Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

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Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

@SuzieDeLaTour

www.accessdiagnostics.co.uk/collections/early-detection-pregnancy-test/products/alltest-ultra-sensitive-10miu-pregnancy-test-strips-25-test-vial-fhc-u111

To be fair, on the reviews of the one you have no one is saying they don't work I dont think! More just that they are clearly not FRER xx

@SuzieDeLaTour that should say I read somewhere!

I think it’s these

Answer, One Step Pregnancy Test www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000A6IQHS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_fabc_QM50QYYQJ35BAA9HX8C7?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

Thanks for your suggestions girls!! Definitely going to order something a little more sensitive, especially if the one I have is 100MiU! X

Thank you so much everyone ❤️ not sure if putting myself through the anxiety of waiting on a result from a third HCG Monday is going to put me back a few steps but I think if it's a good rise again I might feel better in the interim before the scan as all my mc have been early. Forgot to mention that my progesterone was bang on too, so another positive.

@LauraT94 I'm the same trying not to over-invest but I really like what you say @AMS19 about the pain being no less if it does go wrong again. Letting myself think about the summer with a little growing bump.

@Pettylamby it's so hard with fluctuating symptoms because it's the only thing to cling on to that's a sign that all is well. I didn't have a single day of nausea with my successful pregnancy, just sore boobs which came and went - I was surreptitiously squeezing them all day obsessively. Those tests are incredible!

@yepstilltrying that's a great result for the day you would have expected AF. Everything crossed for a lovely rise for you. Are you going to have an early scan?

@sleepykitkat what @AMS19 says... just standard opks are better I think because they are simpler. It is so frustrating though when you were so in tune with your body then the mc throws everything out. You feel like you could trust it before but now you can't. It's still really early since your mc though, see what happens over the next month. It's awful though - you just want to be pregnant again as it's the only thing that makes it better. Plus the yearning for a brother or sister for your little one ❤️

@SuzieDeLaTour so annoying about the strange test. 👀 Although I suppose if it's not dodgy Spanish ladies are weeing on them and getting positives! 🙈 When are you going to test again?

Ladies, when do you think it would be best to book an early scan at the EPU? My most recent mmc the baby died at 6w+3 so I'm thinking if I book for 6+4 will there defo be a heartbeat (if there's going to be) at that stage? I have a scan booked at Prof Regan's clinic to check my anatomy as well as the baby at 7w+5 but it's so expensive... if it's bad news and I find out at that scan it would be better to find out earlier and go back for the anatomy scan when not pregnant if that makes sense. Obviously it could all go wrong between scans too. Argh...
Althoughhhh super sensitive nipples going on here... like little electric shocks going through them. I feel like I could zap DH ⚡️

@glowingtwig just had second blood test so hopefully it increases. Think I'll have a scan just before 7 weeks and then probably every week for a while. I'm doing pregnancy monitoring at the clinic I previously had ivf at, although this pregnancy wasn't ivf. So they check a lot! Which is good.
Interesting about investing in the pregnancy. Yesterday we decided that not being invested hasn't helped any of the previous miscarriages so might as well invest in this one and just hope it works.

Thank you @AMS19 and all it's really helpful hearing others experiences.

And everything crossed for sticky beans all round! x

Thanks for all the kind support. Sorry I will reply properly to the messages, just needing to take a bit of time to feel all the emotions that are swimming around in my head right now.

My partner convinced me to do a digital this afternoon and it came back positive, I definitely needed to see the words to believe it.

Since taking the digital though I've had a small bit of brown spotting and the tiniest clot of fresh blood, so feeling pretty scared and not feeling convinced that this is going to be a sticky baby. Just ordered some more FRERs to be able to do a bit of a check every few days if AF doesn't come... AF is due between around Wednesday so really hoping she doesn't come, but we'll see xx

@plantmummy87 keeping everything crossed for you xx

@glowingtwig keeping everything crossed for you - book one for whenever you're ready and you feel like you'd be a bit more at ease afterwards x

@PlantMummy87 keeping everything crossed for you xx

Ladies I've got a Q... I've bought OPKs for this cycle - this is one I've just done. Usually I ovulate between CD20-30ish, but today I'm CD6? Yesterday's one was fainter but still quite stark - whenever I used to do them, I'd barely get a second line! Wondering if I need to do HPT? But when EPU called me they confirmed my HCG was at 4 so I don't see how I could have any of the hormone left? And my heart rate hasn't dropped much either.... very confused 😓

Hi ladies, I'm more of a lurker but following all the chat. I've just got my flashing smiley face on the clear blue ovulation test. Glad that my body seems to be back into a rhythm after the miscarriage. I've never tested ovulation before so not sure how like it will take to get the static smiley face. It's just nice to poas and get a result you want to see.

Crossing everything for @glowingtwig and @PlantMummy87 xxx

@cupcakesandglitter I'm clearly not best person to answer because opks are driving me doolally but mine show faint line as early as that. My mc was recent but still a couple of months ago.

