TTC 35+ Thread 6 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

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Hey ladies, setting up a new thread! 😃 Hope it works! 🤪

Luckily mine was more like yours @KG1145 but that post with the seeds made me pmsl.

Where are your needles? I didn’t have any when I left, I just had them in my back/shoulders/ankles/hands. The only place I could really properly feel them was my lower back. I felt the same really, much more relaxed but couldn’t say why. I was pre-ovulation at the time and this month I might have ovulated on day 14, which I have to wonder if the acupuncture helped, but not sure.

Yoga for weight loss sounds good, any recommendations @Marvellouslymadmum? I did about 20 or 30 minutes or stretching, yoga, and arm and back exercises but I was just googling YT videos that fit the bill.

@thislittlebird look for psyche network for the yoga classes, there are loads of great ones on there - but definitely start with the beginner ones the others are somewhat knackering and hard! 🥵

@thislittlebird just checked and I got it wrong it's 'psychetruth'

Yeah I know my fitness is terrible right now. I tried today and it was all a bit hard. Also managed to break the lesser of my two resistance bands

Sorry forgot to @ you @Marvellouslymadmum

@thislittlebird I find the beginner ones are mostly ok though some of them are pretty knackering! I don't have any resistance bands or anything yet only my mat as I used to go to a studio so just used their equipment but that's all gone out the window now!

@Marvellouslymadmum
My husband had this rubbish band that broke from a while back but I did some personal training last year and had to invest in some kit (it was all outdoors) so I have stuff here like a medicine ball, band, boxing gloves (not sure who I’m supposed to be boxing with exactly) which is great, just need to try to use it more.

I’ll check that rec out!

@thislittlebird that's all handy! I used to have a punch bag and sparring pads that I could get someone to hold for me to practice but not quite sure what happening to them when I moved 🤔 we've just been discussing getting some bits and pieces in our dining room/craft room/Xbox room might get a running machine & exercise bike so that'll help too!

Our box room is currently a drying washing room slash exercise room and we have a rowing machine in there (had to get something sat down for the DH because of plantar fasciitis), mat, weights and the rest of the kit I mentioned will go in there too when I get it out of the car boot this weekend and wash it all lol. I’m tempted to get one of these @Marvellouslymadmum

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07PQSCBVD/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awdb_imm_V2B4Q830SD2GTA6MV1QN?psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=mumsnetforu03-21

This room was intended to be a nursery once upon a time but clearly that hasn’t happened so gym room it is for the time being.

@thislittlebird yes get one they're great fun!
Oh I forgot the tumble dryer is in there too 😂 it's definitely a multi purpose room lol I think we've changed it's use 5 times now but now it's used for everything

AF arrived today as expected (My BBT temp spot on!) Glad that after all these years away from actively TTC and temping, I can still read my chart quite well!

@MgW1 so sorry to hear what you've been going through. I've not logged on this week so just catching up on messages now. My due date should have been in March too for my MMC and I had been putting the same pressure on myself too that I wanted to be pregnant before my due date. It's so hard especially with our due dates getting closer but hopefully we can ease off on ourselves and maybe it will be slightly easier once our due dates have passed xx

I thought my symptoms had disappeared today, 6dpo. Tho this evening felt some aches in my boobs, no change in appearance

I'm not sure if I'm imaging cramping, felt bit twinges earlier but I had a hard day at work gardening, my core was used a lot etc and the twinges were upper more stomach, but I think... I now have mild cramping lower down (af not due for 8-10 days). Still could by psychosomatic 🤞

Also very gassy.. Lol

@thislittlebird - here they are, you can just about see the plaster in the picture.

@Misty84 - my acupuncture was near Birmingham, but I would recommend her - although I have only been for one session. Not sure where you're based but the one I went to is Zita West affiliated which gave me a bit of reassurance as it's a name I've heard of at least

Oh weird @KG1145, so they just leave them in? Are you told when to take them out?

I got my nhs referral through. May 17. A little dejected considering this process started in July and the only reason it’s delayed is because they wrongly told me everything was fine. Oh well.

@thislittlebird oh no, I'm so sorry you had all that delay. What did they make a mistake on and how did you find out?

@climbershell oh god, long message ahead warning 🙈

I (naively) called them for my results after my tests in July and the receptionist told me they had come back fine or normal. I just accepted that and didn’t ask for a follow up appointment because I guess I thought fine was fine, they know what they’re doing! Months went by and we got married so I wasn’t really focusing on the ttc so much and then after the wedding I started to think about it all some more and decided I would ask for the results in writing.

