okay, i asked my dp about what he thinks about the medical professions attitude towards mc. this is what he says:
because mc is so common, it would not be financially or logistically feasible to investigate every single woman who had an mc in the first trimester.
some general practitioners are simply not clued up enough on the very latest obstretic thinking on mc. for example, he found out that mc after heartbeat (in our own case)can be linked to this blood clotting disorder. however, since the figures were unclear of exactly what percentage of these women who have had mc after heartbeat have this disorder, he also would not recommend aspirin as a precautionary approach (because the aspirin effects on foetuses are not known)
but he was quite saddened by the stories on here and could not reconcile them to his own clinical experience in (swedish) hospitals where he is training. Part of his education is early patient contact, conversational methodology and patient empathy etc, which is relatively new in sweden too (a generation ago, it didn't exist in the education). swedish medicine also really tries to be holistic (acupuncture is done by midwives here etc)
he has noticed already though, that doctors do get compassion fatigue, when they see case after case. sad but true and he truly believes this won't happen to him because he is a minority, has been through major surgery (was stabbed), went through the mc with me, understands stuff like bells palsy (got a stress-induced case of it earlier this year)and other illnesses such as mental illness (a member of his family).
i think - let's hope not, but still, its all too easy to get a god-complex as a medical professional (unlike a lot of people, i am more impressed by musicians and architects than doctors) . . .
so, it wasn't very satisfying overall. its true that a lot of decisions are financial and sometimes those policies come from above the gps and ob-gyns who refuse scans or testing. but as someone said earlier, this doesn't explain the culture that seems to pervade the medical profession - which is still dismissive and diminishing.