Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

[Mellous]

Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

@KJLM I think you're doing amazing! You sounds really positive and it's amazing to see given what you've been through. You should be so proud of yourself xx

@No1worrier I can't imagine how hard that must've been for you, so sorry for your loss ❤️

I'm sorry I've missed so much - @SuzieDeLaTour @Sleepykitkat theyre driving me crazy!! It's the One Step ones I'm using - every single one I've used has been positive pretty much. I did a FRER just to see if it's HCG it might be picking up and I saw the faintest line ever, can't pick it up on camera or anything. On Monday my HCG had dropped to four already though so I can't see how it's that... I've googled and apparently it's quite common. I'm still doing them in the hope that they fade to nothing and then get a positive when I am actually ovulating.

We DTD last night just in case... I tried so hard not to cry afterwards. I'm so glad we did it, I needed that intimacy again and it was great.... but I'm so scared. I'm so ready for another baby and pregnancy but I'm just so scared of it happening again 😔

Hi ladies, thank you all so much for your lovely supportive messages. It's been over a week since I was last on this thread, I needed to take some time to get my head around it all.
I am so sorry to read about some of the new ladies stories, absolutely heartbreaking and I am sending all my love and hugs, those just going through it and those still waiting for their bfp xx

Could I run something past you all?... Tomorrow will be 2wks since my ERPC. I have started prenatal vitamins, omegas and vit d to get my body ready for its next cycle. I am still spotting and getting positive pregnancy tests. Myself and partner have not dtd for a good while as during my pregnancy I was pretty sick and just not in that place for some time and then obviously I have not been up for it since the MC, over the past few days I've been feeling very much up for it and have really been enjoying that connection again. We dtd yesterday and again today. I found myself thinking about it today and my bodies desire to dtd, I started to wonder if I was ovulating as I do get quite horny (sorry! 😂) around ovulation. Then I realized that I had some ovulation pains the other day (at the time I completely put it down to being part of the post MC pains and niggles), THEN I wondered about my ewcm and realised that I've been having that too!! (it's been tinged red so I didn't pay much attention to it and thought it was just stringy tissue from my lining).

Cut to me taking a opk this eve and getting a blazing peak!! Obviously we weren't avoiding it and I was definitely keen to fall pregnant as soon as possible but I assumed it would be after a first period and my body would have time to build up a good lining. I am very fertile and tend to get pregnant if I dtd in the right window. I am now panicking that it's too soon and (if I did fall pregnant) it won't be viable as my uterus won't be prepared and lining not thick enough or my body not ready to create the best possible environment!! Should I be concerned!??

*just realised how long this is I'm so sorry, thank you if you made it to here!! Xx

@Cienega I definitely don't think you need to worry. I was told as long as you wait 2 weeks and until the bleeding has stopped medically you're fine to try. If you still have bleeding or it's before 2 weeks you're at high risk of infection. If you're still getting positives on hcg the issue is you won't know if it's a new pregnancy or existing hcg when you come to test. Also, generally dating the pregnancy can be more challenging, but if you've tracked ovulation that won't be the case. But otherwise if the lining isn't thick enough it will be as simple as it won't stick and you'll get a period, so no different to not having tried!

Morning ladies!

After starting to relax yesterday I went to the toilet last night and had bright red spotting, only when i wiped but enough to give me a big fright, woke up at 3am for the toilet and it had turned brown and very little of it so praying its further implantation or something but you can imagine how I'm feeling! I'm trying to be positive but it's just so hard! In my head it's already bad news! 😭

