TTC 35+ Thread 5 Cougar and Silver Fox Club

[claireb7rg]

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Welcome @Vie8126 it’s good to share on here with people going through similar things and also lovely to see the BFPs on here too. I’m 37 and TTC no. 2. Started in June so this will be coming up to 6 months of TTC. Took 2 years to conceive DS but he was worth the wait so trying to stay positive!! Hope you do enjoy some R&R during half term.

Thanks both @LT103 no no tests I haven't been drs I think as I've had 3 children when I was younger it's an age issue and I'm worried they won't bother although no harm in asking I guess. In my head I'm only going until Xmas. Have you had tests?

@highlandmama yes I feel like now I need to share with people in the same boat and hear some positivity! Ahhh how old is ds1 wishing you lots of luck I'm sure you'll have some good news soon.

@claireb7rg I'm so sorry lovely. I hope that your appointment goes well and do pop back and let us know. I think not being so focussed on it is good for sanity.

Welcome @Vie8126 I hope the thread brings you some luck and baby dust. I've found vit B complex has helped regulate my hormones and stretch my cycle a bit with no side effects.

My cystitis has now cleared up (hurrah) but feeling a bit knackered and grumpy. It's 7dpo and I've not tested which is unheard of. I'm just not feeling it. 2020 is really sh** isn't it ladies, let's hope 2021 is a bit better!

@Sleeeeeepy yes so over 2020 and glad you are feeling better! Holding out hope for a good Christmas/new year... a good time for TTC! Mini baby boom 9 months later every year!
@Vie8126 DS is 2 thanks for asking! A little darling...most of the time!
Day 2 of AF and DH just called me his “lovely little hornets nest” so accurate lol! Pass the wine and chocolate! 🤣

Thanks @sleeeeeepy I will look into Vit B complex was completely baffled as to why it suddenly cut short but has been regular. Well done on not testing just yet I have everything crossed for when you do. Cystitis is the worst so glad that's cleared up.

@highlandmama aww so cute at that age. Haha oh that's me and AF not even here yet but I am super miserable and snappy. I know I am doing it but can't bring myself to stop it, do you know the moods I mean? Hope you enjoyed wine and chocolate!!!

Woken up with super tender sore boobs but also stomach cramps and based on my mood my period is rocking up tomorrow as planned. Going to try to be nicer to DP today as yesterday I was a right bitch 😂

Hi @Vie8126 hope I can join? Your story is a bit similar to mine. 40 in December and trying to conceive no.4. Conceived first 3 quite easily (last one at 37) but this seems to be getting doffixult. Been trying since July but only properly since September.

Period has become a bit irregular since I got to 39.5. Last cycle was 30 days and this last one was 26. Think it may be my age. May be perimenopausal. Was looking at mediview private tests for £100 or so as don't think my doctors will give me a test.

Getting peaks on different tests I'm using but no positive yet.

Good luck!

Hi @whatever1980ely won't give me any tests as will come down to age etc.

Oh half my message disappeared! My 3 were conceived easy due to age 19, 24 and 28 so trying again at 39 is a different ball game! I'm 40 in February so not far behind you!

Hi @Vie8126 - good luck!

Think I'm going to try meditests I think - the cost can be part of my birthday present! At least I'll get some indication if worth carrying on with supplements and testing.

@whatever1980 aww yes that sounds like a plan. I should probably look to see if I can get the same by me for 100 as such a good price and at least you know if you should put to bed or not. I'm going to give it a Google. What sort of tests is ur?

@Vie8126 can totally relate to the snappiness /miserableness. DH knows to buy extra chocolate and give extra hugs! But still gets his head bitten off! Hope you are doing ok today!
Welcome @whatever1980 😊

Hi @Vie8126 I was googling the tests today and an article from the guardian came up from 2018 about similar tests saying they're a bit of a swizz 😶.

That your levels of AMH don't determine whether you'll get pregnant or not and age is the only thing to look at. That people whether high or low AMH levels have same chance of getting pregnant. I dunno now.

Just don't want to keep spending £££ every month on CBFM sticks and other OPKs plus ubiquinol is £20 a time if I'm heading to menopause

Hi @Highlandmama and thanks for the welcome!

@whatever1980 ah okay ill have a Google today. Completely understand what you mean about wanting to know if it's a waste of time. I need to get more CB OPK sticks just seem to be throwing money at it left right and centre. Done well this month tho as AF due today and I've resisted doing any pregnancy tests this month which is a start. I'm worried where my cycle has shortened that the my lutuel phase from peak to period is now too short. Got a peak on Opks last Thursday and period due today so 11 days... Its all such a science and I probably don't know as much at 39 as I should about it all!

Hi @whatever1980 - I'm 39 and TTC #2. Although we're considering accepting our family of three and moving on. It's a bloody hard decision!

I have very low AMH (low egg reserve) and have been told by an expert at a private clinic pretty much what you've said - it's still absolutely possible for me to get pregnant naturally.

