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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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nomoremagnolia · 17/10/2007 18:24

Feeling very fed up with failing every month and wondered if there's anyone in the same boat? It's a lonely boat on a journey to nowhere at the moment, but if anyone else wants to join me, some company would be nice

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nomoremagnolia · 11/12/2007 20:37

here

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RahRah1 · 12/12/2007 08:57

LOL - loving this thread.

Well done Ready for the miss link, I was very confused for a bit!

Quite impressed by the headed notepaper!

Ready · 12/12/2007 10:13

I aim to please

coggy · 12/12/2007 11:38

PSML at that candle link Ready - you have entertained us all!!

I tried really hard to be angry at them...but I just couldn't do it.....they smell soooo nice!!!!!!

RahRah....I hope it is all going smoothly. Those follicles sound like a good size to me. You're doing this IUI without stims aren't you? In which case - very impressed! I had loads of drugs to manage to get anything like that!

I was really relieved when I started IUI, which was odd as I was nervous about it too, but I found it took the eternal ttc pressure off and put a bit more squarely on the shoulders of DH as he had to perform on the day.....quite a nice change!!! [fgin]
The fact that the poor chap had food poisoning and dragged himself out of his death bed made me feel bad...but hey-ho....

I shall be checking in again of Friday.

Thanks Choccy...storing some more question sup for you!!!!

coggy · 12/12/2007 11:40

Hmmmm.....not the best typing I've ever done!

Obviously needing a drink already this morning as I think grin is spelt without an r!!

coggy · 12/12/2007 11:49

Oops....also meant to say that I only spoke to my befriender on the pohone twice. It was enough to make me feel that what I and DH were going through was normal.

I am most definitely NOT someone who likes to talk about how they feel etc. etc. so it was a weird experience when I started off saying I did't relly have anything to say and then yabbering on for the next 40 minutes or so!!!!

They try to get a person who has been in a situation as similar to yours as they can. No-one had had a full-term still-birth which I went through, so I spoke to someone who had suffered through a cot-death. I was rather worried that she would tell me all about her grief etc. which, at the time, as mean as it sounds, I wasn't intersted in, but she was FAB and we talked mostly about how our DHs were dealing with it which was something we had lots in common with.

Hey look - I've waffled on again!!
Maybe I am the sort of person who talks to people without even knowing it!!!

coggy · 12/12/2007 11:52

Oh bugger!!

I KNEW I shouldn't have laughed at your mistake Ready!!!!!!

What that last post is doing there I do not know!!!!!

Sorry all!!!!!!

[fb lush]

coggy · 12/12/2007 11:53

I give up!

nomoremagnolia · 12/12/2007 13:30

at the lot of you

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gillystarrynight · 12/12/2007 13:59

what are you lot on?

I must admit to getting my friend the Prada soaps for Christmas. She is a labels girl! I didn;t know they did notepaper or else would have got her that - its her thing!

RahRah1 · 12/12/2007 14:19

coggy - your poor hubbie! Least he got his back side to the clinic! Sounds like a good husband!
Your right they are doing me/my eggs none stimulated. The nurse did not really comment so did not know whether I was good or bad at egg producing... so thanks for the info, that gives me confidence!
Is your befriender from sands? I telephoned and inquired but not quite been in that place to call them up and make contact yet. My DH is really struggling at the moment, but is seeing a counselor in Jan. Fingers crossed he can make a connection with them.

Right I have a treat for everyone else... I will post it above

RahRah1 · 12/12/2007 14:22

"look at xmas me"

coggy · 12/12/2007 19:49

My DH is lovely, but you know, I have felt exactly the same as you many, many times. They just don't seem to 'get it' but actually I have realised more and more that they can't just perform. It's easier to see that when you are further removed from the desperatation. I woke up one day thinking why am I so intent on getting DH at the right time.....we often did it at the right time, nearly the right time, before OV, after OV, during OV, wrong time, no time etc. etc. and none of it made any difference so why was I stressing??!!

A real eye-opener that was I can tell you.
I am MUCH more relaxed about it now, although got a bit flappy the last month or two before IUI cos I didn't want to go down that route. Then I realised how much less pressure it actually was...even with having jabs etc. Weird!

My befriender (that I was on about on a different thread earlier!!! Whoops) was with Care for the Family. A FANTASTIC charity who I can highly recommend for ANYTHING family orientated. Their Bereaved Parent's Network is who I went through. Some good advice and interesting newsletters etc.

My DH and I actuallly went to see a CRUSE counseller face-to-face. I went to encourage DH to talk and ended up having a joint session - something they generally don't do but we found it incredibly helpful. I don't think that DH would have gone on his own. He wasn't overly keen but ended up almost disappointed when our sessions came to an end.

