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nomoremagnolia · 17/10/2007 18:24

Feeling very fed up with failing every month and wondered if there's anyone in the same boat? It's a lonely boat on a journey to nowhere at the moment, but if anyone else wants to join me, some company would be nice

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gillydaffodil · 07/02/2008 15:19

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perkypopsy · 07/02/2008 19:06

Evening ladies, well I did the deed and am at home on the sofa with the cat - avoiding work email cos the shit has well and truely hit the fan and god do I feel empowered for the first time ever in my life!!!!!!!!!

Gilly are you seeing doc next week too? Won't say anything about your dates but wouldn't it just be the way??

Met friends new baby yesterday - very strange - she was so blissed out and is a fellow 3 x MCer at 42 so was so pleased for her (yes there are some people I still find it very hard to be pleased for - just think we all have that to come

RahRah1 · 08/02/2008 09:40

Hi all...

Been in bed with the flu and feel like shit... I missed my hospital appointment yesterday and going today instead. I just hope I have not missed my egg this month, but had a peak on my monitor so think its a no go as they can't do the iui at a weekend. SOOOOOO annoying!
Its another natural cycle again this month, so its harder to catch the egg!

rattling - sorry about your DH results. My husband had a low 'normal range' it was about 5%, but the clinic were not worried about it as his count was OK. They said there was still loads of healthy ones. They don't do IUI if the sperm quality is not available but they can do ICSI/IVF. Which has a much higher success rate anyway! 6 months will fly!

Hope everyone else is ok XX

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Ready · 08/02/2008 21:11

Gilly, I meant to say yesterday, but my post was getting too long I love the name Violet, we are considering using it as a middle name, as it is a family name too. ? I had read about the celebs getting Zita?s help, most notably was Kate Winslet, I think she really struggled. Nice if you can afford one-to-one care from a guru You?ll have to let me know if you ?feel? any different after a while of taking them , the vits I mean
You really are wrangling with the work issue aren?t you? What does dh think? Did you say you were contracted where you are? So if you found something else, then you would have to wait until your contract was up? My advice (for what it is worth ) is that you shouldn?t make a decision based on what-ifs. Don?t stay where you are, or extend, just because of the potential maternity benefits. Like you said before, so long as you have bread on the table and roof over your head ? things will be ok. So, if you are not happy in your current job, then keep your eyes peeled for something else, if you happen to conceive early on in the new job, you will deal with it then (kinda what I am thinking with starting my new one ? theoretically I could be pregnant before I even get in place ) and if they want you then they will work with you. If not, you will work something out. Sorry I waffled on there didn?t I ? I hope you understand what I am saying, and I hope I haven?t overstepped the mark giving my opinions

Coggy pmsl at you thinking she said porn poms. It does look similar though, so will let you off
Hope the egg collection went well today Thinking of you

Herby, I?d say, always err on the safe side, whenever there is EWCM get busy Can?t hurt

Rah, I am sorry that you are so poorly, and that is has affected your IUI this month. Have to say I am pretty and that they don?t work weekends, I mean of all medical procedures, surely they must realise that fertility doesn?t work Monday to Friday. Tut. Hope you feel better soon. Fingers firmly crossed for next month

Rattling, sorry to hear that dh?s analysis, whilst better, was not as much of an improvement as hoped for, do you think you will have ICSI? Or has the consultant said IVF? How long would you have to wait if you couldn?t afford to fund yourselves? And I hope you don?t mind me being nosy, but how much does it cost privately? I really have let my IVF phobia prevent me from gaining any knowledge on the subject

Lottie, a good GP is worth their weight in gold, I was so gutted when we moved, and I have yet to register with the GP in my new area as I am just petrified I will be assigned to some dinosaur who scoffs at my temping charts

Hey Gilly and Lottie, I really want a bugaboo

Perkypopsy, good on you for standing firm and making the decision based on what you need and not what others think. I really hope that it kick starts things for you!

Everyone else ? big waves, and positive vibes for the rest of February ? here?s to snow, and a good excuse to snuggle up under the duvet

coggy · 09/02/2008 13:57

HURRAH....all good.
Only got two eggs retrieved but the marvellous news is that they have both fertilised.

Got the phone call this morning and now we can relax a bit and enjoy the weekend more.

The cells now need to divide well and then we can go for implantation on Monday.

Phew.

(All those prayers have been answered. )

RAH...hope your feeling better and that your cycle can still go ahead.

Ready...I am amazed at how easy it's all been you know. The waiting is hard, waiting for that phone call this morning and the disappointment before of having fewer follicles and then eggs than I wanted, but the procedure yesterday and the injections have been actually really, really easy. I am a bit of an operation phobic and it was so okay that I told DH that I could do it all again easily. Let's hope and pray I won't have to though eh?!

kd73 · 09/02/2008 15:19

Go coggy, go coggy, go coggy ..... Lets hope for a little miracle!!!

Rah - hope you are feeling better

(KD waves to everyone else and goes off to try to check out porn poms )

coggy · 09/02/2008 15:37

LOL!

I've started something with those porn poms haven't I?!

Waving them instead of the regular ones may well help us all......who knows??!!!

