TTC after ectopic Part 2

[DoctorBambino]

Looks like we need a new thread!
I've added everyone who has posted recently 😊

@Sammyclaire22 @that90sgirl @ActonBell @NigellasMicrowave @Kate105 @Hlump1980 @ScottishStardust @littleeggcup @MrsB2019x @Chica1990 @Mumlili9 @Ivybutterfly @yesitcould @BasalGanglia

@Luan82 a mucus plug not heard of that causing an ectopic could you explain if you don’t mind 😊 oh wow you have definitely been through it it is soul destroying I 100% agree with natural healing I am trying to be more healthy now and doing more exercise just so difficult to get motivation. I don’t think any woman having difficulty getting pregnant should have to pay private it makes me angry when you see women who point blank abuse their bodies and they seem to get pregnant fast xx

@MumOf2LittleMinions57 couldn't agree more !! Here's the link ... it kinda helped me to think that it's not just scarring and adhesions that can affect your tubes it's also why I'm going to be really pushing my consultant for a 'flush' procedure even though they've cancelled the lap!
joasmedical.net/how-a-simple-mucous-plug-can-stop-you-from-getting-pregnant-and-affect-your-infertility-status/

@Luan82 thanks for that it was a really interesting read. Yes a flush would be beneficial. I am praying mine was just a one off bad egg that couldn’t be arsed to make the journey. I really hope one day they will be able to invent something that helps repair tubes I really hope we see a BFP from you I will definitely be keeping my fingers and toes crossed x

@MumOf2LittleMinions57 - thank you lovely 😘 and you too!! 🌈❤️xx

@Luan82 it’s definitely going to be a rocky road I reckon but going to enjoy the ride.. do I start ovulation testing after my period has stopped xx

@MumOf2LittleMinions57 have you got the Flo app? It's very good for cycle predictions I tend to test from like day 13 of my cycle - I used to ovulate on day 18 like clockwork but since my ectopic I now ovulate on day 16 ! and once I start to feel / see cervical mucus increase - no harm in testing early just in case you ovulate early though !! Xx

@Luan82 I haven’t got that app I think I might download that one it’s just annoying as I don’t have a period date for jan only from nov and dec so it will knock it all out 🙈 my other half brought me a clear blue ovulation test that connects to my phone I actually no no idea when I ovulate at all must be the beginning of the month as AF always seems to come at the end of the month xx

I've had my second week back at work this week, it's been nice and lifted my mood. So I've been trying to catch up on the thread.

I will be four weeks post op on Sunday, still no first bleed yet but have had cramps the odd day or two.

Even though I want to wait the three months before trying (more for the emotional toll another ectopic could bring) I decided to order some OPKs from Amazon to get an idea of when I'm ovulating. I literally have no idea what I'm doing so any tips, apps or articles I should read, send them my way. @LauraT94 you look like a pro!

@kayvsy welcome to the group 🙂

@Hlump1980 sorry this month wasn't your month, it can be made harder when there are dates/milestones coming up. Very few people conceive on first month TTC so try not to beat yourself up.

@Mumlili9 I'm so sorry to hear your news, that must be heartbreaking. I take it your OH is a very strict Catholic and IVF is def not something he would consider? I was actually surprised when you mentioned that as I was brought up Catholic (atheist now). I'd never heard of the Catholic stance on IVF, that must be so upsetting for you.

@Rach2021 sorry you weren't taken seriously at the hospital. I've read so many stories like that, it's scary and upsetting. There was a report done by HSIB into late detention and diagnosis. Being misdiagnosed seems too common.

@HereIfYouNeedMe wonderful, glad to hear you've been discharged. Take care of yourself. I'm sure the three months will fly by.

www.hsib.org.uk/news/new-report-highlights-the-devastating-impact-of-missed-ectopic-pregnancy/

Hi all, I’m not up to date with the thread as everything’s still pretty overwhelming for me at the moment but I’m still thinking of you all and wishing you all well.

My sleep is getting better but what I’m really struggling with now is pain. I’m 4.5 weeks post-op having had the right tube removed. This was my first week back at work (wfh, doing reduced hours for a bit). The past 3 days I have had strong pain in my right pelvic area, going into the top of my leg. I’ve also had shoulder pain. It’s nowhere near as bad as the pain from the ruptured tube but it is completely freaking me out. I’m back on codeine, which I’d stopped about 10 days after surgery.

I should maybe try to speak to someone but I HATE calling my gp. It’s nearly impossible to get through at the moment (which I do understand given the current situation) but if you do get through they are so unsympathetic and make you feel bad for calling.

I’m just in tears tonight, thinking that I’m going to have this pain for the rest of my life or that something has gone wrong after the operation.

