Nov Bus 21 - C*m stains, period rage and MASSIVE bullets

[Juno231]

Come join us on our TTC journeys - all you need is a (filthy) sense of humour!

Bus history:
June - 24 BFPs
July - 11 BFPs
August - 18 BFPs
September - 4 BFPs
October - 7 BFPs

November BFPs so far:
@AKC88 - November 3rd
@purplesky18 - November 3rd
@dippyegg32 - November 5th

Upcoming testing dates:
@pebblesinthesand - November 11th
@siana97 - November 16th
@nestinginNL - November 18th
@missgoldilocks - November 20th
@Franklydear - November 22nd
@Juno231 - November 22nd
@vil10 - November 23rd
@djmum83 - November 23rd
@clairey844 - November 27th
@mrsbear1122 - November 28th
@katao - December 4th
@Hopeful110 - December 12th
@minster2012 - February 14th

@paintfairy yeah a finger doesn't cut it during sex, too awkward so he tends to go down on me first and then we have sex afterwards. So is it for you or for him? The butt plugs. Or both!
@Joanna1009 jeez what a passion killer! Did you carry on having sex? He's def got issues, feel for you. I guess you've spoken to him about it and explained it's just a toy? Can he use them with you so that he feels involved in it?
@Hopeful110 ah ok, good to know! My Dh is pretty vanilla sadly so he'd prob baulk at it! He'd use it on me I reckon but if I went near him with one he'd bolt 🏃🏻‍♂️ 😂
@Amy00 how amazing would that be! It takes me flipping ages but then totes worth it as it always goes on for a while and is spectacular! I couldn't come cum that often as I don't think they'd be as good. Twice a week is my max otherwise they're not as powerful. I could maybe go a third if I'm particularly horny.
Wow @lucyrp so jealous of your ease to cum. Lucky girl!

@Kirky658 very similar to us then. I tend to watch a bit of porn before we start to really get me going!

@notyetamumbuttrying always good to know you're not alone ❤️ my libido used to be so high but it's fallen through the floor dunno if it's just familiarity or what because if we do something different I'm okay then!

@notyetamumbuttrying I know right?! No, that killed the sex there and then.
I don't think it's even about the toys to be honest. Or about me. I'll help him with anything if he wants and will accept my support, but I'm not here to fix any man.
I wish my younger self would have had that viewpoint...

@lucyrp yeah I think I'm defo gonna listen to my body more this cycle instead of judging opks lol! Now I know I get very watery cm and lots of it before I ovulate i know what to look out for, which also means... for the past 5 months I have gone by opks and bbt for ovulation and not paid much attention to my cm... so now im wondering if I was actually ovulating when the opks said so, if that's the case I don't know when il next ovulate... can you randomly just have 1 cycle where your cm is so much different to other cycles and still be ovulating regular?

@Hopeful110 I don't even know how to listen to my body, I've never noticed EWCM and I've tried to look for it but never find it 💁🏼‍♀️ I haven't used OPKs for a while because I'd have to do them for about 50 days to try and find my peak so I haven't bothered 😂

@Hopeful110 sorry af is being such a bitch!! And love that you're tree is already up!! Think ours is going up in the next few weeks!

@notyetamumbuttrying pervs😂

@lucyrp I used to have my nipple pierced so it felt good with that in when OH played with them! Also partial to a thumb in the bum when in doggy!

@Joanna1009 urghhhh that would wind me up no end!! He needs to give his head a wobble, using a toy shouldn't affect him like that, I understand men maybe not liking it but to making remarks during sex that would drive me up the wall!!

@lucyrp I don't get EWCM either, which made me think maybe I wasn't ovulating after all, but considering i had so much watery cm from cd29 to cd32 and then 14 days later AF arrived id guess not everyone gets ewcm..do you get any watery cm? Or any other signs just before ovulation?

@Hopeful110 I haven't been able to pinpoint it ever, I only started looking for it since may and I've had fu*led up cycles since. I managed to pinpoint ovulation with my bbt last cycle at CD45 and then AF arrived 14 days later so I'm guessing that's right as I had a 14 day LP which would be usual for my normal cycles which were 30 days 💁🏼‍♀️ I had cramps which I thought could have been ov cramps like two nights before ov but I don't know 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Hopeful110 saying I don't get EWCM isn't exactly true as I do get wetter and hornier normally around ovulation I would guess but I've never been able to like collect some with my fingers and inspect it 😂

Day 4 of nausea and tiredness keep feeling hot too. Not eating anything out the ordinary and getting plenty of sleep . These 2 weeks waiting for ultrasoundare going to drag. I hate the not knowing what's happening

@Kirky658 I think many women are like it so most men would have come across it before. Mine hasn't really said its weird. I'm going to ask now about others. 😂

@notyetamumbuttrying only used the butt plug for me. Maybe he'd like it though too? 🤔

@Joanna1009 had you even used a toy though? What a random thing to say! I'm actually the opposite, if I'd used toys that day I'd find it harder to enjoy it as I do find I'm better with a bigger gap between. So he should have been thankful it was good and you were enjoying it? I prefer slower too when I'm horny, it feels amazing.
But what a knob? It would have turned me right off too. But then it doesn't take much. 🤣

@paintfairy No...I hadn't even used it that day anyway. Not touched it all week! He assumes that if i seem more sensitive down there, that means it's because I've gone to town on myself that day.