Ready · 09/02/2008 15:45

OMG!! Coggy I am thrilled that your eggs fertilised!! Have a lovely relaxing weekend, and here's to Monday. I am sitting here with goosebumps just thinking about your eggs
Seriously, I am soooo excited for you, and feel quite emotional . I am so very, very hopeful for Monday. Everything crossed.
Glad the whole process has been easy for you, but of course, you don't want to do it again, none of us want you to

Ready · 09/02/2008 15:47

That sounded wrong, I know the process hasn't been easy for you... I just meant, glad that you have found it ok... ... you know? I hope.

coggy · 09/02/2008 17:10

I know.
That's fine.
It actually has been hugely easier than I thought, although bits of it have been nerve wracking of course!!!

I hope that I will give you even more to grin about in 2 weeks time!!!!!

Ready · 09/02/2008 20:07

Phew

Ready · 09/02/2008 20:52

.... Hope no one lives near Camden Market or were out in the area.

perkypopsy · 11/02/2008 08:34

Morning ladies...Gilly you seem to be in exactly the same boat as me...and I took the plunge and chucked the job in...seems may not have been such great idea - let's just say appointment at fertility clinic tomorrow is now redundant - am in denial though so no congrats please am off to bury head in sand for next month or so xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

perkypopsy · 11/02/2008 08:34

p.s. ready what happened in camden?? I work there half the week

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perkypopsy · 11/02/2008 10:08

Thanks gilly
your work stuff sounds very sensible - my notice period is 4 calendar months so i just felt i needed to hand my notice in and get the ball rolling - I have been wanting to leave for ages and last year i was waiting around for my maternity leave - but as ready says what will be will be - certainly in my bloody case - sods law!

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herbaceous · 11/02/2008 10:33

Popsy!!!! How on earth are we going to meet up and get hammered on champagne now?? Most inconsiderate. I'm sending you the same positive vibes that I've been sending for the follies - they seemed to work!

And can I take the sore boobs weren't the usual red herring? Symptom list please.

RahRah1 · 11/02/2008 10:46

Morning all....

OMG fantastic news Coggy.... hope all goes well today and those eggs are firmly implanted in your womb. Have everything crossed for you!

Well I missed my IUI again this month. My egg was still there on Friday when I went for the scan, but my lining indicated I would ovulate over the weekend before they could do the IUI treatment. I then proceeded to have a mini breakdown at the clinic (won't be surprised if they look at me a bit funny next time I'm in) and have walked away with my prescription for clomid for next month. WOOOHOOO>... so with clomid and the other meds they can control my cycle so I don't fall on weekends etc... Also the nurse said she would call me today about the emotional side and we could have a chat, as she feels that maybe all the stress we are putting ourselves under could be one of the contributing factor to not conceiving.

Hope everyone is OK...I'm trying to stay stress free today and not think about pregnancy and babies.... Its quite nice in a way of already knowing the outcome this month - ie NOT pregnant... least I can relax and just wait for next month.

RahRah1 · 11/02/2008 10:50

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perkypopsy · 11/02/2008 12:35

Hey herby Think we gave up this month to be honest - I took 3 weeks off over xmas and had a really long (48day) cycle which ended just before hols - cos my fertile time is 4 weeks from then I just forgot about it and we only BD'd a couple of times on hols (too sore from boarding ). I did get EWCM immed after AF which was weird but again I just thought sod it system completely kaput...then Dh sperm count sh*te so even though have had sore boobies and tired muscles just ignored it (have had both before). Also have been worrying about job more than PG for once . Then I went to shops and bought the weirdest list of shopping including loads of bready things like hot cross buns and crumpets - I normally don't eat bread...then i went and chucked the job in...then did a test and nearly died - threw it under the bed so dh couldn't see
To be honest the symptoms were so clear from day one with the last PG (that MC'd) I still don't believe I have anything in there - though the three tests i have done say the opposite [yiiiiiiiiiiiikes]
Both me and DH are going stark raving bonkers - i suppose i had never considered it would happen again after a miserable year of ttc after MC - and I am really worried will have a full blown breakdown when I go for a scan and they tell me is dead again - makes me cry just thinking about it
I need to look for a new job but don't know what to do till I know more about this PG - is a catch 22 cos last time I made all these plans that were shattered - bummer!
Anyway, sorry if TMI everyone - will sod off and hover from a distance - not joining any PG threads - will feel like a jinx if talk about it as if is real IYSWIM?

rattling · 11/02/2008 12:58

Rah - sorry about the IUI being cancelled. Our chants were obviously not precise enough "Go eggs, go eggs, but only on a Monday to Friday". At least that won't be a problem in the future, and the counselling can only help.

Coggy - hope your fertilised eggs are developing into top grade embryos. I imagine you will be resting up for the next few days. Look after yourself

Ready - when we started this TTC nonsense I said I'd give up at the point IVF was our only option. Turns out I'm not prepared to quit yet. The NHS waiting list here is 3 years, and I hit the age cut off (38) in six months, so that won't work. It is an NHS unit so non-profit making, fixed price for IVF of 3600, ICSI 3800 - they decide on the day depending on sperm quality which to go for. We have decided to give ourselves 3 goes. That should take me close to my 40th birthday which is my new give up date.

Bit of everyone who is being brave enough to leave jobs and go find something better. I've been a bit stuck here for a while.

Popsy -