Anyone been trying for 5 months plus and want to chat?

[AKcheer]

Going into cycle 6 after AF...feeling deflated! Anyone else been trying for this time and want to chat and keep each other company and positive words!?

Hi @Kirby173 I’m good thanks! I’ve been having a teeny bit of cramping but I’ve also been snapping at DH a bit so hoping that’s not PMS! Could also just be me getting annoyed at him haha. Sorry to hear about your redundancy but well done on finding a new job so quickly! Hope the first few days go well :)

@Jamill87 so sorry about your BFN, are you feeling ok? Hope you manage to take your mind off it a bit this weekend x

Morning everyone! Thanks so much for asking about me. I am a bit up and down, really thought we had done it this month. Going into month 9 I think now. I had even convinced myself I could still get a bfp when AF was still light. Its heavier than normal now so no chance. I feel really guilty for getting dps hopes up too so I am going to really try and not talk about symptoms in future. I am going to have a month off all the stressing and enjoy christmas I think. Also planning to not test till after AF is due in future as I just drive myself mad.

I hope everyone else is ok, where are you all in your cycle now?

Hey @Jamill87 it really is an emotional roller coaster all of this to be honest. It’s so hard especially when for that month you’ve had symptoms and you’ve pretty much convinced yourself. How is your dp after you told him? Yeah try not to test until periods due probs best thing. I never even mention symptoms to my hubby.

I’m also feeling a bit shit. I’m 12dpo today...and yesterday morning had dark brown discharge and this morning went to the bathroom and there was blood. I’ve popped on a pad but no further blood. A couple times when I wiped there was like light red blood but yeah. My backs starting to hurt and I’m got my AF cramps too so I feel so shit!!! Can’t even explain it. I’m also worried to why AF would be so early would make it 3 days early. It hasn’t properly showed yet but il just have to keep a look out for it today or tomorrow :(

@AKcheer yeah it is soul destroying some months isn't it. He was ok but he puts on a brave face on and says if it happens it happens but I see how excited he gets when he thinks i am, makes me so sad.

I hope you feel better soon, it does sound like implantation bleeding but I have learnt to not trust symptoms too much. When is AF due? 3 days? Mine was 2 days early this month.

Hi everyone! Hope you’re all okay and had a good weekend!!

Just an update... I don’t know what it is but something is telling me there’s a BFN waiting for me at the end of this 2ww so I’m ready for it before I’ve even got it 😂 I’m 8 DPO today. My husband literally just popped his head around the door and asked when we could test and when AF is due. We could tomorrow using the FRER but I don’t want to! Going to try and hold out as long as possible!

@AKcheer wow I feel you!!! I met some work friends in a park earlier today and we usually go on bottomless brunches together so we’ve just been discussing all the things we’re going to do when this lockdown is over! Desperate for some Prosecco haha! Hoping TTC is successful though I would prefer that but a bottomless brunch is a good conciliation prize if we’re unsuccessful for the next few months! It sounds like implantation bleeding maybe?! Please keep us posted but I’m hoping things are positive for you!

@JLP256 hey! I really hope the cramping and mood swings are good signs for you! Please let me know how you get on! Thank you so much yeah I’m chuffed getting a new job!

@Jamill87 I am so sorry it’s horrible isn’t it?! Where abouts are you in your cycle now? I know you mentioned AF came early for you?

@Kirby173 don't give up hope yet, I've got my fingers crossed for you. I am CD4 now! AF has just about gone. I am going to just try and dtd every other day for the next month and see what happens.

Hi ladies. I'm on day 5 of AF and absolutely no end in sight, so heavy! I'm just not sure about my cycle, last month I only had 10 days between predicted ovulation and period as was slightly early like some of you... That can't be right! My plan for this cycle is just to DTD every other day if we can for two weeks and relax for about 10 mins after to give it the best chance.

