been ttc #1 since forever...

[nomoremagnolia]

Feeling very fed up with failing every month and wondered if there's anyone in the same boat? It's a lonely boat on a journey to nowhere at the moment, but if anyone else wants to join me, some company would be nice

Plus feeling a bit pants... pregnancy announces starting to roll in already and its only the 2nd Jan! I'm feeling sorry for myself at the moment and reflecting on the fact some of my friends now have two children already and now we are hearing about more! We all started out at around the same time...

Morning RahRah and happy new year (I am determined it will be a happy one!) I wish you the very best of luck with the IUI . Will this be your first time?

I have done 3 IUIs over the last 6 months, 2 with clomid and unfortunately all unsucessful so we've been recommended that IVF is our best chance now. We went privately so not really a waiting list but I feel very angry about having got to this stage where i always thought IVF was scary and a last resort. Seems unbelievable it is being offered to me [yes, complete denial]...

I'm with you on the pregnancy announcememts, I lost count of the number of well meaning Christmas cards we received with baby photos and "when will it be your turn" messages, grrrrr. Try not to think about it too much - easier said than done I know....

Hi Iamsogloomy, whoops on my offer of advice , looks like I will be coming to you for info and advice! I know what you mean about getting angry about having to go to these lengths. IVF seems very daunting. I get scared in case we have to go down that route, but the success rate is relatively high for a few cycles, so that is what I focus on.
I have been TTC for over 3 years. Had all the usual tests and they found PCO and a higher % of slow sperm for my DH. We have had one pregnancy after trying for 18 months, but I lost at 24 weeks after bleeding from 9 weeks and my waters final broke. I had a little boy but he died in neo-natal as he was too prem and I also had step B infection. Basically it was a total mess. My consultant thinks I had an issue with my bloods, but everything came up clear, so its been put down to a one off event.
I'm going into my 14 months of TTC since that pregnancy and my consultant is trying IUI unstimulated. Last month they missed the egg and it dropped before we could do the treatment. So this month they are scanning me everyday around the peak area to try and prevent the same from happening. Basically I don't think my egg got big enough before it dropped, as the wanted it to reach 17mm. So if it fails again this month, they will have to try my on stimulated cycles.

Sorry for my length explanation of my failing attempts of TTC... and your right its good just to focus on going forward. Plus I hate those xmas cards too.... GRRR .... I might send one of me and DH and the cats next year though

Happy new year to you 2! (Sorry missed that off my last mail)

Give us an 'I'
Give us an 'S'
Give us an 'A'
Give us an 'B'
Give us an 'E'
Give us an 'L'
Give us an 'L'
Give us an 'A'

What have you got??
ISABELLA
(Hopefully a big fat egg )

...and the one - and ONLY - time I wish MN had sparkly text...

Here here!!

If another person asked me, over christmas ... "so when are you and dh going to start a family?"... I could have screamed - I used to think they meant well, now I just think it is pure nosiness. Tut. I just said "when we are a bit more settled perhaps" - thankfully we have a bit of a get out of jail free card with the uncertainty in ours lives, but still - come on people! I did notice though, the couples that have struggled don't say a word! That says something doesn't it. Damn those fertile so-and-sos

Welcome back
All our family are sick of asking us and they've given up!! Have not been asked about children by one family member this xmas (got asked by friend's mum though..I just smiled politely)

Good tip... but seriously...Smile politely? Me?

Well we were in church at the time so I thought it best not to say anything rude in front of the vicar!

Hello and wishing you all a fertile 2008!

I think it might be time to leave the conception board and venture into the scary A-N world. We had our 12 week scan on Christmas Eve - that may sound very festive however we were nervous wrecks! Pleased to say all looked good and risk level ok given my age.

Before I go I wanted to say hang in there - long term TTC is grim & all consuming but I am pleased to say the daily heartache does fade when it finally happens.

RahRah and Imsogloomy - I'd like to reassure you IVF is not as daunting once you get started. Both my cycles were emotional roller coasters but physically not too bad. You need to drink at least 2 litres of water a day to flush out the excess drugs and beware I put on about half a stone each cycle but it is, honestly, OK. Sure it would be better if a good old romp with your dh got the result we all want but it seems that's not the option for all of us.

Coggy - guess you start IVF very soon - thinking of you xxx

OK. Gulp. It's time for me to go. Oh - just thought of a couple of other things:

• I really recommend acupuncture BUT only with one specially trained in gynecology ? I spent too much time and money hoping for results with general acupuncturists (if you are in west/central London or Windsor check out The London Acupuncture Clinic - Daniel Elliot and team are all great). When we bought it we hoped and prayed we?d one day find a two seater is no longer suitable!

