Egg hunters vs the virgin wife - find the BFP - TTC bus 36

[Minster2012]

Ok so we need to get back to us ladies, back to fun games, POAS & getting fit, but you need to help me Cos Minster is flagging with a fuck boy body worse than the rest 🥺

Guess what...it’s nearly Easter & know what that means! 🐰🐣...We don’t want the 🐰to have the fun but bloody hell sometimes it’s a f*cling egg hunt all right 🙈🤣.

March and April we’ve got a lot of exciting times ahead with people going for Clomid & IVF as well as a lot of straight up sex for the “normal” TTC gang so let’s get shagging & FIND THOSE 🐣🌈.

We are still working on our spring challenges alongside trying to get pregnant and we’ve had great results so far- feel free to have a catch up on those and add your own.

And we are still helping each other get fitter, more positive through sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...as well as of course being there for each other during the sad times.

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan
8 BFPs for February

One for March

Let’s go go go!

Ooh @Haiyaa I'm really hopeful for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@madeoftea good news about the BFN. Waiting for the tea to be negative is hard because you don't feel you can move on until you do but I agree with @bez91 that it felt like closure once I did. You're back in the ttc game now so that's really great!!! 🥰 How are you feeling about it all? Xx

@Ltay2 Awwww huge congratulations! Baby Evan is gorgeous! Well done mama on a difficult birth - you super woman!!! 💙 Enjoy getting to know each other and settling in as new little family 👨‍👩‍👦💕 fingers crossed for continued good results at 6pm for you all to go home 🤞🏻

@wicketbaslet with opk I personally notice my tests getting darker as the peak approaches so we tend to DTD in the lead up and then then day of the peak and the day after but if we stop then. When unused to get ovulation pain I'd get it about 12 hrs after my peak so for me I think before is more important... I just think sperm can live a few days so if you get busy in the lead up theres actually less pressure of the peak day or day after, before the swimmers are already there. We probably DTD 4 days in a row (2days before, peak day, day after peak)... Sorry if that's alot of waffle but I thought it might be helpful to share my thoughts behind it.

@haiyaa i have no idea how you have the stamina for SMEP!!! We definitely couldn't, I'd be afraid my foof would be wrecked haha
I'm still hanging in there TWW buddy 😊👍🏻but I am symptom spotting like freaking crazy 🙈 And I've fully got my hopes up, I wish I hadn't. Because my spirit will be crushed when af arrives 👎🏻 Tbh I blame being pregnant before for getting my hopes up. I feel the same as I did then so I keep thinking, this might be it. No particular symptoms just cramping and feeling like af is going to come (but from like 6dpo which isn't possible), migraine around middle of the TWW, feeling wetter. I just feel like af is going come. I'm 9dpo today and she arrived at 10dpo last cycle so I'm expecting her to arrive tomorrow. And I will be gutted. How are you doing my love? Xx

@Gem176 I was really excited to tell everyone then the next day when I woke up to all the lovely messages and likes etc I felt so down in the dumps about it for no reason and I think I cried because I was upset it wasn't our secret anymore 🙈🤣 now obviously I don't feel like that because I'm back at work etc and will be seeing more people so rather its common knowledge than the awkward are you fat or are you pregnant looks 😂 yeah we've said we will get married maybe by the time we're 35 and OH has just turned 25 so not that bothered by thag would rather buy a house as we're just renting at the moment. Although I would be lying if I said I didn't want a ring on my finger just to have a long engagement 🙈 oh yes I can tell you now that after our announcement our names will have been in many peoples mouths and not saying good things! But who cares if you're happy then that's all that matters. That's been my motto since september 19 🥰I cared far too much before xxx

Well she's all good and looking innocent as ever today! God I was a wreck yesterday... all the emotions in one day... and still no af.. thought the stress night have induced it 🤦‍♀️ next date for me is 25th march for repeat vit d levels bloods then 28th may 4 clinic. Thanks for all your awesome support ladies your the best!

@hopeful110 I can see something ! Fingers crossed for you xx

Thank you @Sausage1990! That definitely makes sense and fits in with what I’ve been trying to do roughly! I was just getting worried that I wasn’t DTD regularly enough through the month as I am using OPK’s so was just going on those! (Which I know is the whole point but then someone said to me well the advice is to DTD 2-3 times per week to be actively trying and maximising chances so I just got confused )

Anyway, it seems this is not my month anyway as I am only 6DPO and I’ve been having cramps since yesterday- and I always get them this early before AF xxx

Awwww so gorgeous @Ltay2 so pleased you are both safe now, rest up & enjoy your gorgeous bundle 🥰🎉🤗🥳

@Clairey844 yes course all men think they are gonna have THE BEST swimmers & the biggest penises 🤣😂just need the ego boost don't they 🙄

@bez91 it seems like white spirit might be the way forwards! Try that on your bifolds??