When I got them in writing the results said, quite clearly, that they were not fine and could indicate a defective luteal phase. Screenshot of the words attached because I still can’t believe she didn’t mention this to me, and I’m kicking myself that I never asked for an appointment. And to add insult to injury the exact same thing happened to my husband. Told his results were fine by the receptionist, stopped worrying about it for a while, then when we got his in writing (after I realised mine were not “fine”) his were also not exactly fine. The GP still said his were normal when he called to follow up but the private consultant we saw after my AMH and follicle scan wasn’t worried about my progesterone and she thought I was fine, but she was a bit concerned by his results. Sigh.

Anyway, in early December I arranged an appointment and asked for a referral and they said you need two sets of tests. I couldn’t do my day 21 again until February because my periods decided to go haywire at the exact same time. Finally redid my tests a few weeks ago and my progesterone was even lower this time and the doctor referred us, but now we have to wait until May with iffy sperm and unknown ovulation 😑.

Hence why I’ve started acupuncture and supplements, because I don’t know what else to do while we wait but help myself/ourselves as much as I can.

Anyway, I guess lesson learned: get everything in writing and maybe get second or third opinions 🤷‍♀️

Currently I’m considering booking in with a specialist at Kings who has a waiting time, thinking it might be good to see my referral clinic and someone else around the same time to see what they advise.

@thislittlebird oh my word, that is absolutely terrible! I feel for you so much. All that time you could have been on waiting list etc and potentially solving the issues

Was it the blood test 7 days before period for you and SA for partner?

Yeah that’s right @climbershell. Day “21” and SA. He has to redo his SA soon and take the result with him to the referral. Hoping it’s improved because he will have been on the supplements the private consultant recommended for a month or two.

I’m pretty angry tbh and am constantly in two minds about complaining to the surgery. I don’t know where it would get me anyway, other than more angry.

I was tempted to speak to PALS, don’t know if they’d be able to advise anything around it.

If they’re going to put me on clomid or similar then I would really just like to get on with that and I don’t want to spend two more months doing yet more tests, would be happy to pay for them privately so that they’re done but don’t know if the NHS would accept them. It’s all so frustrating. We spoke about it and decided we’d like to get going on assisted by the autumn really because I’m not getting any younger, so I’m not sure how much help the nhs are going to be to us long term if they keep making us wait. May not be worth our time.

I did speak to the same private consultant again a week or so ago (the one who told us about his SA) and she suggested cycle monitoring but I had such a bad experience with the admin staff the next day that I decided not to bother. Considering this Kings private arm for some more tests or a consultation on the low progesterone in the meantime.

My AF is awful this month! Could Pregnacare have an impact? Making me feel nauseous and contraction type cramps. Was thinking the vitamins were the reason I hadn't had the usual hormonal headaches in the run up to AF but this is worse. Feel dreadful today. I don't usual feel like this

@thislittlebird I'd be cross. I would speak to someone about it. They shouldn't say things are fine if they're not!
Out of interest, what supplements did the consultant recommend to your DH to improve SA?

I have had weird AF like that for months on and off and I can only think stress made it mess up my hormones? Dunno, but my hormonal migraines changed into long drawn out headaches and a ton of other horrible symptoms trying to trick me for days on end. @WrongendoftheSTIX

And yeah I am very annoyed but my surgery is a mess right now, I don’t even know where the old doctors went (maybe to help with covid 🤷‍♀️) but I do want to say something to someone about all this.

She recommended Impryl, which he has been taking for a month or more now. Women and men can take it and I have considered it. They also do one for PCOS.

@thislittlebird that's terrible. I would at least register a complaint, and then anything in the future should bring up a red flag.

@WrongendoftheSTIX my period has been surprisingly long this month since I started the B6! Usually I'll get 1.5 days fairly heavy and then it peters out; overall about 3 days. It petered out for longer this month, and all in all lasted about 5 days! I do feel like I've been cleared out though! 😅

Yeah I know I should @selina37, I just can’t muster the mental energy. I’ll look into who I can speak to soon.

Remind me what b6 dose you’re taking? I started mine after likely o day and if it made my periods more “normal” again I’d be thrilled, because they have been very weird for a few months. Would welcome said clear out right now lmao