So the sex stopped that instant. I was so mad. And he then comes out with "yet another time where you've had fun on your own and I'm having to go without". WHAT THE HELL??! We've never even had that situation he's referring to, he just makes assumptions and upsets himself if I'm ever not in the mood. Keep in mind I'm working full time and have 4 children from when I was married before him. One of which doesn't sleep well.

@Joanna1009 Jesus. I would have been mad too! Definitely an issue there somewhere! He needs to sort it out.

@Kirky658 so similar! I think it's familiarity. We've been together nearly 6 years now and he's quite vanilla, whereas I'm not. It's also me who always initiates so it's hard to get excited when it's never spontaneous for me! Poor Dh, he's got no idea I feel like this. I do say over and over "you can try it on with me you know, and you don't have to wait for me to initiate" but then he never does so 🤷🏾‍♀️
@Joanna1009 I'm not surprised 😬 all you can do is offer hun, if he doesn't take it then more fool him.
@Vil10 haha 😆 I shouldn't call us that really, clearly it's quite natural if so many of us our into it and in straight couples.
@paintfairy ok interesting. Does it just feel nice then? U just place it in and that's it right?

@notyetamumbuttrying my DH is the exact same they sound a carbon copy 😂 I said to him I'd find it so hot if I was cooking and you came up behind me & said you want me... I think he's scared of me rejecting him tbh as I'm rarely in the mood! We have been together 6 years also and married for 1. He is so sensitive and lovely but sometimes I wish he'd just throw me around a bit 😂

@notyetamumbuttrying I've got one that's got like basis balls on it so you can slide it in as little as you want. They kind of get bigger in size? Feels better if there's some movement to me. He'll use a finger sometimes also.

@Kirky658 mine usually initiates but mostly in the bedroom. I'm always in a bad mood mind so maybe he doesn't dare. 🤣 I feel bad i never really initiate at all but he's got a higher drive than me.

@Joanna1009 omg that kind of assumption and mopey-ness would make me flip. Such a big man child! He literally messed with his own head and is blaming it on you...

@Hopeful110 have you tried evening primrose oil for ewcm? it really works! I take it every month.

Hello all! I'm not sure what the etiquette is- I don't want to be the bitch who silently follows along until they need something or have news- but that does seem to be me 🤦🏻‍♀️

I asked for a bit of help with my opks this month as they were very confusing and got some really helpful replies

The conclusion was that I did get my bfp! Hooray but also eeeek! Had squinters on ICs from 7dpo and a clear frer at 9dpo
Top tip- don't use FMU as per www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/pregnancy-tests-urine-sample.php

Hope it sticks as last time I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Baby dust to all! ✨

I'm a bit behind today I've def just come from just boob work @lucyrp & @paintfairy but I think it was also a lot to do with "being in the right moment" & prob rubbing myself on him too not just good boob action 😂

@Hopeful110 urgh I hope AF f's off for you then, I get bad cramps...but in the butt plug thing...are they actually any good?? Any pleasure? Asking for a friend... @Amy00 of course 🤣wait??!! 🎄???

I've just bought some lovely Xmas wooden ornaments (I've got a thing for wood clearly) made by a local blind guy I bought a load last year & gave to some of our customers they were in my local post office as he lives in the village...dog walking currently but watch this space for photos!

@Joanna1009 id be fuming too, tell him even if you were to use toys before him it's like turning on READY for him...god it's like when guys say "I get more turned on by watching porn then you coming to bed I'm horny as hell" yes, can totally happen. Anyway you shouldn't have to say anything. Grrrrr

Quote of the day from @Vil10 "he needs to give his head a wobble" well @Joanna1009 wanted to give his head a wobble and he blew it...she didn't (puns all round intended)

In other news I'm CD26 of cycles of "who the fuck knows anyway" waiting for AF to phone the IVF clinic again to start.

I've spent about 2 hours on the phone to the 2 Leeds hospitals my appointments are at & now I've got my 3 scans on one day (win) but starting at 8am 1.5 hours away. So now only 2 days of appointments and an early start. Boom.

@Minster2012 I totally need to penetration aswell as the boobs don't worry 😂😂

Also I would like to start taking evening primrose oil but because I never know when ov is would it hurt to keep taking it until ov confirmed on bbt ?

@beekeeping congratulations on your BFP!!! Don't worry about being one of the quieter ones, happy news is still very welcome!!! Fingers crossed for a happy & healthy pregnancy 💕

@Kirky658 err are you sure we haven't married the same man lol?! I've said exactly this to him before!! I'm always up for it tho, have told him this as well, but nada, he's stayed exactly the same! We got married last aug, so it's just over a year for us.
@paintfairy I'm gonna have to look into this some more, he used to pop a finger in but doesn't anymore. I'll encourage him to and then slowly bring in the idea of a butt plug 😏
@BeeKeeping congratulations 🥳 always lovely to see 🤩 best of luck 🤞🏾

@notyetamumbuttrying this is getting even weirder now lol as we also got married in August last year 😂 the 4th in the Peak District. They do sound sooooo similar. He is the best though he's had to put up with my endometriosis now for years we've been together and all the issues surrounding that. Might just sit him down and go, oi, you need to seduce me... See if that works 😜

@beekeeping omg congratulations!!!! What a great start to November ❤️🎊

Congratulations @BeeKeeping !!! That's interesting about the FMU.. I wonder why? 🧐