TTC after MC - October 2020 (Thread 14)

[VP91x]

Morning all xx

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@chloedancer897 and @HappyVibes thank you. Headache has gone today thankfully. I think 10days in I would of had symptoms before now. Hopefully. I’m a teacher as well so this is/has been my 2week half term which makes it even worse. You don’t realise what a little trip to the shop does for you just to get out the 4walls. Thank you for your concern x

@Jazper please try not to panic, I know it's easier said than done. Sometimes bleeding in early pregnancy can be normal and due to hormonal changes. Try not to think too negatively. We are all here for you if you want to let it out or vent xo

Here is my chart now. FF has decided that I may have ovulated but I'm not so convinced. Do the cross hairs appear anyway? It just happened this morning. My temps are so low so I'm not convinced. Still waiting for blood results and have an appointment with my consultant next week hopefully to start on clomid if I'm not ovulating.

Thank you for your super quick replies @VP91x and @MSG92 . Yes @MSG92 I'm due some luck, hopefully it's my turn for some! And you're right, she wouldn't admit to being cautiously confident if she wasn't sure. I suppose I'm just aware that things can turn on a sixpence.
Super busy couple of days for you. Make sure to get DTD in before you go, however much of a chore it seems 😅

@VP91x I've done research beyond research since the scan yesterday and everything you've said makes complete sense. I know the scans aren't accurate at such early gestation. I suppose, if I was presenting a bleed but measuring on date, or vice versa, measuring early with no bleed, I probably wouldn't be so concerned. I think it's because they are presenting together. But I really appreciate your constant support. Thank you so much ❤️

Oh @chloedancer897 thank you for your response. I actually meant to tag you in my original one and mention how sorry I was to read how down you had been. I know it feels like such a long road but keep going. I'm no good with charts, I've never tracked my bbt although I'm wishing I had been now! Fingers crossed for some good news for you very soon and thanks again for your support. Xx

@ss123456 I did bbt and RHR b4 my bfp havent since mmc but will when af arrives. My RHR is still highter than when I was pregnant and it's over 4wks since surgical management

@Jazper hey hun, sorry to hear about the brown spotting, I had the exact same thing at the exact same dates as you and ended up having an early scan too. Did the sonographer mention if they could see any "active bleed"? Mine couldn't so just told me it's old blood working it's way out from the missed period. It sounds like yours is the same thing.
I think @Pugprincess measured a bit behind but then caught up. It's honestly so worrying and I know exactly what you're feeling and going through but please try and reassure yourself that it's not red bleeding and if you've also got no cramps it's, it's a great sign. Got everything crossed for you lovely and hope the next two weeks go quickly.
Oh also forgot to mention, my brown spotting continued for a good 3-4 days and gradually just tapered off and disappeared xxx

@Jazper oh lovely, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't add anything other than to echo what the others have said. From my experience, sonongraphers don't give false hope, they are pretty good at staying very impartial if they need to. A flutter of a heartbeat is a great sign, and remember that implantation could have been later than the 'norm'.
Keep positive, and remember that flickering little bubba, which I'm sure will be perfectly formed at your next scan 🥰

@chloedancer897 I'm so sorry you are feeling in a low place. Only you know what's best for you in terms of your journey. If you aren't ready to throw the towel in, then just strip it right back and live your life without thinking about it. You'll still DTD and you never know. I know that's easier said than done, but so is deciding to not try any more.
One thing I will say is you have to put yourself and family first, and your mental health in particular. Make sure you are happy first and foremost. Sending lots of love

@Chickoletta whoooaaa!! Huge congratulations lovely! What amazing news. Wishing you a healthy 9 months

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Hi @Jazper - lovely to know that you’ve been thinking of me. I’ve often wondered how all of you ladies are getting on too. Stepped away from MN for a bit but definitely need some hand holding again now! I am feeling cautiously excited. Still at the stage of checking for blood at every wee (TMI!).

As others have said, the fact that your sonographer said that she was optimistic is a really good sign - they don’t say things like that lightly. I read an epic thread by frazzle rock last night in which she bled heavily with massive clots early on and faced all sorts of issues, but now has a perfect baby boy. Fingers crossed for you.

Thank you to everyone who has sent congratulations. Please keep everything crossed for me. I think this is a good clear line for cd25, don’t you?

@chickoletta looks good! So pleased for you, albeit slightly jealous haha

@MichT4 you're exactly right. I need to shift my focus. I've stopped everything except wearing my Ava because I like seeing how much I sleep lol. I actually for the first time feel ready to close the door on this. I mean, if it happened, I'd be over the moon! But I can't continue putting my life on hold for something that looks improbable. I want to put my time and effort into the things I already have. I am definitely there in body, but not in mind at the minute so I want to change that.

@Chickoletta that's a very clear line! I'm so pleased for you xox

@chloedancer897 I haven't been on v much the last couple of days, but just want you to know how much I've been thinking of you. It can be a rough old ride this TTC and whatever you decide to do we will be supporting you 😊

@Chickoletta congratulations on that lovely strong positive! Looks great!

@DMT1982 Hello and welcome!

