TTC November Bus

[Bmeggar]

Hi loves,
I'm out of the game for the Oct bus so I thought I'd kick off November bus early so people can join if AF rears her ugly head.
Brief summary of me - TTC since Jan, mc in Sept, just finished first period after d&c and ready to get pregnant already!
I've got a 4yr old ds and really hoped to be pregnant right now so pretty fed up with the whole process but trying to keep positive. IT WILL HAPPEN.
Sending baby dust to everyone! Summer babes for us all round

Today I thought af had came but then it stopped at around 10am..It was very light and I only noticed It if I went to the toilet but then it stopped completely. I’ve got cramps and pain in right ovary but only if I cough or move suddenly. Has anyone ever had these symptoms? X

@sunshineandshowers3 Thanks Hun, yeah I hope so😊. I'm trying to stay positive, just that I hate being disappointed month after month. I know what you mean as I've had a month like you with typical symptoms, in fact that was last month. My body tricked me into believing it was time 🤣 only for af to arrive. I was soooo down for 3 days but picked myself up again lol. I wish the symptoms for af and preg are distinct..

Not at all bonkers, I'm same as u so I avoided meet ups🤣. But what's happened now is three of them text to announce their news to me. I was so happy for them and then felt sad for myself a little lol.

Hopefully it's all of our turns this month for sticky babies🙏🤞

@sunshineandshowers3 yes our first. I thought it was so much easier than this. When you’re young you’re taught you could get pregnant at any point. I’m annoyed with myself for being on the depo injection for so long! I wish I knew!

I’ve been using opk tests and just started using conceive plus. I did start using pregnacare but it Messed up my cycles.

How about you?

@keepingfaithandhope There’s a lot to say for positivity- I think however sometimes I let my thoughts run away with me and then I’ve got further to fall when the disappointment hits. Last month was the absolute worst in getting my hopes up too. Hopefully we’re both in sync with BFPs this month 🤞🤞🤞. Did you cry? As soon as I found out we were out again for that month I cried for pretty much two days. Really don’t want another month like that. It’s the first month my fiance looked visibly really gutted and I felt like such a letdown.

Are they three very close friends? I have a feeling another work colleague may be pregnant so I’m prepared for her everyday to announce.

I really hope so- summer 2021 babies 🤞🤞xxx

@Emc16x I always remember that scene in Mean Girls ‘don’t have sex because you will get pregnant. Now here’s some rubbers’ 😂 if only that were true! Have you ever considered ringing the GP early? I’m petrified we can’t conceive. I was on the pill for a few years but came off and we have been using the pull out technique (sorry if TMI) for about 5 years tbh and never once had a scare which surely means there must be something wrong?!?

Yep I use OPKs, track cycles on clue, not drinking alcohol at all anymore, grapefruit juice to increase EWCM, lying with legs in the air for as long as possible after sex and first month this month using preseed. Xx

@sunshineandshowers3 I rang them in June! I’ve been through the blood tests. All came back negative. So we’ve been referred to the hospital fertility clinic in January...after I rang a doctor crying my eyes out when my best friend got pregnant ‘by accident’. So lucky it shows on my records that I’ve been off contraception since Sept 2018.

Yes legs in the air!! I track cycles on about 4 apps. I’ve gone a bit crazy with it all. No grapefruit juice yet but I have been drinking pomegranate juice lately...apparently it Helps fertility!

It doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. The ovulation window is key. You only get 12 tries a year...and only a few hours in those 12 times! Xxx

@Emc16x
Im on pregnacare. Just started second box. Im seriously constipated and cant go to the loo withou fibogel/ lactulose. Im not getting anymore after this box infact I dont know if i can finish it 🙈. How did it mess up your cycle? Did you ovulate late? X

@Emc16x Oh really? Were they helpful and did things progress quickly? Was your other half tested too? The ‘accidental’ pregnancies 😭. ‘We weren’t even trying’ I feel awful saying it but I think sometimes some people say it as if to say ‘aren’t I amazingly fertile’. Really don’t want to feel this way but jealousy is such a natural human emotion.

Oh haven’t heard that about pomegranate! May give that a go as I like the taste - I don’t even like the taste of grapefruit yet I’m subjecting myself every day 😂🙈.

Yeah I suppose you’re right - just wish I knew either way if mine/our bits worked! Have many of your friends got children? Xx

@MgW1 I only took one box. I felt like it changed cycle length, I was very constipated too! I personally don’t think I ovulated on them but I could have missed it due to my strange cycles.

But...saying that, my cycles have been all over the place since so I just don’t know! Sorry I’m not of any help! Xx

@sunshineandshowers3 was told DH was going to have to do a test to get the referral to hospital but he hasn’t done one yet. I’ll chase that tomorrow. He’s mortified he has to do one.

I know. I’m so happy for them but still so sad and now I’m just withdrawn from them and the whatsapp convos. I feel bad but I don’t want to know. Then the complaining about being pregnant gets me! And if I hear ‘just relax and it’ll happen naturally’ I’ll kill somebody haha

Nobody really knows we’re trying as much as we are. All of DH’s friends now have babies or babies on the way. Because of our age gap...my friends aren’t close yet. Not even engaged...but I just see them falling before me at this rate!!

