Ttc #1 - cycle 7

[rosiej95]

Really fed up of AF showing up month after month now 🤦🏼‍♀️ we've been taking the see what happens but dtd lots approach. But now going into month 7 so We've decided to use the clear blue opk's to see if it gives us a better chance. 🤷🏼‍♀️
Now to just wait for AF to disappear 😀

Any one else ttc #1? 😀

I don’t know what’s going off , cd34 which is late but tested this morning bfn. Have got bit of cramping so perhaps it’s just delayed .. fed up.

Hello ladies!

Had a spare half hour at work and thought I’d catch up with all I’ve missed during my wee break (which is against my break rules, but here we are!).

@Loops01 my heart was breaking reading your messages 💔 I know when my husband’s SIL announces she’s pregnant (if we aren’t already) it’s going to hit so much harder than anyone else. It’ll be first the grandchild, they got married first, fairytale life etc etc, and I’m so convinced they’ll get there first and I know it’s going to be painful. We were driving by their house last week so decided to pop in and see them as they were out in the garden, and because it was an unexpected visit she screamed “are you pregnant?!?” as we walked into the garden... not the best. Do you think taking a month off would help you mentally at all?

Everyone else - what is going on with all the early afs?! How have you managed to all sync up?! 😂 hope you’re all well and ready to take on this cycle!

Than you @Amy259. It was difficult. Lots of crying. I have since spoken to her about us trying because that side of the family weren't fully aware so she felt really bad. I didn't want her to feel bad but just to understand how maybe it wasn't best received by myself and DH. We have spoken quite a bit and I think it's really helped me. She was the same as your SIL by the sounds of it. Always first. I don't hate her or wish anything bad but I was like you and just wanted to have that first for a change. Nothing changing it now. This month I'm away for work during my full window so that will be a break. I've emailed the gp (they don't take calls atm) so they have arranged a telephone appointment. As of next month that'll be 1 year (I told them we were trying 3m earlier than when we did) so I will be interested to see what they say or do. SIL got pregnant in 3rd or 4th month. I would love to be pregnant at the same time as I think that would be nice but I have no hope whatsoever. I have no symptoms or anything to suggest why it's not happening, everything has been on time for months now. I had 1 month of lots of symptoms a few months ago but nothing since. Not even period pain! Just at a loss of what to keep doing etc. I know people say don't think about it or stress but if anything not knowing doesn't help.

How are things with you Amy and @AZ1992X? Where are you at now @rosiej95? I'm CD7 but nothing new.

Hi @Loops01 I’m glad you’ve managed to get an appointment, hopefully you’ll be able to get some answers.

Still waiting for AF - Day35- I’m 2 days later than my last cycle but it was a bfn yesterday so not really sure what’s happening. I’ve had bad bloating and cramping and tummy issues last few days but that’s eased off. Going wait few more days see what happens. X.

@Loops01 that’s great that a chat with her made you feel better, and that you were able to have that conversation with her. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to look at your month off as a real mental break if you can - I even delete my Premom app so I couldn’t be tempted to check, and cancelled notifications for her (except tags) so that I could catch up when I was in the right headspace rather than get an email notification at the wrong time. It really helped massively, for both of us. There’s nothing you can do about not being able to try next month, so maybe focus on embracing it as a good thing ♥️

@AZ1992X I hate that!! When you just want AF to hurry up so you can get on with the next cycle! So frustrating for you.

All good here thank you, I think af will be due on Tuesday or Wednesday, going by cm/prev cycles. We didn’t DTD around when my ov would’ve been due, so no tww for me. It’s so funny, every tww I can feel absolutely everything - sore nipples, cramps here and there, bloating, weird feelings etc, constantly over analysing. This month? Absolutely nothing! No boob pain, no “twinges”. Clearly I really obsess over symptom spotting!