@WicketBasket yes the peak does seem to correlate with ovulation for most & especially if your period then arrives 2 weeks later, I think a lot of ppl also say try DTD earlier in the cycle too, if you are v regular with the peak then try to focus on the lead up too, every couple of days in that week but yeah my ivf consultant says less than 25% chance or he even said 15% each month once!

@larrythelizard X would LOVE a digger bed!!

@Dollybird89 what on todays test?? I'm anxious for the next few days 🤞🤞 its just so early, your dog is so adorable, hard to think she caused you trouble 🤣 xx

@Hopeful110 keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@lucyrp sorry to hear you had a slump after you announced but glad your feeling better about it all now.

@Haiyaa keeping my fingers crossed for you, I’m about a week behind you in the TWW and trying not to start symptom spotting to early.

@Sausage1990 I really hope it’s not signs AF is coming and that she stays away for you.

Thanks @Minster2012! Looks like chances are not terribly high every month anyway so I need to stop worrying about it, but easier said than done

I don’t think it’s my month anyway. I always have an uncomfortable sensation of AF type cramps around 5-6dpo which over the last few cycles I had thought might be implantation or something similar- except they never were! So I realise these are just pre AF pains and I have been having them since yesterday. Feeling a bit low about it xx

Thanks @larrythelizard I’m trying not to get my hopes up too much although of course we always do. Same as @Sausage1990 it just makes it worse when AF comes!

@Sausage1990 don’t count yourself out just yet, we are both testing on Monday! I’m getting so impatient but also nervous because I’m in the Schroedinger’s Cat situation which is somehow better than a BFN.

@WicketBasket I got my bfp in mid January and we only dtd 2 or 3 times in what I'm guessing would have been fertile week based on my dates. I was having a right grump with ttc that month and stepped back to have a chilled Christmas and new year so wasn't tracking. I'm guessing 2-3 times during fertile week is enough rather than 2-3 times every week 🤷🏻‍♀️

@lucyrp we are in the middle of renovating our house, need to think about selling OHs other house and we have plenty to be going on with. We may do the marriage thing but it would have to be on a beach somewhere with no guests because the thought of a room full of people turning to stare as I walked in freaks me right out 😂 but oh did say something about not being married the other day and I was like ehm I'm ok with marriage but not a wedding 🙈😂
Ah yeah the wondering looks trying to decide if you have just put on a bit of chub 🙈 could definitely do without that!
I need to care less what others think and just think fuck it we're happy so nobody else matters. It's just I've only really lived here through lockdown so don't know that many people all that well 😬 xxx

@Sausage1990 I've got everything (fingers, toes, eyes) crossed for you this month 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 stay away af! C'mon the little sausage bean ❤️ xxx

@Ltay2 congratulations! What a beauty 😍

Thanks @Sausage1990 I'm actually feeling very good at the moment. I almost feel like I should be upset still but right now I'm just focusing on the future and getting back into the swing of things. We hadn't DTD since I found out about my bfp because I had bleeding throughout so we're making up for it 🙊 how are you doing??

@WicketBasket from my experience the month I got pregnant before my mc we dtd a lot more than usual in the lead up to my peak. I think it was every other day, the day of and then not once after my peak so I think already having the goods up there can be more important and less stressful than having to do it in time! We focused on the week before because there's no way I have enough energy to do that the whole month!

@lucyrp that makes complete sense to me. I think I'd feel that way a bit too. It's nice having your own secret from the world and something that only you 2 share. But it's a bit difficult to not tell anyone for too long. 🤣 Unless it's winter and you wear very baggy clothes.....

@Florence13 I think the main factor in my slump was my hormones!

@Gem176 I like the idea of a wedding but my family is so discombobulated (I think that's the word I want to use but not sure 🤣) it would be so difficult organising etc and who would come. Someone might not come because so and so is there etc etc. There's a lady that comes up to my work all the time and haven't seen her in months and she's the town busy body and seen her in the shop the other day and I had to turn the other way because at the beginning of the first lockdown she voiced her opinion to me about my work colleague who is one of my friends being pregnant and I was like ummm🤐🤐 csnt be dealing with the awkward conversation il have to deal with that when we open at work again 🤣 yeah I used to care more and I do still care but my OH is completely the opposite which is great really. Xxx

@lucyrp hormones really do have a lot to answer for!