I do think our men need to tell someone how they feel. So often they don't telll us cos they want to protect us, they don't want to talk to work friends/ colleagues and then it comes out as anger or inappropritely cos it's got to come out somehow.

I do hope your DH gets on with his sessions in Jan.

Your Scrooge is good BTW.
My family were sending round the elf version last year - really good fun!!!

Ready · 13/12/2007 11:01

How is everyone? Gotta love the mocking - especially when it backfires - Coggy - It's usually only me, so it is nice to have company

RahRah1 · 13/12/2007 11:42

HI all

Coggy... you are so right and I need to take a leaf out of your book! I need to try and not put some much pressure on my DH, especially since he is really suffering at the moment. I just get so frustrated with it all. I am hoping like you said that the pressure will really lift now we are doing IUI. We actually feel like having sex now as well for the first time in so long! (because we know we can't ..lol) Typical!

I saw someone at cruse as well for a couple of sessions, but she was very new to counseling and I felt I needed someone more experience as at that point I felt like I was losing it, so I went and paid for a private counselor. It really helped and taken so many positive steps to getting my life back on track. I have also been told I can get some support when I am pregnant next if I feel scared etc... so I feel confident that there is some help there if required.

Your so right about men not really talking. My DH does not talk to anyone. I asked him if he spoke to his BF and he said no, as they don't talk about things like that. I speak to my friends all the time, I could not imagine not talking to anyone and not letting it out. A bit soul destroying if you can't!

I have the elf one too... my DH did one of me, him and our two cats... lol...

Waves to Ready....

Hello to everyone else.... I think I might post my scrooge again, so if anyone has missed it...

coggy · 13/12/2007 22:58

I know Ready, I know!!!! LOL!!

RahRah.....hope all goes well tomorrow with your next scan.
X

kd73 · 14/12/2007 19:44

Good to see everyone's on form!

Choc days - how are you doing? Hope everything is good

Rah Rah1 - good luck

I have some really good news. Dare not say it aloud in case it changes. Had a frightful holiday as thought it had changed already but it would appear currently all is well. Hope you all know what I mean without saying it aloud

Ready · 17/12/2007 00:06

Hey gang!! Hope you are all well... just popping on for the last time for a bit. Moving house and going to be without broadband for some time... hopefully not too long. Although I am sure that if there are any BFPs a little birdie or two might let me know via text

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year

Here's to 2008 - a bumper year for ALL of us!!!!!!

xxx

gillystarrynight · 17/12/2007 10:13

KD can I whisper congratulations on your 'I dare not mention it out loud' news?

Ready, hope the move goes really well. If yo are going to be internet-less for a while then we won't talk until mid Jan when we get back from holiday. Have a great Christmas and hope the move goes well

RahRah1 · 17/12/2007 12:03

HI all...

KD... So pleased for you...(will not shout too loudly for U) SHHHHH!!!

Hope everyone else is well...

Been to clinic again today and my little bugger of an egg is still not big enough, so I'm back on Wednesday. If it still has not achieved 17mm then the IUI will be abandoned for this month and will need to speak to the consultant about stimulants. Hopefully by Wed it will be big enough.. Fingers crossed XX

Thanks everyone for thinking of me. X

gillystarrynight · 17/12/2007 12:11

Go on egg...get nice and big for RahRah!!!

I went to the GP to pick up my results. My FSH level was 5 which she said was good and certainly did not give her any reason for concern. She run down all sorts of other figures and I am not sure if I got it right - progesterone level at 40.7? Overall she said that I was fine and as soon as DH did his sample and the results came back she would refer us to UCH. The waiting list is about 8 weeks. ?and DH has promised me he would do his sample today! He has even stayed working at home so he can do it but he is going to have to take the bus to hospital to drop it off as there is no parking. I hope he gets there within the hour!

RahRah1 · 17/12/2007 13:35

Gilly your FSH is great. Mine was 6...

Thanks for cheering my egg on, Its feeling it! Honest!

gillystarrynight · 17/12/2007 13:46

its a good egg just needs a little bit of encouragement!

orchidgirl · 17/12/2007 20:37

Gilly, if you are talking about day 21 progesterone levels 40.7 is good. Docs are looking for anything over 30 to confirm ovulation.

gillystarrynight · 18/12/2007 09:26

Thanks Orchard, that's comforting to know. Now let's see the results which come back from DH's sample!

Hello egg, how are you this morning? How is that growing going? Rah is very keen for you to meet a certain young man very soon. He may be a tad small in stature but has a GSOH and is a good swimmer

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