@AMS19 @Madeoftea thanks girls. I know you’re totally right and I absolutely want it to be the right egg. I started trying almost a year ago now and very naively thought I would be holding my baby by now 😒 now I just want AF to show its face so I can get on with a fresh cycle and have a few weeks off from moaning! 😀
@KJLM I also think you’ve done amazingly well and should be very proud of yourself x
@Cienega try not to stress lovely. They tell you not to try more for dating purposes and the confusion that causes rather than any medical purpose. If it’s any consolation to you I conceived 3 weeks after my ERPC without a period and went on to have a successful pregnancy. I knew exactly when I had ovulated so knew the dates in my head and luckily they matched perfectly ❤️ You’ve got to do what feels right for you x
@Pettylamby oh my girl! I can just imagine how scary that is, particularly at night. Given its spotting and has turned brown try not to worry. You had that earlier bleed and thought you were out and look what happened! Plus your tests have been progressing which is a great sign. I hope you can take it easy today and try not too panic too much - easier said than done I know!! X

@Pettylamby oh I'm sorry that must be terrifying. Can you ring EPU and see if you can get your scan moved forward maybe? It does sound like implantation but can understand why you're worried! Even reading it made me feel stressed and anxious 😂😂 xx

Thanks @AMS19 and @SuzieDeLaTour - it's so hard! I just feel like I'm back on edge. I don't think I'm gonna phone EPU, I'm only 5+3 and i dont want to go for a scan which could be ambiguous! I'd rather just wait until a stage where it would be a difinitive answer! My epu scan is booked for 6+6 so I will know for definate then, just seems like a million years away!

I know that light spotting is considered nothing to worry about and it was literally just on the toilet paper but I was just starting to let myself relax and get a little hope after my 3+ yesterday but now I'm back to being guarded and terrified there's something wrong! ☹️

@Pettylamby I completely get that, any bleeding is frightening despite it being pretty common. A week and a half away must feel like a lifetime but hopefully the spotting stops, you’re able to feel better about things and keep yourself busy and distracted! Keeping everything crossed for you xx

@Pettylamby I totally get that! It's so frustrating when mentally you've let yourself relax then you get bolted back to reality. I had spotting in my last pregnancy at 5+6 and everything was fine after (it was in no way related to my mmc). It was baby snuggling in and they could even see the little bleed on the scan. It's so so so common! Which I know doesn't make it less scary at all. The advice I was given after mine was to relax physically as much as possible xx

Good morning ladies! I have so many pages to catch up on today. Nothing to report from me . In the tww. Having slightly longer cycles mean I never have a cycle twin haha! Xxx

@pettylamby oh bless you, like the others have said it sounds a really common feature of lots of pregnancies but completely get the fear it is setting off for you. Keeping everything crossed all is well xx

@ralala whereabouts are you in TWW?? I'm about half way through, 7/8 DPO and 7 days until AF due.

@Seasalt1984 I’m due on Friday although first Cycle post AF after my mc. Hoping it’s just a normal length! I have ovulated but can’t pin point when as cycle was a little up and down xx

CD1 for me ladies, had awful cramps most of the day yesterday so that ended the need for a test and she's here this morning! Gutted but well I did expect it. Countdown is on now, 3 months and thats my ttc journey over :(

@No1worrier lovely I am so very sorry, youve been through an awful time, fc that rainbow baby will be around very soon! No reason to wait unless the Drs said not to, I just jumped back in after my 2 mc's, I didnt get my BFP until a year after the first and I'm only on my first AF since the last mc x

Sorry to hear that @gizmo167 sorry to ask but please remind me why you have a deadline? I know its hard to not put pressure on it but our bodies are figuring themselves out and it won't be long I'm sure 🙏🤞

Hi everyone, my heart goes out to those that have joined us. You are absolutely in the right place with such a supportive, empowering group of women. I don't know where I'd be without them 💕

I have so many pages to catch up on and will do tonight when I'm on the laptop as so much easier!

