Bus 23- willies bouncing off cervix’s 🍆& downing prenatals with mouthfuls of jizz. TTC Nov/Dec 🚌

[Minster2012]

Welcome to the longest running funniest bus ride in history! Or so we like to think anyway...

Where TTC is sometimes the smallest part of the conversation and we like to keep things fun & spicy cos let's face it, TTC can be as hard as a very useful phallus shaped wooden kitchen implement. 🍆

TTC should be fun. And fortunately we have each other to make each other laugh, giggle & more often than not, spit out our tea or wine

We’ve actually been around each other since March but various of us running this bus since June & not got sick of each other yet ❤️🥰

How we roll on this bus...
⁃ No judgement & each to their own on your TTC journey
⁃ Sense of humour DEFINITELY required
⁃ A few of us like a sex toy a few don’t, there may be sex toys discussed! 🤪a few of our fellas have enjoyed this aspect
⁃ Support each other, ranting is allowed, saying you are down is encouraged & celebrating our happy days too 😘
⁃ We have fun
⁃ If you have a pet, it’s welcome aboard
⁃ NOTHING IS TOO MUCH INFORMATION

@Vil10 currently holds the 👑for filthiest/most embarrassing story, can you beat her???

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs

So far
6 BFPs in November

How many more 🤔🚌🥰

@Franklydear I can see how gutting that must feel, but like others have said, maybe try more tests after a real good hold? Either way, we are all here and we are just simply with you ❤️

@amy2503 I had my first child (DD) at your age and it took me around a year to conceive. But now I'm here at 38 TTC no.5 🤷🏼‍♀️ looking forward to hearing your updates!

Update about the self torture of POAS at 5DPO and seeing that vvv faint line....currently 8DPO. I POAS late last night and saw another vvv faint line. No darker though. I'm thinking these are just evaps /indents/demon lines sent to teach me a lesson for peeing on things I have no business peeing on at such early DPO 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

@Minster2012 I trust you had a fulfilling victory dance after that backgammon? 😂💦

@Franklydear I think at this point it's really hard to know what's going on. But maybe try again? Time will tell but I appreciate you'll be feeling the need to know and it's stressful.

Omg. Trapped wind still for me. Makes for sleeps nights. 🥱 I hate the LP!

On the age subject- I think some people naturally gravitate one way or the other. I know people that always have younger friends (find that weird) but through my whole life, even from being 13, I've had older friends. Some are my age too, but it never felt strange to have older ones. My DH is 9 years older than me too. I've had friends that aren't far off my mums age! That I've done things with and been on holiday with and all sorts. 🤣

It was a 5 h hold and really dark urine, boobs are also down and less sore, I think this is it, there's no two ways about it....

@LauraT94 Thankyou I'm feeling a bit better this morning but we'll see how I get on today!X

@Juno231 hahaha oh god don't say that!! I never ever feel like this either, I'm hardly ever ill, so I'm feeling very sorry for myself😂

@lucyrp @amy2503 definitely don't worry about age!! I felt exactly the same when I first came on Mumsnet, thought I'd be judged for it, but I'm so glad I came into this bus, everyone is so supportive!!xx

@Franklydear oh I'm so sorry to hear that!!🙁 sending you hugs❤️

@Florence13 test!!!

Even on Wednesday was a really quick positive, said 1-2 weeks which is low, should have said 3 + probably, but.... Yes, handhold needed, you girls can get me through this, I've decided to work today, call me crazy, so I'll check afters, I think it'll get me through the initial day and get me on a roll

@Joanna1009 you have no idea how much that has helped me today. I guess there's this thing about being young and super fertile and it's expected you can do it just like that.... but here I am nearly 10 months on and nothing xxxxxxx

@Vil10 @lucyrp thank you ladies. Suddenly I don't feel so alone. How long have you both been trying for?
xxx

@amy2503 I've been trying 16 months now 🥴😣 I already have a DS from an ex years ago. He's 5 now nearly 6 xxx

@amy2503 I'm glad! We are all here to offer a listening ear, support, and perspective when needed! I remember feeling very frustrated and like it was consuming me at the time. Sick of getting BFN's. the month I conceived I'd decided to stop focusing on it. I was buying my first car and ended up obsessing over that instead (car make and model, price, insurance impact etc). I wasn't massively regular back then. I'd gone to see my mum (I was CD37) and she just looked at me and said "you're pregnant". I said I doubted it very much. She forced me to the pharmacy at Tesco. The pharmacist conducted the test and when it came back positive my knees literally buckled under me in front of everyone out of shock! I was so convinced it wasn't going to happen. That baby is now sitting her GCSE's ❤️

AIBU????

Hey ladies. I'm a regular contributer to this thread but I've created a new account with a different name. Just in case my other account is ever identified. I'm an older member though and been ttc for a while.

I have a delicate issue and I'd appreciate your advice. I could post it on AIBU (hopefully not to be laughed at 🤣) but I wanted your opinions!

So- going on what we've past said about finding it difficult hearing pregnancy news etc. I honestly don't feel that bad with it. I have the ability to shut off my feelings to an extent and I try to compartmentalise my issue separately. Put things in boxes like a man! 🤣 I find it easier that way.

I have a friend though who cannot do this and has been upset throughout her journey by others getting positive news (crying even). She's told me this. Although she knows we are ttc, I don't really over share info. She knows I've approached the dr now but I don't really share all the finer details. No one else knows at all. I just think it's personal. (Hence MN is a release). 😁
She was fast to approach the dr (literally after a few months, long story because of his past history) so is way ahead of me and has been through all nhs tests. So they know the issue, and it's what they thought. She's just started private ivf. This is not something we could pursue money wise.

