My DH is lovely, but you know, I have felt exactly the same as you many, many times. They just don't seem to 'get it' but actually I have realised more and more that they can't just perform. It's easier to see that when you are further removed from the desperatation. I woke up one day thinking why am I so intent on getting DH at the right time.....we often did it at the right time, nearly the right time, before OV, after OV, during OV, wrong time, no time etc. etc. and none of it made any difference so why was I stressing??!!
A real eye-opener that was I can tell you.
I am MUCH more relaxed about it now, although got a bit flappy the last month or two before IUI cos I didn't want to go down that route. Then I realised how much less pressure it actually was...even with having jabs etc. Weird!
My befriender (that I was on about on a different thread earlier!!! Whoops) was with Care for the Family. A FANTASTIC charity who I can highly recommend for ANYTHING family orientated. Their Bereaved Parent's Network is who I went through. Some good advice and interesting newsletters etc.
My DH and I actuallly went to see a CRUSE counseller face-to-face. I went to encourage DH to talk and ended up having a joint session - something they generally don't do but we found it incredibly helpful. I don't think that DH would have gone on his own. He wasn't overly keen but ended up almost disappointed when our sessions came to an end.
I do think our men need to tell someone how they feel. So often they don't telll us cos they want to protect us, they don't want to talk to work friends/ colleagues and then it comes out as anger or inappropritely cos it's got to come out somehow.
I do hope your DH gets on with his sessions in Jan.
Your Scrooge is good BTW.
My family were sending round the elf version last year - really good fun!!!