Early BFPs

[Secretsquirrelisfedup]

Hi, does anyone want to come and keep me company? Currently ttc#3 and I don’t know how many dpo I am as my cycles have been a bit unpredictable for the last year but I’d say between 8 and 12 dpo at a guess. I had a chemical in September and a miscarriage at about 6 weeks in early November. This month has been the first month we started trying again and I wasn’t going to test early but after feeling knackered and iffy all weekend I did an impulsive test last night before bed and got the faintest squinter ever. This morning I tested again and got a faint but definitely there positive that my phone camera managed to pick up 😬.

I don’t even want to tell DP yet as the last 2 BFPs didn’t stick. I don’t know what do do with myself today in between homeschooling and the kids have picked today to be really motivated and not needing much help from me.

@LAgeDeRaisin I’m so sorry to hear that but I know that if you are feeling that way there is a good chance you have made a really positive impact on this patients last days and that is a really special thing to be able to do.

In situations like that it’s also no wonder that the strain might project onto other already emotional but uncertain areas. Mild cramps are normal in the first few weeks so unless they get intense try not to worry too much about them. Please try to look after yourself when you can in between the amazing job you do at work and with your little one.

Good morning everyone

Hi,

Jumping on this thread as I posted a few days ago about a higher heart rate than normal and just saw your post with same symptoms.

I wasn't planning on testing until Mon but seeing your BFP I really want to test now!!

Has anyone had a BFP without using FMU?

I'm wondering if I should go for it now or wait until tomorrow morning.

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Hi all. I got this with FMU this morning. Any thoughts? I'm crampy and feel like my period is coming though 😔
Thank you.
@ElleL91 you may get a result but FMU is usually best I believe xxx

@jades132 definitely a line there!

I got a line like that 9 days ago and I still feel the same! Bloating and dull ‘heavy’ feeling. I do remember feeling like this with my DS early on though (he’s now almost 4).

Hiya @ElleL91, you can get BFPs without using FMU but it can give you false negatives especially early on. I would wait for tomorrow.

I would never have thought to put my increased heart rate down to pregnancy if I didn’t also feel knackered and sick but it’s definitely consistently higher starting from when I started to feel the other symptoms that made me test.

@jades132

I can see a line! How many dpo's are you?

I've just taken one and deffo no line 😩

Think I'm just going to leave it now until next week and try it with FMU

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I was planning to hold off early testing after a CP pregnancy last month and MC at 6+4 in November, but have had such strong cramps for the last few days, aches and general yukky feeling that I couldn't hold off and tested today at 10dpo -BFP.

I had a squinter on a IC and confirmed it on a FRER, I've started taking asprin this month so I'm praying it sticks!

Thanks @Hoplop xx

@ElleL91 I'm actually 16dpo. Not as clear as I thought it would be, unless I implanted late or I'm having a chemical? Fingers crossed all okay! 🤞🏼 Sorry about your negative, there still may be time! Xx

@whitershadeofpale congrats! Xx

Congratulations @jades132 and @whitershadeofpale loads of luck to both of you.

Hi ladies.

How is everyone?

I'm sorry you are feeling anxious @LAgeDeRaisin. I am struggling a bit today too. I did my last FRER tests yesterday and today to use them up and I got 'dye stealers' on both. I know everything is progressing but think I am just worried about lack of symptoms, I don't really have much to report at all besides lack of appetite and sensitive nipples. I have obviously googled and everything says its normal at this point but I just can't help but fret.

Roll on the weekend - we will officially be the furthest along we've been in any pregnancy. I can't wait!

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@daisyorange2 is there anything helping with making you feel less anxious? I need help with relaxing!

I can’t explain it but I feel like I really dislike DH for absolutely anything these past few days. I’m just so stressed and I don’t think I’ve ever felt like this before. Work is stressful, even though nothing is different, and I just feel angry all the time!

If anyone has any tips at all to de-stress (minus completely removing my workload...), is love to hear them!