I saw an old friend today who I rarely speak to, we went for a walk and I told her about all this as she's just had a baby. Omg it was so good to get it out! She only tried for three months but said it was the longest three months of her life! And her husband never wanted to have sex. We that gives me hope 🤣

@AKcheer I do have some cheap opk strip's so will use these in the afternoons just to monitor. I use femometer! Never had a peak before though sadly. I too miss going out and getting dressed up and having cocktails!

@Jamill87 sorry this wasn't your month. We can all relate! But I know it's so hard. I spend my period week relaxing and drinking wine haha.

Awww @Kirby173 bless your husband that's so sweet. Mine doesn't admit his excitement / impatience to me and I try not to get his hopes up too much! I think he thought it would be very easy / quick.

I'm keeping everything crossed one of us gets a BFP before the year is out... The odds must be in our favour right?! I'm gunna give it my best shot! Xx

Been trying for 12 months now, I’ve started taking Folic Acid for the past month. I came on my period on Friday and it’s now Sunday with it being very light and more brownish than anything, not enough to fill a tampon. I felt strange so did I test this morning which was a faint positive. Is it implantation bleeding?

@Jamill87 it’s so hard isn’t it. We always think it affects us only when it affects our other half’s just as much :(. I don’t know seemed to pink or red to be implantation it was so weird. It hasn’t come back since my panic earlier so AF isn’t here. But I have all AF symptoms now like those horrible cramps down below. 3 days early just feels a lot for me but it’s not here so it’s ok I guess.

Yah @Kirby173 don’t waste the FRER just hold out as long as you can!! Hahaha I have a night out planned next Friday woo!! Did someone say a restaurant and drinks?? God I’m desperate now haha. I don’t know I have no idea what it was. My period hasn’t arrived but it was just weird it was a few times when I wiped and then there was a bit of blood in toilet but very faint blood but it ain’t come back and I’m not on AF. I feel the AF symptoms though :( I thought 12dpo was also too late for implantation

Hi all,

I have never commented on anything like this, but I found this thread and I’m soo grateful! Definitely can relate to you all, feeling disheartened each month when AF comes along.

DH and I been TTC since April - so I think I’m on Cycle 8 now. I take Seven Seas ‘Trying for a Baby’ tablets, Vit D, cod liver, turmeric tablets. Never been on any kind of pill/implant/coil etc. I have stayed away from alcohol as much as poss - I have probably had the equivalent of 1.5 bottles of wine since the start of TTC in April (which is bloody good going for me lol!), stopped drinking pretty much any caffeine. Drinking fruit & veg smoothies every morning. And nothing so far.

It really is frustrating, although I know I may be at the start of this process, and there are people who have been struggling for much longer.

These past 3 months, my body has been tricking me into thinking that I’m pg with some very unusual symptoms that I never experience, and each time I was so excited. First month, I experienced extreme fatigue and stomach pains for over a week. The next month, I was 5 days late, tested and got a BFN. Then the most recent month I had pink/brown spotting, which I thought was implantation bleeding. But nope, AF has always made her appearance.

Like some you you lovely people, am feeling pretty alone in a time where it feels like everybody is announcing pregnancies/babies. It feels so nice to finally have the courage to join something like this, so thank you all x

Morning everyone!

@Jamill87 I had cramping last night but like mild period pain style on and off for a few hours. My boobs have started to become tender too but I do reckon my body knows I’ve kinda given up hope this month and is probably trying to trick me again! I will hold out as long as I can to see! How are you feeling now you are on a new cycle? Do you feel any better?

@Rose2108 honestly usually he doesn’t really ask but I explained to him how I felt after writing it up to you guys initially and he said “well you usually have loads of symptoms so maybe not having anything is a good sign?” So he’s been paying attention to my mental symptom spotting 😂
I’m so glad you got to speak to someone and you feel better I really am! My friend who fell pregnant after 2 months mentioned she laid with a cushion under her after DTD for 30 mins and that worked for her. I haven’t used a cushion yet as I just feel a bit embarrassed? I don’t know it’s weird but I tend to stay laid down as long as possible and we put something on the TV? Maybe try that this time around if you can?