@SuzieDeLaTour I'm so sorry that you aren't feeling hopeful this month. Really hoping that the new cycle is the one for you if this one isn't already. 🤞

@Pettylamby I'm so sorry you are feeling worried. As you said I'm sure it is implantation bleeding or women do sometimes have small bleeds in the first trimester that are completely normal and fine, but it is so hard in that moment to stop your mind from racing. I did a lot of reading over the weekend about bleeding/spotting in early pregnancy, as was worried myself, and it helped me feel a bit more reasured, but completely understand if that isn't for you as too much reading/googling also can go the opposite way can't it. I'm feeling very much like you where I'd rather go for a scan a little later if possible couldn't deal with being there and there being ambiguity. Really hoping for you the next few days and weeks leading up to your scan go okay.

Thanks everyone for the supportive messages on Saturday. I'm hoping it was just a little bit of implantation spotting. I only had a tiny bit of Saturday and then an even tinier bit yesterday. I never got this in my last pregnancy so it scared me a lot, but trying to think now that it is just them getting nice and comfy and secure in there. It is so nerve wracking as every time I go to the bathroom I'm so frightened I'll see blood and not sure I'm ever going to get that thought out of my head. My tests do seem to be darkening quite well (I included a pic, but completely understand if you don't want to see, I'm so sorry if it is triggering to anyone) and getting a few symptoms now. I'm approaching when AF would have been due as 12dpo today, last month I got AF at 13dpo. Just hoping I pass that hurdle and then can focus on getting to the next one one day at a time.

@AMS19 unfortunately due to my age, I will be 43 tomorrow so it was my cut-off age!

Anyone have really bad clotting on their first AF after mc? I didnt first time around but this one has been horrendous, have passed clots the size of my palm! (sorry tmi!)

@PlantMummy87 thats lovely progression lines hun, try not to worry, easier said than done I know! I had some brown spotting with my DD and all was fine! With my two mc's I just knew something was wrong before the spotting started!

@PlantMummy87 those look like fabulous progession lines. I have my fingers crossed for you.

I think with any pregnancy after a MC its going to be full of worry until you hit the 12 week mark. I feel so naive with my last one I didn't think one minute that anything would go wrong.

I'm finally on tww so I will try stay patient! I do feel alot better now after getting a smile on the OPK and even if it doesn't happen this cycle I feel my body is recovering and doing what it should do

@PlantMummy87 lovely looking lines!

congrats @PlantMummy87, lines looking lovely and dark x

Thank you everyone for being so welcoming, you seem a lovely bunch just by reading your posts.

It took us a year to conceive my daughter, however, only the last 2 cycles we used some supplements, I bbt and opks. I will be doing the same but wasn't sure if I should start my supplements immediately. I'm guessing I should? My heads a bit scrambled sorry. I will probably wait until my first AF to use opks and bbt.

I will start using pregnancy tests today, I have some cheap ones left, to see the lines fade. I am building myself up to do this because I think it will be hard for me to see 💔.

Does anyone drink raspberry leaf tea? I've heard this can help build up the lining of the uterus. Wondering if I should give it a try after childbirth and a d&c?

We are arranging my baby girls cremation this week 💔, and I have been given as much time off my work as I need. Luckily my partner works for a great company that gives him full pay sick leave for however long he wants. So he can be with me the full time I am off. We have booked a little get away for start of May when things (should) be easing where I live, glad to have something to look forward to and if my AF returns mid April then it could be good timing for fertile week. Not getting ahead of myself though as it is a break we both need and not to worry about ttc x

@PlantMummy87 really good line progression!
Looking promising ❤️
@No1worrier that’s lovely you have a break planned. Sounds like a really good thing for you both. I’m glad your work is supportive and your DH’s too, thank god you don’t have that pressure to worry about. I cannot imagine what planning a cremation must be like, my heart breaks for you 💔 x

@No1worrier that sounds like a really tough week ahead. I'm so sorry. I really hope it brings you some form of closure. Be kind to yourself and take whatever you need to help mentally.
I'm drinking raspberry leaf tea to help balance hormones but I'm only taking until ovulation as I understand it can cause issues with implantation. Sending you so much love xx

Ladies - the thread is about to run out. @Mellous do you want me to create another one? Xx