TTC cycle 1 (just come off pill) for #1

[Happythoughts91]

Hello!

Im in my first month of trying with my partner of 12 years. With wedding plans up in the air due to covid we decided we didn’t want to put our lives on hold any more so here we are!

I came off the pill, had my withdrawal bleed and now in the two week wait until next week when I can test.

I guess I just wanted to come on here and see if anyone else is new to trying too. Or people who can give light in how long it took them to conceive after coming off the pill.

We haven’t told no one we’re trying so I feel like I haven’t got no one to talk too about it all. Trying to stay positive and would love to have a happy ending to 2020.

Sending baby dust to you all xxx

Morning @GreenApplesYo 🙂
Yep temps still up which is good. And I went for a morning pee before I gave myself the chance to think about testing...
I'm now on the mindset to focus on one thing at a time. So my current focus is having a decent length LP. So if I can go another 3 days without AF then I'll take a win in that. So far I'm taking a win in clear ovulation with clear peak OPks and BBT rises. Then i will hope for another 28 day cycle. Then a first proper cycle with ovulation, 13-14 day LP, and 28days in total, is a massive win regardless of pregnancy or not pregnancy!

@AMS19 ah well done having a wee without testing 🙂you're absolutely right, having regular cycles straight off the pill is a great achievement (not that we have control over these things... it's a win for nature. Go mother nature! haha). Good your temps are still up 🙂

Hello! Haven't tested again since the other day @AMS19 I'm day30 on my Cycle today and 8dpo according to my app. Very low mood and energy. Trying so hard not to test and just get on with stuff. You've done so well not to test! How are you feeling?
Has anyone read 50 Things You Need To Know About Periods by Claire Baker? That book has changed my life. I bought it last month and wished I'd been given it years ago!

@PowerOfFlowers feeling fine thanks! Maybe a bit too fine 😂😂 im out tonight for one last social with friends before lockdown. Going to attempt a glass of red i think. This night out is the only thing making me torn about testing! If I didnt have that I dont think I would be too bothered. But if I got a BFN then I would drink guilt free, and if I got a BFP wouldn't drink! Arrrggghhh 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

And no i haven't read that! I'll add it to my list 🙂

Enjoy yourself tonight @AMS19 Yes, have a glass or two of red - I did last night whilst watching the US Election. I think I've said it before, but until I get a BFP I'm going to continue my life as normally as possible.
The book is great. I have it next to my bed so when I feel a bit weird I check where I am in my cycle, and check what that book says about it 😄 Its almost always makes sense!!
Few more days to go till we can test 🤞🏻

@PowerOfFlowers yes I'm going to. I have zero symptoms now and feel fine so I think I actually jsut had a but of a bug and genuinely don't believe I'm pregnant. So am going to just enjoy it until I found out otherwise!

The election is all very exciting!

Hi all, just checking back in @GreenApplesYo fab to see that line progressing fingers crossed for you!

After I had a peak OPK my apps think I've ovulated, FF has me at 4dpo and Premom at 5dpo. I've got my fingers so tightly crossed but as others have said probably unlikely to happen straight away so im trying not to get my heart set on it! It feels a bit like whenever I play the lottery and get 100% convinced that I'm going to win only to be bitterly disappointed.

I'm wondering what people think about DTD during TWW? I'm having lots of most likely irrational thoughts about it possibly disturbing implantation, anyone else worry about this or am I just a bit mad? Xx

Thank you @bells20! All good here so far 🙂

DP and I did have sex in the 2ww. I read in a pregnancy book that there's no evidence that having sex in the 2ww is a problem. But I do feel weird about it now!! Like I could somehow knock the little bean out. But I think that's an unfounded fear (as in... me being loopy).

I also think I am going to win the lottery every time hehe and love long daydreams about what I'll do with my vast fortune.

Morning ladies

So I decided to take a FRER yesterday before going out to put my mind at rest about drinking. Very clear BFN...which I'm totally fine with. Just hoping AF holds off for another 2/3 days to have a decent LP 🙏 unfortunately it feels like she might be coming today/tomorrow as I've got period pains and feel pretty yucky. I mean..the yucky bit is probably all the red wine, but the period pains are real 😂😂😂
I didnt take my temp this morning as the wine made me sleep terribly, but would expect it probably dropped!

I know im not 100% out, but there wasn't even a hint of a line, so I would say I'm 99% out. And I've realised I am so much happier not stressing about whether to test or not, so glad I did it! Now I can just relax and waif for AF and a new cycle 😃

@AMS19 oh sorry to hear it was a BFN but also think it's def much better you tested and now know, rather than getting too fixated on it. Have fingers crossed for a decent length LP for you 🤞🏼

@GreenApplesYo ok great, thanks for your reassurance! I think it averages around the 36.10 mark overall. I guess as long as it goes up after ovulation that's the main thing!

@PowerOfFlowers I bought the book on my iPad today and have already read the whole thing (mainly whilst stuck in a very irrelevant 3 hour Zoom meeting 😂) - wish I'd learned a lot of this stuff many many years ago.

