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Ttc #1 - cycle 7

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rosiej95 · 10/02/2021 09:19

Really fed up of AF showing up month after month now 🤦🏼‍♀️ we've been taking the see what happens but dtd lots approach. But now going into month 7 so We've decided to use the clear blue opk's to see if it gives us a better chance. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Now to just wait for AF to disappear 😀

Any one else ttc #1? 😀

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Loops01 · 01/05/2021 08:49

Just fyi I took a test today and it's negative. Not surprised really. Forgot to say @rosiej95 you won't have me cycle 10 as I have to get my mmr booster so not allowed to try for this next cycle. Feel rubbish about it but nothing I can do.

AZ1992X · 04/05/2021 17:40

@Amy259 thank you! I will do.

I hope everyone is keeping ok ❤️

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rosiej95 · 06/05/2021 07:03

Morning everyone

I'm currently day 6 of spotting 🙄
It's So frustrating😞

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Loops01 · 06/05/2021 08:34

I will be joining you soon. AF due tomo onwards. Going to take this month of not being able to try and really make it that June will be THE month! Keep me posted how you get on this month!

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rosiej95 · 06/05/2021 19:39

Well af has disappeared for me now 🤯
Not a clue what's going on...

Part of me was a little hopeful that its implantation bleeding As I'm also feeling a little blerg but 6 days is a long time. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️
Will keep an eye over the next few days 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Amy259 · 07/05/2021 12:42

@rosiej95 how strange! Did you take another test just in case..?

@Loops01 how are you feeling? Has af arrived for you?

Loops01 · 07/05/2021 13:06

@Amy259 not yet but it's only day 29 so could be today or the next two days. Been feeling that it could be any day for the past 2 or 3 days now so certain it'll come. Had to take a test before my mmr and it was still a clear negative.

I have booked a private fertility scan for cd14 next month but my app says that my next cycle will last 31 days. I am hoping this one is a day or two later and a day or two earlier next cycle so the scan will be between cd12-16!

How are you doing Amy?

Amy259 · 07/05/2021 13:10

@Loops01 I hate that hanging around part, waiting for it to arrive. How are you feeling this week?

I’m okay thank you! Should be ovulating today or tomorrow, OPKs keep getting to .6 and .8 yest and today but no strong positives yet. Dtd this morning, and I imagine that’s all we’ll manage - it’s mental how stressful we both find it. Life is so normal and lovely until these 3-4 days every month!

Loops01 · 07/05/2021 13:30

I get you! I feel like AF you're sad you're not BFP but then focus on the positive then you start testing and it feels like ages until you get a high or a peak and it does start to be like a chore then you start to stress that you could be pregnant and wishing every symptom. It's tough.

Hopefully you'll ovulate soon and it all work out!

I feel OK just now. I know I can't try this month so just trying to focus on better diet and getting back to gym and swimming now that the restrictions are eased. We are going out for lunch in a restaurant next wk. I can't wait! Going to have a couple cocktails but not too much. Enough to chill. Held on at work last night so did a 17 hour shift. Can't wait for days off on Tuesday!

Amy259 · 08/05/2021 18:26

@Loops01 yeah within a day or so of AF coming I can move on from disappoint to thinking about trying again, but whilst I’m waiting for it I can’t move on.

I think I peaked last night at about 7pm, got a strong positive opk. To my surprise (and delight!) DH was in the mood again this morning so we’ve dtd yesterday morning and today, and hopefully I’m due to ovulate tonight/tomorrow morning. So we’re more covered than we have been for the last few months - can’t complain! Need to just keep everything crossed now during the next fortnight of over thinking...

17 hours is a shift and a half! You must be exhausted. And Tuesday is so far away for a day off!! Hope you’re managing to get lots of rest between shifts. Lunch out sounds lovely, I’ve just booked a girls lunch for the bank holiday at the end of May and I already can’t wait haha.

Loops01 · 09/05/2021 17:50

Still no AF! No feelings of it either. If it doesn't arrive by tomorrow then this will be the longest cycle in 8 months! Just want it to come so I can move on! All bfns too so its like why?!

How many DPO are you now @Amy259? Your girls lunch sounds fun!! Hope restrictions easing can help us all chill a bit more!

Where are you at @rosiej95?

Amy259 · 09/05/2021 20:00

@Loops01 that’s so annoying! When that happens to me I do reflexology - I know, I know, it sounds crazy!! But when I had my chemical the next cycle was SO long and I knew I wasn’t pregnant so I tried it from a YouTube video and af came the next morning - it’s worked for me every time since! Coincidence or not, I have no idea. It’s basically just rubbing my ankles haha.

I’m only 1DPO at best!! So a long two weeks ahead for me...

Restrictions easing at least means we’ll hopefully have more things on to keep our minds off this TTC stuff I suppose!

Loops01 · 10/05/2021 00:11

Ooh thanks @Amy259 I have had a watch so I will try that. Just ordered more opks so if nothing in the next couple of days im just going to start opk tracking!

I hope you can distract yourself during this tww! It's horrible waiting, especially when it's longer than 2 wks!! Haha

Amy259 · 11/05/2021 17:39

@Loops01 how are you today, any sign of af? Or did you test again..?

@rosiej95 how are you doing? X

AZ1992X · 13/05/2021 08:09

Hi everyone, how’s everyone getting on this cycle?

