November 2007- going through, been through or ttc after mc, still positive and still eating cakes

[grinningbee]

Here we are then, if it worked!

A nice new shiney thread to fill up with gorgeous cakes.

I'll start with a gooey sticky pecan pie at got at the W.I market yesterday morning

TS - sounds like the mc again sorry, I had 10 days of bleeding then a gap for 3 days then another 2 days of brown gunk. AF followed a few weeks later.

lissie - still thinking of and hoping for you x

wheely-whaley - can't believe the DP said that to you I think 18 months is too long to be ttc after mc, they reckon you shoudl seek intervention after 12 months ttc.

lissie I'm thinking of you too

TS- They told me at the hospital that I could have bleeding for up to 6 weeks after mc - thought that seemed abit extreme but I guess it must happen.

Whaley - Doctor said similar to me after mc no 1 "Oh well you're still young, not to worry keep trying blah blah" and yet when I went to midwife 3 months later before mc no 2 she said "Well you're not exactly young" (I am 33) Basically my point is they can't even seem to decide what is young. I can't believe that he wasn't more interested in the 18 months bit though. No help at all !

Lissie - Hope you are OK in the circs.

Forgot to mention those who have had to join us. Sorry for your losses but you will find everyone here so lovely and plenty to make you cry and smile when needed

definately over. bleeding vv heavily now and feel dreadful

lissie

oh bugger - still name changed. la la la.

Lissie, so sorry. Hope you've got people there with you to help you through this. [Hugs]

Aww lissie - so sad for you. It is just so unfair. Lots of ((hugs))

Oh god Lissie Hugs xx Feeling for you and your dh.

oh lissie life is so bloody unfair, I cannot even being to imagine what you are going through, all I can do is send you some thoughts and hugs but that seems so rubbish

lissie its just wrong so unfair

Right Ive had enough - to hell with all the positivity crap for a moment.

Lissie I cannot believe you are having to go through this again - I am so angry for you! Life is so unfair - why cant amazing women like you who would absolutely cherish a lo have a straight forward pregnancy - Its crap!

Lissie I am so upset for you - although I know that alters nothing I just want you to know that I am thinking of you along with everyone else on this thread.

Also the pains that I have been getting have got far worse tonight - unbearable at times. It doesnt look good

Like I said - Ive had enough!

Sorry to all you optimists out there. I just needed a rant.

Oh cheekster, I really hope all is ok

Thanks ll - I hope so too. Dont know if I can go through this again.

cheekster - don't apologise for having a rant, I do hope things are OK for you but I agree you are right, it sucks big time and then some. I cannot find any words that sound right I feel so useless.

I want to back to a time when I thought you came off the pill, had sex, got a BFP then 9 months later had a baby

My heart just breaks for you Lissie...so so sorry hon.

cheekster hoping so hard its OK for you

Thanks sk - at least i know there are others around to support who have been in the same position.

Cheekster - If there was anywhere to have a rant it is this place. I really hope everything is ok for you.

Cheekster - rant away. You're so right. It is all totally unfair and there is naff all we can do about it. Or at least not much we can do.
There is no explanation why some people sail through it all so easily, whilst for others, really deserving and lovely people it is a horrible struggle.
When I think of all the years that I tried NOT to have a baby. I think I just assumed that when I decided to have one it would just happen as sk said. How naive.
Feel for everyone going through it tonight.

Thanks a lot teehee and mcchesers - well the violent pains have stopped just cramps now. No bleeding.

I am trying to be hopeful. But we shall see. Like you said there is very little we can do about it (except pray our little hearts out)

cheekster. i had some really violent (wake up in the middle of the night crying out, then get into foetal position etc) over cramps a few weeks ago and thought it was all over.
it turned out that there was a bit too much blood pooling in the uterus area (as well as this myosis of the pelvic muscles which is crampiness and tension sometimes linked to the trauma of miscarriage and probably from being legs akimbo in stirrups and being probed by various docs etc)

anyway, i have been doing the exercises that they gave me and haven't had the extreme cramps since. nice little heartbeat on my next scan..

just wanted to let you know that it can be totally ok - specially if you're not bleeding.

i like the pg after mc thread's little mantra - healthy and well, healthy and well.
i know sometimes positivity can go out the window (was convinced something was up yesterday because i didn't feel as nauseous as usual) but grabbing control can help deal with it, no matter what happens.

fingers crossed that its just growing pains. thinking of you.

lissie - words can't express . . . i really hope you are okay. we are all thinking of you. xxx

morning all. definately over. bit concerned now with the amount im bleeding. its very very heavy and at times im in agony. it shouldnt hurt this much this early should it?

how is everyone? cheekster: im thinking of you.
jules: glad its going well.

Hi Lissielou - sorry to hear that you are still bleeding. if you are concerned about the amount of bleeding or pain you should phone your out of hours GP service or the EPU. So sorry again, you are in my thoughts xx