@klm018 I'm flashing too but last time I did it never went solid and turned out it was prob measuring oestrogen pre AF gaaaah. I'm currently CD 10. So would be pretty rarly to be high fertility - blardy things driving me crazy! Particularly because dh is away and not around until Wednesday...

My understanding though is that is supposed to be just a few days before solid.

So great to see all those bfps coming along nicely, will catch up properly tomorrow

Going to test tomorrow, cd35 so longest in 8 years! Know it wont be positive but least I'll know my body really is messed up after the 2nd mc

@PlantMummy87 I have everything crossed for you, sending sticky bean vibes x

@gizmo167 oh wow hun, is this your first cycle post MC? Sorry I haven’t caught up on all the thread xx

@glowingtwig oh that’s great news about your progesterone too - all sounds like it’s going in the right direction! 🤞your comment about your zapping nips made me giggle!
So I caved and tested with my wannabe-FRER and it was negative 😒 (roughly 10DPO) just feeling a bit rubbish about it all now, I was so hoping this month would be the one and now I’m worried that I might have another long stretch of trying in front of me.
@PlantMummy87 oh love hopefully it’s just a bit of normal bleeding - keeping everything crossed for you.
@cupcakesandglitter are those the one step opks? They look identical to the ones I use and to be honest I don’t rate them that highly. I recently bought the easy @home strips because I downloaded the Premom app and they were listed on there and I’ve actually found them much better - a much stronger colour so you definitely know when it’s a positive or not and you can enter the tests into the app and they rate whether they’re “high” or “low” which is quite useful (although my readings jumped about a bit at first which drove me mad ha ha) x

@gizmo167 good luck with the testing tomorrow - everything crossed for you! X

@cupcakesandglitter sorry mine were Ovaview OPKs - I bought a batch a while ago but I won’t be buying them again xx

@SuzieDeLaTour ah but lovely, if they are 100mlU like someone said they were you've got no chance at 10dpo!! Do you have prime so you can get some other sensitive ones, such a wondfo that Laura rayed very highly? I honestly don't think you're at all out given the sensitivity! Xx

@SuzieDeLaTour if it was a first response rapid result they are def not very sensitive! It also says you should only use from the day of your missed period so not surprising it's a BFN. I reckon buy a FRER

@SuzieDeLaTour oh don’t give up hope now, like the others have said maybe test with a frer xx 💋

Hi all,

Been keeping an eye on the thread but haven't posted in a while.

Keeping everything crossed for those still waiting this cycle and for those who are feeling uncertain you have been in my thoughts.

Well CD1 here, AF has arrived. This is first one since my MC end of feb. I have been tracking my cycle with Flo app, it was predicting AF around Tuesday but I wasn't sure how my cycle would be affected after my MC. Trying to stay positive but feeling a little fragile tonight.

Lots of love to you all and wishing luck to those who are on the next cycle with me ❤️

@Sugarskulllover

Thinking of you. Try to be optimistic, but I know it’s so difficult.

I think my period will come today or tomorrow, this will also be my first since my miscarriage in Feb. I’m not feeling hopeful myself, unfortunately.

Xx

Hi,

I hope this thread is okay for me to be on. My baby girl was born sleeping last week at nearly 23 weeks pregnant 💔. I am grieving and finding life very difficult at the moment and the only thing that helps very slightly is concentrating on being pregnant again. I am not going to actively try until after my first AF just so I can track everything. I use opks and bbt plus use my RHR on my Fitbit. This worked for me in October when I conceived so will be doing it again.

Did everyone else wait until AF or wait longer? The thread is pretty long so I only skimmed through it quickly.

Thank you x

@TTC94 thank you

I'm normally a very positive person so trying to cling on to the "everything happens for a reason"

I'm keeping everything crossed for you, stay hopeful!
We're not going anywhere if you join us ❤️

Life can be so incredibly cruel, we just have to keep our positive pants on and try again xxx

@No1worrier I’m so so sorry that you find yourself here and I cannot begin to imagine what you’ve been through and continue to go through. Can I ask what advice the doctors gave you at the hospital about when they advised you to try again?

We have a real mix of ladies on here however we all have one thing in common that we have suffered a loss of even multiple losses in some cases.

Everyone is doing thing differently, some are waiting like me however I have other gastrointestinal issues so am having tests, others have waited for their first period and others have jumped straight back in again without waiting.

I had a missed miscarriage at 9.5 weeks in December and had a D&C procedure on the 30/12. It took around 5/6 weeks for my period to arrive and then I’ve just had my third period. I think ovulation why’s I am ovulating late but I don’t use sticks I just know my body. That’s the physical side of things but the emotional side of things is another thing entirely. That’s really taken it out of me and my husband so I think for us waiting and letting my body recover has been the best thing for us however I completely understand others who have jumped straight in and started trying sooner. A lot of ladies on here are now pregnant again and that’s amazing so we are a very lucky group.

There was an original thread started up about positive stories following a miscarriage and I’ll try and find the link for you as that really helped a lot of us when we were giving up hope.

Please feel free to post any thoughts and feelings on here as there will always be one of us who will reply xxxx sending you lots of love xxxx