I think when I go to hospital I’ll get scans done to see if any tubes are blocked! Then I think I’ll be put on clomid to kick start ovulation maybe. I’ve no idea. I’m way out of my depth.

I’ve got the worst cramps right now. Back pain and breast pain but I get all of this when AF comes! Where are you in your cycle now? 2ww? Xx

@MgW1 just butting in on this convo but I didn't get on with pregnacare with my first kid and discovered seven seas 'trying for a baby' supplements which are SO much better for me - have you tried them?x

@bmeggar
Yes i have a box of them in the cupboard
After my miscarriage at 3 months , i bled an awful lot and thought a heavy duty supplement would do me good. Il see this cycle through now because half way through and then il go.on the seven seas 😊 thanks luv xx

@MgW1 🙌 Hope they work out for you xx

@Emc16x Yeah I think men find that whole thing about doing a test that bit harder than us. I’m sure you’re the same but I’d do anything to move the process along and get to the bottom of whether there is/isn’t a problem.

The relax thing really gets to me too. My Mum is the only one who knows we’re conceiving as we’re very close. When she says relax I know she’s only saying it with the best intentions but she caught first month with my brother (at 27) and second month with me (29). Very hard to stay relaxed month after month when your mind is going into overdrive about there potentially being a problem.

Did you initially have a GP appointment over the phone due to Covid or all in person? And what did you say when they asked about how long you’d been ttc? Definitely going to ring if it doesn’t happen for us this month!

Yeah only a couple of our friends do and our main group of friends don’t have babies yet... but at this rate they’ll be catching us up!

Wish AF and pregnancy symptoms were easy to distinguish between. I drive myself mad looking for the really out there symptoms like bleeding gums, increased saliva etc 🙈.

I’m due to ovulate Sunday so getting as much sex in as possible! Trying not to burn out this month and continue having sex during the TWW wait. Do you do that or only really during fertile week?

@sunshineandshowers3 sorry it hit you that hard too (hugs). Yes I did cry for the 3 days, a lot. It hit me bad, & unexpectedly so.

Of the three friends, just one is a close friend. One of them is a work colleague who announced to me as well as we are all WFH at the mo. Good you've prepared your mind so it wouldn't hit you too hard.

Hoping you have a fab day. XXX

@PurplePops hi just seen you're around same time as me, per 2ww. I'm CD16 or 17 today I think. How's your 2ww going? I've kind of taken my mind off my wait but my boobs are killing me since ovulation. It's happened before and af showed, so I don't know anymore 🤷‍♀️. Xx

Hi @keepingfaithandhope! Yay to having a cycle buddy! Im CD19, 2dpo.. I think! Feeling a bit emotional today, don't think I've done enough this month. OH had a busy work schedule which meant we only DTD the day before my peak O test. Hopefully its enough but not sure that it is!

How are you? Thats great you're taking your mind off it, its hard with symptom spotting isn't it! How long have you been trying? Im on cycle 2 so trying not to get myself too worked up about it xx

@PurplePops 😀 yay!!!

Sorry you feel that way today 🤗. It takes just once for many women so I'm hopeful for you. Doesn't matter how long a woman has been TTC it's still emotionally tasking so I totally understand🤗.

I used SMEP for the first time as I felt OH & I needed a plan. Also after reading online that people BD every day or every other day for a whole month to conceive I felt we needed to up our frequency around fertile time lol. Btw I just found out about SMEP.

I'm feeling alright today, thanks. After AF last month I was so crushed particularly because my body tricked me with many "symptoms" prior to BFN. It's my third month trying (4th month if I count the month I went away but hurriedly DTD 2ce before leaving) lol. Hoping & praying this is the month for us all 🙏🤞

Hi ladies. Hope you can help out.

I’ve got terrible cramps and sore boobs...quite a lot of spots so I thought AF was coming early however checked CP and it’s high and still quite soft and open. O was only 6 days ago. AF is due end of the month. I really don’t want to read into things as I’m really irregular so AF could come early...but shouldn’t my cervix be low and hard by now?

@gracie2307 how are you? I noticed you mentioned about spotting this month, can I ask how quickly proper af came after? I had spotting yesterday morning but nothing since 13dpo and confused! X

@keepingfaithandhope I found smep so helpful for us. The schedule and the logic of it.

@NamechangeTTC exactly. Its so clear to follow too. Wish I knew about it earlier 😅

@keepingfaithandhope I wish we were told how emotional and stressful ttc can be and not have unprotected sex and you'll be instantly pregnant, wouldn't that be great?! Haha 😂

I've seen a lot of people mention the SMEP this month, will look into it and try that next month.

Sorry to hear about how you felt last month, its annoying the symptoms for pregnancy and AF are so similar 😔. Here's hoping we all get a BFP soon! Got my fingers crossed for you. Do you usually wait till AF is late to start testing? Xx

@Bmeggar
Im just wondering whether to take 1/2 a pregnace and top up the folic acid. Im worried its gona mess cycle up now! And when iv compared to seven seas , there is double and tripple some of the vitamins and not sure its necessary. I should have had a peak today but still a flashing face!!! Done a cheap opk and negative xx