TTC after MC - Feb/March 2021 (Thread 18)

[bez91]

New thread ladies as the other is almost full.

Tagging everyone I can....

@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@PumpkinEverything
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies
@chloedancer897
@elsimo
@HereWeGoooo
@ttcrainbowbaby1
@Seasalt1984
@Strawberry08

Congrats to those with BFPs on the last thread there was a lot of you 🥳

Hi @bez91 where is the new thread, please?

Thanks @justwant2beamum I'm glad you know the feeling, although I'm sorry you've experienced it as well! I just wish I could be more generous towards the new babies in my life, but today I am just green!

@susiebluebell makes sense on the EPO. Sorry about your cousin, no advice really I'm afraid. I think on that it's a process that takes time and you'll come out the other side. No new thread, didn't see much point as this one isn't full?

@elsimo yes I'm not a fan of BBT, 5 days since my peak OPK and still no rise, OPKs are all negative. Great timing for you this month then, it's good when it falls like that?!

@justwant2beamum you sound like
You've got it covered

@bez91 God I'm really sorry, I must have seen Page 1 of this thread and thought it was the current page! Really confused myself 😂 Hope I didn't come across argy-bargy about having a new thread, it was all me! 😄 ❤️ How are you this week?

@susiebluebell I haven't got much advice I'm afraid as I'm the same, my brother and sil fell pregnant last year straight away and I have a lovely little 7 month old niece but then the other day my sister said she thinks they're pregnant again and I just struggled so hard not to burst into tears! Hope you feel better soon. Sending a virtual hug 🫂

Thank you @Marvellouslymadmum That's exactly how I felt. It's hard not to feel it as a personal failure somehow. Which is silly. Hugs to you too x

@susiebluebell no worries 😆 I'm ok this week, bit disheartened that I don't think I've ovulated and the blood test results but on we go... super busy at work, finishing my dissertation and trying to keep up exercising to distract me which is working so far!

@susiebluebell I think we have to a knowledge the sadness and try and look past it, I do feel like people would be more tactful if they knew the struggles so many of us go through though! X

My doctor was actually great this morning - agrees my bodies all to pot. 21 day bloods for the next couple months to see if i'm ovulating. Pretty sure I have this month so we shall see xx

@elsimo that's really good that they're actually going to monitor you, hoping for something similar from my doc too!

@bez91 Sounds similar to what I'm doing - well into final chance for everything at uni, and trying to maintain a daily exercise habit

@Marvellouslymadmum I agree, I think people would be more tactful if they knew. But I'm not always ready to share what my womb has been up to, so I suppose you can't win!

@elsimo Sorry to hear your body's gone to pot but glad you've got the doctor on side! This month I am definitely figuring out what is going on with my ovulation x

@susiebluebell I'm never ready to share either, I feel like if I say things out loud I'll cry!

Yip I am lucky with the doc.

I got my peak on Monday- DTD sun, mon & tues. We probably should of tonight but neither of us can be bothered tonight haha

Well done @elsimo for marathon DTD! 😄

@Marvellouslymadmum I totally get it 💔

How are my old timers @HappyVibes and @RichmondLady1981? How have things progressed with you?

Hello lovely lady!!! So nice to hear from you. How are you? I haven’t read the thread in weeks so please forgive me. So I have some news but reluctant to get too excited yet.

Started IVF. Got three good blasts and sent them off for testing. All came back abnormal so none to transfer. Decided to do another cycle to try and find a good egg and fell pregnant naturally whilst waiting to start cycle! I found out the same day that my stim drugs and needles arrived at the house.

Am currently only 5-6 weeks but in total shock!

Have booked early scan in ten days to hopefully see a heartbeat. Pls pray for me! 💕

@RichmondLady1981 oh what lovely news! Sending so many prayers for you!

Omg @RichmondLady1981 so pleased for you. Can only imagine how anxious you will be so gentle congrats from me ✨🤞🏻

Omg @RichmondLady1981 thats bloody brilliant news.
So chuffed for u!

@RichmondLady1981 wow amazing news! Congratulations to you xx

Thank you so much ladies. Everything crossed 🤞. Sorry @susiebluebell forgot to tag you 😘

@RichmondLady1981

This is amazing news. Congratulations!
This also gives me hope. I remember you saying you had a low AMH. I also have a low ish AMH.

I had results back which said my AMH was low for my age (34) but my follicle count was normal and that there was no reason I should not fall pregnant naturally, but alas I am still not pregnant.

