Egg hunters vs the virgin wife - find the BFP - TTC bus 36

[Minster2012]

Ok so we need to get back to us ladies, back to fun games, POAS & getting fit, but you need to help me Cos Minster is flagging with a fuck boy body worse than the rest 🥺

Guess what...it’s nearly Easter & know what that means! 🐰🐣...We don’t want the 🐰to have the fun but bloody hell sometimes it’s a f*cling egg hunt all right 🙈🤣.

March and April we’ve got a lot of exciting times ahead with people going for Clomid & IVF as well as a lot of straight up sex for the “normal” TTC gang so let’s get shagging & FIND THOSE 🐣🌈.

We are still working on our spring challenges alongside trying to get pregnant and we’ve had great results so far- feel free to have a catch up on those and add your own.

And we are still helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

One for March

Let’s go go go!

@bez91 yours is literally like me and my OH, my mum and dad have been married 28 years this year and have an amazing marriage, I've always wanted a relationship like them, whereas my OHs parents were 17 when they had him and his dad pissed off when he was 1, his mum met her husband when OH was 3 though so he's seen that marriage but also seen 4 failed marriages from his dad so he's never been overly enthusiastic about marriage!

Ahhh loving all the wedding stories 💕 me & DH wanted a medium wedding that ended up being bigger due to family & friends travelling in. A wedding in Chapel was really important for me and we had the ceremony on the Chapel my grandparents & my parents got married at 💕 my mum and aunty, and me & my sister were christened in the same Chapel too so it just felt really special. People wise we 80 in the day and then extra in the night - I think about 110 ish people!!! So many people!!! We were lucky we had help financially from both parents as we have huge families and we all just got swept up on it (parents included). I don't regret any of the choices tho as it was so special having all of our friends & family there 😊 we got married after 10yrs, as I'd focused on getting my degree & career settled, then got out house and then wedding. I very much wanted a honeymoon without children so babies was always the plan after marriage.

I've had a lovely evening watching the Rugby with a picky tea (although Wales lost 😢 it was a brilliant game) and enjoying some cured meats, pate & prosecco incase I get my BFP in a few days. Haha 😉🥂

Hi everyone just jumping on quickly to check on you all.

@Ltay2 massive congratulations Evan is beautiful.

@Hopeful110 fingers are truly crossed for you.

Loving the wedding chat I always assumed I would meet someone be with them a couple year then marriage kids. Well after coming out of 2 emotionally abusive relationships I met hubby what I thought would be a one night stand 🙈 2 weeks later he moved in and 6 weeks later we were pregnant with our first who will be 9 this year. When she was 6 months I organised our wedding in 4 weeks and it was a lovely day. He will never know how much he saved me best friend forever me and hubby. Xx

@Dollybird89 sorry still no Af hope your holding up ok.

Hope everybody has a good weekend. I'm back to work tomorrow after 3 weeks off, wish me goodluck. Xx

Good luck at work today @DJmum83, make sure you take plenty of breaks where you can and make sure you eat and drink regularly!

We had quite a big wedding as like others, our families aren’t local so had to book places to stay. We had around 125 people and a beautiful church wedding by the coast followed by a super chill reception with lots of good food and I still dream about my wedding cake 🎂 4 tiers, one of them was maple bacon and it was outstanding! Other three, chocolate with a brownie layer in the middle, cherry bakewell, and lemon. We also got DD’s first birthday cake from the same lady and hope to do the same again for this one.

I think I need to join the “bad sleep club” woke up at 6am today and 6:30am yesterday on the WEEKEND. Feel like I’ve had a full night sleep too. I think I’m getting a bit apprehensive about FRER arriving 😂

@sausage1990 that plate of nibbles soooooo appeals to me, jealous!!!!

Awful sleep here too. Keep getting pain in my bum cheeks - think it's like sciatica - overnight and just can't get back to sleep. Going to try and buy a pregnancy pillow to see if that helps 😔

@DJmum83 aww thanks lovely! Good luck back at work, im dreading it when retail can open again, it's gonna be hard on my feet for 10hrs a day again after nearly 4months off.

On the marriage discussion, I always wanted to get married when I was younger, but my parents were together for 18years then married when I was like 11 and then split 9 months later lol so marriage to me now isn't something I feel I need to do, and OH was adopted and his dad and his wife separated after the adoption went though, OH was a handful I've been told and she couldn't handle him. So OH has never wanted to get married and that's fine by me, although we are engaged but that's as close as it gets to getting married for us. Ad we have been together for 9years in July. 🥰 his hard work and not emotional at all but I love him 😍 haha!

I'm finally joining the GOOD sleep club as I only woke once in the night as OH woke to go to the loo and I went back to sleep and then woke at 6🤪 think the answer is to go to bed later but not sure I can keep myself awake that long! Normally go at 8 and then by midnight 1am ish I'm awake tossing and turning until the morning😴

Morning ladies,

Loving the wedding chat. We had quite a small day with 40 guests in a little church then the evening was just a big party with 150 guests but I have a lot of family. As much as I wasn’t keen on a big day it worked for us and it was actually the best day ever. ☺️

@lucyrp glad you managed to sleep better last night.