I’m afraid to say I think I’ll be joining back in soon. I’ve been in hospital a few times this last week with fairly heavy bleeding. They scanned me and baby is measuring much earlier at around 5 weeks rather than what I thought should be 7-8 weeks so probably miscarriaged but it hasn’t come out yet. Got another scan for Monday and should get answers.

Loops01 · 14/05/2021 16:47

Sorry I didn't get notifications about posts - @AZ1992X I am so so so sad to hear this! Have you had this before? Please let us know when you feel you can. I've not had anything like that so not sure on the procedure. Hopefully someone in one of the other threads might help you to what is going on? How are you feeling about it all?

@Amy259 I was 1 week late but it finally arrived. Cd3 for me. No real changes to AF and obviously no symptoms on the lead up or during.

Amy259 · 14/05/2021 17:57

@AZ1992X I’m so so sorry to be reading this. I hope Monday brings you some answers. Always here to vent it out to if you need ♥️

@Loops01 how strange! Did you do anything different last month? I hear the vaccine can delay periods by a week or so.

Loops01 · 14/05/2021 18:20

Nope, nothing different at all! I blame the vaccine. Not going to get my second one until I know i have to have a break etc. Will see how this cycle goes! One of my best friends has started properly this month. Not sure how I feel about it when she's asking me for advice! How are things with you @Amy259?

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rosiej95 · 14/05/2021 19:23

Hi guys
Sorry for the silence just need a bit of a break.
Af came in full force & disappeared 2 days ago!
& I was ready & raring to go & now my boyfriends hurt his groin so he's out of action and says we have to leave it.
I just feel like crying all the time now
I feel like he doesn't want it as much as me cause he doesn't seem that bothered that we'll be missing the window.
So looks like I'll be going into month 11 🥺

@AZ1992X I am so sorry to read this! 😞
Here for when you need us ❤️❤️ xxxx

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Loops01 · 14/05/2021 19:39

Was that a shorter cycle for you @rosiej95? I'm pretty sure I was only a few days behind you but then I was 7 days late...?! My husband can be the same. I think it is more they don't know what to do or say and we think and stress enough for them! My husband still thinks it's not a big deal we aren't pregnant 'because it's not been a year yet'. Guess men will always be men! Have you spoken to your gp about getting referred or paying for anything private? I've got day 21 bloods at the start of June, private scan June 23rd then being referred via doctor in July (hopefully). It's very stressful and difficult and please don't think your bf doesn't want it or isn't feeling it - that's why you have us!

Amy259 · 14/05/2021 19:43

@Loops01 that’s really tough, I have a real fear of people around me starting to try whilst we’re still struggling along this journey. How are you feeling about her trying?
I’m 6dpo and feel less and less positive by the day, I’m not sure why - maybe just because I’m so used to disappointment it’s now just my go-to haha.

Ahhh @rosiej95 I’m sorry to hear you’ve had a time of it. I know what you mean about needing a break, sometimes it’s good to just step back. Your bf is probably pre-occupied with his pain, so it’s easier for him to rationalise not trying? Because he can physically feel the reason why, whereas you just have to go along with it. I know it’s not the same, but I felt similar when DH was getting too stressed to try - could hear myself screaming in my head the most ridiculous thoughts about how we should be trying to get his junk inside me whatever it took... it was a bad time 😂 sending lots of love xxx

Loops01 · 14/05/2021 20:20

I guess the good thing about feeling disappointed means it hurts less when you get AF or great joy when it's bfp. I'm just used to the no optimism now. I guess if I feel something different then I might feel a bit different. It's difficult though cos we all want a bfp but actually we just all want that baby and I don't think that worry will ever really disappear. Longer it is the harder it is. I am feeling a bit down about my friend trying. Mainly because they are both older, obese, haven't really changed things or added anything to their routine and he has issues so if they get pregnant quick I'll be like WTAF?! But if it takes them time and they make improvements then I might be happy for them? Sounds bad. She never wanted kids until recently and she told me a few months ago that I'm the one preventing this pregnancy because I'm too stressed and trying too hard and that I should consider adoption...so yeah not the happiest about them ttc...!

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rosiej95 · 14/05/2021 20:55

@Amy259
I made sure he was ok & then was like 🤦🏼‍♀️ another month of not being able to ttc 🙈😂😂
When I re read what I write I'm like I sound like a right bitch 😂😂🤦🏼‍♀️
I promise I'm not haha

@Loops01 so... it's weird I had a week of spotting & then full on AF so I'm not entirely to sure?
I have tbh but part of me is a little scared.
I kinda keep trying to tell myself it'll happen soon but with my boyfriend being out this month I might make an appointment 🤔

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Loops01 · 14/05/2021 21:26

I mean there's no harm but it's up to you really. I was told there is a waiting list so when I go on it in July it might be 2 months or could be Christmas before they start the scans etc. Don't push yourself if you don't feel like you want to take that step.

Also I know he may be out of action but there is a product that you can use which is basically like a syringe so he can ejaculated into a cup then you suck it up and push it up 😂. Sounds horrible but my friend uses it when he Mr struggles to finish within! There's always a way! 😂

Loops01 · 17/05/2021 09:21

Keeping everything crossed for you today @AZ1992X