 hour hold...I can defo see more of a line than yesterday's fmu and this late mornings smu. I mean, it's not as dark as Thursdays line but I'm relieved for now that atleast I can see a line. 🤞🤞🤞 Still going to speak to GP Monday though just to be sure :) xxx

Yay, that’s excellent @Hopeful110!

Just gonna dip in! I'm so boring on the whole marriage/pension houses thing!

I've always had good financial planning & being careful with money drilled into me early... so been careful. Luckily my DH is good, when we Met he suggested putting me as the beneficiary of his pension early for instance.

Cos diagnosed early with late stage cancer I have had a will since young but as I've always been in sales I have no pension, no critical illness when I was diagnosed & I'd just sold my house so no CI on that. No sick pay. Marriage is /was important to me (us) as in, we were waiting til we were married to have kids, but now I regret waiting for children, as it meant we lost our chance. Don't worry about that but make sure you are looked after financially. Even married I have a friend who is screwed financially in a divorce Cos of the way they were set up financially.

Anyway, my brother isn't married to his girlfriend & they have a child but she has a stake in his house & finances. I think it's boringly important. "Common law wife" does NOT exist.

Ps @Juno231 my brother in London is doing his remortgage after his fixed term has run out and he too has found out they have some bad cladding 😬and they want to put it on the market

@Hopeful110 yesssss that's brilliant let's hope so much for you! Xxxx

@hopeful110 yayyy that's good news, got everything crossed for you beaut ❤️

@sausage1990 I am literally our groups craving queen today aren't i🤣 the fish pie if I do say so myself was banging

@Haiyaa @minster2012 thankyou both!! I really hope and pray this bean holds on! Xxx

@Kirky658 thanks darling! I really hope it is good news!! Xxx

Love coming back to a bfp after time off! @Hopeful110 everything crossed!

@Minster2012 the title 😂

@Hopeful110 yay great news! Hope your line goes from strength to strength now 😘

Loving all the marriage and other chat on here today feels like it has lifted the mood ☺️

@Hopeful110 aww yay!! That sounds positive hope it’s a sticky bean in there for you.

@Minster2012 I am also boring on the marriage pension side of things and also been a financial planner from a young age. How are you doing?

@Sausage1990 rooting for you the whole way!! Completely get the FOMO but hope your rainbow is just around the corner.

I don't remember who said wanted marriage but not a wedding, I hate weddings so I didn't have one, went to the register office with my friend and her boyfriend in trousers and a top, no rings, no flowers, sign the papers, job done, you know the interview they do before when you book the ceremony, no flowers, no rings, no music, no guests, we had a job and a half to convince the register that it wasn't a sham wedding, I think they only allowed cos they couldn't figure out how anybody had anything to gain, apart from the normal marriage things obviously 😂🙄

@minster2012 I'm also a forward planner! Started work at 16 and started saving straight away. Pension is rubbish tho as like you never really worked in a role where it offers an amazing one. But we are very fortunate to have plenty of savings even after buying the house last year. DH being a teacher gets an amazing pension which is deffo a plus. I think I always wanted to get married before having kids, just a personal choice thing isn't it really. It was always my idea of how to 'do things right'. We lived together for 2 years before DH proposed as well so we'd had chance to share bills etc but didn't share bank accounts till after we got married. It was a bit of an adjustment but it's all fine now 👍

@franklydear your post came up after I posted mine so I missed it! That's so lovely how casual it was though. We had such a big day, over 70 guests but hardly any extras at night because everyone lived so far away. It was mostly DH's family as he has a much larger family than me. I didn't want a big wedding originally with loads of people I'd never met - on a beach in the sand was my thing but my parents and grandparents couldn't travel - but I have to say, I loved every minute of our big day. I just remember tumbling into bed with DH after midnight with our room service feast, turning to him and saying "that was the best, most fun day I've had in years". Everyone said that all the day was about was the love between us and that it wasn't a showy day at all. And I loved that ❤️

@Kirky658 sure it was, everyone has to choose what works for them, I avoid weddings, unless you are related to me or DH makes me go, made a faux pass in October, our friends wedding got cancelled, and I said, only to DH, thank fuck for that, I really don't want to go, so he got crossed, he's not fuss about weddings so he would have done a big do if I had wanted it, but as none of us did, there was really no need, we did wanted to be married so, perfect

I always wanted to marry before having kids and then have two children. Getting pregnant at 16 wasn't my plan but wouldn't change it for the world and of course that has changed my life plan now. I see that as my practise run and this time i will do it properly 🙈 have also thought about just going to a registrar office and doing it that way and then doing the whole party etc thing when we have money in like 10 years ! Pension wise pretty sure I only have 2k in mine 😭🤣

I love hearing people's different opinions on weddings and marriage etc, when I was younger I always had hope that I'd meet someone, be with them 3/4 years then have 2 children by the time I was 25, then marriage, but life works very differently when it actually gets to it! Here I am 24 and no children and I'm fine with that, I've always wanted to be a young mum and I know I still have the time, and just looking forward to making more memories with OH and hopefully be in our new home before a baby arrives!!

Ahhh loving hearing everyone's stories! I'm similar with forward planning we've planned since we were about 18 🙈
I was always for marriage, my mum and dad had a really loving marriage, they adored each other til the day she died and he still does. DH on the other hand was never enthusiastic about marriage, his mum and dad were 18 when they had him hence a shotgun wedding, they separated when he was young and got dragged through it which has been quite damaging for him. Remembering your nan slashing your dads tyres is probably not the one 🙈😆

Similar to you @Kirky658 we had quite a big day. We had planned on a small occasion but both our large families live anywhere between 50-9,000 miles away it would have to be a big affair and a mini holiday for some. DHs family came from
Australia, families took over all the local hotels and one of the nicest things was to see how excited and happy everyone was for us, just a day full of love.

I never wanted a wedding. I hate being looked at. I was never bothered about marriage that much. Until I got older. But I never wanted to do it more than once so would never have rushed.
With DH I said I wanted to be married before children. I wanted to do it properly. I didn't think he'd ever ask and a few friends got married and I really did want it. I hate attending weddings but my best friends was ok. That's the only one though.
I wanted to get married abroad. Beach and easy with no people. 🤣 DH wanted to have family come and do it here. We looked at venues and then would decide. But we kind of got swept along with it. I felt easier about it after being bridesmaid at my friends wedding, but my dad was also ill, so that was a factor. We had it here. Not big - about 45 in the day and 70 at night. The planning was stressful but that was more down to other people. However I put up with no crap. I also lost a friend over it (no real idea what that was over). The actual day was amazing though and I wouldn't change it for the world! The venue was quaint (think cottage) and lovely little gardens for photos. It really suited what we wanted and I felt comfortable. But I was adamant it would be what we wanted and we weren't swayed by others. I am really pleased I experienced it and I can't describe how it felt. We got married less than 10 months after getting engaged so we didn't waste ages, we aren't getting any younger! But obviously now I'm wondering if we should had put off ttc! The wedding was amazing though and the honeymoon was too, and we wouldn't have got that if we'd had a baby. So? It is what it is.