I did wonder if I feel things when they aren't actually there. I was speaking to someone who struggled with fertility and it turned out that her tubes were twisted. I've googled and it reads that it would be lots of pain. Just want a reason I think. Fed up. I'm glad you've enjoyed the month off. Are you getting back on it or just relaxing a bit more and seeing how it goes? How's DH found it this past month? I've had 3 announcements in the past week. Pretty tough to take when you know they weren't trying as long etc. Makes me feel like something isn't right. To be honest I don't want this trip and want to get pregnant so not feeling great about the month off. Barely seeing DH too so it's not even like we can chill together. We have 1 day off this month together. Meh. I've been trying to do more (mainly a distraction) so will see how that goes. The garden has never looked better I'll say that 😂

Hello, just wondering if anyone else has had brown spotting? I'm CD9 and my period normally only lasts 4 days. On day 5 I noticed it was a bit brown when I wiped and thought meh old blood but now I've still got it and it can leave a very small but in my underwear too. I've showered (at least once) every day but it still comes out when wipe and can he a tad mucusy looking. There's no smell or sign of infection or inflammation. Does anyone else get or had this? I have a telephone consultation next Wed with the doc but not sure whether to call them up and ask. Would feel a bit stupid if it's just old blood. I've not really had any pain or bloating and generally only really have 1 day of AF symptoms max and its mainly just bloat?

Sorry cd8!

Hey guys.
It's all gone a little crazy for me this week, I had everything planned for this cycle
But I underestimated how tired I would be from work! It's my first week back and I've not been getting in until gone 9. So the plan hasn't gone to plan 🙈
We're just going to dtd when we want & just go with the flow this month I think so I don't have much hope ( haven't even got the energy to eat let alone put effort into dtd 😂 - really bad that is isn't it 🙈😂)

Hope your all doing ok :)

@Amy259 lovely to see your back! 😍
Hope the break has done you good!

@Loops01 it is honestly so hard to be positive all the time :/
I'm glad you've had a chat with you SIL
& feel better about it
I've not had that, might be worth seeing what it does over the next couple of days & then deffo mentioning it to the docs :)

@AZ1992X how are you getting on? :)

@Aims1991 @Kipkay35 @midwifeandttc hope your all doing ok too? :)

@rosiej95 hope your good. I'm on CD14 and starting to get faded lines on OPK. Not sure if I will use CB this month. My other is struggling this month, he's shattered from work just now but he's trying not to show it🙈

Hi @rosiej95,

I’m not surprised - must be quite a shock to your system if you’re going back to work. I’m hoping I can do a gradual phrase back into the office when that happens but for now still wfh.

Well I’m currently CD36 which is 4 days late.. so it’s really dragging 😔 did my third test yesterday and was bfn and noticed my bbt starting to drop these last few days so expecting AF is on its way.

I had a call with the gp yesterday and they’ve agreed to just do some bloods to check my hormone levels, thyroid etc , I think she thinks it more for peace of mind. If they come back normal I need to try for a while longer before they’ll refer me to the fertility clinic. Was expecting that as it’s not been a year but she mentioned maybe having ttc for 18 months which feels so far away!!

Thanks @rosiej95, I hope work eases a bit. It can be a good distraction but you don't want it to take over your life or tire you out!

@AZ1992X I'm so sorry its so long. Its perfectly natural to keep testing as you think well maybe now. Has this been your longest month in a wee while?

Have any of yous noticed any symptoms or reasons that might be infertility. I mean in the way of heavy bleeding or pain or any diagnosis of pcos or anything? I'm starting to worry there's something but it's the same as you @AZ1992X where docs don't really do much and even though the months are passing it feels like it's so long. It's a lot of emotions. We've just had 2 more girls in work pregnant. So that's 4 I know due between October and November now.

Thank you @Loops01 yes, longest one for a while. My last three have all been between 30-32 days. It’s not been this long since the start of coming off the pill which I would have expected then as my hormones was probably all over the place being on the pill for so long!

The gp said I probably just ovulated later than normal or there was still a small chance of pregnancy but as the days pass that’s now unlikely. If AF don’t turn up but no bfp then feel it’s going to be hard to try and track ovulation the next cycle.