I am actually due to start IVF after this current cycle (CD 9). Do you have any tips. I wonder if IVF almost kick started your cycle again? I have heard this can happen.

Any IVF tips would be greatly appreciated. I am nervous particularly of the needles xxx

@susiebluebell, welcome back. Regarding your cousin I have no advice but I completely feel you on this. You are not alone in feeling this way, It is just very hard. All my friends that were TTC are now pregnant and not just a little bit but have either had their babies or 20 weeks plus. Some days I find it all unbearable and wonder what I did to deserve this torture but what can you do?

I also agree with how tactless people can be and I don’t always think it’s because they don’t know some people do know but it is almost not on their radar. I wouldn’t wish this all on my worst enemy but equally I don’t think there is enough understanding and compassion with people and It does upset and annoy me that people can be so unsympathetic. Just remember you are not alone even though it can feel so lonely xxx

Hi @Mustkeepgoing2. Thanks so much. Has your fella had a DNA fragmentation test? I would highly recommend that before anything else- certainly before IVF. This goes into lots more detail than a norma semen test.

Yes lots of advice.

1. Ask loads of questions about why they have chosen that particular protocol and why
2. Are the clinics open on Sunday and on bank holidays? I’ve read that some clinic ruin timings of cycles due to not being open and just try and fit you in to suit them.
3. Is downreg necessary and are they only doing it to fit you into a schedule.
4. Go over the price list very carefully. What happens if you get COVID for example- is the cycle completely cancelled and you lose all money? What do they do if you don’t reposed to stims?
5. Are you at risk of overstimulation? How will they prevent it.
6. Ask them based on your AMH, FSH and follicle count, how many eggs they expect to collect per cycle. They should be able to give you an idea.
7. Ask them their LIVE BIRTH RATE, not their pregnancy rates. There is a big discrepancy on this.

I have to say the needles were the easiest part after you get used to them. And trust me you really do- it’s no big deal after you’ve done a day or too- more weird than anything. The hardest part is the waiting. Everything seems to take so long. The hardest part is after egg collection (no pain) just the psychological pressure of finding out

1. How many fertilised
2. How many made it to day 3 and how many cells
3. How many made it to day 5 blast and their grade
4. (And if you choose to PGTA test like we did) the two week wait to see how many blasts are chromosomally normal.

Physically I found the process fine, emotionally it’s hard as it seems to take over. You and your fella have to try and have it going on in the background of your lives if possible and not allow it to take over. If I had to do a second round I think I’d be able to approach this better.

Please feel free to Pm me if you wish. 😘

@RichmondLady1981
Thank you so much for all this information. I would never have thought to ask these questions (or even know what some of these things mean) so thank you so much.

We have our appointment with the Nurse to discuss the protocol etc on Monday so I am going to write these out and ask them all.

I will PM you if that’s okay. Didn’t realise you can do this either 🙈 so once I have worked this out I will send you a message xxx

@RichmondLady1981 I am thrilled at your news, gentle and non-pressured congratulations! Really hope it all goes smoothly from here. Also was so interesting to read your IVF lowdown - that's not on the horizon for us, but it's fascinating and will be very valuable to others who are going that way.

Really so happy for you

@Mustkeepgoing2 Thanks for the welcome back, and for commiserating about all the babies that are currently around! It honestly must be a springtime thing. They're everywhere! In general I feel really healthy and happy at the moment, but there are certain announcements that hit 'closer to home'. I don't know why it feels like such a terrible reflection on me when someone else has a baby!

Hope everybody has a lovely weekend x

@RichmondLady1981 omg wow, that’s amazing news. Congratulations, sending prayers for you xx

Hi everyone do you mind if I join? I’ve been reading this thread for a while now and it’s helped so much to know that you are all in the same boat. I know that sounds odd but it’s a comfort to know you’re not alone in it all.

I’m 37 and ttc#2, I have a 15 month old DD and I had a blighted ovum mmc at 9 weeks. I had a d&c on 23rd March and haven’t had AF yet. I’ve bounced back quite quickly, not sure if that’s for real or whether it’s just because I have to keep it together for my daughter! But I’m desperate to get pregnant again. I’m currently around 8dpo and thinking of leaving it as long as possible to test if AF doesn’t so if I am lucky enough to fall pregnant I will cut out some of the early days anxiety.
Sorry for the essay! Just thought I’d kind of introduce myself. @HappyVibes I’ve been following your story, I do hope everything is going well for you! And congratulations to everyone that’s had their BFP