Apparently there are lots of women walking around with low AMH who have no idea. Some get pregnant and some don't. It's all rather a lottery based on getting a 'good egg' in any given month.

He also said relaxing was very important... he says he wishes I hadn't found out about my low AMH!

My periods are generally regular, but sometimes I have one that's a bit shorter or longer. Then I panic a bit!

This month I think I ovulated around day 19/20... so the dates are a bit delayed and hard to track. If it's coming (which it probably is), I wish my period would hurry up. Day 28 today.

I'm having my tubes tested next week (NHS) and can't be on my period at the time, so need to get it over with before then...

@whatever1980 can I ask you about ubiquinol? I’m considering starting this, how much do you need to take? And what brand/where from?

Hi @Vie8126

I took soy last month and got a peak on my CBFM for first time in a few months which was a relief. Had got a peak on other OPKs around day 16 but was day 13 this time. Period went from 39 days to 26 days too don't know what to think about it all.

In August I started taking what felt like everything and the kitchen sink - DHEA, super lipoid acid, uniquinol, folic acid, pregnacare etc. Got headaches and palpitations so down to folic acid and ubiquinol and seven seas now. No coffee or alcohol and started salads and fish each day. Feel bit stupid I thought it would be that easy this time. Glad I didn't mention that I was ttc again to too many.

I can't help myself re gadgets though. Got a thermometer with Bluetooth last month but toddler up 3am which means I'm not monitoring temp. Bought an Ava bracelet from eBay this morning to wear at night.

Not sure what I'm looking for to help me. I need to relax though.

What sticks do you use?

Hi @CC81 thanks for you message and giving me some information about tests. I had the 3 day test and 21 day test and the overall test in my basket this morning coming to a few hundred quid (credit card) but going to leave it for now. I know I'd want the scan too.

Accepting is really hard. I'm blessed with what I have I know and they are my world but doesn't stop me wanting another. My husband is happy and he is conscious he is 42 and he said he doesn't want to be an old dad so I'm trying not to create a fuss.

Good luck with your tests!

Hi @Loladoodle I get this one. I take 3 a day so 600mg due to my age. I first got them after a bad mmc in 2017 and then I fell pregnant with my daughter. I read the books sperm meets the egg which talks about it.

I did buy Q10 as lots of people on here were talking about Luissa Zissman and what she recommends but I went back to this one.

Works out expensive when taking 3 a day.

I'm not pregnant so can't say if they're having any effect at all but then I'm scared to stop taking them in case they do!

Good luck!

@whatever1980 I use the clearblue 4 day opks I get high for around 5 days then peak been tracking on Ovia but resisted temping so far. Each month I try to be level headed but end up crazy. My boobs are super painful today but sure its just PMT on complete toilet watch as due on today. I asked DP to pick me up a pregnancy test as I was out with DD but then changed my mind and told him to leave it gonna sit this one out and wait.

I truly didn't really think about my age just thought it would have happened by now what happens I guess when you feel no older than 20 in your head! Few stressful nights last week where I was just this isn't happening for us. Even today every single twinge is magnified. I didn't fully appreciate how hard it would all be.

I only take folic acid will look at the other supplements. Tempted to investigate reflexology as I love it anyway and might make me relax a bit but not sure if you can even get it atm with Covid.

Hi all!
Can I join you all? Im 37 with an 11 yo DS from a previous relationship. This is my first cycle TTC my second, and DP's (38) first!
I don't think im ready for the psychosomatic symptoms!! Im already feeling like my uterus is heavy and bloaty on CD10! 🤦🏻‍♀️
How is everyone doing? Xxx

Not having a fun cycle this month. I used to ovulate day 14 but since stopping pregnacare it moved to day 18-20. This month I’m on cd22, loads of ewcm with some blood (sorry tmi) last 3 days now but still no hint of a peak opk. I o ly usually get 2-3 days of this.
I guess I’ve been stressed out about some stuff this month which has maybe delayed everything. Now worrying I’m not going to ovulate This cycle. How dare my body not have a cycle go like clockwork!! 🙄

Hi @Vie8126 good luck hope this is your month!!

I've heard reflexology and acupuncture are great for fertility perhaps just even getting you to relax. My feet embarrass me so may go for acupuncture if I can.

I swear that nausea wasn't a PMT symptom for me before I started ttc. First month I got it in July I was sure I was pregnant but obviously wasn't. I've had nausea every month since then. It's like a trick!

I get night sweats too when PM which I've always had but convincing myself the menopause is here early for me. I've a couple of friends who are a year or so younger than me and they're pregnant and I'm kicking myself for not trying sooner but I had a new job and didn't want to upset anyone - stupid

Good luck!

Hi @MamaMoonbeam I'm CD3 so bit behind you! How are you?

Hi @whatever1980 ! Im ok, thanks. You? Trying to convince DP that he really does want to BD tonight 😅 trying to do every other day until 4 days before ovulation then every day if we can. It's fun and I don't want him to get bogged down by any pressure so trying to keep it light. 🤷🏻‍♀️ how are you doing with things?