@lucyrp oh I hear you on the family thing!! My parents are divorced and do not speak at all. I adore my step dad but my dad would have a fit if he had to be in the same room as him. My living grandparents are also divorced and don't speak. All that is before I start considering I'd want a small wedding so max 20 people yet both sides of my family are huge and I'd no doubt get so much shit from the sides if I invited some and not the others 🙈 an old Aunty once told me if I ever get married I'd be as well having a boxing ring rather than a dance floor 😂 no wonder I'm not keen on the idea!!!
My OH is very much in the doesn't give a monkeys about others brigade 😂 xxx

@Gem176 my parents are divorced too and don't speak. Haven't seen my dad in about 7-8 years. Speak to him on text but haven't had the balls to go see him yet. He was swinging when he cheated on my mum and then married a new woman and had a child at the age of 52🤷🏼‍♀️ so his side of the family for whatever reason don't bother with me and haven't done ever since the day mum kicked him out. My mums side of the family I rarely see as when I got with my OH my mum and her mum were up in arms about it did did everything they could to stop me, including turning up at his dads house and starting arguments. Thus why my wedding would also be like a boxing ring 🤣🤣 I always say I'd have all my OH family ag the wedding and literally just my mum sat the other side of the church 😂😂😂xxx

@paintfairy I've been wearing a big jumper to work recently because we're still closed so the heating isn't on properly however I got really hot the other day and took it off and everyone was like omg you're so pregnant and I was like umm yeah .... 🤣

@haiyaa Yeeess!!! Schroedinger’s Cat is so accurate!!! Right now we're neither pregnant or not pregnant so there's an element of comfort (basically I can pretend I am until proven otherwise haha)... I don't quite know why I've got my hopes so high this cycle. Well I do know. Its because of my 2 good friends being pregnant and I have a serious case of FOMO. I've put too much pressure on this cycle. I need to chill the fork out haha... Have you managed to avoid symptoms spotting @haiyaa?? 🤔

@gem176 haha sausage bean!! Beans and sausages do go well together so I think it's time another bean made itself comfortable don't you?! 😂 Haha. Also don't worry about what other people think, you don't need that kind of negativity in your life 😉💞

@madeoftea I'm so glad you're feeling good and feeling positive & ready to get back into ttc again 😊 there's no rules about how long you should feel upset for or how sad you should feel. Everyone deals with things differently. In my experience any sadness and grief has come in waves & its hit me in ways I didn't expect and at times I didn't expect. There is no right way to feel, you just do what you need to do heal 💐 I'm doing much better thank you. So, I had my MMC end of September and medically induced start of October however due to complications of retained tissues & infection I bled until December so my cycles only came back just before new year and this is my 2nd cycle ttc again. I think my drawn out experience prolonged the whole grieving process so it's taken me a while to move through this however these girls have been an absolute rock to me. I don't know how I would have survived without them tbh 💕 I'm now in the same place as you I think, just eager to concieve again & generally feeling really positive about it 🥰🌈

@lucyrp haha love you keeping your little bump hidden under your big jumper. I saw your Instagram story of your bump, definitely going to be hard to hide it soon... Ohhh you'll get to dress it up in lovely spring clothes soon. I love seeing baby bumps in summer dresses.... Although you might not be a dress kinda girl, it would definitely look cute 💐

@lucyrp totally wit you in the crying and enthusiasm thing, the day after I did the same too and said to DH its out there now, nothing exciting to keep to ourselves and cried and cried! Hormones eh. Now I'm just trying to look forward to finding out the gender 😁 how are your round ligament pains now? I've started with pains in my hips so going to get a pregnancy pillow see if that helps x

@Sausage1990 yes totes a dress girl!! Love the midi bodycon ones which I've avoided for a few years because of my little belly but now I don't have to avoid it as its a lovely round bump 🤪😂 last pregnancy I kept it hidden until I was 6 months pregnant under scarves and big coats then I just rocked up to work one day in a body on tight dress and everyone was like 😲😲😲 defo going to be living in my Birkenstock's and dresses as soon as it gets warm enough!

@Kirky658 exactly how I was !🤣 my 20 week scan is 9 days away now not like I'm counting or anything! Not been too bad this last week but won't say too much. Defo get some sort of pain most days now though and omg the sleep ...😫😫 manage until about midnight if I go to bed at 8 and then that's it I'm tossing and turning until 6am waking up most hours. I just used a normal pillow to begin with but now not using anything I think we'd get too hot if I got a huge one 🤣🙈x

@lucyrp ahhhhh amazing mines still 5 and a half weeks away.... Also not counting 🤣 yeah I'm hoping I don't get too hot used to sleep in long pj's now I'm shorts and t shirt lol x

My little win of the day. Just messaging my younger bro mentioned I was craving doughnuts. Half an hour later he turned up with some jammy doughnuts for me! What a guy. He's so excited for his niece or nephew but he will never admit it hehe x

Watching an animal documentary, ds commented is easy being a male, much more difficult being female, always, the topic was reproduction in that bit, my octopus teacher if anyone is interested in Netflix

@Sausage1990 oh I'm so glad you're back in a good place now, having such a drawn out experience sounds horrible especially when it's so out of your control. I completely get how you feel having friends who are expecting too, I'm in the same boat except it's not just friends it's almost every colleague as well. I'm so impatient because it should have been me too! Hopefully it will be our turn soon 🥰

@Kirky658 now I want jammy doughnuts! I've got such a problem with comfort eating right now the mere mention of anything and I want it so bad 😆 at least you have a very good excuse haha