I'm still not seeing a peak on my ovulation tests!!!!!! Aaaargh, I've never had this!!!!!!!! I am so angry!

Look at last months spike compared to this month, and look at my tests, barely a line!! Why?!?! I need to ovulate!!!!!

So I got my bloods back and my progesterone was high! Wtf, I don't even know what to think anymore

@VP91x @Jazper it was @Pugprincess, I think she was measuring a week behind at her first scan but jumped ahead on her next scan. It happens a lot, try not too worry. Easier said than done I know. Fingers crossed this little one is a fighter xx

@chloedancer897 oh that's brilliant news, looks like you did ovulate then. No idea on the temps.. Maybe trust FF as it picked up ovulation now hasn't it? Xx

@Jazper definitely need to keep the faith, please keep us updated ❤️❤️❤️

Oh my goodness @Pugprincess where is she when you need her? She's had brown spotting too so with that and measuring small, that's the just the kind of reassurance I need 🙏🏼
I'm really praying here ladies. Thank you so much for all your messages of support. You're all so lovely, it made me shed a little tear earlier (as if I didn't cry enough cover the weekend 🙄).
@MrsK21 no reason for the bleed was found. I almost wished she could find a cause (that wasn't baby related) as, at least that would have explained it. Im just sitting tight.
I'll keep you all updated.
Thanks again for everyone that has taken the time to message me xxx

@MichT4 I know you are quiet and looking after yourself in this rollercoaster journey, as am I, but I often think of you. Hope you are doing ok and that beautiful pup is keeping you occupied and distracted xx

@VP91x I don't know anymore! I assume I've ovulated though my temps are still all over the place. Only time will tell I suppose.

@Jazper really hoping everything is ok with you. Do you still have brown discharge?

@Jazper it's a scary time but definitely just sit tight and take it easy, the brown should stop in a few days and hopefully doesn't get worse. If you're feeling really worried, always here for a chat - my inbox is always open. I felt exactly the same with my brown spotting so get how you're feeling

@chloedancer897 I've just seen your messages about your progesterone being high and showing ovulation. So glad for you. I think with your temps, did you mention previously you work night shifts sometimes? Any changes in your sleeping pattern can really mess BBT up - so just try and bear that in mind with temping. Hoping the pared back approach helps and I hope you'll start to find time to enjoy your beautiful family and all that you have again xxx

@chloedancer897 that's great news! I think temps can be a little confusing if they aren't perfect conditions. Even then, the skin temp is probably a lot more sensitive to external factors. I've had some funnies with Ava and I've had to learn to shut my brain off (or try to) and accept that sometimes it's just not the perfect chart.
In any case, I think you absolutely shouldn't be putting your life on hold. Enjoy your family, enjoy being you, and make yourself number 1. Everything else will have a habit of falling into place once you are in a good place, I'm sure of it

@Jazper bless you thinking of me. I'm all good, struggling slightly with my looming due date having been convinced I'd definitely be pregnant by now. Not to be! But I'm trying to have faith in my body, just a matter of time and I can't do anything to hurry it along. Easy to say when waiting for ovulation, when AF shows I'll be irate 😂. Really hoping to have some fabulous news before 2020 is out.
Hope you are feeling positive over there xxx

Oh @MichT4 the looming due date is just the worst. You do need to keep faith in your body. It knows what it's doing and for the right reasons. I'm trying desperately to think the same right now. As hard as it is.

Still losing the brown discharge @chloedancer897 . It's not consistent. It's not there every time I wipe. Sometimes it's less than others. It's not dark though. Almost watery brown. Part of me thinks if it was the start of another mc I would feel pain now... will just have to try not overthink and wish the next couple of weeks away. Such good news on your high progesterone. Really hoping this is your month 🤞🏼

Thank you @MrsK21 . I'm definitely more collected now than I was over the weekend but I really appreciate the offer of your inbox being open, along with that of @VP91x . So thoughtful of you both.

I'm so fuming and frustrated.
Why can't I just get an early bfp for once 😭 4 days late and not even a hint of a line.
I'm definitely pregnant I know I am.
I was like this last time, I didn't even get a faint line until 6 days late, but I just thought that it was low hcg because I was gonna miscarry. I'm so upset

@Jazper and mine too 🥰❤️ always here for you, even while lurking in the background, we are never far away

Definitely trust your body. Remember the commandments - you are pregnant and that's all you need to be thinking xxx

Hello :) I hope you don’t mind me joining but I feel like I just need someone to speak to who’s going through what I’m going through. I’m new to mumsnet but felt like I had no where else to turn.
I miscarried at 7 weeks in August, and we are currently on month 2 of fully TTC after losing our first baby. I am just beginning to obsess with it, it’s all I think about every day. I get home from work every night and get upset thinking about when it is going to happen
This month we have done it every day over my fertile week and now every other day to be sure. I am using BBT and OPKs, and now facing the two week wait. Wondering if anyone has any words of wisdom to help me get through this misery ☹️
Lots of people say to relax and not to bother using ovulation kits and it will happen - what is everyone’s experience of this? Shall I just use nothing and see how it goes? I think I’m too obsessed now! Help!