I also did a FRER this morning (AF due Monday) BFN

Also, any preggo symptoms I THOUGHT I had have completely disappeared so I’m 99% sure I’ll get AF on Monday.

So, because of that, I’m going to finally take some ibuprofen for this sodding back pain and have a couple of glasses of wine tomorrow eve for DH’s birthday. I really think everyone TTC should adopt the mindset of live life normally until AF doesn’t show.

I’m not even sure I’m going to do anymore FRER’s in future. They seem to cause so much stress and anguish!

@SweetShopSurprise sorry to hear that! I feel so much better now not stressing about if I am pregnant or whether to take a test. I think I'll definitely do a FRER as soon as I can next cycle as for me it really helped knowing where I stood. I think I was stressing more about whether to take a test than the actual result! And I did enjoy drinking guilt free. Although ended up getting wayyyyyy too drunk 🥴

Hi @AMS19 and @SweetShopSurprise sorry to hear about the BFNs.

Haha yes FRERs are the work of the devil.

Hope your period stays away a few days longer @AMS19. Guess if it does, your body might still be adjusting, perhaps you'll have a longer LP going forwards?

Ha not sure why you got extra * @AMS19 🙂

Thanks @GreenApplesYo I'm surprised at how fine i feel about it. The symptoms were all so weird but at least now going into next cycle I'll know not to focus on symptoms. I'm 10DPO so if AF can just hold off another 2 days then I'll be happy with a 12 day LP. I'm not due on until Tuesday so let's see 🤷‍♀️

At least I didnt waste my last night before lockdown not drinking. I'm paying for it now, but the joys of wfh mean I can just go back to bed after my next meeting 🙃

@GreenApplesYo I feel very reassured thank you, funny how our minds work isn't it. My other half will be pleased to know that I'm sure haha.

@AMS19 glad to hear your not feeling as stressed. Good that you can take a positive from it regardless of the result. I'm feeling the same, if I end up having AF this month at least I'll feel reassured that my body's working well enough after years in the pill. I also enjoyed a glass of wine last night and feel much better for it!

Hello!
So happy you bought it too @CardioQueen - I also read it in one sitting! I wish someone would have given me that book when I started having periods, it would have been so helpful. I keep telling friends to buy it now - I should be getting commission!! 🤣
I also caved in this morning and tested @AMS19 🙈 BFN which I expected and not at the least bit surprised. Sorry that you were also negative, but also I'm glad your mind is a bit more at rest and you could enjoy last night. How's the hangover treating you this morning?? I struggled with mine yesterday but slept so well last night.
Day 31 today and 9dpo - I have a lot of energy this morning. Did a 20min deload hiit and will go for a walk at lunchtime. I'm determined not to slip into bad habits like I did last lockdown!!

@PowerOfFlowers the hangover is brutal! Got very bad period pains now too so AF is on her way. Earlier than I would have hoped, only 10 day LP if I start today. So will take B vitamins next cycle to try and extend a bit. The bright side is the sooner AF is here the sooner the next cycle starts I guess 🤷‍♀️

I just woke up to very light spotting this morning. I’m on CD26 and the same thing happened to me last month 2 days before AF arrived! so I know AF is on the way now in the next 2 days! 😢
So disheartened! We didn’t use OPKs this month but we DTD every 2 days for the entire cycle, and every day on my predicted fertile period. So not sure what else we could have done! 😢

@positivitytree2020 I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe your cycle was aovulatory and you didn't actually ovulate? Would you consider OPK charting and BBT tracking next cycle? I think I would be all over the place if I couldn't pin point ovulation!

How is everyone else?

@AMS19
That did cross my mind, is it possible to have 2 anovulatory cycles in a row? My 1st cycle was 29 days, and if my spotting now is the same as previous month it would make this cycle 28 days. And I did notice EWCM around CD22.
Yes I ordered a BBT thermometer off Amazon so hoping that arrives soon! 😂 have all my OPKs ready to go for next cycle.
Was just hoping that MAYBE all my efforts worked this month with DTD! 😂

Unfortunately @positivitytree2020 i think given you are just off the contraception it is certainly possible?! If you are charting everything next cycle you'll feel much more in control! It is frustrating but still early days. They say most cycles take about 6 months to get back to normal. Dont forget if you were on the pill you won't have ovulated for that whole time!

@AMS19 thank you, I’ll defo start tracking everything next cycle. At least then I’ll have a better idea of what’s going. And sure even if I don’t want AF at least I am getting it and something is happening down there, have to take some positives out of it! 😂 how are you getting on?

@positivitytree2020 that is 100% the way to look at it. When my first AF came exactly 27 days after my withdrawal bleed is was totally buzzing. Then I ovulated (very clearly) on CD13, which again, I was so happy about. Im currently 11DPO, feel like AF will arrive any moment, but just so happy to have had an LP this long. So overall..despite my BFN 2 days ago, I'm taking this cycle as a MASSIVE win!