@Lililou The Catholic Church's stance is that IVF is wrong under any circumstances, even when embryos are implanted within the woman's body. All conception must take place naturally within a woman's body, In addition, the church opposes IVF because it might cause disposal of embryos; Catholics believe an embryo is an individual with a soul who must be treated as a such. So yeah Its a definite no no. Im just going to have to pray for an actual miracle if im meant to have a child or not. I dont think im ment to though or I wouldn't have had 9 losses. Its a shame because I have so much love to give.

OPKS I did one every afternoon from cd 7 and when the second line started to get some colour I did one twice a day until I hit peak and then continued to test for a couple of days after to make sure my LH surge was over. But tbh I have a poas problem so just did it when ever I got the urge lol I used a really good app call Pre-mom it reads the test strips for you and keeps a photo record and a graph it also helps you to predict your fertile window so you can get the bding in the right time. Ive attached photos of mine for you. I also bbt temped to confirm ovulation aswell.

@ActonBell it sounds like you should speak with your gp. I still had pain for upto 6 weeks after my tube removal. A year on I still get pains but I have been told its normal. The surgery isn't minor they removed parts of us and it takes time to recover. Be gentle on yourself and if it hurts to go to work dont go , your more important than a job ♥ . Im sorry your finding it difficult xx

Thanks @Mumlili9 - I think it would really help if they told you that it was possible for pain to go on this long. The surgeon literally said to me ‘you won’t have much pain’ - well I definitely did for the first couple of weeks after and I do now! Everything I’ve read says you should be recovered if you’ve had the keyhole procedure in 2-3 weeks and that’s just not what I’m experiencing.

@ActonBell I didnt either hun, I had so much pain that even sitting and standing felt like I was being ripped in half for the first 2 weeks. But even when the outside seemed healed the inside felt so bruised still.

Sorry to hear you’re struggling @ActonBell. As much as it’s a pain I think it’s worth speaking to someone just to put your mind at ease. If you don’t want to speak to your GP could you potentially call the hospital instead?

@ActonBell def agree with that it is best to get checked out just to give you some piece of mind. I know I still get twinges but not pain x

Thank you everybody else for your kind words . I think I just have to accept that this month isn’t going to be great and I just need to look after myself then hopefully spring will start to appear ( I am trying the positive route). Have a lovely weekend as much as we can x

Ended up phoning the ward where I was treated and explaining the whole situation. They were very nice and suggested I come in for a blood and urine test. Both of which have shown nothing!

No infection. They ruled out internal bleeding. They started saying it must be unrelated to the surgery or the ectopic and I should go to the GP. I got a bit emotional at that point because it’s all been so much to take and I can’t believe this is just something that has coincidentally happened. They’ve given me some painkillers and said to see how it goes and I can ring them again or go to the GP.

I’m really pleased there is no sign of anything horribly wrong but this is so stressful. Don’t know what to do next if this carries on.

Hey lovelies. Not expecting any of you to remember but those who didn't have surgery, how long before AF showed up? I was bleeding from the ectopic for over 2 weeks. Been about 5 days of no bleeding and now I am again, but I think it's AF 🤔

@ActonBell that's good news, I can't imagine how frustrated you feel though ☹️ how are the painkillers working for you?

@HereIfYouNeedMe I bled when diagnosed with the ectopic for about four weeks. It stopped for two days, my hcg went to zero...and I started bleeding again. Apparently it’s a withdrawal bleed, as I didn’t ovulate during that time.

I waited and waited for my period to show up (I was so worried it wouldn’t!) but it started this week, not quite eight weeks after the ectopic was found and three weeks after my earlier bleed. There’s been a lot of blood, exhausting! I’ve been taking my iron tablets and I think it has helped.

@NigellasMicrowave oh bless you, I hope things settle down quickly for you! Thanks for letting me know 😘

@Mumlili9 so sorry you've had to go through so many losses and then get the sad news. Thank it so much for sharing the OPK tips with me. I'll check out the app.

@ActonBell hope you get some answers soon and glad the hospital took care of you. Frustrating that you don't know what's causing it yet. Are you going to be following up with the GP? Of your GP really is an are and makes you feel like crap for ringing have you thought about changing to another GP?

How is everyone doing today?? Xx

Hi everyone, I hope everyone is having a nice Sunday! Currently on CD 24 and have had a faint OPK the past two days so waiting for it to be positive 👌 wondering how long my cycle will be this month 🙈

Hi everyone, I hope you're all ok at the various stages that everyone is at on this journey. I was active on the first thread a while ago when it was first set up.

Just thought I'd share that on this day last year I was in hospital after collapsing due to an ectopic. I stayed in a few nights and needed x2 blood transfusions, not a great start to the year!

I'm now 2 weeks away from having my baby, we got pregnant on the 4th month after the ectopic. It's really hard after such a traumatic event but if you can try & stay positive and keep tracking & trying because it can and does happen even with only one tube!

Wishing you all luck. X

Good luck for the imminent birth @Springandsummer123! ☺️ Glad you are doing well x