Trying to conceive baby No 1 over 40

[October1979]

I am 40 nearly 41 and ttc baby no1. I fell pregnant for the first time in December but suffered a missed miscarriage at 8 1/2 weeks in February. I've been trying ever since with no luck. I use Clearblue advanced fertility monitor. Take vitamin B, C and Co Q10 as well as pre conception tablets daily. Until lockdown I did weekly acupuncture. I guess I'm feeling low as af turned up today and I turn 41 very soon.

I am usually positive and hopeful. Trying to think what's for me won't go past me...

Looking for some buddies in the same boat or some over 40s who conceived naturally to give me hope and share their secret to success.

Just read your update @October1979 fingers crossed for you 💫

Thanks @littlelumie I really appreciate it.

So today I have slight progression on frer but looks paler or Clearblue. My Clearblue fertility monitor still saying not pregnant but also saying 2 days before period due (their test is 50mlu). I also had a dip in my pulse rate last night not sure if that's a bad sign?

@October1979 what's your usual LP if your 12dpo? If the frer is progressing that's a good sign... it's such early days for much difference! Keeping everything crossed for you!

Hi @Lastyearttc my LP is 11 with my af appearing on the 12th day

@October1979 I can definitely see progression on the FRER. 👍

@October1979 ... what's the latest!?

Hi@Lastyearttc not looking too hopeful. Doesn't appear to be any progression and I'm 13dpo. Line on frer looks slightly lighter and Clearblue slightly darker. My resting pulse rate also going down. Keeping my fingers crossed but this all feels to familiar

@October1979 those lines still look good to me, but sorry to hear it's feeling like last time. I hope things are more reassuring for you today xx

@October1979 Strange that the clear blue definitely looks a bit darker but not the FRER. I assume all the same wee??! I will keep everything crossed.

Unfortunately I’m expecting the worst as well, my tests have stopped progressing, the ic have never got as dark as the control line (and I’m now 5+4) and in fact this morning I think it was probably getting lighter ☹️

Fortunately due to my age, previous losses and medical history my dr has agreed to refer for an early scan next week. It’s on Friday I’ll be 6+3 so at least I’ll have some idea what’s going on.

@Littlemiss40andfabulous are you still doing ok?

@October1979 @Honey2 I have everything crossed for you both! There's definitely progression on your cb October, and honey try not to worry 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻❤️

Hi everyone thanks for all your support. I think mine isn't progressing both tests seem slightly lighter today and my temp and pulse rate have fallen for 3 days in a row. I would be very shocked if things turned out ok. At 14dpo I would have thought there would be more progression.

@October1979 @Honey2 keep the faith, I'm keeping everything crossed for you both 🤞🏻

Went for an initial scan last week at Create Fertility, everything looked good although my follicles have decreased from last October's scan from 16 follicles to 4 . The doc said it's still not the end of the road for us, it's still about quality eggs not quantity. I'll get the results of the new AMH in a couple of weeks (it was 11 in Nov 2019) and we're gunna discuss where to go from there but probably gunna be starting IVF within the next couple of months.

@October1979 and @Honey2 sorry to hear your lines aren't progressing. I hope that does begin to change for you.

I'm doing ok so far. Have 3+ weeks coming up on the clear blue digital and started to feel very hungry all day yesterday. It's really encouraging- I'm 5 weeks today (this time last time my period arrived). But I know it could all change in an instant still so trying to find the balance of embracing it but not getting too attached and excited too.

Thinking of you all!

XxX

That's good news @Littlemiss40andfabulous glad things are going smoothly. Fingers crossed they continue for you. @Honey2 hope things are going well for you. @santon don't worry about the count it's all about the egg. Fingers crossed for your amh results being positive. Comparing the tests to last month they look very much the same. I think they will keep getting lighter till they disappear in the next few days. Now I'm unsure what to do 😥xxx

Sorry above ment for @sabtom

@October1979 to me that line still looks good!

@Honey2 glad your doc is sending you for a scan. I think you need to forget tests for a while and focus on symptoms. Surely (though I don’t know this) there’s a point at which the tests become redundant? In that they don’t darken as fast? Regardless you’ll get answers and just need to sit tight and hope for the best. Stay positive.

Please try not to distress yourselves. I know I’m like a broken record, but as heartbreaking as a chemical is it’s a really positive thing that you can get pg. it’s just about the right egg.

I know it’s only natural to want to know, but this is why I don’t test unless AF is 4/5 days late. I feel like you’re putting yourselves through so much pain. I do get it though. You’re stronger than I am to test so early.

@sabtom on another thread a fertility doc told a woman that follicles vary wildly from month to month. She’s had 3 scans and first was 8, second was 2 and third was 7. That drop doesn’t means they’ve all gone for good! Xx

@Geriatric1234 thanks for your sensible words. I know it’s just a waiting game and I’m lucky to be getting a scan next week. I have read that a pregnancy can still be successful even if hcg is rising slowly. Feeling a bit sad as I just wished we’d started this whole journey 12 months ago - as I think you are right, I can get pregnant (did so twice in 3 months) but it is about the right egg. Unfortunately my husband and I agreed at the start of the year we would give it 6 months until June and then draw a line under TTC and be happy with the kids we have. (Which I know I am so very lucky to have) so I’m extra sad as if this pg has failed that’s it for us. And I just need to get my head around that. ☹️

@sabtom sorry about the follicles but I have heard that sometimes you can get different amounts at different times of the month!

@Littlemiss40andfabulous that's great news! I'm so pleased for you, hopefully everything with carry on preg reading just fine and no need to worry

@Honey2 @October1979 I'm keeping everything crossed for you both that these are your successful pregnancies! 🤞🏻

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Hi everyone my tests were faint yesterday. So going to take a day off testing. Pretty sure I'm out as not progressing. That will be 3 chemicals in 5 months for me. My temps and pulse rate also continuing to fall which is not good. I've added a link to a new thread as I think we may run out soon. Not sure if I've done it right hope so x

@Marvellouslymadmum @Geriatric1234 yeah so the doc was saying that follicles can fluctuate from month to month but the big drop from October was a bit shocking. I guess the AMH results will us a better idea of what's happening and which kind of IVF to go for.
@October1979 aww big hugs to you, I really hope it goes your way but in the meantime try to enjoy the sunshine and give yourself some pampering time xx

How is it going everyone?

I hope the bfp's are progressing? 🙏

Hi everyone, I haven't been on Mumsnet much this month but thought I would update you guys as I can't tell anyone else! This is cycle #2 TTC, I'm 41, period due today so I did a test... and boom!

Nervous about how this will go from now on, but I had been really worried I wasn't ovulating at all - at least I know that I am. Fingers crossed...

Congratulations @Miller2021