• After 3 years of ttc I finally stopped putting my entire life on hold ? this included buying an impractical, hedonistic two seater sports car this summer which made my parent friends insanely jealous and helped me re-find a bit of my old, long lost mojo. (I'm so shallow!!)

I'll check this thread a few times if you have any questions when you start the treatments or if you?re trying to find more info (and please don't hesitate to search for me if you have any specifics).

I send my love and understanding to all of you - and specifically I'd like to send a special cyberhug to Ready - hun, thanks for being there, your kindness and support has helped me through the darkest days - if I can be of any help or support PLEASE ask.

Finally - when every women you see when you're out and about seems to be pg count the number of non pg ones you see in-between - it stopped me going completely bonkers on bad days ?.and remember they are not all ?sneeze and get pg? types one of them might be me

Love CD xxx

Choc - Not sure why, but your post has made me cry a bucket... could be the disaronno & coke I have been drinking (I am not putting life on hold anymore y'see ) this evening or the ovulation hormones
Don't go far, will you! Keep popping back to let us know how you are getting on. Otherwise we will be forced to venture out looking for you. So pleased that everything was ok at the scan, and so very excited for you
Thank you so much for the hug, it means a lot to me
I will miss you lots, but so genuinely pleased that you have graduated, and hope that in the not to distant future we will be frequenting some of the parenting threads together. That would be wonderful.
All the very best Choc, take care of yourself.
xxx

Hi guys

nomoremagnolia - you have made me really smile... thanks for Isabella's encouragement Makes all the difference. The sparkle effect would of been nice

Chocolatedays - Many congratulations on your scan. Its such a marvelous experience seeing that little one. Keep in touch and update us on how you are both doing. Thank you for thinking of me and your words of wisdom. I'm seriously thinking about the advice on the sports car and defo agree with the acupunture. Wishing you a healthy 6 months and make sure you pop back in and introduce your new beautiful baby. (hopefully we will all be on another thread worrying about our stretch marks!)

Morning all. Hope everyone is well?

Morning Ready....I'm at work and working soooo hard! Have loads to catch up on and just wanted to stay in bed and snooze! I've put 4 pound on over the xmas period and my new trousers from All Saints are now an inch too small from having to find more room to fit over my stomach! GRRRR

4lbs is not too bad. Don't beat yourself up! But I understand the frustration at new trousers. At least they are an incentive to eating well.

I know but I was feeling kind of sexy before xmas as had lost over 2 stone. I had lost all my baby weight, my depressed weight and 7lb extra on top of that, so I'm actually skinner now than when I was pregnant... WOOOHOOO... but need to keep focused and keep losing it. I think gaining weight so quickly makes you feel really fat. I can't wait to loss that 4 lb again... ... I must give away my chocolate hamper that I got from Santa Any skinny beans out there that wants some chocolate

I understand that, when you lose lots - and bloody well done on 2 stone by the way!! - it is hard to put on even a lb. But just think, you lost all that, 4lbs is going to drop off with minimum effort. And just ration yourself with the hamper, little bits, and it will last months

I don't think thats possible... I'm afraid chocolate does not last long with me...

I even have Belgium dipping chocolate.

hehe

Whoops could not resist I had a bar of chocolate from my hamper last night.
God I have the will power of a nat!

Ok just come back from scan. Found irregular shaped sac. Couldn't find a heartbeat or fetus.

Have to go back next friday for another scan to see if sac is developing or collapsing

I think I spoke to the recurrent miscarriage specialist and she confirmed that if it is a miscarriage, they will commence investigations as to why.

Oh god kd. How awful. You must feel dreadful. I know exactly what it's like. How many weeks are you? Sending you positive vibes...

kd73 massive {{{big hugs}}}.

So sorry the scan did not show a heartbeat. I really hope that the scan next week can reveal more. If you need anything we are all here for you.
All my love Rah xx

oh Kd, sending you big hugs. I hope you have plenty of support around you, and like Rah said, we are all here if you need to talk. Take care of yourself, lots of rest, and fingers crossed that the next scan brings good news. I won't say try not to worry, because that is daft, but try to keep yourself occupied. Thinking of you. Big hugs. Ready xx

Gutted would be a good word right now. My LMP was 22 Oct so had calculated 10wks approx however looking at ovulation chart it was 13/14Nov when we suspect we conceived. Thus makes us approx 8 weeks.

With vag u/s they should have picked up a heartbeat - am I right?

Please someone tell me I am wrong!