@AKcheer oh I am soooo jealous I bet you can’t wait!!! I’m in tier 3 where I live so I can’t meet anyone apart from outside and restaurants are shut but our rates have dropped loads so we are hoping it will change. Yep going to hold out and use the FRER as late as possible!
I’ve just had a look online and 12 isn’t too late! I’ve attached a link below for you but it’s absolutely normal for it to occur at 12DPO by the looks of things!
www.google.com/amp/s/amp.flo.health/pregnancy/pregnancy-health/12-dpo-pregnancy-symptoms
Hope you’re okay today! Has the bleeding eased? It says in this article it can take a few days for it to stop!

@Molsy have you done another test since and was your bleeding bad when you mentioned AF was with you for a few days? As I mentioned to @AKcheer it might be implantation bleeding for you? Xx

@8LPS good morning and welcome! I have just seen your post pop up. As you’ve probably seen going through this post I’m sure everyone knows how you are feeling on here. You are absolutely not on your own!!! I can relate so badly to your symptom spotting and body playing tricks on you it’s horrible isn’t it?!

I’m glad you reached out. I saw this thread last month after just getting a BFN and I was in tears reaching out to these girls and everyone was lovely.

Where abouts are you in your cycle now? Do you do OPKs? Just thinking with some of the irregularities they may give you some reassurance on your cycle? I’ve been using them since the start and found everything has ran like clockwork cycle wise so if your body is delaying things, seeing a physical test or app confirming when AF is due might help? I’ve never had a missed period since using them but I suspect my body would have held off if it wasn’t for them to trick me even more! Might be worth looking into if you haven’t already. I think you can get a months worth for £15?

Also just to mention I have been TTC for less time than you so don’t worry for a second about not feeling like you have a right to say something because others have been going through it longer. The struggle for all of these girls is the same and we will get through this together xxx

@Kirby173 Hahaha I’m in tier 3 too but tier 2 is like 15 mins away from me so I’ve booked in! As long as I’m safe abs I don’t have covid I am all good! We don’t have anyone coming around and we work from home. Don’t even go Tesco get deliveries so I don’t c anyone!

Thanks for sharing the links ❤️ Since yesterday morning I didn’t get any further bleeding but today have real bad AF cramps like it’s going to come any second and I’ve got lower back pain and I only have that just before and during AF :( I bloody wish it is implantation but it just feels like AF is coming. Maybe the bleed was a bit of AF then it realised it’s too early and stopped lol.

Hey @8LPS how are you and welcome! I completely understand how you feel!! I think most of us in thread feel this exact way!! It’s so hard isn’t it and this process isn’t easy. It’s mentally draining, it’s emotional and can be physically draining haha!

It’s hard to openly talk to people about this but I find these forums so useful and you end up having a little friends group who pick you up when your down.

TTC plays so many tricks on our body to the point we genuinely believe we’re pregnant, we symptom spot, we know we’ve nailed it and then it shows it’s so hard isn’t it.

But talk to us! We are all going through the same!! Where are you in your cycle? Are you in the TWW?

The bleeding wasn’t bad, no clots, more brown discharge than anything. I’m going to do a test tomorrow morning but I don’t know if I can cope seeing another negative 😭 completely stopped now and my skin has broken out like never before and I’ve gained 5 pounds.

@AKcheer oh I see! Fair enough I can’t blame you. I’m all for sticking to the rules but I genuinely know more people who have committed suicide due to not seeing anyone over this period so I’ve totally changed my stance on lockdown. As you say you are safe and have literally not come into contact with anyone so fair enough! Enjoy yourself 🥰🥰🥰

Aww bless you! Hopefully AF will stay away and these cramps are implantation doing it’s thing but it’s so annoying how similar the pregnancy symptoms are to AF like give us a break and make it easier to spot please!!!

I’m seeing a friend on Saturday who knows about my struggle and she’s basically said if I get a BFN she has Prosecco lined up for me so it’s a good conciliation prize waiting I guess. I’m going to test Friday morning I think because by then I will be 13 DPO and AF is due Saturday so I think that will be enough time?!