@Hoplop what is working for me right now is an app called Expectful. It’s a mindfulness/meditation app for pregnant women and you can sort it by trimester, week, or just concern. I listened to 20 minutes of ‘trusting your body’ and ‘navigating uncertainty’ before I went to sleep and I woke up feeling brand new. Really the app, this thread and distracting myself with work is all that’s helping me, but I am literally crossing days off the calendar until my scan.

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@daisyorange2 I think I’ll try that too.

I’ve been so stressed, don’t want to talk about it at all. I’ve also been having dreams of miscarriage which I can’t seem to shake off.
Not sure why I am like this when I was perfectly happy with DC1, I don’t think I ever thought that it wouldn’t be fine but this time I can’t see it being okay.

I’ve got some mild sharp cramp again today, maybe that’s what is subconsciously stressing me out.

I second mindfulness and meditation it’s brilliant for me, I use the calm app. I also find that keeping a journal helps, sometimes I write pure tripe for the sake of writing because I find writing therapeutic, sometimes I pour out everything going round in my head and it really helps me to untangle things and process them more calmly.

Hey girls, congrats on everyone's BFPs.

For anyone in the same boat as me, please join our Fb group called Autumn Girls 2021

The more the merrier, we can all support each other through. This is for girls due in October or Nov.

Facebook.com/groups/autumngirls2021

Xxx

Thanks @MrsBlue1986 I will join at some point but trying to rein in the excitement for now. Looking forward to joining you and the other Autumn girls soon!

Thanks everyone :)
Feeling a bit less pathetic today! Hope you're all doing well and congratulations to the new arrivals!

How is everyone today? I am so happy, only two days left till half term and a much needed break from homeschooling and I’m not feeling quite as anxious this morning. I actually managed to sleep most of the night last night which feels like nothing short of a miracle.

@Secretsquirrelisfedup I’m feeling a bit more relaxed today. My Ds asked for a brother or sister last night, first time it’s ever been mentioned! Maybe having nobody to play with in lockdown has made him think!

Has anyone else got a mild ache/cramp feeling still? It’s the worst after I’ve been for a wee and lasts for a few mins at least! Is it just things growing?

@Leonberger yeah, I’ve still got it, actually it didn’t kick in straight away this time for me and I panicked because I didn’t have it this time. I remember it lasting for the first couple/few weeks with my DD. I don’t think it lasted as long with DS but he’ll be 9 in April so it’s possible that my memory isn’t the clearest. As long as it’s only mild it’s normal.

Morning ladies!

Hurrah for half term - don’t know how you mums are doing it, especially if you have more than one. I watched a TV show the other day and they were homeschooling SIX kids of diff ages. 😬!!!

I’m feeling good today, I have some pulling/pinching feelings today a little higher up in my lower belly, as opposed to where I’d typically feel cramps/ovulation pain. Think good things are happening!! Tomorrow we are officially pregnant for the longest time out of all 3 pregnancies. 🥰

Still don’t really have many symptoms. Hoping maybe I will be one of the lucky ones.

How do you all feel about finding out the gender? Always thought I wouldn’t but after so much uncertainty and surprise around pregnancy I actually think I’d like to know one thing for certain! Control thing I guess.

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@daisyorange2 we found out the first time round just because it made it much easier to decorate and buy things
I kept nothing though so starting over again!

I actually feel really strange today, slightly floaty/dizzy and like my brain is not functioning correctly!

Morning @daisyorange2. I found out with my others so that it would be easier to agree on a name in advance and we’d only have to choose one at a time but in my daydreams of a third I always imagined not finding out this time since I have a boy and a girl already.

I think we need to decide once we’ve told the kids though. If they aren’t bothered either way then great we can have a surprise but if they set their hearts on a brother or sister I’d rather find out sooner so I can prepare them and make sure they are happy and excited rather than risk them being disappointed once the baby is born.

@daisyorange2 we found out with DS but only because he was an unplanned baby and DH had had enough of surprised haha!

I don’t want to know this time around but DH does and tbh, I don’t care if he knows as long as all is well!

@Secretsquirrelisfedup my mum had one of each and took my brother and me to her scan where she found out she was having a girl. I really wanted another brother so it gave me time to accept the fact I was no longer the only girl after 7 years! This was 25 years ago though!