@DJmum83 I hope you get on alright at work.

Lovely wedding chat - were not far off our 4 year wedding anniversary (although have been together 15 years) - I wasn't really that bothered about a wedding but it ended up being fairly big - about 100 people and it was an incredible day - really relaxed and a big party!

It was DH who wanted to make sure we were married before kids - it didn't bother me! We're fairly similar earners though so on a pretty equal footing.

Like @Minster2012 I think it's very important to make sure you're set up financially - women so often get screwed over by men who go from normal loving partners to toxic dickheads that I think it's so important.

I've gone and got all morbid after last week's hospital visit so we're now trying to think about wills and life insurance and who would we give DS to if the worst happened. Adulting is not always fun!

Although I was a really awkward teen so on balance I do prefer being an adult!

Morning ladies & im in the bad sleep club today, well kinda,
I felt awful yesterday so was falling asleep at basically 8.30/9pm drifting off in the chair in and out of dozing so then went to bed, DS didn't have great nights sleep was awake in the night coughing then woke up at 5.45am so yeah we all have bad colds here still & so all feeling mehhhh

@larrythelizard yeah we were similar earners when we met /set up financially so it was good & easy for us (I went in on his house) then when my cancer came back it put more emphasis on him looking after me but taught him we needed to think of all those things whereas I already knew that 🙄😬

Anyway on the wedding I have a small family/friends, like 30 total he has MASSIVE so was about 100, and we did it as a party as I was ill, 2 ceremonies in one day (a humanist one we wrote ourselves with kazoos hidden under chairs for guests to pull out for a song) we exchanged rings in that bit with words we wrote together, then the "legal bit" was a small part so our actual anniversary is legally the same day it was so fun, I did a couple of surprises too.

@Sausage1990 that food looks lush btw

@DJmum83 hope work is ok, make sure you take it steady xx

@lucyrp @Gem176 feeling you on the family issues, though it's really just my mum. They got divorced because of her drinking problem and I was soooo anxious about our wedding but she didn't come luckily. I'm happy my dad re married and had 2 kids a few years ago as it means he gets the life he should have had all those years ago. Mums still a weirdo but I try to stay in contact because she's severed ties with everyone else and I would hate her to be alone at the end. The joys of family!

As for the wedding chat, I'd always wanted a big white wedding but planning it was sooo stressful. The day itself was magic and i wouldn't change anything but I now think I'd also have been happy to save all that money 😂

@DJmum83 haha we were a one night stand that continued too.

@Hopeful110 eek! Let's hope it's a sticky bean 🤞🏼

Yeah families are awkward. I just didn't invite them all. Why people invite family they don't see or get on with, I never get? None of that. 🤣 I also said no children. One of DHs friends refused to come because of that (DH hasn't seen him for years, so in my mind he should think himself lucky to have been invited to the day). His kid is like 15 and DH hasn't seen her since she was little. Fuck them is my answer. They clearly weren't bothered. Yet I had other friends who came, who I thought wouldn't, and even stayed over! The people who want to make an effort will. Regardless. The rest don't matter in my mind. They aren't proper friends! We did try to keep costs down but it still cost over 11k. So no way was I increasing the guest list to keep others happy at my expense.

I think I learned a long time ago that trying to please everyone else gets you nowhere.

Good morning everyone! I have finally ovulated! A week later than expected, I think it was because I had the vaccine. Much celebration this morning - first thing OH said to me was "has your temp gone up?!" I'm going to report it on the yellow card website though as a side effect to delay ov.

Marriage chat - I always said I wasn't fussed about marriage, my mum and dad never married although my mum did marry my now step dad when I was 11. My older sister married after she had had her 2 kids and it was a lovely day, one of them was just a baby but she had paid someone to look after them for the day (at the venue). So I think that would be my plan too, pop out a baby or two and THEN have the party. No rush. Having said that I would quite like a proposal and have a long engagement!!

Congratulations @Ltay2 !!! So happy for you xx

@DJmum83 good luck, hope it goes well! Try and ease yourself back in if that's possible!

@Hopeful110 got everything crossed for you lovely x

@paintfairy you're right on trying to please everyone. Psycho MIL kicked up a stink about all sorts and we did invite some people because of her that we see about once every 5 years. One being DHs uncle, paid £70 a head for everyone, my dad kindly put a sizeable tab on too for drinks and DHs uncle stayed for the ceremony, drinks, the food then fucked off before dessert because he had some pigeon racing the next day 😂 completely abruptly didn't say bye just went. Wanker.

@paintfairy yes I hear you on never pleasing everyone! As I get older I get choosier and choosier about those who I think are worth pleasing! Preach lady 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

Ha @Minster2012 my DH is a bit like that, you'd think he could think things through but never seems to until he has stuff pointed out to him! Although actually after last week I'm not going to whinge about him for a while, he was an absolute rock. And yesterday he decided he'd rather hang out with the toddler than watch the English rugby match and my heart nearly burst!