@Molsy do you usually break out before AF? I usually do and put on weight just before AF but as I mentioned to @AKcheer above it’s just so hard to figure out what’s AF and what’s pregnancy as the symptoms are so similar when you look into it it’s crazy! Please keep us posted on your test! I really hope this is your month.

I no longer know what to think now ladies!! I went through my old notes of how I was feeling and this month is totally different so I am now starting to get my hopes up again! 🤦🏽‍♀️ I don’t think I can deal with another BFN to be honest!

@AKcheer and @Kirby173
Your warm welcome nearly made me cry haha! Thanks so much. I already feel like a bit of weight has been taken from my shoulders by talking about it. My best mate has just told me a couple days ago that she is pg with her 2nd so I don’t think I’ll feel as comfortable talking to her about it as much.

@Kirby173 - ugh the symptom checking and analysing, I know, is not so good but I let my head get carried away sometimes!
I’m currently in the TWW - on day 26 of 30. I used to use OPKs, but the same friend who’s now pg told me to stop using them cus they’re useless. But I guess there’s no harm in using them. And now that you mention them, I’m going to start using them again cus different things work/don’t work for different people - plus, seeing the flashing smiley face gave me a bit of hope that my body is doing what it should be
Thanks so much for your advice! Xx

@AKcheer - I’m ok thank you, how are you?? As I mentioned to Kirby, I’m currently in the TWW! These 2 weeks tend to be me convincing myself that everything I feel in my body is either in my head, or AF symptoms haha! Xx

In terms of getting down to it I have seen sooo many different things about whether you should do it every single day during fertile period, or every other day, or every 2-3 days. Part of me is fed up with hearing so many different things because I just don’t know what to do, but a much bigger part of me feels like I need to know the options so that I know what has more of a success rate! If anyone feels comfortable sharing anything they’ve heard, it’d be much appreciated!

Thank you again.

@Kirby173 I started bleeding again today so I’m taking that as 0 babies. I just have the most god awful feeling we can’t have children😭

I don't know why, I think writing on here last night gave me a real motivation to really try our best this month, so I ordered some of the CB OPK's and some conceive+! Ready from tomorrow to DTD every other day for two weeks and as you say @Kirby173 just stick the tele on for 20 mins. I have actually put a pillow under my waist - funny enough my husband suggested this as the woman in peep show does it haha! He also said I should put my legs up in the air and I was like alright mate I'm not a gymnast! I am taking some immune system vitamins anyway (I always get colds this time of year), and am taking the seven seas trying for a baby tablets with dinner. That's all I can do! Don't be embarrassed, I put a pillow under sometimes when we DTD, it's great!

I really hope you get a BFP this month, I honestly just think it is luck. 20%ish chance each time, so any month it could be your month!

Hi @8LPS - Teellllll me about it, in September I was 4 days late, felt sick, headache, tired.... nope, just a late AF! A few months before I was certain I had implantation bleeding! I just get annoyed by the end of it, a waste of money on negative tests and so much unhelpful googling! Lol. I believe every other day is best, they say that you should let the man "replenish"... but I think just do what you feel comfortable with. We only really DTD once or twice a week due to his shifts so for us, every day just isn't really realistic. If the mood takes you, why not eh! But all of my friends have DTD every other day and fallen pregnant that way.

@Molsy - it could be your month! Just to hard to know, try and be patient and wait a few more days!

I try to see each month as a new opportunity and not reflect back on all the failed attempts. When I look back through my app at how many months we have tracked it is quire depressing.... so I just see this as a new month to try.

@AKcheer Enjoy your night out and keep us posted with your AF situation... keeping everything crossed x

@8LPS aww bless you! Yeah everyone around me who has tried either fell pregnant within 2 months of TTC or figured out they had infertility issues after years of trying but then had successful IVF so stuck in the middle of people not understanding or it been way worse than our situations! I sat at my kitchen table after my last month of TTC crying and noticed this thread and it’s been amazing just talking to others in the same boat!
No worries at all! Ooh you use the clear blue fancy ones then? I’ve been eyeing those up to be honest instead of squinting at a line haha. Might have a look this time around if TTC is unsuccessful! As you say though it just gives reassurance that everything is doing what it should I guess. Are you going to test or just wait for AF?