Here is where it gets difficult. Whilst I understand that's what she is doing and obviously I'd maybe expect to get told at the point it worked etc, I'm finding it really difficult that she's telling me everything. Every time she goes. The drugs. Every egg and it's status etc. Literslly all of it. This makes it impossible for me to switch off to it, as it were. I try not to think about my ttc actively as i find it stresses me. So daily reminders from someone else isn't ideal either?

So what i want to know is- am I a complete cow if I tell her this? Or should I say nothing and just let her carry on?

I think if it were me (in her place), I'd have the foresight to have realised this might be a problem in the first place. I would have maybe not shared much, or at least said I'd like to but I'd understand if she might find that difficult. And asked how she felt. Especially knowing that you yourself have struggled with people sharing things with you? 🤔

I can't really see a good solution?

@Franklydear I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending lots of love your way x

@PurposefulPolly If it was me I would be mortified to know that I'd upset one of my friends in this way, especially knowing I had had these similar feelings myself at other people's news, and I would completely welcome said friend to tell me if that was the case for them. I think a polite 'I'm so happy for you but this is distressing for me' type message is perfectly reasonable. It doesn't mean she can't ever share anything with you but she's probably so wrapped up in her own happiness at moving forward (which is also understandable) that she doesn't realise that she's sharing too much and upsetting you and if you don't say anything and let her carry on to spare her feelings then you'll end up tarnishing your friendship as you will dread hearing from her which would be a shame.

@amy2503 I've been off the pill since beginning of last Feb, but had an operation in feb so was out of action until mid March, but my periods didn't regulate until may, so been trying since may, 7 months, 6 cycles! Not too long but I've always been in 2 minds, I either thought I'd conceive really quickly or take ages and I'd have a problem and not be able to conceive, but I just can't picture ever being pregnant, but all we can do is try right?xx

@PurposefulPolly that must be really difficult for you!! I have a friend who is now 37 weeks and was TTC at the same time as me, her and 1 other girl are the only people that know we are TTC, and she was so good with not saying too much to me, even when she got pregnant she told me and followed with "I really didn't want you to think I'm gloating about it", and she's been so good and sensitive since!! I think if I was your friend I'd definitely have the initiative to think hmm this could be upsetting her!! Well we'd like to think so! I think you need to send her a nice but firm message just saying you're happy to hear she's getting the help and you're praying it works for them and you'd be so happy but could she please not tell you all the details and it's a little raw for you!xx

@Hopeful110 I gleaned that you had a child from your story 😂 and yes I'm sure you'll get another miracle too! X
@PurposefulPolly you need to be honest and tell her it's upsetting you. I bet as soon as you say the penny will drop and she'll be so sorry! She knows your ttc so surely can see that talking about every detail of ivf is going to be hard for you?! Can she get on MN and share on here instead? I'd advise her to do that. Good luck x

@Franklydear nooo 😭 I hope it's just a bad test. I am so fed up with chemicals. Keeping some hope for you since you haven't had a lot of bleeding to confirm anything 🤞 💕

@Vil10 this is so me!!! I've been trying since feb/March time- I just can't picture how I could ever get a living thing in me?
Does that make sense ? 🤣

@Ltay2 @Vil10 @notyetamumbuttrying
Thank you. I shall try and carefully word it to her. But you are right, I dread my phone going!

I don't know if she uses MN (hence being careful) but I know she does go on other support groups that are more specific to their issues.

@Joanna1009 thank you for that story- it really gives me hope. I'm going to try really
Hard to not focus so hard on the "fertile week" this time round, and just trying do it regularly throughout xxxx hopefully I can focus on Christmas xxxxx

@amy2503 makes complete sense!! I can never picture or imagine seeing that positive pregnancy test! But it'll happen for us both one way or another!x

@PurposefulPolly I can imagine it being really hard for you because you want to be supportive but you have to think about yourself too xx

@Franklydear so sorry to read it was a stark white, obviously hoping for you it was just weak wee but hugs and total undertaking of how shit it is if it is a loss.
I have had some pink spotting when I wipe the last couple of days, life can just be so cruel but it's out of our hands so just know we are all here for you xxx

Hi loves, mind if I join this bus? TTC for bloody ever it feels like. Taking a 'break' this month but obvs still temping, having unprotected sex, and generally trying, just not very hard! 🤣 Cycles still a bit fooked from mc/termination in Sept, and do love wine 😍 so not really worried about getting pregs this month as means I can enjoy a boozy Christmas...but would still prefer a bfp if it happens!x

Guess what i stocked up on today! Only one I could find in my local Asda but its ok right? Lol. Atleast it tastes better than the ASS juice 🤣🤭 can start it today right @lucyrp? Even though waiting for 1 more temp tomorrow to confirm ovulation?
Also got an order in on Amazon for some frers. :)

@Franklydear I'm so sorry to hear about the test. I'm still hoping it was a false negative for you!

@PurposefulPolly I hope you manage to find a way to chat with your friend about boundaries that ends happily for the both of you. They're the worst kind of chats but really necessary to protect your own mental health!

@Minster2012 did you win?!

I've been feeling a bit anxious and really gagging to POAS!! So I did some yoga this morning and then took some time to make sushi for lunch which helped take my mind off it! I'm holding out until Tuesday (8dpo) as there's just zero point in doing it sooner! But hard to remind yourself of that when you've got a drawer full of tests 😂

Thank you every one, I am ok ish, I took two test this morning, on a 5 hours sleep hold, symptoms weakening fast too, I am afraid there’s no mistake, just a few days to clear the system after that bleeding, there was some tissue in it too