Like you @Sausage1990 im pretty annoyed at the Welsh result, they just lost their heads! Although mainly I'm blaming Brian Moore for commentators curse as he said 'Wales can't lose from here'. Erm yes they can! Apparently France need to beat Scotland by 21 points and a bonus point for them to win (so my Dad says!)

@bez91 exactly! You do things to please others and then end up being pissed off that you did!
@larrythelizard yeah I think you just get to that. 🤣 Obviously some people are worth bothering with. But just no point wasting time on those that aren't.

It's really interesting isn't it! Both DH & I have said that if we were engaged now, and due to get married during the pandemic then we have just gone & done it & used it as a great excuse to have a really small do, save the money then just have a party when we could, cos they cost a lot & ours was basically a big party which which loved but we could've saved a hell of a lot on it not being "a wedding" & just done a big night do whereas my DH's cousin has now postponed twice cos she wants a big do & we're like nahhhhhhh just do it 🤣😂🙌🏻

@paintfairy BIL/SIL said no children, one couple brought theirs & they kicked off majorly. It's interesting how they now take their 2 kids to all weddings & say "fuck em" when ppl say no kids, they are taking to the above wedding despite being told they can't but they say they have no childcare as all at wedding. I'm staying out of it 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Amy00 yayyyyyyy for ovulation!!! 🥳

@larrythelizard omg they totally lost their heads at the end. It was a very physical game too so I bet they were knackered & just lost it. Such a shame 😔

@DJmum83 glad you're feeling well enough to go back to work, take it easy and I hope it's all good 😊💐

And yes girls my picky tea was bloody lush. And I've had a lush lie in this morning but now I've gota wee really quickly so I'm not tempted to poas at 10dpo 😬🙈

My bil and sil not only welcome children at the wedding but had a candy bar, it was fantastic, they rented a country cottage for the weekend, it cost and arm and a leg, nearly 300 people, we do have big families, but in the middle it got too much for my bil and when he was nowhere to be found we had to go rescue and returning him back from the field,

Hi all, dropped off thread as DH has been super poorly after his vaccine!
Day 1 of my cycle here and started IVF drugs for frozen transfer 2. Progress scan will be in about 12 days and transfer in early April just after Easter, if the bean survives the thaw.

We got married in August last year, small wedding obvs with lockdown restrictions but we had a lovely day nonetheless. Glad we went ahead as it isn’t clear when “normal” weddings will be allowed even this summer and we wanted to be married and have that security and certainty.

@Gensola ah your poor Dh, hope he's better now?! Good news about starting your ivf cycle, hope all goes well!

On the wedding chat we had 99 adults, and 1 child, my nephew 😂 we wanted it an adults only day due to neither of us having kids and our friends having loads and my cousins having loads, kids would've outnumbered the adults so we decided just my nephew as a gorge page boy, wish I could share a pic of him as he was just the cutest!
I always wanted kids over marriage but Dh wanted to be traditional and get married first so that was fine by me. We had a quickish engagement of 14 months as I was desperate to start ttc! We went on honeymoon the day after the wedding and I came off the pill once we got bk from honeymoon and I thought I would've had the baby by the time I was 34...now here I am 35 heading for ivf 🤦🏾‍♀️
And on what others have side with the security/financial side of things I totally agree! I never really thought about it before a counsellor I was seeing years ago said to me that marriage would be a sensible thing if you had insecurities. (I don't have insecurities now, but I did at the beginning.) As unromantic as that sounds, she was so right! I would hate for it all to suddenly end and not have that security of getting half the property etc. Plus I do really love being married to him, I love saying my husband 🥰

Great to hear from you @Gensola, what happened with DH after his vaccine?

How exciting or should I say EGGciting 😂 about the IVF being full steam ahead for an Easter transfer, hoping your little frosty beans are safely thawed and ready for their new home. I take it you are trying to get your womb nice and fluffy like a 70’s bush in the meantime?

I think I’m the opposite of all you rugby fans, I actually wanted France to win because of England can’t (and to be perfectly frank they didn’t deserve it anyway) then I don’t want another home nation to win 😆 sore loser I know!

@notyetamumbuttrying we had the same with kids. We had no kids except my niece (6mths old) & friends baby who was 4mths old. They were both so little and breastfeeding so we had no issue with that and tbh my niece is the 1st baby in our family and we definitely wanted her there it wasn't really a decision we needed to make.
With regards to other friends with kids they were all more than happy to be child free for the day & night haha. They all made the most of drinking & dancing, and a day off being mum & dad 👍🏻😊 so thankfully no drama.
We went to Costa Rica for our honeymoon so we had to wait 3 months when we came back to start ttc which was nice in a way so I could let my cycles settle after coming back on the pill (I came off in 2016 but went back on for like 6 weeks in the run up to the wedding as I was due on the day before the wedding and didn't fancy dealing with af in a wedding dress nor be on during the long haul flight & honeymoon, and stopped it when we came home too lol). Who would have thought we'd still be on the ttc journey so long down the one?! 🙄 But we will get there. I know we will xx

@gensola great news that you're starting your ivf 💕 sending you so much luck & love for this cycle for you xx