@Molsy aww don’t think like that! Keep taking your folic acid and doing what you are doing. Apparently there’s only a 25% chance each month in success in the healthiest couples and only 84 out of 100 couples fall pregnant in the first year of TTC. Remember that the ovulation window is only small and everything has to be perfect to conceive! The stats are really worth looking into for reassurance if you are up to doing it right now.

Oh no @Molsy we posted at the same time, so sorry that it hasn't been your month. It's totally normally to think this, I think the same every single month. You'll feel better in a few days and I kind of like to think that help is available when we need it. There are lots of tests and medications and options! Try and stay positive x

@Rose2108 I’m crying at your comment “alright mate I’m not a gymnast” 😂 don’t you just feel so weird doing this stuff though like I find it so awkward 🤦🏽‍♀️ Isn’t it funny the stuff we do when TTC 😂 ooh let me know how you get on with the CB OPKs because I’ve been using Premom for months and I get the peak and stuff every time but they clearly aren’t working. I was eyeing up the CB ones in Black Friday but I was just about to ovulate so it was pointless plus I didn’t want to spend like £30 if we were successful this month!
I nearly bought the conceive plus too but was unsure of it? Again keep me posted! I’m on Pregnacare trying to a baby tablets and he’s on the male ones and literally all they have done so far is make my wee bright yellow 😂
I’m really happy you are feeling motivated again! Rubbish when you get that BFN or AF but it’s fine as soon as AF is nearly done I get all hyped up ready for another attempt. I’m so excited for you obviously keep us posted!!! Xx

Hey All
Looks like I'm out this month also! AF due tomorrow and couldn't wait so tested this morning and as thought a BFN! So basically waiting for AF to arrive tomorrow, can already feel the cramps coming on!

Think I might give myself a wee break and enjoy Xmas and the prosecco that comes with it without having to worry and test all the time!!

2020 really has been the worst eh! But here's to a fun filled and exciting 2021 with hopefully lots of BFPs for us all 💕💕

Baby dust to everyone!xx

@Rose2108 @Kirby173 it’s really hard not to think it, I’ve kept myself super busy trying not to think about it which then has just ended in tears again because I’m so tired lol. Feeling a bit better now though, just another month I can save some money and can enjoy Christmas. It’s so so nice being able to speak to other in the same boat as me, feels like a weight has been lifted. I’m going to see the doctor in the new year if still no luck.

@Kirby173 it’s so hard isn’t it? Like the thing is people are being stupid having so many crowds here there and everywhere and they ruin it for everyone!!! I know man it’s so annoying. This evening I’ve had dark brown discharge like old blood so I think AF is on her way and had lower back pain. Oooh love a Prosecco!! Yup that should be plenty of time!! Please keep me posted!!! Fingers and toes crossed for you!! I also keep getting really anxious about this stuff. I don’t want AF and I don’t want another BFN!! But I feel like it’s bloody coming!!!

Aww @8LPS it’s so nice just being there for each other and supporting each other. Can be hard to turn to friends sometimes to be honest. Oh dear. I’m so fed up of friends and relatives getting preg bar me :( I’m ok. Had my hopes up but starting to get dark brown discharge which I think is old blood. Due weds might be early so feeling bummed to be honest. TWW is the hardest thing ever!! Sometime I’m so confident I’m preg and then I’m not!!! All symptoms are so heightened. I swear I never even used to her symptoms before I started TTC!! So I’ve heard people do it everyday too but that’s a lot I just do it every other day! But it hasn’t worked for me so far!!

Hey @Rose2108 you seem prepared and ready to get to action!!! I’m not feeling hopeful anymore. Dark brown discharge is here ergh!!