We have thyroid that runs in the family so do worry about that but the blood tests would rule that out and believe is easily treated with meds if it does come up.
I do have bad cramping on my period some months but not sure what’s normal and not tbh.
Do you feel you have any symptoms @Loops01 ??

Hoping that I get on better with tracking over the next few months to find out when I ovulate and try and find a pattern. Only started two months ago and really wish I had started much earlier on.

@AZ1992X that must be so hard cos you'll just want to move on. Hopefully just a 1 off month!

Thyroid issues run in both of our families. Both mums are hypo. My mum has a range of autoimmune disorders such as lupus or arthritis but I had bloods checked in December with no concerns raised. I know I will probably be diagnosed with some come time but in general my health is really good. I used to get some pain and bloating the first day or 2 of my period but now I've changed my diets in terms of eating more fruit and veg and less processed foods plus more vitamins and rubbish like that, its barely anything. I've seen me bleed for 3 days once, light, heavy, light with a little bit of bloating and tenderness but thats about it. Nothing a wee walk about doesn't help My cycle was between 30-40 days a pig 3 months prior to that but ultimately I have no symptoms of anything! My cycle for the last 4 or 5 months has been pretty much spot on between 28 and 31 days with 28 being the average. Like I know it can take up to a year of trying but ultimately if you're testing and dtd at the correct time then I would have thought it would have happened by now? Very weird I think. I'm really tempted to pay £150 for the hertility test but don't really want to waste money if I can get it from docs.

@Loops01 yes, 100% just want it to arrive so can start again. Hopefully it is just an off month and back to normal next month.

Agree, It’s frustrating the not knowing why it’s not happened - that’s the hard part and it gets harder as every month passes.

Just going to keep trying as that’s all I can do for now 🤞 xx

Hi everyone, sorry I took a break for a while. I didn't want to test this month because I was getting through so many tests and just decided I didn't want to know if I tested early and it was a chemical or something. Anyway, AF was 3 days late (cruel bitch) and now heavy & painful. So awful.

So I'm on to month 8 I think. This is getting harder and harder. I started pregnancies pre conception vitamins this month instead of just folic acid and vitamin d. Fingers crossed for you all x

Morning all,

Hope everyone’s doing ok.

Yesterday I noticed by bbt went back up so just had a short bbt dip. Tested as it had been few days and had a faint line.
Had slightly sore boobs yesterday too.

Tested twice today - one cheap and one normal and both have a line.

I know it’s very early days so don’t want to get too excited.

I have everything crossed you will all get yours soon! X.

@AZ1992X aw congratulations!! At least now you know why AF didn't show! Fingers crossed it keeps getting darker. How many DPO are you now?

@Loops01 thank you. I struggled to track this month so don’t know exactly but think it’s probably around 14dpo. Was defo testing way too early as I think I must of ovulated a few days later than last month.

Well im glad there is someone getting a positive this month and I know you were finding it hard too so that's good news! Good results for that DPO. Keep positive!

Thanks @Loops01 😊 x.

Hey everyone. Very confused with my cycle just now. AF was 6 days early and been doing OPKs and CB since AF went away and had a strong line on Saturday on opk but CB didn't have anything and now today both are really faint🤷🏻‍♀️ really conceded that maybe I don't ovulate😢

@AZ1992X yay!! Congratulations! 😍
How are you feeling? 🥰🥰

@Aims1991 ive not come across that before :( hopefully it's just a bit of a delay? Have you noticed any cm that would back up your positive opk? 🤷🏼‍♀️

What is CB? That your temp? What day are you on and when do you normally ovulate? When I have been early or late by a day my cycle is longer or shorter but my ovulation is generally the same time. I go by opks and cm. If CB is temp then I can't help there as never used that method but maybe timings of testings are off?

Thanks @rosiej95 ☺️
Still don’t feel real yet. Booked in with gp but that’s 3 weeks away which feels a long way away!

Feel fine in my self, have had slight sore boobs and felt a bit yukky this morning but apart that don’t feel that different yet.

X.